AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Thanks for the quick reply Fly. I went with this guy from 8th grade until my first year in college. He is a couple of years older than me and he really was a nice guy--but he taught me everything I know about drinking and other stuff. I broke up with him because I realized it wasn't healthy to go with one guy and it was difficult being at college--plus I wanted to see other guys. I could tell at this point that his drinking was headed down a bad path--he was drinking vodka during the day, and I just decided I didn't want a future with him.
He took it pretty hard, but he eventually got married, had a kid, divorced. I know he kept drinking and had many problems because of it.

He came to my mom's funeral, but I didn't even see him.

I'm guessing he is feeling really down since his mom is now sick and he has found out he has cancer. Why me? That I do not know. But I do know I will feel guilty if I don't call him. I also assume he was drinking.

I told hubby about it right after he called. He doesn't understand why he would talk to me either.

[FlyAway]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Would your husband be upset if you spoke to him?

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

I guess Im not sure. He shouldnt be, but I never know with him!

[Kaslo]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Hi everyone, brief check in. Nice photo Shu. Congrats to Sausage on 40 days, and yes eventually it does happen that AL fails to cross your mind. Its such a relief when that sets in.

Hi to all others. Everyone have an excellent day...

LVT25 what good could possibly happen from restarting this friendship with someone from your far distant past who obviously has huge problems which are not your fault? So sorry about your other friend too. Gosh, it must be hard to have all this negative stuff in your life.

Ima pack here for the Island. See you guys later. I may be a bit sporadic in attendance. Going to go play with my GKs!!

YAY

Kaslo

[sunshine_gg]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Hello guys 'n dolls.. quick check in!

LVT... I'm not sure what good would come from picking up contact with the long ago b/f. Perhaps you could send him a text or whatever, expressing sympathy for his/his mum's illness and wish him well? And let him know that there's too much going on in your own life right now to do more? That way you would show some support but not get involved? Really dunno.

And, boy... I hope those friends of yours will pull through and get the help they need. :l

On a brighter note.. look what I've planted today:


That's the planter I bought last week. Turns out, it didn't take as long to find something to put in it as I thought:H

[FlyAway]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

That is beautiful Sunni!

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Hido ho ABerooooos!

wow, pretty flowers all over the place, sweet!

DizzyBee a big welcome to you and congrats on your new AF time.

I'm on a culinary role lately. just invented a really yummy lunch:

in a wide bowl there is a center mound of garlic mashed sweet potatoes, surrounded by a puree of roasted onions and scattered with chunks of peppered beef. it was sooooo freaking good! I should post this one in the recipe section perhaps.

Flyaway, for dietary inspiration check out these free podcasts:

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safe travels Kaslo!

it's a beautiful day to be un-hungover. going outside for some VitD

be well

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Afternoon Abbers,

Wow, lots going on here!
Just going to say HELLO to everyone & congrats to Sausage on 40 AF days.

LVT, at this point in my life I realize that there's really not much you can do for some people. I know their situations are sad & even hopeless ~ what could you really do to make a difference? I think we need to remember to be self-protective at this point, don't jump into other people's troubles. That my two cents.

Maxie & I had a nice visit with puppy Matilda, her brother Maxwell & Moma Snoopy
Everyone got along real well & Maxie is extremely tolerant of typical puppy behavior. I will be going back next Monday to pick her up & bring her home. Ended up leaving my phone in the car so I didn't get pics - duh.

Sunni, nice flowers

OK, must go dig out th epuppy crate & misc. puppy stuff!

Hello & welcome to Dizzy
We are serious abstainers here, glad you are doing so well!

Kaslo, enjoy the GK!

[shueaddict]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Det, you cooking Demon, I am trying eating quite light in the evenings, now all I can think off is your garlic mashed sweet spuds. Just like you, I prefer our homecooking to restaurant fare, but during the week I don't have so much time to experiment.

I went to the gym tonight, after work - the Boob camp contingent was nowhere in sight - just a bunch of depressed looking, semi-fit corporate types (myself included) .

Sunny, greenfingers, love that planter. Lav, way to go with the puppy, cannot wait for the stories.

Fly, now that you have some time, try a few of Det's recipes ... And don't go easy on the garlic.

LVT - not many men I know would be perfectly ok with their partner comforting an ex love. Even with your best intentions at heart, chnaces are your hubby would still harbor some dark thoughts.

Kaslo - have a wonderful trip, pics pls

Good night everyone, letting go of that sleep fairy now

[DizzyBee]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Hi again

Wow, I did subscribe to this thread but something went wrong as I didnt get any emails and I didnt expect so many replies. Thank you for all the warm welcomes, that is very kind of you. I'm going to have to do a better job of keeping up tomorrow and getting to know everyone a bit better.

I'm a 32 South African female who is in a relationship with an Irishman who is living in London at the moment, which is why I'm planning to move. I'm a freelance writer so I can work from anywhere. I have lived in London before but am very scared and nervous at the moment about the big move as it feels like my life has just taken shape again.

