Just Joy ~ June Week 3

[Lavande]

Time to get a new week started

Up bright & early with Ms Matilda & a big pot of coffee :H
Beautiful weather so I'm glad I'm not missing it actually!

My plan is to get as much done today before grandsons & DIL arrive for dinner. I have been in a slight funk since the beginning of the month & letting some stuff slide. I think there is a residual bit of resentment that takes over from time to time. I forget to be grateful for all I have here when I'm feeling resentful for being dumped with all the work around here

Time to refocus & enjoy my day. I hope everyone has a great day too!!!!
Lav

[dill]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Hi Joyful Ones!
Lav, thank you for starting week three! Time is surely flying.

I am sorry to hear about your brother's health. I will keep him in my prayers. As for your mood, do whatever to snap yourself out of it! Do something special for yourself. I read your post about letting things slide and I know what it's like. Then the more things slide the worse I feel about things! In my case, I've been forced by the limitations of my back to let things slide and it is vexing. I've been trying to take care of myself and do small things I enjoy to counteract it.

It's Saturday! Happy Hangover-Free morning! Let's enjoy our day and as Lav reminded me, let's be grateful.

[ladybirdheart]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Good morning dear Lav and Dill and all to come. On my way out the door for breakfast and supply shopping after getting up before 5:00 to take care of the garden. I need to start doing this routinely as trying to manage so many things in the evening nearly resulted in me reaching for a drink as my ?fuel? both yesterday and the day before. Yesterday I had planned to rest but was immediately pulled instead by things needing to get done so today they will be done pronto, and the late afternoon and evening will hopefully be just dinner and books or movies or games or music, that sort of thing. I understand the stress that comes from having things slide away from you so I shall be in your corners as you find ways to catch things up, I wish I could be there to help you. Later. Love, Ladybird.

[rustop59]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Hi everyone

Just a quick check in from me. Two runs to the airport this morning so a quite house for the rest of the week-end.

Off to meet a friend of mine and we are going for a walk with the doggies.

Lav - sorry to hear about your brother. Give yourself a pat on the back, look how you have turned yourself around the past few years. Giving up drinking, exercise and diet. You my lady are going in the right direction.

LBH/Dill - know what you mean about things getting on top of you, I never seem to fully catch up.

Cyn - welcome back, good to hear from you again and good luck with the move.

Everyone else big hello and have a great week-end.

Rustop

[sdlovespackers]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Hi All!

Week 3 ALREADY?!?! Geesh!!! Pretty sure the school year doesn't go this fast--January doesn't for sure!!:H

Lav-sorry to hear about your brother...but like the others have said, you have taken such good care of yourself and lead such a healthy lifestyle--I know I for one would be better off if I followed "Lav's Rules of Healthy Living"!!

Dill/Rustop--I don't feel like I can ever catch up with all that need to be done around here...I get overwhelmed sometimes just thinking about it! What makes it worse is when my neighbor comes into my yard and starts pulling weeds or things like that because he gets so annoyed because I haven't gotten to it in a timely manner! Perhaps he's just trying to be nice but it's embarrassing to me, I guess! Maybe I should get off the computer and go get something done huh?!?! LOL!!

LBH--you mentioned reaching for a drink as your fuel yesterday...I can't even tell you how strong my desire, I guess you could call it, to drink has been in the last few days. One, my son has been sooooooo naughty...beyond naughty...pushing everyone of my buttons in fact...I was so glad to be taking him to his dads this weekend (although we had a good talk in the car and hopefully he comes back with a better attitude or there won't be much "fun stuff" left in this house for him)....but second, last night was the first night, "my friend" and I had the chance to actually be alone ....for the entire night....with no curfew...or no kids....I think you know what i mean....:H....anyway...the whole time driving back from dropping my son off I was thinking about how I was going to handle last night without drinking...I kept playing out scenarios in my head...and honestly I THINK what what kept me from getting something (and I wish I could say it was something more than this but I'm not sure if it was...which scares me...) was knowing that if I drank yesterday I would have missed my year goal by only 3 days and there was no way I would have been able to come back on here and tell you all that!! I want to so badly to say what I hear Lav or Chill or Pap3...or many others say..that there is nothing more important than being AF and nothing will take that away from them....that bothered me all night, it still bothers me....so what happens after Monday?? That terrifies me!!! I know myself only too well...and I'm very scared!:upset:

