September Sanctuary - week 2

[rustop59]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Good morning everyone

Looks like the storm has blown over and the sun is shining
here this morning.

Still very tired after the week-end. Enjoying having the house
to myself and just puttering about.

Happy Hump day to one and all.

Rustop

[Stargazerlily]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Good morning to all....

Now I am struggling on the dark side of the moon. There is no horrible thing going on, just normal cycle of moods I guess, but it is hard. I think the constant hot flashes are getting me down and exhausting me. I know from Lav that there is not a whole lot you can do about it but put up with it.

Hope everyone is doing well, have a good day.

[Lavande]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Good morning friends!

rustop, enjoy your quality alone time

Star - I feel for you!!!!
Constant hot flashes are so disrrupting & I get irritated with the people who make jokes about that
I have done everything that has been prescribed and or recommended for me over the last 15 years. Sometimes I do feel a touch hopeless......
Right now I am reading two books: The Hormone Diet by Natasha Turner, ND and The Hormone Connection by Gale Maleskey & Mary Kittel. Unbalanced hormones have been linked to a host of women's health problems. I'm on HRT but I need more some so I am going to figure this thing out. This is also the reason I joined Curves - regular exercise instead of the hit or miss activity I was used to. I have been so tempted to track down a good endocrinologist, I still may if necessary.

Well, I hope everyone has a good AF Hump Day!
I am getting ready to go to Curves now

Lav

[spedteach]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Morning everyone,
Woke up to rain in the desert. Guess I'm not going hiking as planned. Can never complain about rain though.
Lav, am glad you are enjoying Curves. I need exercise that gets me out of the house.
Sorry to all you hot flash sufferers. My menopause was cut short by a hysterectomy. Think I only experienced 1 true hot flash. Never took HRT.

Thanks for all the support from this site. SD, it does seem like a matter of luck. I know so many people drive drunk and never get caught. On the other hand, it seems like this is what I needed to finally stop. Feels like I got a huge wake up call. So thankful I didn't hurt anyone or myself.

Later.

[Dewdrop]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Thank you everyone for the PM?s and very kind thoughts, it?s been a difficult few days as you can imagine and it?s comforting to read all the posts. We are in a bit of limbo at the moment as we are waiting for the post mortem to be done before we can move on with the funeral/cremation arrangements and maybe start the process of closure.

I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions for a good book to use with my granddaughter, she is only 2 and a half so doesn?t really understand and has been fine until yesterday when she was very clingy, whiney and needy all day. I guess she is sensing the emotions because we are all being very careful what we say around her. She is coming to stay with me at the weekend to give my son and DIL some time together, I?m planning lots of fun things together but I?d like to have something I can use if I need it and she loves books.

Star I?m sending you :l:l I do empathise as I think my recent dance with cancer has kicked my menopause into hyperdrive! I hope Chill is enjoying her time in Portugal and welcome Bean. Lav yoga is a wonderful exercise and I think you would love it. Rusty thank you so much for your thoughts and wishes. Is Papmom still round and okay I haven?t had time to track her down? I hope everyone else is well and life is good.

Dewdrop :h

[sdlovespackers]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Dew--
If you are talking about a children's book dealing with grief or loss...I have read Cat Heaven to children of all ages (K-5) when dealing with the loss of a parent, grandparent or classmate. Of course, there aren't 2 year olds at my school but I really think it would be okay for that age as well....and the pictures are beautiful. It a beautiful story of a cat that goes to cat heaven and finds all his favorite cat things (cat nip and toys) and gets to lay on a big comfy bed etc...I talk to kids about their favorite things and their loved one favorite things and how that person gets to enjoy all those wonderful things now and forever....it seems to bring some comfort to children and reading this book with an animal in it also helps I think because most all children love animals. If you'd like more info on the book I can grab it from school tomorrow.
SD:l

[papmom3]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Hi Everyone-I'm fine just super busy all of a sudden!

Dew-thinking of you during this very difficult week. How nice that you are there and fully present to help out the grieving parents.

Sped-I echo everyone else when I say please don't post only when you've got positive things to say. We are here for you through thick and thin and I myself have been the recipient lately of tons of support when I feeling about as low as I've ever felt. I'm sorry you got a DUI but I think you are right that that was your rock bottom and wake up call. I can see such a difference in your outlook this time around and I pray you've found a new way of looking at life and dealing with problems.

Star-I hope your dark mood goes away soon. I certainly feel for ya!

Lav-cooler weather is on it's way!! Yea!! I'm so excited for you that Curves is working out and especially that you are feeling a difference so soon!! How is Piggy Swissy holding up? How did your son's shifts in DC go this past weekend?

