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    AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

    Good morning, Abbers!
    Been up for an hour, but had to take care of a few things. But coffee is pretty good this a.m.
    Dirty Harry The Devil Dog hasn't done anything to report--yet!! He sure is the problem child, and has been since we adopted him 8 1/2 years ago! Unlike your doggies, Pap, he usually doesn't get diarrhea. Did see a few spots last week, but that is unusual. Only time he had to go to the vet for eating something was when he ate 6 expensive dark chocolate bars two years ago. Det, there is no way that you could eat like him, LOL!!
    Met with the attorney yesterday. I was really speechless when he told us that the police chief of our town had said that my husband had made some statements about not being happy with the police force here!! This of course has nothing to do with my DUI, and he was referring to a public meeting where my husband and another guy reperesented a committee that had brought forth a petition to study options to our police force as it exists. The friends who had started this were in FL at the time, and the other people thay'd asked to attend the meeting didn't show up. So the chief--disliked (I am using a nicer word than I could use) by almost everyone, is going to try for the harshest punishment for me, obvioulsy because of that. In thie state (for an aggraveted DUI) they can give you up to two years loss of license, 3 days in jail, manadatory in-patient treatment for seven days (for $1,800 and in a state run place) and follow up sessions with a LDAC. The attorney is trying for a one year loss, no jail time, and alcohol school, which I had to do for my MA DUI. Chief doesn't seem to want to go for that. He also said something about me being treated lightly in MA. That isn't true--just that MA is more lenient. I am calling my counselor from rehab today to have her write and fax a letter to the attorney. I am also going to see my therapist next week and ask her for a letter, too. She isn't LDAC, but has been great for me. And spoke with a friend last night--he is a friend of the judge who tries 90% of these cases. He was outraged that the police chief had the audacity to bring this up and wants to write a letter of character reference to the judge--not mentioning the jerk, of course. He is a recovered alcoholic himself, and is well known and respected in our town. Am thinking about the best approach, but best thing is I didn't freak out or even lose my cool. The attorney remarked at how well I am handling things, etc. The thought os a drink never crossed my mind. And my calmness seems to have rubbed off on Mr TDN. I accept total responsbilty for what I did, and also accept the punishment, but I don't accept a big jerk trying to make things worse than they need be. Our friend told me to call the attorney and ask if he knows if the chief has shared this info with anyone else--small town, and it's easy for these things to get around.
    Anyway, helped at the flower shop most of the day yesterday, and am going back next week for a day or so, then probably for the weekend. I have court on the 13th, the busiest day other than VD's itslelf, but can go in the afternoon and stay as late as I am needed.
    Also got a call from the hospital pharmacist who wants me to come for an interview for the technician job. I scheduled it for tomorrow, forgetting that Bud has to go for chemo and hubby won't be around in the afternoon. Trying to get it rescheduled for this afternoon. My friend who owns the flower shop knows everybody and likes this guy and told me to have him call her. Any job would be okay with me for now.
    Sorry this is so long, but needed to get that out.
    DG, so nice to see you here!! Sounds like your courses are going well, and congratulations on your President's List achievemnet!!

    TDN
    Hope everyone has a wonderful AF day!
    "One day at a time."

    #2
    AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

    Good morning Abbers!

    Having my 3 year old grandson overnight is always a joy as I am assured that I will definitely not oversleep. He gets up at the crack of dawn :H

    TDN, I could write a book on police chiefs, believe me as my husband is a retired cop
    I just hope you have a fair & reasonable judge who is able to look at the facts & base his opinion only on the evidence at hand. You are doing so well & wish you continued success. Good luck with the job interview as well.

    DG, yes the President's list is the CC Dean's list - congrats

    OK, taking EB out to 'wake up' the chickens - fun, fun!!
    Wishing everyone a terrific AF Thursday.

    Lav
    AF since 03/26/09
    NF since 05/19/09
    Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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      #3
      AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

      Happy Groundhog Day!

      And DG, I did say jackrabbit, just not here

      Flying by as I'm not ready for work, but wanted to throw something out here but first, TDN, as always, hoping for the best for you - you might consider downloading Colin's radical forgiveness worksheet and do it on the police chief. You can also do it online.

      There's the other thing. I'm liking #2

      Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

      1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

      "This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."

      2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

      "This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

      3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

      "Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

      4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

      "Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."

      5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

      "This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

      Tally ho! off to ........ work. :H
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      Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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        #4
        AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

        Hello friends,

        It's good to see everyone facing the challenges of life head on-without AL!! Greenie, I really like the regrets of the dying thing. I'm going to keep those things in mind. I think it is so true that we don't realize how much freedom can be lost from poor health. :h

        I am feeling better (thanks for asking Pap), and I have started exercising and eating better. I am trying to commit to fixing more and healthier meals for my family. I have been following Pinterest and have found many easy-doable recipes. My main goal is to start the boys and myself off with a healthy breakfast every day. I had a restless sleep last night for some reason and then at 3:30 am the weather alert went off informing us that we will be in a winter storm warning starting tonight. Really? Was this necessary so early? Anyway, I really feel for those of you that suffer from insomnia. I hate it, and I really suffer when I lack even a little sleep.