Set a new goal, I suppose.
Reread the book the changed my life last year at this time.
Revisit the toolbox.
Reread my posts over the last year??
Stick close to you all!!! Always!!:l
SD

[Rusty]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

SD-:l

Awwww....chill out....breathe....What book saved your life last year? Please share! I want to know. To answer your question...Yes, yes, yes, your son is acting out because he doesn't want to share mom, number 1, number 2, he is feeling particularly insecure because he might feel like he has to compete for attention with your friend's kids. You are so so so fabulous....a great, strong person....and like you....I drank out of fear of things I thought WOULD happen, and they NEVER did. I know how anxious you are about Monday, and as a person who suffers from ongoing anxiety.....unfortunately, I am like my father....I anticipate the WORST thing happening. I guess the reason I do it is....if I think positively about something happening, and something goes awry, I will be horribly disappointed. I learn, and I know you do as well, from our savvy brains here....not limited to, but included....our Ms. Lav, Star, Chill, Dill, Rustop, Ladybird, Sooty, Cyn, Fly (please come back) I lean on their wisdom. They do not 'play" out a situation before that happens. And that is wise. My sister always tells me, "Don't borrow trouble," meaning....don't anticipate the worst of a situation that may never happen. : She's right. I have to work at that every day. You are a strong, fabulous, smart, intuitive force here, SD, and you will be great. If you are not AF, whatever GREAT thing you want to happen, will never happen. Sending you love and a PM, too.

:lRusty

[Jolie]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

SD - hang in there - a year is such a huge accomplishment and one that many of us here can only hope for. The decision will be yours and yours alone but I think all you need to do is go back to the dark days and remember that feeling you had waking up every morning after drinking the night before and see how that may affect your state of mind. Sending you big :l and good luck with your son - raising children is never easy but in the end I'll bet you be rewarded more than you can ever imagine.

Went to the inner harbor today to celebrate the big 50! Saw the tall ships and the blue angels - amazing! Hubby and I finished the night with dinner out and now I'm home and dead dog tired! Probalby walked about 5 miles today - no lie.

Turning in and will check in tomorrow to address everyone presonally.

Have a great evening everyone!

[sdlovespackers]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

:l:lThank you Rusty!! I know my anxiety issues play a huge part in this whole thing as well! I just keep telling myself to remember what is happening right now is only possible because i am AF...if I wasn't I wouldn't allow anyone into my world....this is so much better!!! Your sister is very smart...I shouldn't try to borrow trouble either, God knows I've borrowed enough!! :H As far as my son goes...I'm sure this is something that is just going to take sometime and hopefully he and I can work through it together. I'm thinking I may talk with his dad and hopefully he will be supportive and help him as well.

Jolie--I have thought long and hard about those days/mornings today...and they are NOT something I will ever be willing to go back to...EVER! My whole way of thinking was soooo messed up---foggy, unclear, not even rational really!! UGH!! YUCK!
:bday3: Happy 50th Birthday!!!! I'm glad you enjoyed your special day!!!! It sounded wonderful!!!

Ok I'm off to bed...had a another wonderful evening with....I'm going to just call him my boyfriend at this point, if that doesn't make me sound 12 :H....and his kids!! We went to Madagascar 3--3D and then out for ice cream..then they came over for awhile to play the Xbox and wii...it was so much fun!!! :h
SD

[Lavande]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Good morning June friends,

:bday7: HAPPY 50TH BIRTHDAY JOLIE!!!!Glad you had a nice day

SD, nice that your new relationship is working out so well!
I bet your son will calm down when he notices how happy you are

Greetings to everyone checking in today. Feeling kinda draggy this morning so I hope this pot of coffee kicks in soon. I'll be turning 60 (Yikes) in another 18 months. Perhaps I'm feeling my age

Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Sunday. Happy Father's Day to thise celebrating!
Lav

[ladybirdheart]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Good AF Morning! Happy Birthday Jolie! Happy Boyfriend SD! Getting “older” can be a bit disconcerting, Lav. I have a little fossil, however, that is over three hundred million years old. Good for perspective. Hello to all who stop by. Off to garden in the dark. Don’t try THAT with a hangover. Love, Ladybird.

[Stargazerlily]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Good morning to all...

I thought I heard rain last night and I DID! We need it so badly, let it continue.

Happy 50th Jolie...sounds like a wonderful day!

