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[maryt]

last month i done really well 30 days and was surprised how easy i found it and to my own stupidity i had a drink thought i could moderate how so incredibly stupid was i but i thought don.t beat yourself up to much about it and just get back on the program i can go about 2-3 weeks and then it gets really tough and i am really struggling and my motivation seems to have wained as well don.t know why i don,t get to come on here as often as i would like just been really busy at the moment so i am hoping that i can get xmas and the new year over with and hopefully everything will fall back into place again if i don.t get the chance to come back on before xmas hope you all have a lovely and sober xmas and a wonderful new year see ya all soon

love maryt:h

[Helensback]

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Hey maryt

You're here.
You posted.
So you're already doing better.
Merry Christmas right back at you.
See you soon.

Helen

[Newyear]

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Hey maryt-

This takes practice. Holidays are an especially difficult time.
Get thru the holidays and come back and try again.
I know you don't want to keep things the way they are.
You can do this.
You are certainly worth taking care of.
Have a Merry Christmas.

Lisa:l

[weemelonhead]

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Dear Mary...I've been trying again for 20 years....it has now paid off...this is the longest I have gone without a drink apart from pregnancy.....what would have happened if I'd have given up????
As Helen says...you're here, and from what you say, you keep trying...every 2 week abs is WAY better than two weeks boozing...it all adds up...hang in there.
This site is definitely a MAJOR help though, is it just time, or do you not have access to a computer? being able to plug in more often may well be a big part of finding the key to motivation..

Keep going, you CAN do this.....look forward to reading more of your posts after xmas...have a happy holiday....and if you can, use any free time you have to start getting yourself into THAT mindset...
Much love Weemelon (ps...this does not mean I am an incontinent piece of fruit ....) xoxoxo

[Popeye]

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Maryt
Don't give up giving up!
I thought that I was a hopeless case. It's different now.
I've managed to let my inner demon talk me into having a drink a couple of times. 'You can have a drink tonight.' he'll say. 'Go on, let your hair down, you've earned it.'
Don't feel too bad about yourself. Try and enjoy your holidays and know that there are others here feeling the same as you. It's a struggle but it's definately worth it.
Merry Christmas Mary......and Helen and Lisa and Melon, you incontinent piece of fruit you.:H

[weemelonhead]

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Paaaaaauuuuulll!!!! I said I am NOT an incontinent piece of fruit...please pay attention!!! xoxo
Be careful...you may get the melonpants to wash!!!!!!!!!! Yuckeroony

[pansy]

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Mary, this whole thing is process. Very few manage to just stop and make it abs long term without a few slips along the way. Just pick yourself, don't get too down on yourself, and jump back right on abs. Abs is always waiting for you ... no matter how long you have wandered off. And, as those who have already posted have said, holidays are the worst.

I have quite a few days in ... and tonight I was pacing and itching in my skin to go out to the store. If it weren't for some very good chat friends (you know you are) I might have caved. Worse, I thought out loud about going to the store in front of a dear friend who is struggling!! So, do not feel bad about this being tough. It is tough for all of us at times, no matter how many days we have in.

Best wishes Mary. Hugs,
Pansy

[irishlady]

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Mary, Don't beat yourself up over this......Listen, this is what we'll do.....We are going to park this big bus in a quiet lay-by up on the top of this hill....we will wait for you there, because we are NOT going to carry on with this marvellous journey without YOU....So get Christmas behind you, and come back to the bus then....We'll all be waiting in the doorway, hands outstretched, ready to pull you back onboard, ok....

Am thinking of you,

Love and BIG HUGS ( much better than BIG PANTS ) from Louise xxxxx

[MaggieD47]

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Well Maryt....look at you! Thirty days abs!! I am starting over day one after four days! You did thirty, you can do more next time. You probably needed this experience for learning. I bet many of us wish we could moderate and try to after a period of abs.

The advice you've received here is wonderful and I'm using it for myself. Irishlady, your post brought tears to my eyes. And Maryt....good for you for posting too. When I drink more than planned, I tend to steer away from here which is not good. So you and your responders have been an inspiration to me today. Bless you all and have a wonderful holiday! :h

Maggie

[dilayne]

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Hi MaryT-I agree, you are here, so you are already doing better..this is a tough time of year for everyone..just keep showing up - the progress can be measured in the long run.
(((HUGS))) Dianne

[mikeupnorth]

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Hi Mary,

It's not how many times you fall that matters -- it's how many times you pick yourself up. Keep going and don't give up. You are worth it, you CAN do it, and you WILL do it! I don't doubt you for a minute.

We alcoholics and problem drinkers are made of steel -- we must be or we wouldn't survive the hell we put ourselves through. Just think what we can accomplish when we put our minds to it. We can do anything we want.

Take care and be well. Merry Christmas to you, and a happy and healthy new year.

~ Mike

[irishlady]

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Bloody hell Mike, have just read what you posted, how about we all meet up, in, say Times Square on New Years Eve and go conquor the world...I was feeling very emotional tonight, but now, well, I'm strong I'm made of steel. Ha Ha

Love Ya, Louise xx

[Popeye]

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Mike

'It's not how many times you fall that matters -- it's how many times you pick yourself up.'

another weapon in my armoury.

[maryt]

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managed to get back on to the computer tonight and have just read all of your posts and cannot thank you all enough for your kind and loving thoughts and yes it is all about picking yourself up and starting all over again and hopefully learning from your mistakes i do try every single day to stay sober henjoy your holidays and see you all soon

love maryt

[pansy]

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Hi Mary,

I am glad that you got back on the puter. I myself slipped last night. My Dad bought me a bottle of NICE wine and, being on vacation, I had a bit. However, I am abs today and am actually taking the OTHER bottle he bought back over to parents' house today. Not an option (hey pretty good ducky???) for at least these next few days.

It really is about starting over and not getting too down on yourself. Tonight I am confident that I can do abs. My little headache is telling me so. Usually, this means I am good for another 3 or 4 days now, at least. That is SO much better than where I was when I came here. So that is progress and my process is so much better.

Please enjoy your holidays and do hop back on the puter. This is a great place to be. We have quite a few folks from the UK also. I have many family members from UK ... and many from Scotland. Edinburgh and Glasgow - I am a Ferguson (and I like(d) my drink)- lol. Someday I hope to visit ... Peace to you Mary.

Hugs,
Pansy