Magical March Madness - Week One
Good Morning Fly Away, I hope your day at work is as pleasant as can be.
Lav, was that embroidery one of yours? Oh, and I got on the scale this morning and am up yet another pound, so I say to you, be very happy about being down by 4! It's so hard at our age to lose anything. I have decided today I need to take action to bump up my metabolism and get serious about the weight. I can't afford to buy new clothes!
Hi Chill, I agree whole-heartedly with you that there is a stigma and it is best to be careful. It's funny but it can make such a big difference how we present the situation and to whom. We can paint ourselves as "alcoholic in recovery" or "a person who recognized that alcohol was harmful and chose to move on". The latter is infinitely better. I was reading a post yesterday by Cuckoosnest in which she stated that she did not like to label herself "alcoholic" but preferred to think of herself as a person that has a problem with alcohol, or something like that. She said she is not just and alcoholic, but a person with so many facets. When one is called an alcoholic, it does seem to diminish all else about their personhood, does it not? I'm quite certain none on this thread are alcoholics. We have each so much depth and so much to share. We are people who have a problem with alcohol.
Mylife, thanks for the topic as it is a good one for me to review. As far as who we tell: My hb knows first hand, as my drinking-alone-at-home was getting out of control and he was feeling very deserted and alone. I was placing alcohol ahead of our relationship. I am fortunate to have a hb that enjoys spending time with me and sharing activities and he was increasingly aware that I was slipping away. I have told my children simply that I have decided to cut back and that I was drinking too much. I have talked with each of them that genetically they need to be careful as problems with al do run in the family. I have told only one friend about the extent of my problem: the compulsion to drink, nightly drinking, waking and going to work hung-over, sometimes even still under the influence. I told only her because she also was struggling and we have helped each other by talking. One other close friend I have simply told her that I am cutting back and that I feel it would be more healthy for me.
Cyn, Dew, Rustop, Rusy, Sped, LBH, SD, Cassia?, Blonde, Star, Sooty, Papmom, Kaslo, Raven, G?, everyone reading: cherish your day AF.
Good Morning Fly Away, I hope your day at work is as pleasant as can be.
Lav, was that embroidery one of yours? Oh, and I got on the scale this morning and am up yet another pound, so I say to you, be very happy about being down by 4! It's so hard at our age to lose anything. I have decided today I need to take action to bump up my metabolism and get serious about the weight. I can't afford to buy new clothes!
Hi Chill, I agree whole-heartedly with you that there is a stigma and it is best to be careful. It's funny but it can make such a big difference how we present the situation and to whom. We can paint ourselves as "alcoholic in recovery" or "a person who recognized that alcohol was harmful and chose to move on". The latter is infinitely better. I was reading a post yesterday by Cuckoosnest in which she stated that she did not like to label herself "alcoholic" but preferred to think of herself as a person that has a problem with alcohol, or something like that. She said she is not just and alcoholic, but a person with so many facets. When one is called an alcoholic, it does seem to diminish all else about their personhood, does it not? I'm quite certain none on this thread are alcoholics. We have each so much depth and so much to share. We are people who have a problem with alcohol.
Mylife, thanks for the topic as it is a good one for me to review. As far as who we tell: My hb knows first hand, as my drinking-alone-at-home was getting out of control and he was feeling very deserted and alone. I was placing alcohol ahead of our relationship. I am fortunate to have a hb that enjoys spending time with me and sharing activities and he was increasingly aware that I was slipping away. I have told my children simply that I have decided to cut back and that I was drinking too much. I have talked with each of them that genetically they need to be careful as problems with al do run in the family. I have told only one friend about the extent of my problem: the compulsion to drink, nightly drinking, waking and going to work hung-over, sometimes even still under the influence. I told only her because she also was struggling and we have helped each other by talking. One other close friend I have simply told her that I am cutting back and that I feel it would be more healthy for me.
Cyn, Dew, Rustop, Rusy, Sped, LBH, SD, Cassia?, Blonde, Star, Sooty, Papmom, Kaslo, Raven, G?, everyone reading: cherish your day AF.
It's been enough to keep me focused, I have learned so much from so many wonderful people here. No one in my real life can truly understand the depth of our pain.
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