        #1 son was pretty happy--after his good game the other night his picture was in the paper. First time ever for a sport and I know it felt good! We went around a bit this morning, because he won't get up early enough to get himself organized so it ends up being a little stressful. I have been cutting him some slack since he is working a job a few nights a week. The jury is still out as to whether the AD's are helping or not. I think they do help me with anxiety and the desire to chew nails at times. I'm also concerned they cause me stomach upset and fatigue--but, I don't feel like eating so much of the time either!

        Enough rambling from me. I need to get some stuff done around here so we can go decorate the gym and watch some more basketball for the next 3 days.:H Hopefully this big blizzard won't prevent me from getting my hair done!

        Have a great sober day all!!:h:l
        _______________
        NF since June 1, 2008
        AF since September 28, 2008
        DrunkFree since June 1, 2008
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        :wings: In memory of MDbiker aka Bear.
        5/4/2010 In loving memory of MaryAnne. I pray you've found peace my friend.
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        The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.ray:

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          #5
          AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

          Good morning Absers... Greenie I loved your top five regrets piece. Very good points I make to myself most days, and yes, I am liking #2 as well. I am on a few days off here, and really liking just doing what I want to do which is mostly with the camera and not much else.

          Lav, being married for so long to a cop, I can see why he is the way he is. I wouldnt want thier job either. I am sure they start out thinking about catching bad guys, and end up feeling cheated out of a normal life, but like Greenies list implies, we make our own path.

          TDN: I am with Lav on hoping for a fair judge, because its the judge that matters. Small town petty stuff really bugs me. Dont y'all elect your police chief? See we dont do that here, out police forces are completely independant and are funded provincially and federally and are overseen by internal heirarchy. That has its problems too. If ever there is a problem, they kind of protect their own. Where is the oversight, is what I wonder. No one should get away with what you describe, thats just not on.

          I worked for the cops in my hometown for a few years before going to university, and it was very interesting. Some parts of it I really liked and would do again. Some parts, mainly the machismo male dominant cops are always right and can kill you if they feel like it thing, not so much. Also many years of being friends with lawyers, and working in the law myself, I think authority is too much for some people, and they lose sight of why they are there.

          Finally big shout to LV, glad you are feeling better and your boys are making you very proud. I think if there was a number 6 to the Greensters list, it would be I wish I had spent more time with my kids.

          I AM spending time with my grand daughter and grand son, and my daughter. They are pretty exhausting though. Day before yesterday the gd climbed up on the very heavy designer coffee table and it collapsed on her, and now the owners have taken the coffee table away....she could have been seriously hurt, but i have to ask why do 3 year olds have to climb and jump on everything in sight, the top of the back of the couch, the bed, the kitchen table, the coffee table and jump around like an idiot. She is almost 4 feet tall, so she can easily break stuff and herself. Is it too much to expect that they stay on the floor and sit on furniture and not be airborn all the time? Honestly I know this sounds kind of old, but my kids did not do that. They were not always well behaved but life was not a trampoline. Their mother is constantly ordering them around like a sargent major, also. So its not like they dont get disciplined. Time outs galore. Enforced as well. Am I looking at ADHD in this three year old?

          I will see if my time with them can be more interactive, maybe she is just wanting my attention more. Any thoughts on this are welcome, from you grandmothers out there. I do love my grand daughter and we have some real fun together, but she seems to want me to just be in her sphere constantly. These two do not have a father, its not been easy for any of them.

          I spent the day yesterday just lying around in this little condo with a view of the Victoria inner harbour but today I feel I should try to do more, I have today and one more day before my husband arrives, and then it tends to be about what he wants to do, and I tag along. Wait a sec, that probably is not entirely accurate, lol! And we do have common interests, plays, music, bookstores, but there are a lot of birds at the sewage outfall, and I am not sure I am into that this time!!! I also want to see some long missed friends.

          Everyone have a great day

          Anyway enough horse hockey. Out I go.

          Kaslo
          Kaslo

          Stopped the madness: February 14, 2011
          Status: Happy:h

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            #6
            AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

            Happy Groundhog Day FABs and FABettes!

            Wow... mini novels this early in the day!? I'm impressed and feeling somewhat inadequate! :H

            Greenie... love the list and agree with Kas... having spent more 'quality' time with the kids would make my list as well.

