Monday 29th

[southernbelle47]

Monday 29th

Good morning all

It's good to see you all here.

I too am thinking about Em and her son leaving on Wednesday.
When we left our son in Montgomery,to go to Iraq, the drive home was very emotional. I wept (LOUD) and my hubby had to drive and try to hold himself together until we got home. I NEVER want to do that again. Neither does he.. Our son has not had to go back..........yet..
My heart goes out to all who have to go and their families.

We had a good weekend here. Went to the Auburn -Florida basketball game. It was fun even though Fla. won. I love to "people " watch. There was a man next to my hubby that had been drinking and boy did he stink! Then he ate hotdogs with onions!! Whewwwww!

I am reading all your post...you are all in my thoughts and prayers........:goodjob:

:h Nancy
AF

[Lou]

Monday 29th

Hello Absville!!!

Day 21 for me today....i actualy cant believe it myself....but im feeling good, if not a little fat!!! I am worried tho and this is a bit personal...i stopped taking my pill end of oct and still no sign of a period....thats like 3 months and put it this way i was no angel on holiday! (I KNOW...STUPID!!) iv already done a test last wk but am about to do another so wish me luck!! im hoping its the medication im on...fingers crossed..will report back, im scared tho dont wanna do it. shit i cant even look after myself let alone a baby!!

[Newyear]

Monday 29th

Lori...I know exactly what you mean. Happy day 29 :goodjob:
Lisa

[rivergirl]

Monday 29th

Morning All, You all sound SO GOOD! What a great way to start the day reading your posts. Day 30 AF for me today. I am trying fnot to worry about getting 90 days or gettiing a year... If I take care of today , The AF tomorrows will add up.
Blessings,
Rivergirl

[dilayne]

Monday 29th

Hello Absville!
106 days for me. Doing OK...the things I'm enjoying the most are:
1. No guilt for spending money, trashing my body, whimping out on things important to me..etc.
2. Being able to focus more on healthy choices..eating well (sort of hard to 'really' do that at the same time that you are polluting your liver, heh? Losing 10 pounds..
3. Becoming clear headed enough to look deeply into what is important to me at this stage of my life and being able to let go of what isn't working anymore...even though that letting go is painful, I am doing it without numbing myself and running in the opposite direction..I feel like I'm moving in the right direction now.
HUGE KUDOS on everyone's progress..be it a day, a week, or a month or a year..it definitely is a one day at a time decision for most of us, and today is all that really matters.
Namaste!!!
Dianne

[abby1]

Monday 29th

Hello Fellow Absville Friends

Yea, Rivergirl Day 30!!!! Everyone days are just adding up like crazy.... I am on day 22. I am with you Lori and the "white Knuckle Hours".... I am OK too, once I make it till 8 pm. I know that going ABS is the best course for me. But, honestly I really would like to have a glass of wine with dinner. Unfortunely, that glass always turned into a bottle. So ice tea is my drink of choice these days.... and I can have as many of those as I want. No reprecussions!!!
Have a great day everyone..... Congrats to everyone is Absville and their daily sucesses.
Anbby

[Bookish]

Monday 29th

Day 7 for me. I made it through my first weekend.

A nice surprise awaited me this morning. I could easily put all my rings on and off my fingers. I have one I haven't worn for the last couple of months because of swelling in my knuckle.

Great sunny Monday to everyone. The support and motivation here is awesome!

Laura

[Lou]

Monday 29th

Hoo Raaah...i am a happy little me again...test was negative....must be my meds messin with my hormones!!! Dont get me wrong i am sooo broody and would ablolutely love to have as many babies as possible, but it has to be in the right situation....which for me at the moment it isnt...sadly

[Newyear]

Monday 29th

Whew!! Great news Lou!!

Lisa

[vinophile]

Monday 29th

Phew,Lou,!!!!!!You had me scared for a while!!!!!You are doing so well, Keep it up. you sound so much better.

Keeping AF this weekend was a real challenge. Visions of chardonnay were dancing in my head last night and I had that old feeling of "I can't really do this". Fortunately it passed but it was quite overwhelming.
I must focus on my diet this week. I think my strategy has been to stuff as much food in my body so that there is no room for even a sip of wine. I have gained 5 pounds!!!!!!! I watched an Oprah show where formerly obese people who had had gastric bypass surgery became alcholics. Apparently they transferred addictions. I hope I'm not doing the same thing!!!!!!I've promised myself that I won't eat after 6pm. I exercise a lot so you can imagine how much I'm eating. It's got to stop.
Yikes... didn't realize how late it was.
Have a great evening all
Janet

[Java]

Monday 29th

Late Post for me, but happy to hear about everyones accomplishments!!!

