Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

[Turningleaf]

Well, here we go. Trying again..... So many times before - but hopefully this time will stick. I want to try for the 30 day mark, and then go on from there. Would welcome any and all support and company!

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Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

hey tl i am with u here. did the 11 days but went wayward and seem to be on a spiral back to where i was. sucks big time but what can i say other than i am here. not rock bottom mol but i can see it happening and back to the old ways. this mod thing does not work at all for ppl like us.

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Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

oh well tomorrow is another day and i am still reading on this site but the weakness is still there i just need to get my head together again. i wonder if it ever stops, i am sure it does a reading the older membesr gives motivation as well as the newbies. grrr AL needs to go away really. thanks mol

[Nelz]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

mollyka;1209309 wrote: With you here TL!! Had my 'final' calamity a couple of weeks ago, so 'this is IT' -- rock bottom has been hit, and I ain't going there again
So let's support eachother - and I'm guessing there'll be a few more along for the ride! Actually a great bunch of newbies round at the moment, full of vim and vigour and determination. It's brilliant when you have a few comrades-in arms around here, lovely to have a few sounding boards. So let's do this OK:goodjob:

Good for you Turning leaf and Mollyka, it took me almost 20 years of wasted money and wasted life before I hit my rock bottom, crazy as it sounds, I wish it would have happened earlier. This is a great place to start, good info, lots of people who share your issues.

Dont be a stranger, visit and post, and there is no such thing as a DQ(dumb question)


:welcome:

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Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

thanks molly appreciate the advice. today i will not drink and let see about the next day.

[Turningleaf]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

Thanx guys. It was nice to feel the support. Unfortunately, I didn't make it through the night myself. Sad, ey? But will hang on the boards, and keep trying. This is a good place, I know.

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Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

well TL back to day one, i didnt make it through the night either. today is another day and see how we go. i am definitely having a read through this site this weekend and gathering myself. come monday i am definitely AF

[Unwasted]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

TL, I'm just getting going again too. Here are some ideas I'm studying that might help (I also posted this in the Newbie's Nest):


One of the best tools for not caving into cravings is the concept of detachment. If you can just "name" the emotion -- say to yourself "craving, craving" and then just let it go, it becomes less powerful. We have all kinds of emotions throughout the day - "anger, anger" "irritation, irritation" etc. The Eastern way of looking at things is to not judge them as bad - just recognize them and move on.

I'm trying to summarize from a book, so hopefully this makes sense. It's worth learning, though, because detachment becomes our biggest single tool in winning out against alcohol. It's not that detachment prevents upsets, it just renders them less overwhelming. Detachment involves letting thoughts and emotions come and go, as they will anyway. In Japan, they say that "feelings are as changeable as the Japanese sky." I think that's a lovely metaphor for the essence of detachment - notice, honor, enjoy, or don't enjoy. You do not need to do something special or immediate about the upsets, losses or cravings. Let them be, and they just might let you be. Practice detachment and it can become your core tool in propelling you along the path to a drug-free existence (from Tao of Sobriety).

Also, think of a craving as a wave, and just ride it out. And, use self-talk. Phrases like "I can and will stay on track, no matter what" can keep the mind demons at bay. And, the AA saying "Fake it till you make it." To take a stand for something different and liberating, you have to keep repeating this self talk - don't worry about being repititious.

There are probably ideas like this in the toolbox, but since I'm reading about them and they're fresh, I thought it would be good to post them here.

[Guitarista]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

Hiya Turningleaf and everyone,

Nice post UW, and Tao of sobriety is a good book. I have it too. Think i'd better read it again, lol.

Hang in there TL and AV. Keep it going!

AV, sounds like you have a plan for yourself by reading lots here this weekend. Heaps of inspiration and great info/education on the site. Lot's of great older threads too.

Bravo everyone.

[FreeFly]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

Unwasted;1210224 wrote: One of the best tools for not caving into cravings is the concept of detachment. If you can just "name" the emotion -- say to yourself "craving, craving" and then just let it go, it becomes less powerful. We have all kinds of emotions throughout the day - "anger, anger" "irritation, irritation" etc. The Eastern way of looking at things is to not judge them as bad - just recognize them and move on.

Your post reminded me of Krishnamurti's Freedom from the Known. Have you read it? My copy lent out long ago. Think I'm gonna bag myself another copy.

[Unwasted]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

CB, no I haven't read it, but I'm really seeing the value of learning about Eastern thinking (Buddhism) to combat addiction. I have a list of 20 books that someone recommended. I'm also going to a couple of Buddhist get-togethers over the next few weeks.

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Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

hi guys

day 2 here and feeling like shit, my fault but going with the flow. Unwasted let me know how the buddist meetings go.

Scary yesterday, had a guy come in for an EEG for seizures and he was suffering for alcohol abuse. He did not even know where he was, his name, was talking crap and is 10 years older than me. Had him in a few days before this for his first EEG and he was fine then he was discharged and took to binge drinking and sent back to our hospital. Now i see this sort of crap constantly and what in my god damn head makes me think it wont happen to me. WTF it will eventually i know. The guy who does the test said oh dont worry about doing an EEG on him he is only an alcoholic. i nearly killed him and thought if only you knew buddy that alcoholics are not by choice. Prat that he is!!!! grrr

[Unwasted]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

Available,

I went to my first Buddhist service yesterday. I had studied what it would be like, which I would recommend if you decide to go to one. I find it to be such an intelligent and beautiful way to learn about how to live one's life. It's somewhat complex and must be studied, but seems worth the effort to me. Here is a link to about.com which gives a nice overview:

Buddhism Basics -- Start Here to Learn About Buddhism

Let me know if I can answer any questions for you -- I'm by no means an expert, but I'm learning a little more each day.

I hear you about alcohol - it's such a dead end. And, that's about the best thing you can say about it after doing it for a long time -- then it just gets scary.

Sending you peace and strength.

[slowly sinking]

Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

I would like to join you guys...it's my first day back here...I was here years ago and fell off the wagon...my husband left me last week...so I can either drown my sorrows or pick my ass up and get it together...good luck to all of you..all of us!

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Going to try again - 30 days, anyone?

hey SS dont drown your sorrows and welcome. Hope you are doing ok