            Kas, cannot really help you with the 3 year old... I'm not there yet. Mine are still too young.
            Hope you enjoy the last 2 days of 'freedom' and then some time with hubs.

            LVT, glad you're feeling better and the boy's doing you proud! Dumb question... how does a weather alert go off? Like the hurricane bell contraptions?

            Lav, I hope you and EB managed to get them lazy hens up and to work! :H

            TDN, I hope this will all turn out alright for you :l Your police chief there obviously isn't very good about keeping his mouth shut when he should and chances are other people (including judges) know that as well. Aside from that... you are handling the situation very admirably and that will go a long way for you. Good luck on the job interview... hopefully you can reschedule. And good luck to Bud, too. Poor guy.

            Ok, I've got nothing, really. Wiarton Willie (the rodent responsible for this part of Canada) says it's gonna be an early Spring (as he should, if he knows what's good for him) and I'll take it, thank you That is all.

            Happy Thursday and one thing is for sure!
            Okay, WHO put a stop payment on my reality check?

            Winning since October 24th, 2013

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              #7
              AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

              Hello AFers,

              Wow, Sunny, Willie Wiarton's Festival is a whole lot more fun than the USA's Groundhog Day.

              An albino groundhog to boot?

              TDN, You will be very relieved once all the legal stuff is said and done and you know what you have to do to get through it. Once that happens, just jump on it and do it. I finished all my classes, etc, within the first month. No follow-up due to the fact that I have been to rehab three times, etc, so the state felt like their follow-up would be kind of useless.

              Greenie, Funny how we need to let go of resentments. That is a huge part of the AA Steps, also.

              Hi to everyone else. Hope all have a wonderful AF day.

              Weather is pretty today in Alabama and I think I will go outside and enjoy some nature's made vitamin D.

              Love,
              Cindi
              AF April 9, 2016

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                #8
                AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

                Hi kids!

                Definitely getting a bit chillier but it is still winter. Knew we shouldn't have had those two 60 degree days

                Greenie, I don't want to have any regrets on my deathbed but I imagine that's difficult to arrange. I will do my best

                LVT, hope you are feeling better. Are you taking something like Lexapro? It bothered me if I took it on an empty stomach. It's best taken with food (at least some crackers) & at bedtime because it does make you drowsy. Great that your son did so well!

                Kaslo, I just had 24 hrs of my grandson jumping & climbing on things - I know exactly what you're describing. My son came to pick him up this afternoon & actually asked me 'if this was normal?' :H
                I just had to laugh & remind him that he used to climb out of his bedroom window to sit on the roof so he could have a better view of the neighborhood :H
                Enjoy the rest of your stay!

                Sunni, good that your local rodent predicted early spring because ours did'nt - bummer.

                Hi Cindi, glad you are having nice weather.
                I really can't wait for some of that natural Vit D myself.

                OK, hope everyone has a comfy night!
                Lav
                AF since 03/26/09
                NF since 05/19/09
                Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                  #9
                  AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

                  Hi everyone, special thanks to Sunni and Lav for recognizing the stress caused by grandkids I really care about but cant handle the incredible gymnastics. They were a lot better today. I guess I have to realize they were really wound up that I was coming and once here, they just went nuts for about three days. I was there for them all through infancy and was really the only other adult in thier little short lives for long periods. They just need to have time with me, sitting on my knee and singing songs and have me play with them, draw with them, etc, and knowing I am NOT leaving tomorrow helps. Meanwhile my daughter has finally found a place to live so she can leave her biological fathers basement where she has been holed up since last August.

                  And Lav, thanks especially for reminding me this is all normal.

                  Guess what folks, I am only two weeks off a year AL free. Isnt that something?

                  Here was the sunset on Dallas Road this evening

                  Kaslo

                  Stopped the madness: February 14, 2011
                  Status: Happy:h

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                    #10
                    AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

                    Wow Kaslo that really is something! One whole year. You are such an inspiration. And the photo is something too. Sid

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                      #11
                      AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

                      wow, what a splendid photo Kas!

                      manual exposure I'm assuming? otherwise I'm guessing it would have overexposed in auto. any filter?

                      tired here. learning to do voice-overs for my video blog at work. it's kind of fun but I'm really getting a complex from hearing my own voice so much. just weeeird!

                      TDN what a circus! yikes. I hope the drama lessens. my clients are 100% cops and military and yes indeed i could tell some stories. most are really upstanding folks, but you do get a few overdeveloped egos in the mix.

                      off to check chat and then conk out

                      be well everyone
                      nosce te ipsum
                      (Know Thyself)

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                        #12
                        AF Daily~ Thursday, February 2

                        Kaslo two weeks off a year! Wow! It is good to know it can be done. I wish you long life and the joy of a clear mind....it kinda helps with enjoying the wee folk.

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