SD, wow, your craving sounded over the top. You did all the right things, waited it out, a cost benefit analysis, asked for support from this thread. That is all anyone can do. For some reason the insanity of the bad times disappears from our memories and all we can think about is the buzz. But you did it!!! It is so lovely to hear about your relationship and the good times you are having, AF. I often said that if I divorced my husband and wanted to date, after they met MY son, I would never get a second date. He used to be wild and change, any kind of change, just made it more intense. Good idea to talk to your ex and get him involved...talking about things usually helps, right? You are making such good choices and I know if you were actively drinking, things would be different.

Lav, LBH, Dill, Rustop, I too feel that I never get everything done. There is always so much to do, so I really like working only four days. This week, with helping my son move, my Friday was off routine, and I am still not back on track. I am using this Sunday morning to accomplish a list of things. The move went well, nice place, sweet roomate (she has no brothers, so she is in for surprises) and about a half hour away from us, just in case. He is coming over today for dinner with his father and grandfather for Father's Day. It will be a time to take pictures and I will get alot of grumbling as the men in my family hate getting their pictures taken. Too bad. I am so grateful to have a parent alive, around and to be able to celebrate the men in my family. Lav, you are so lucky to have your kids relatively close.

Today, I am focusing on all the blessings in my life, living healthy (ok, hot dogs and hamburgers for a cookout, but nobody's perfect) and AF. My friends, it is good to talk to you today. Have a nice one.

[rustop59]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Hi everyone

Late check in from me. First of all Happy 50th Jolie and welcome the 29 club

SD - your date sounds wonderful. I am sure your son will adjust, none of us like change and it takes time to get used to new things.

Star - glad you got some rain. We didnt for a change.

Had a lovely Fathers Day. Both girls away so after looking after dogs and horse, myself and hubby went on a 3 hour hike. It is a beautiful part of the country and the rain stayed away. We stopped off at a pub on the way back and had a lovely pub grub meal without the alcohol. Still have to do a run to the airport but really enjoyed my day.

Have a great week to come everyone.

Rustop

[Rusty]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

:bday7::bday3:HAPPY 50th BIRTHDAY, JOLIE!!
Thank you for all your support and interest on this thread. I'm so glad you had a nice day!

SD-Looking forward to celebrating your 1 year anniversary with you tomorrow!

I am traveling again.....now in Eau Claire, WI. I spent a wonderful afternoon with my good friends and her two boys. They came to visit and we spent about 3 hours in the pool....I'm waterlogged.

Star-the move must be a huge weight of your shoulders. Glad you have nice men in your life.

Hi, Lav....any drama today from YB since it's Father's day?

To all, have a wonderful AF Sunday night.

[Lavande]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Greetings Star, Rustop & Rusty!

No drama here today, just little boys & their tired mother here for dinner

YB flew out west on Thursday & doesn't return until Tuesday (I think) for a work conference.My son is just now getting home after a nearly 48 hr shift - geez! YB was never interested in Father's Day celebrations & I think my son is the same. Definitely a case of the apple falling not too far from the tree.

Glad everyone else enjoyed the day
Have a good night!

[papmom3]

Just Joy ~ June Week 3

Hey Junebugs!! Sorry for being MIA lately. I have been reading tho-just haven't posted.

Happy birthday Jolie!!

Star-glad the move for your son went well!

SD-you better not weak your anni you hear?? I am not above hunting you down and giving you what for! Seriously, can't wait to celebrate tomorrow with you!!

Rusty and Lav- glad you guys had such a nice day today!!

LBH-keep fighting the good fight. Being pickled just isn't worth it but being AF 24/7 is!!


Went to the agility trial today. Meant to get up at 4 and leave by 5. Got up at 4:40 and left at 6. Oh well. It was a jammed packed day and what with volunteering and a small turnout, there wasn't much time to walk the pups and spend time hanging out with them. In fact I had to run my first run barefoot because I didn't have time to put my sneaks on!! It was kind of neat actually. We probably had our worst showing in 3 years. Only Q'd in 2 out of 4 runs(the barefoot run wasn't one of them :H) and my rookie mistakes were to blame. Oh, and I don't consider myself a rookie anymore!! No worries tho, the runs we Q'd in were brilliant on DD's part! The day turned out hot with no shade after a very cool cloudy start. I got a little heat sick again, couldn't eat anything all day and my achilles tendon problem took a huge turn for the worse. I could barely drive home. Guess I really need to get going on the weight and non exercise issue. Can't keep going like this.
Meant some really nice people who were a big help to me setting up. Hope to see them again in August.

Heading off to bed in a few. Hoping I can walk tomorrow morning!!