AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

[momof3]

Good Morning All,

Here's a quote from Kaslo last night.....

...believe it or not the things that you find hard to cope with, that you use AL to help you cope, are actually less easy to cope with overall because of the AL, although it seems at first that it relaxes you, etc, I think it just adds to the anxiety and worry and depression over the longer term. And of course once it was completely out of my system, I found I could then cope so much better with problems.

This describes how I was to a "T" when I was drinking. When I read this Kaslo's post, it brought back memories of what an anxious mess I was when I was drinking. If there was some challenging stuff going on and/or I had to make a few decisions, I would become completely overwhelmed. My heart would beat fast, my hands would shake, and I literally could not think. And of course, I would resort to drinking to "calm myself down." I existed like that for so many years and "Duh," never attributed it to my massive alcohol consumption. I am still amazed and tickled to death that I am clear headed and calm now when faced with crises. I'm finally believing that this is the real me. What a tremendous gift and another reason why I am so incredibly grateful to be alcohol free.

Kaslo, I'm happy that you are loving the AF life.

Took my first yoga class last night since I injured my back. Feeling a few tinges of pain and hope it works itself out as the day progresses.

Signing off now for a conference call. Back Later...

M3

[Treya]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

...believe it or not the things that you find hard to cope with, that you use AL to help you cope, are actually less easy to cope with overall because of the AL, although it seems at first that it relaxes you, etc, I think it just adds to the anxiety and worry and depression over the longer term. And of course once it was completely out of my system, I found I could then cope so much better with problems.

Hi Momof3,
Yes, so true. We sometimes forget the body and mind are one system and what you do to one always affects the other. Alcohol dulls your capacity for clear thinking- but then why are we surprised? It's a toxin and every toxin you put into your body has an effect on clear thinking and problem solving capacity. It's fact that when the liver is in shape so is the brain.
I'm only on day 8 but already I can feel such benefits from detoxing. I really hope my motivation to live a healthier life continues.
Hope everyone has a great day.
T

[Kaslo]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Hi all, good morning all Fabbies! Its nice to see my words have made some sense and I just want to say that I have learned tons from coming here. Everyone have a great AF day. I have to go out and splain something this morning. Wish me luck, will check in later.

Kas

[Lavande]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Good morning M3, Treya, Kaslo & all Abbers!!!

Another hot & humid day on the way! It's so sad to think about people actually dying due to heat related causes

I'm grateful for the AC & will run out to do chores & run right back inside because I am a total weenie :H I have zero tolerance for this excessive weather.

YB just stopped by after having an MRI this morning. He's been having severe hip/leg pain & is actually limping. I really hope whatever is wrong with him can be handled non-surgically because he's a weenie - really.

Wishing everyone a terrifically AF Tuesday!
Stay cool

Lav

[universal]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Morning guys!

Yes Kaslo, that rings so true! I am on day 46 now and am experiencing some of the post acute withdrawal signs which suck but I am sober and happy!

[universal]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Sorry, I entered that before I was ready. The program was really busy - we did 2 weeks of trauma work which included them putting my "mother" in a chair and having me say goodbye. She's been gone for 10 years now but we were really close and I was the one who found her gone. I have never been able to let her go until now. We also worked on sexual abuse which I have also sadly had. Then we moved on to addiction and how it affects women with trauma. It was amazing. Then we did intensive relapse prevention including coping skills, grounding, letting go of the past, reminding ourselves that we lived through it and what we are experiencing are just memories and cannot hurt us anymore unless we let them. They taught us how to pray, how to meditate and how to let things pass. We did yoga, bongo drums, interpretive dance, accupuncture and daily meditation. It was an incredibly busy 5 weeks but as far as I'm concerned it is the best program for women around.
I am grateful to be back with skills that I never had before.
Love you guys, off to the pool!

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

:l universal. The program actually sounds really good. Getting to the route of the problems surrounding alcohol is so KEY for recovery!! Day 46 is awesome.

Hello abbies! Things here are going well. Oldest daughter is all moved back in and settled. So far so good - keeping fingies crossed.

Other than that, helped a friend move as well on the weekend. I am seriously getting too old for this shit! That will be the LAST move I do for anyone! Seriously! I hate it.

It is finally sunny again here. We have had some really unseasonably cool temps here this year. So, gonna walk to the bank with Little AFM, and enjoy the sun.

Have a great one everybody!