Day 17 for me!!! Spent last night and today with my boyfriend who has been out of town for the last couple of weeks, it was wonderful...it was the first time we have seen each other since i quit drinking, and since he knew i had a problem, he was completely cool...I was a little worried that he might not completely understand that i had a real problem and that he would order a beer or something when we went out to eat, but he didnt, he had tea and i had water. I stayed at his house last night, which i never do!! I had a wonderful time, the reason i never stayed over before was b/c i never could get to sleep (b/c i was not drunk enough to pass out, so i would make an excuse to leave) but I just drank my night time tea, and went off into sleepy land) it was quite a different experience from before...it is nice waking up in someones arms..which is something i am not really used to..but it wasnt so bad

I hope you all have a wonderful evening,

Love

Victoria

[Accountable for Me]

Monday 29th

Ok, I didn't want to do this with all of the grief and people having bigger problems than I, but I need to dump this........ somewhere........ anywhere. I didn't want to start a new thread. I just need to dump this.

My life has taken a HUGE u-turn. I found out last night that my husband, who is away working has been having an affair. He also has been getting back on the sauce and using drugs. His father called me last night (because we are suppose to be moving at the end of Feb to join him) and wanted to give me a heads up. He said that his son, (my husband) has been seeing someone and has been partying up a storm. My husband has been staying with his father until this move was to happen, and thought he owed it to me for the sake of our child, to let me know. Well, seeing the man hates my guts, I have to respect him for letting me know before I pack up my child and move to a city away from my friends and family. My husband didn't deny it. I must of slammed the phone down on him about 500 times last night. (I know how childish - but what can you do??)

I am sitting here completely perplexed. I am in such a state of shock. My husband phones me almost every night and I guess plays me along like a complete idiot. His father informed me that my husband hasn't made any effort into finding us a place or booking the moving truck???? (we are to be moving at the end of next month!!!! What the F**K!!!!! (pardon my french!!!). I feel like completely barfing. I can't believe that after these three months of my being on my own and making the arrangements necessary to move he had me completely f'n fooled. I have been on the phone all day with my family and at the same time I am trying to keep it together because my sister went into labour today, and is having a c-section as we speak. I am sooo happy for her. And I am really trying to keep a smile on and downplay how I really feel because it is her day. So, I am dishing it out here....... sorry.

God, please help me. Give me the strength to NOT run to the liquor store....... I truly am going to barf. Sorry for this, but I had to get it out. I am just shocked and stunned and baffled, and obviously a f'n idiot to think he would change. (the drinking and acting like he is 15yrs old). Anyway, I am done. Thanks for listening. I do feel at this moment I could commit an act that would send me to prison, so I thank the heavens above he is over there............. out of my reach.

[Lou]

Monday 29th

Oh Accountable how horrid.....i can only imagine how terrible you must feel.
Please please stay strong and dont drink....dont give him the satisfaction of ruining you, youre worth much more than that...think of your child and your sister and stay strong. He is the loser here for messing about on such a wonderful woman....be strong sweet heart, you CAN get through this.

All my love and best wishes to you honey

Lou x x x x xx

[cpn1004]

Monday 29th

Yikes Accountable ! I don't what to say. It sounds like you are trying to maintain at the moment. You can focus on what you can control and that is how you react to your husband's behavior. You may not believe it now, but it is possible to recover from all of this.
Men can do stupid things, especially when sex is involved. I know because I am a man and..gee..have done stupid things.
Stay focused on your program.
Love and Peace,
Phil

[YoungAtHeart]

Monday 29th

Hey Accountable, haven't posted all day, and then to get on and see your news!! Don't in any way feel bad that you dumped it here! This is just where you should bring it.

You must have such a mix of feelings right now. I can't even begin to imagine. You have been doing so very well. I'm glad that your FIL has let you know what is going on before you made a move so that you can think through what you need to do next.

I'm certainly in no position to talk about not drinking during a crisis, because I have caved over much less than this, so I am just sending my warmest thoughts and wishes for you. I hope that you can manage to not drink, but you won't get any judgment here, no matter what you do (short of drawing and quartering the schmuck!).

Lots of love,
Kathy:l