September Sanctuary - Week 4
Lunchtime check in from me....
Star - Yes I think last year was Optimists, staying on the up beat theme I rather like October Opportunities. I have these conversations like you about exercising but at the moment im so struggling to get out there which is crazy as I know it would lift my mood. I also have such cronic arthritic pain in my feet and ankles and it makes me feel so sad to think how it disappeared when I was in warmer climes.
Papmom - Like Star, coming here is my daily therapy. I wanted to say about your commitee not to under estimate yourself, I dont know how dominate your Boss is but make sure you get your say, if the others agree with you then maybe your Boss will listen.
SD - My earlier lost post was mainly to you. I really feel for you having to cope with all this and you should be so proud that you are doing it all AF :l How often does your Son see his Dad? I wondered if it were possible for them to only see each other during the day which would mean him not having to stay over in that awful environment. They could go out and do something for the day together instead but I know this might not be possible if you live far from each other. I think its important for your ex to know you are not being difficult about his seeing your Son but that his home is a no go neither is any stuff to do with guns! As for the Dr, Im shocked that they didnt speak privately to you, this conversation should not have been in front of your Son and I would definitely switch Drs.
Im having dinner tonight with Kenneth and im really hoping he is not going to ask for an indepth discussion into why we cant work it out. If he does, he will get the truth although he may not like it.
I have to tell you guys a story! When I moved I got online banking for my bank a/c in Portugal as I need to transfer my rent money over each month. When I 1st logged in I discovered I had access to another account which was originally in joint names of myself and my Husband. When we split he carried on using it as if it were his own and has done so ever since. However its still offfically in joint names. There has never been much money in it but last week after he sold his share in a bar he had in Portugal a deposit was made of 65,000 euros. Now when I saw it online I could have transfered it all out of that account into my own. Many ex Wives in my situation would have. However its morally against who I am although I would be a liar to say it didnt cross my mind. Bearing in mind he doesnt know I can see his balance I then sent him an email saying that having heard of the sale of the bar, although I didnt have any financial share of it, I wondered if he could possibly give me a small % of the sale as I desparately need to upgrade my car which is falling apart. Especially in view of all our other assets being as they are. If he were very honest with himself he would know that the money he used to buy the bar in the 1st place was our joint money.
Anyway I got an email from him today saying he would get back to me in the next couple of weeks when he saw how his finances were. In the meantime of course I can see every item he is spending money on! If he says no, should I transfer a couple of 1000 out? I would of course then confess and tell him I can see the account. Or do I say and do nothing? This is like on of these board game dilemma Q's!
Lunchtime check in from me....
Star - Yes I think last year was Optimists, staying on the up beat theme I rather like October Opportunities. I have these conversations like you about exercising but at the moment im so struggling to get out there which is crazy as I know it would lift my mood. I also have such cronic arthritic pain in my feet and ankles and it makes me feel so sad to think how it disappeared when I was in warmer climes.
Papmom - Like Star, coming here is my daily therapy. I wanted to say about your commitee not to under estimate yourself, I dont know how dominate your Boss is but make sure you get your say, if the others agree with you then maybe your Boss will listen.
SD - My earlier lost post was mainly to you. I really feel for you having to cope with all this and you should be so proud that you are doing it all AF :l How often does your Son see his Dad? I wondered if it were possible for them to only see each other during the day which would mean him not having to stay over in that awful environment. They could go out and do something for the day together instead but I know this might not be possible if you live far from each other. I think its important for your ex to know you are not being difficult about his seeing your Son but that his home is a no go neither is any stuff to do with guns! As for the Dr, Im shocked that they didnt speak privately to you, this conversation should not have been in front of your Son and I would definitely switch Drs.
Im having dinner tonight with Kenneth and im really hoping he is not going to ask for an indepth discussion into why we cant work it out. If he does, he will get the truth although he may not like it.
I have to tell you guys a story! When I moved I got online banking for my bank a/c in Portugal as I need to transfer my rent money over each month. When I 1st logged in I discovered I had access to another account which was originally in joint names of myself and my Husband. When we split he carried on using it as if it were his own and has done so ever since. However its still offfically in joint names. There has never been much money in it but last week after he sold his share in a bar he had in Portugal a deposit was made of 65,000 euros. Now when I saw it online I could have transfered it all out of that account into my own. Many ex Wives in my situation would have. However its morally against who I am although I would be a liar to say it didnt cross my mind. Bearing in mind he doesnt know I can see his balance I then sent him an email saying that having heard of the sale of the bar, although I didnt have any financial share of it, I wondered if he could possibly give me a small % of the sale as I desparately need to upgrade my car which is falling apart. Especially in view of all our other assets being as they are. If he were very honest with himself he would know that the money he used to buy the bar in the 1st place was our joint money.
Anyway I got an email from him today saying he would get back to me in the next couple of weeks when he saw how his finances were. In the meantime of course I can see every item he is spending money on! If he says no, should I transfer a couple of 1000 out? I would of course then confess and tell him I can see the account. Or do I say and do nothing? This is like on of these board game dilemma Q's!
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