tue 13 dec af daily

[bear73]

Wow - December is really motoring on - 6 more working days for me until Christmas.

I am steeling myself for work - colleague being spoken to yesterday and today about her intimidating manner/aggressionthrough bullying procedure - I have a meeting with her this pm. I have had several run ins and had to submit evidence.Time to reflect on what I can and can't change and not let her behaviour intimidate/upset me.

I am off for dinner tonight at a nice restaurant with two lovely girlfriends - yum, apart from that calorie counting firmly in process. I have finally had enough of my weight - just seen back fat in mirror - I can calorie count, it works and I have had success before.Bring it Tuesday!

[greeneyes]

tue 13 dec af daily

Fabs!

This showed up in my e-mail today.
"Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don't want."
I guess that means focus on the solution, not the problem.

bear, I admit to laughing at "back fat".

Off and running - have a titillating tuesday~

[universal]

tue 13 dec af daily

Morning abbers!

I'm zooming today as well, volunteering for an hour and a half at little uni's school, then my AA meeting and then my counselling session with hubby. Looking forward to that as it allows him to get out his crap.

There is one thing for sure in my world today!

Love and hugs,
Uni

[BlondeAFAmbition]

tue 13 dec af daily

Hi Gang! Hope everyone is well this morning! Bear, I know, Christmas is so darn close...the big push is on! Have a lovely lunch with your friends!

Hi Greenie! Love that quote, I really believe it too!

Well, I am off and rushing to work as usual. Have a boatload of stuff to do tonight when I get home in preparation for the big party for my mom tomorrow. Never seems like enough time. Ok, I just need to take a deep breath and RELAX about it all, right? I may not get a chance to post much until after the party but I'll be thinking of you all and wishing you well. Hi to everyone checking in here today and have a great day!

[Lavande]

tue 13 dec af daily

Good Tuesday morning Abbers!

I am free today to wrap gifts & bake cookies - damn the back fat :H

bear, uni, greenie, blondie & everyone - wishing you a great AF Tuesday!

Lav

[Kaslo]

tue 13 dec af daily

Good morning all.

How come the Pacific Northwest is always going to be behind?

Everyone have a great AF day. Bear I hope you can get your tough co-worker to calm down. But if not well, the poor thing is probably suffering about something.

Greenie, have a great day. Blondie, Id like to trade lives with you at the moment.

Uni, I hope you and Mike have a chance at healing your relationship.

This year I had 5 papers to write in one fall to winter period, and I now have only one left but its a biggie, a 6 year vegetation study with reams of statistics, and 180 pages of analysis. What a snoozer. Its partly done now, I finished the arctic and the yukon studies yesterday. Somehow I have to have this done by the 21. Help me Rhonda.

One this is for sure, downing a bunch of booze cause I finished #3 yesterday morning and #4 last night (I write them in tandem, at about the same time, one further along slightly from the other, if I have to, otherwise its impossible. Bit of a gong show for the old brain, but I figure its got to earn its bloody keep) would NOT be a good way to face this mornings effects of inundation on altered beach plant communities, bla bla bla...etc etc.

No Xmas decs up yet, maybe I can take a quick breather today to toss up some electrical wires and light strings around outside! Just burn out the door and FLING!

kaslo

[Kaslo]

tue 13 dec af daily

Forgot to post a picture...

[LVT25]

tue 13 dec af daily

Hello friends,

Kaslo, I LOVE the picture!!!! Thanks for sharing!

Lav--I'm sorry, but I had to laugh about your post last night about Easter. It sounds like my family!:H And then I had to smile at AFM's post thanking you for her "hat". You are special. :h

I was extremely frustrated with my family again last night. I swear, there is a HUGE communication gap and I"m sure none of it is my fault!!!:H

Off to make some bread in the machine and do some more decorating while the laundry is cooking! Have a great sober day all!:h

[Meech]

tue 13 dec af daily

Beautiful picture Kaslo - looks a little like my views I'm pretty sure we are in the same part of the country! I am forever greatful of the beauty we are surrounded in.

Well I survived 2 staff Christmas parties AF. I really enjoyed both. Had a mix of ice water and lemon, lates, and peppermint tea. And remembered every conversation!!