I spent 10 years struggling with depression and 5 with a serious drinking problem. My pdoc diagnosed me with soft spectrum bipolar although I never felt 'high' since I started taking Topamax (but in a good way, not a super manic way) For me Topamax is a godsend it took away my cravings AND was the first AD/mood stabiliser to work for me. I went from a very depressed sick person to a happy 'normal' person in the space of two weeks.

Topamax took almost all my cravings away so I added antabuse to help me abstain for a month or more. I have not set a specific date but I don't find it difficult at the moment - on a 1-10 discomfort level abstaining is now a 2 where previously it was a 9 or 10. I even went out to dinner with 9 other people tonight, 5 of which I didnt know, which usually wouldve had me drink at least 2 glasses of wine BEFOREHAND and I only had a diet coke AND had fun and found that I enjoyed the conversation and sushi so much more than I usually wouldve than when I wouldve been focusing on the wine. I will only use this thread while I am abstaining and I plan to keep it up for as long as possible - for now its just one day at a time.

Sorry I didn't chime in earlier, I'll catch you again tomorow

Dizzy

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

DizzyBee, what wonderful progress you've made! so nice to find some relief eh?

drinking/depression was definitely a maddening cyclic hell I recall very well. don't miss that crap one bit!

[MumOfTwo]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Hello and morning everyone

a quick stop in before rousing the troops to get up for their second last day of school for this term. Do all mums here have the same issue as me when getting the kids up for school. I say the same things every day and the response never changes lol. I recon I should just record myself and play it everyday (via a loud speaker I should add). 'Wake up..get up..get dressed..have you had breakfast?..is your school bag packed..have you brushed your teeth..no..go brush your teeth..are the horses in the paddocks..hurry up we are late..you have 5 mins..hurry up..' :H

Sunny - email sent last nite (i have not checked mine this morning) and sorry no pics, show was indoors and pics did not come out good. However I think there may be a whole one that I can send you that someone else took (not a very good pic, but you will get the jist). Hope you has a fab lesson and your barn is to die for. Can you come over and build one for me pleeeeesssseee. I promise you lots of sunshine and NO snow LOL

LVT - Hugs to you, hope your friend pulls though. Re the b/f issue, I would just let it be, maybe send a supportive text, but not one that invites a phone call repsonse (just my 2 cents)

Shue - Your postitivity really rubs off, glad you are in a good space

Lav - great news about the puppie visit..how exciting

Det - for the second day in a row..what time is lunch/dinner...:H

Kas - have a great trip, be safe

Fly - we have 2 horses, one in work and the other is a young 2yr old. Hope the hyno CD's help. I have never tried them. There seem to be people on chat at around 1pm/2pm my time, which is 1/am12am new york time and I have no idea what time it is anywhere else lol

TDN - sending you 'great interview' vides. hope it all goes well

Sugar, Almost, Dizzy and anyone I have missed..Hi.

Blondie - hope you are felling a bit better today

Have a abb fabber day..xx

[ThreeDogNight]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Popping back in to say that my interview went really well IMO! Small office--just a husband and wife, and the wife was the one to interview me. i liked her immediately and really enjoyed the interview. She had me take a typing test thst she found online, and told me to do a few of them and take the best score She told me she scored in the average rang, and i did, too. I am not too slow or inaccurate, but I have alwayd typed with two fingers, so was glad that I didn't score in the below average range!
She has two more people to interview, but hope to have the decision by the end of the week. two people had already called to recommend me--insurance agent I worked for previously, and another guy we know who has a small agency. Really nice! And my flower shop friend was heading to the phone when I stopped by to tell her about the interview. No questions about misdemeanors, etc. and she didn't mention a background check. i'm sure they'll do one, but that is, I think, for things like stealing. Anyway, I am keeping my fingers crossed!
LVT--ugh!! What terrible stories of how horrible addiction is! I hope your poor friend comes out of the coma and gets help. So sad. I think I'd let the old boyfriend thing go, too. i can see that you are kind and don't want to igneore the guy if he needs help, but I am sure that he can get professional help if he needs it. Just my two cents!
Beautiful flowers, Sunni!!!
TDN

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Good job on the interview TDN
Hope it works out for you.

Mum, the MWO Hypno CDs really did the trick for me. Changed my thinking entirely

[Turnagain]

AF Daily - Tuesday April 3

Just darting in and out to see that all is well in the cyber world....flowers, puppies, good advice, encouragement, friendship, boob camp, garlic.....CHECK! Ya'll make me happy!!!! And wowee....we got us a new 'un - just perfect for an alleged spring day. Welcome, Dizzy. I hope you settle in and hang with us. AND....I hope you find AF joy in your life - there's no way I'd go back to that dark, small, depressing and soul-deadening place. Trade that for a temporary buzz? No effing way! And no uffing way either.

Chatterers....I may or may not be able to connect tonight. We're doing the ultimate hippie/vegan B-day celebration for my daughter tonight. I'll be on chat if they move the After-party somewhere else!

xxxxx