Monday 29th

[vinophile]

Monday 29th

Oh Accountable!!!!!
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
Don't run to the liquor store as that won't solve anything and you certainly won't feel better in the morning.
We are all here to support you. Do you have family near you now?? Do you have friends nearby ? It is certainly a tough thing to deal with on your own.
What a jerk!!! And you were in the process of moving?????
You will need to keep a clear head as it seems that you will have some tough decisions to make.
I wish I could do or say more. I'm thinking of you.

Janet

[SKendall]

Monday 29th

Accountable, I am so very sorry. You must feel so angry at being deceived like this. What a schmuck. I can only imagine how devastated you must feel. At least you do have some sort of an AF foundations. Thinking positive thoughts for you and deadly barbs for your husband.:h :h

Hilary

[abby1]

Monday 29th

Accountable,

I was just checking the boards before calling it night. I am so sorry to hear what a total ASS your husband is. Two words of advice. Stay strong for yourself and your child. Second, buy some super glue and next time you see him. I would super glue his penis to his stomach!!! Take care.
Abby

[lushy]

Monday 29th

Accountable I am just so sorry. You have made such efforts to change your life for the better, and have really inspired me in the meantime. I am thankful that at least your FIL was nice enough to be honest with you. Please, please, please take good care of yourself and your daughter. I am glad you found out now so you do not have to leave your family. My thoughts are with you. I know you hurt and I am sorry.

[sammys]

Monday 29th

Sounds like you should take that trash to the curb and let the garbage man take it away, meaning his sorry #$%$#. I know that sounds easier said than done. Whatever you decide to do we will be behind you.

Be as strong as you can,

Sammys

[Andy1111]

Monday 29th

Day 15 for me!

And to Accountable, I'm so sorry, my heart goes out to you.

[happycamper68]

Monday 29th

Accountable,
I cannot believe with all the stress you have carrying about this move that this is what he has been doing.
Get legal counsel immediately, talk to Jenneh. I cannot believe he has been doing this to you. Take him to the cleaners. I am so sorry that this has happened to you when you have been doing so well. You don't deserve it and I am frankly disgusted by him. Get what you deserve after you are out of shock by all this. I am stunned and I don't even know you but what he has done is horrific and will not play well in court. Stay strong and hang on to your darling child for that strength. :h

[Accountable for Me]

Monday 29th

Thanks to you all. Really, thanks. I am sorry for dumping, and I tend to feel a bit weird dumping personal stuff. But I am so grateful to have a place where I can do just that if I need to. And I needed to. Thank you, thank you, thank you, for all your kind words. You all are such wonderful people and I love you guys to bits!

I have to admit, some of your posts made me laugh - which was very welcomed!!!! Like Hilary and your 'deadly barbs', sure I will take a few of those. Abby and your 'super glue his penis to his stomach', now I totally howled at that! Thanks for the chuckles chicklets!

I know I will be OK. I have to be OK. I made a commitment to myself to live a life without chaos, and one that is healthy. He has chosen the other, and I don't want any part of it. Plus I cannot forgive the act of adultery. I guess I must respect myself somewhere deep down inside. As far as I am concerned it is his loss. BIG TIME. He has made his bed, he will have to lie in it. Or lie in the spare room at his dad's place. Oh well........ too bad for him. He plays, he pays!

On a lighter note - a much happier note - my sister gave birth to a baby boy just a couple of hours ago! And with my being sober, I didn't even hesitate to say I would drive the two hours tomorrow to visit her in the hospital and see that precious child!! Now, that is awesome!

Love you all, and thanks again. You are all so wonderful. You give me so much strength. I cannot even express my appreciation for each and every one of you. :l:l:l:l

[Lou]

Monday 29th

Aw accountable..that is such lovely news...i believe that for every bad thing that happens to us something good happens to help cancel it out. Its lovely to hear you sounding so positive....and dont forget...were always here, just like you are for us.

All my love and best to you

Lou x x

[Popeye]

Monday 29th

AFM
I am truely sorry for what has happened to you. I can only hope and pray that everything will resolve itself quickly and that you and your child can get on to some sort of even keel. Like Kathy said, this is a place where you can come and let loose, about anything that you need to talk about. I know it's hard, but please try to know that it's not the end of the world, even though it may feel like it. Men do a lot of stupid things, especially when drink has been involved. I have done a few really stupid things myself, to my undying shame. I'm not trying to make excuses for him, believe me. I shall be praying for you, your child and your sister today, and her new son.

Look after yourself
Love

[Accountable for Me]

Monday 29th

Happy - I will be taking what I deserve that is what I will do. My father has an awesome lawyer and will be setting up an appointment to have a legally binding separation agreement in place. This way my child will not suffer. I care about me, but what really matters is Hailey's well being. I know this may seem rash and possibly be too soon, but I really need to stay mad for a bit and make sure I don't let things go by the waste side seeing I am an emotional wreck.

And Lou, you are so right. I was telling myself just that. For everything bad, there is something good. And I was saying "for every ending there is a new beginning". I may seem strong to you in my posts, but really, I think it is just denial and angry to protect me from doing something stupid like getting drunk. It is better for me to brainwash my thinking to be positive about everything, because with positive thinking comes positive results....... I think?!?! Well I hope.

[dilayne]

Monday 29th

Accountable...so sorry to hear the news. You do sound strong! And..congratulations, you are a new aunt!!! Isn't it ironic that once you've decided to become accountable that the universe begins to help you move forward..cleaning out the garbage is a big way of making room for the new..sounds like you may be better off with this kind of man...drugs are one thing, but combine it with infedelity...well, you said it well, "what the F$%K?" As for venting, well, this is the place to do it..it will fall on compassion ears which will help you heal...as for denial..well, we can take our pain in doses sometimes..but we do need to feel it and avoid the impulse to drown it..you can be positive and knowing about the future and feel pain and loss and grief...true wholeness means containing the opposites..it's a tricky juggling act for sure, but being able to hold that tension is what forges us into strong, yet humble human beings. When shit happens in my life, I've always known that there is a purging and a pruning going on that is necessary, knowing that helps me move through it, hopefully learning lessons that will serve me in the next chapter of my life. My son once wrote me in a birhtday card that I always managed to to make something good out of bad..at the time I wasn't sure he understood that, but I actually have tried to do that...it may seem bad while you are going through loss, but in hindsight, some of the worse times have become the greatest teachers and blessings in my life...(((hugs to you as you enter the next chapter)))

[dilayne]

Monday 29th

Accountable..of course, I meant to say, "better off WITHOUT this kind of man"....