The tougher outtings are this weekend as we go to various friend's houses for their Christmas parties. But I plan on packing an arsenal of refreshing peach fizzy drinks. Good thing is our kids are invited to these functions and that always makes the "responsibility factor" go up. I will be the driver so the drinking option is a non-issue.

Well I hoped to shop today but one of my darling kids is sick so TLC and some good house cleaning on the agenda today.

Lavande you sound so organized for Christmas. I have the baking done but no shopping yet. Good job.

Blonde I hope you have a super party for your Mom tomorrow and you get all accomplished today!

Bear - hope the meeting goes well today. There's no room for bullies especially when they are adults. Hope you have a wonderful meal tonight!

Greenie - Love the quote about worrying. You always have such great messages for us all.

Well enough procrastination time for housework! :upset:

[sunshine_gg]

tue 13 dec af daily

Hi and bye Fabbies!

Busy here and that is all. :H
Oh.. but one thing is for sure!

[4theboyz]

tue 13 dec af daily

Better late than never! Good Day Abbers! Phew! I have had waaaaayyyy too many close calls this past 36 hours and more than the last 8 days together. Arguments, struggles, main computer at work blowing up and now tech support testing every fiber of my patience. Did I mention a mouthy 15 year old???

I hope everyone else is having a smooth sailing Tuesday. I will be here tomorrow and it WILL be AF day 10!!!

[Turnagain]

tue 13 dec af daily

ahhh....life~

4...I gotta tell you what made my new AF life sooooooo much easier - almost instantly - was one simple, but profound decision:

not to drink EVER again...no matter what.

It makes a huge difference. It was incredibly liberating. I didn't give up anything - I GOT everything. I have my life back...my self-respect and joy.

Before...I thought...I probably didn't want to drink again - or at least be a drunk drinker....but there would be a special occasion or a trigger (fight with spouse or kid....tough day at work, etc.) and I would think...hey I got this thing under control....just one or two is okay.

NOT.

Nope....not for me. I'd be back drinking everyday and even more with each subsequent episode.

This is not to say that I don't ever get the random thoughts about AL. Heck...right now, I'm sitting in a hotel bar for lunch writing this. I don't have to worry about being tempted though because drinking is no longer an option. And, just because I could, I turned my back to the bar...and am gazing out at the Alaska Range. Much better view!

So...this morning I got some good news right off the bat. I got on the scale and have lost nearly 4 pounds since last week - and that's after my double cheesecake gluttony at a party earlier! I have been stuck at the old weight for so long....so this was a GREAT breakthrough.

It's going to take awhile to lose all the extra weight that piled on from all my years of drinking....but, for the first time, I feel hopeful that it will happen.

geez...okay...I gotta go back to a stuffy, boring workshop, but am glad I got to catch up with you for a bit, friends. Kas....incredible photo as always. You may be a scientist...but you've got the eye and heart of an artist!

[sidney]

tue 13 dec af daily

wooh hoo Turn...sounds like you turned the corner in the weight dept. (bad pun)
Isn't that great?

I am like you I am not considering drinking an option. So if I have conflict or stress I am going to have to deal with it some other way. I do have a fair amount of stress so I think I have turned the corner on that one. I woke up this morning thinking I can't wait until Christmas...now that is a change. It is amazing the amount of confidence I have and I attribute that to... you here in the AF thread. What a strong group you are. Inspirational.

Take care all and one thing for sure.....Sid

[sidney]

tue 13 dec af daily

And 4 you are now in the double digits...Way to go.

Sid

[Lavande]

tue 13 dec af daily

Evening Abbers!

Meech - don't give me too much credit for being organized. Making plans & then actually following thru with them doesn't always work for me :H I did get the wrapping done (I find that to be a very boring job). The baking was put off & now I'm catching up on some work

Kaslo - that picture is fantastic
Glad you are getting your homework done

LVT, deep breathing works! Don't let it all get to you! Christmas will soon be behind us, thank goodness!

Greetings sid, Turn & 4theboyz!
Hope everyone can find some time to just chill this evening!

Lav