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Hi fABbies!! No registration yet. But I am viewing this as a valuable reconnaissance mission. I am still working out that part where I know what was "valuable" about it. But that is my positive attitude and I'm sticking to it! :H Hopefully by next week all my paperwork will be in order and I can go back and git 'er done.

AFM, there comes a point in life where when asked to help someone move, we should hand them the business card of "Two Men and a Truck." That is all.

Wow Uni. I am so happy for you! It sounds like that program is really geared to be productive time for the types of experiences you have had in your life. YAY!!! A good friend of mine locally is just coming out of an inpatient program. She has some similar things in her background that have haunted her. She is just now at a point where she is able to touch base with friends outside, and she wants to have coffee next week. Your message has given me so much hope that her program will have been for her like yours was for you!!!!! I love hearing about Boo. (yesterday)

Lav this heat is something else! It was 98 on th truck thermometer when I got home, and it's humid as Miami. Maybe if YB has to have surgery, there will be a mix up at the hospital and he will get a brain transplant. Or a heart transplant. Or both. :b&d:

Kaz - I am going to later post a picture of a bug for you to help me identify. It's LARGE. And one day my porch pot tomato plant was fine, and the next day it was totally eaten. Whatever this thing is, I hope it doesn't populate into my regular garden. I would :upset: if I went out and found this happening to all my tomatoes! Hope whoever you had to splain to was listenin'.

Treya, it's so good to hear that you are feeling positive as you detox from AL. If you ever feel like you are forgetting why you don't want to drink, just come here and ask. You will get the earful (eye full?) of a reminder that we all need once in awhile! :H

M3 - glad to hear you are back to yoga. Hope todays soreness is just from being away from it for a bit, and nothing more. I LOOOOOVE the quote you pulled from Kaz yesterday!!!!

M3, as I was reading your comments about it, I thought about the term "kicking the can down the road." One of our local radio commentators has been using that term a lot to describe the various political proposals going on right now re: the national debt. i.e. "we're not really solving the problem, we're just kicking the can down the road..."

That is what AL was for me. Liquid procrastination. Not only in terms of getting physical things done (drinking away the time and putting off responsibilities) but mental and emotional procrastination. "Drinking to relax" or "drinking to relieve stress" was just a way to kick the can down the road. I had to face stuff later on, and usually things are MORE stressful and MORE difficult as a result of a delay.

No more kicking the can down the road for me. I'm trying to face things head on.

One thing is for sure...

DG

[Loppy lugs]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Hi all,

Just checking in before I fall asleep again. 8.30 is really taking the michael. I hope this stage passes soon.

Take care all.

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Doggygirl;1149786 wrote:

AFM, there comes a point in life where when asked to help someone move, we should hand them the business card of "Two Men and a Truck." That is all.

DG

:yeahthat:

Business card will be passed out to the next person thinking I am helping move them! I always get roped in.

Kisses to the rest of ya! Time to have a nap. Man, I am freakin' tired today. xo

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

AFM, I was just thinking "nap." Great minds think alike!

Loppy, what is "taking the michael?"

Mr. Doggy is futzing with the server today so I have internet, but not access to my picture file to upload this incredible wormbug picture. Wait until you see it. I'll make it my avatar and SCARE people. Mr. Doggy has agreed it (and it's smaller friend) need to be terminated so as not to infect the big garden (hoping it's not already infected, and this thing somehow came in with this one plant)

DG

[mumofsix]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Day Two here for me, I am not a daily drinker more a binger, the doctor will NOT medicate me as she does not think that I am bad enough to do so. It is school holidays here so missing my running BUT maybe not pushing myself will do me good at the moment, I only have two half marathons coming up with in the next three weeks, one straight after the other but they are only training distances for me anyway so dont have to do much for these, I may spend the day in the garden with the kids. Hubbie home tonight so will run tomorrow!

[papmom3]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

DG- is it green with horns? Like this?

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

Welcome mumofsix. I remember you from before talking about your running and also your family. :l. Take good care of yourself today. Not drinking AL is a perfect start for self care!!!! You did it yesterday (congratulations!) and you can do it again today. Just think how great your running will be with the AL monkey off your back. AL is still a toxin that negatively affects us whether we drink every day or binge it.

Here is my pet worm.



I am creeped out beyond words.

Here is the view of jurasic park from my porch top garden.



DG

[InChains]

AF Daily Tuesday 7/19

DG: to take the michael is to take the micky, or in other words to take the piss or mock something