Rustop-finally!! Some down time for you!! Whew!

Welcome Bean. Please stay focused. We care about you and want nothing more for you than to have the best life possible. :l

hey SD! What great thing happened with your supervisor? Inquiring minds are nosy!!

So today was a blah day. It's back to mindless endless data entry at work. Blah. But on the upside, I got the PT job I applied for!! I go in for a half day of Orientation next Wed and then I'm hoping to get on the schedule as early as Thursday. This is going to help so much! I might even be able to afford a pumpkin for my porch this year!!

Saturday the trip to Maryland to pick up my friend's new dog is on unfortunately. She so doesn't need another dog and I feel so bad he will spend the better part of each day in a crate. But, she is dropping down to 3 days a week at the hospital very soon and within a year should be retired so maybe, just maybe, she'll finally have time to clean out the clutter and give all her animals the attention they need. I have to say tho, last Sunday we went to the Pet Rock Fair and she brought one of her Paps, a very bossy female. That dog was probably the most well behaved dog there! Certainly better than mine and I brought the good one. So, there is hope yet. Not looking forward to driving 16 hours but I promised.

Other than that, not much to note. Called the bank today about the refi and I've decided to accept their counter offer as long as I will get cash back at closing to cover the difference. We'll see when I get the new Good Faith Estimate.

Chill-i hope you are having a fab time in Portugal. Can't wait for you to come home tho and back to us!

Cass-your reunion with your hubby must be going very well indeed!

I wish LBH, Sooty, Jolie and anyone else missing would check in!

[Lavande]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Good evening kids!

Busy day for me & I'm tuckered out! Must be getting old or something :H
Actually the fall allergies have kicked in already & I always end up dragging my butt through. Still waiting on the cooler, drier weather

Shelley, rain? Well good for you & your plants & everything!!!

Dewdrop, I'm sorry things seem to be taking so long to get sorted.
My 2 1/2 year old grandson was just here & I don't know how I would handle trying to get him to understand something so complex. Maybe SD's book idea will help.

Hello to SD as well.

papmom, congrats on your new PT job! I hope it is enjoyable for you.
Maxie is missing her companion (and the extra meals she was sneaking). She spends a lot of time staring at me......

Well, I will be watching EB Friday & Saturday while my DIL is away. Lily's Baptism & brunch is Sunday so I'm going to be busy for a few days. Wish me energy

I have been thinking about LBH & Sooty. And Jolie living in one of the areas that may have been affected by flooding.

[rustop59]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Good morning everyone

Papmom - Congratulations and well done on the PT job. So glad good things are starting to come your way. My Mom used to say whatever you give with a good heart, you always get back tenfold. Hoping thats what happens you after driving your friend that distance. You deserve it.

Sped - Good to have you back and well done on the AF time you have gotten under your belt. Sorry about the DUI but as Pap said it might be your bottom. Onwards and upwards and remember good times and bad, we are here.

Chill - Hope you are enjoying Portugal.

Star - Hope you are soon feeling better. I hit 50 (sorry 29) next month so I have all that to look forward to, ugh.

Dew - Thinking of you. You should be so proud of yourself for being fully there for your family.

Hi to Lav, SD, Bean, Sooty, LBH, Cyn, Dill, John, Cassia, Jolie and anyone else I missed.

Rustop

[Stargazerlily]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Good morning to all on this lovely, cool, brisk, Thursday.....

Thanks for the support regarding the hot flashes. Yesterday as I was getting ready for work, I noticed a drop of water on my face, that is how bad it was. I find that if I barely eat, have no stress (haha) and exercise, they lessen. So, as I do not live in an ideal world, that is not going to happen. I am controlling what I can though.

Dewdrop, continuing to send you positive energy, I know you are doing the best you can. I question reasons for catastrophes and have no answers. I disagree when people say we are only sent what we can handle. All of us experience events that we do not know how to get through, but somehow we do. I just make sure that I allow myself to cry as much as I need too, to get the emotions out, rather than trying to be brave, and other meaningless things. I read that tears actually have chemicals that help relieve stress, so feel whatever you are feeling.

Papmom, so good to hear you have obtained a part-time job. Hope this helps with the financial part of your life. Your friend so like she has a good heart, I know there are so many animals who are in shelter right now.

Rustop59, everybody does not have hot flashes, a friend of mine has not had any. So, maybe you will luck out. How does it feel to have you oldest on her own?

OK, I am trying very hard to be positive today.......afterall the weekend is just around the corner.

[Lavande]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Good morning friends!

Rustop, you should consider yourself very lucky to be approaching five-oh & not experiencing any symptoms........for some unknown reason mine started at 41. It's been a life sentence :H

Star, I specifically remember telling my GYN the same thing - I just can't spend the rest of my life sitting in a corner avoiding stress I hope to get back to my books soon regarding our diet & the hormone connections......I'll let you know when i find a cure for us

Grandsons arriving at 1 pm so I need to finish up a few things now. Wishing everyone a great AF Thursday

Lav

[Jolie]

September Sanctuary - week 2

:sorry:

I'm back after a slow slide that brought me close to where I was when I started back in January. No excuses - just wondering WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME that I can be so stupid as to fall back after doing so well. I was too embarassed and ashamed to check in here and can't believe how much I've missed all of you.

Resolve is back - looking to gain control again. I know the things I need to do and I am today will be day 1 - goal is 30 days and beyond.

I think the most humbling thing I have realized is that after being gone for almost 3 months, I still find you guys mentioning my name and sensing your real concern. I have lots of good friends but it just amazes the heck out of me that I consider you guys just as good of friends as the ones I see every day.

Look forward to catching up with all of you - been reading thru a lot of the threads to see what I've missed.

My sons wedding is less than 3 weeks away and I plan to be 100% in total control not only on that day, but all the days leading up to and beyond his wedding.

:thanks: you guys are awesome!

[papmom3]

September Sanctuary - week 2

(((Jolie))) I'm so glad you are back! I've missed you so much. I'm so sorry to hear the the Beast got his tentacles entwined around you again. Would you like to share what happened-what started the slide downward? It's OK if you don't but I find it always helpful to put it out there and ask for help understanding how it happened. That way you hopefully can prevent it from happening again. Plus, any newbies reading might be helped tremendously. anyway, whether you want to go there or not, we love you and are happy you are back with us.
:l :h

PS: leave your shame in the hole you kicked AL into OK? No judgements here-only care, concern and love!

[Lavande]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Jolie,
I am glad to see you back as well
I was wondering if you had problems with flooding in your neck of the woods. Happy to say I didn't up this way.
I've been thinking about your son's wedding coming up. Now you have a solid reason to jump on board & stay on with us!

Had another busy family day today. EB is being dropped off at 10 am for a fun Friday & Saturday with Mi Mom Praying for decent weather so we can run off some steam outside for a change

Hi papmom!

[sdlovespackers]

September Sanctuary - week 2

Hi All!!

Quick check in as I'm off to bed....SUPER busy day!!! And after work tomorrow I'm heading to the cities for some Sport Center Fun!!! (Baseball Saturday, Football Sunday)

Jolie--Welcome back--not sure we've ever met...glad we've finally caught up with each other!! We've stumbled upon a wonderful group, huh?!?! I kick myself every time I slip away even briefly!

Lav--Glad you are having some good 'ol Mi Mom time!! It's hard to feel anything but happy with young kids around...wait...there is exhausted after awhile too, I guess!! HA!! :H

Pap3--:yay: Awesome news on getting that job!! I always think about getting a part time job to help ends meet...I'm just never sure how I'd manage to do it and take care of my son, get everything done and my son to all his activities and still be sane at the end of the week!! I'm barely there right now! heehee...so scraping by it is!! Oh...and with my Supervisor...he came and asked for my help regarding a matter and told me he thought I was one of the best counselors in the district and felt I was a strong advocate for children
in our community....this is the man for the last 4 years would hardly speak to me ....I'm almost positive the "change in attitude" is because my son now attends the public school system. Honestly! Very wrong I know!

Star--Can't help you with hot flashes but I WAS told by my eye doctor today I'm "finally" at that age where my stigmatism is bad enough we can correct it!! "YEA!!!!" I said..."Finally at that age"...."I was so waiting to hear those words...maybe next visit you can fit me for bifocals!!":H

Rustop--Glad you are enjoying some down time! :h

Chill---I hope you are having a great time with your friends and getting some things squared away with your ex. Sending support through the screen!!

Well, I won't probably be back on until Sunday night....if I'm not mistaken Speed that's the 18th!!! Watch the Vikings game...I'll be the one in Purple raising my glass of diet pepsi in a special toast!! HA!! Sorry, RUSTY I didn't want to be the only one wearing GREEN, I figured they wouldn't let me in!!! They are playing Tampa...I would of stuck of like a sore thumb!!!

Alright all goodnight....have a wonderful weekend!!!
SD