Just Joy - June Week 4

[rustop59]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good morning everyone

Hard to believe it is nearly July. Any ideas for July names? Think we had something with jewel in it last year or how about jocular Lots of fun on this thread at times.

Star - glad you enjoyed your sons visit. It is much easier to spend fun time with them when they are not under your feet all the time. I found distance really worked with my daughter last year. When she did come home I really enjoyed her company.

Papmom - sorry about the job but glad the doggie was found.

Chill - you will have to fill us in more on these dates. Some of us oldies need to live vicariously through you younger folk.

Dill - thanks for the reminder about the meditation. When things get busy I let it go out the window.

Talking about busy, the next 2 months are going to be hectic. My daughter starts the show circuit with the pony this week-end and the other one is off debating. She is going to Serbia in August with the university to the European finals. I am also expecting two lots of visitors. If I'm not around think of me driving into the sunset with my little horse box behind.

Big hello to Rusty, LBH, Cyn, Jolie, Sunni, Janice and anyone else I missed and happy hump day.

Rustop

[Chillgirl]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Hi Everyone

An unusally ill Chillgirl today, I have a terrible bladder infection and feel just awful. I am doing all the usual things like drinking gallons of water and a hot bath has just given me some relief. Nurse Lav I would appreciate your thoughts, having googled about 100 pages, the conflicting reports are that you cant cure it without antibiotics and others say you can by flushing it out. My problem is that I never registered with a Doctor since I moved and therefore there is no way i would get to see one any time soon so I cant get antibiotics right now and am always reluntant to take them anyway if there is another option. Im praying I can deal with this myself and have been taking sodium citrate and stopped caffeine. :upset:

Star - I think having drank all my adult life it will still be sometime before I really know what to do with myself but its a journey and I appreciate the contrast of experience its giving me.

Rustop - The dating is full of highs and lows, Im always amazed how at 47 I can still feel the same as I did at 16. Butterflies when we meet, big smiles when he calls and huge disapointments when he doesnt. I hope there are more instalments to follow.....

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good morning rustop & everyone!

I can't remember what I had for dinner yesterday let alone the name of last July's thread :H
I'll happily go along with anything you guys pick
Good luck with all your upcoming activities rustop!

It's hump day so I'm off to Curves & to deliver eggs then meeting a friend for lunch. No kids today & that's a good thing ~ I need a break
Wishing everyone a wonderful AF day!

Lav

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Cross post chill!!

Oy, bladder infections seem to be pretty common in women of a certain age. It seems our urethras shorten a bit as we move closer to menopause thereby allowing bacteria easier entry. Sorry if that's TMI for anyone lurking here.
Antibiotics will help clear an infection faster Chill. Drinking cranberry juice & lots of water helps. We have an OTC here called Cystex that's supposed to help. I've had a few bladder infections in the past & I know how lousy they make you feel. Feels better soon :l

[Stargazerlily]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good morning to all...

Chill, oh no, I hate bladder infections. As Lav said in the US there is now an over the counter series of meds that take the pain away, and sometimes they work. It just depends. No med points in England? We have places that you can go to, insurance or not, just pay. Hope you feel better.

Thanks all for the feedback to my post. It is so odd, within one day, the feelings roller coaster I am on. However, I wonder if many people are like this, let it go, find something else to do, let it pass, or something.

I woke up early again and was exploring the Holistic health site mostly written in 2006-2008. Lots of good information on nutrition, meditation, etc. I love this site, and find out all types of things.

Dill, I too was so lucky as a kid to live close to nature and just spent days in the woods...wading in springs we found, blowing milkpod seeds into the wind, loving the smells....I feel that so many kids/teens today do not have that anymore and spend alltheir time in front of screens. Hope you enjoyed your day outside. I started watering at 6:00 a.m., giving me lots of time outside, I love it. Are you having a drought too? I know we live in the same overall area. 90s for at least the next four days, yikes.

LBH, I was thinking that being drinkers or not, we are all on the journey of life, trying to find ourselves and be content. Using any type of substance just prevents us from figuring out how to live. Who said, most men lead lives of quiet desperation. I believe that quote is from the 1800s, so our human condition, who are we, why are we here, is a question most if not all people ask. We are lucky to have this forum, with all kinds of input. Hope you have a great day.

To all, have a great day.

[dill]

Just Joy - June Week 4

“As we sail thru life, don't avoid rough waters, sail on because calm waters won't make a skillful sailor”

Rustop you sound like you will be very busy these next few weeks. Remember to take time for yourself when you need it. As for thread names, I was thinking of "July Will Fly". Any other ideas out there?

Chill, I'm sorry you are under the weather. Follow Lav's advice and get better as fast as possible!

Lav, I hope you have enjoyed your lunch and your day of peace without the kiddos. They are great fun, but also can be wearing at the same time. I am surprised you like typing on the Ipad because I haven't been able to become comfortable with it. Good for you. I know what you mean about not wanting another piece of hardware to carry along. BTW, thanks for the heads up about the Chopra meditations.

Star, yes we are having a drought. It's not been officially called that, but we are on the verge. Tomorrow it is supposed to be 100 degrees here! Will you be feeling that along with me?

LBH, Mr. D is making preparations to have discus in his aquarium. He is working on a water system to constantly pump softer water (rainwater collected off the barn roof) into the tank as needed. Our water where we live is very hard and I guess can't be tolerated by discus. I cannot believe the effort he has put into this hobby. He has spent weeks designing his system and setting this whole thing up. I'm not sure I understand it, really.

I feel like the activities of daily living are about all I can handle right now. I've been turning my attention to de-cluttering. Which reminds me, I wonder where Cyn is? Today's "de-cluttering" project was outdoors. I trimmed back the spirea and Mr. D hauled off two truck loads of branches for me. It felt good as they were long overdue. Indoors I went through some old files and discarded outdated materials. It feels good to be productive and I'm glad my back is improved to the point that I can take some of these things on!

Have a great AF day June bugs.

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Thanks Dill, I did enjoy lunch with my old friend & coworker
Gratefully these days we just enjoy the time out, share grandkid stories, etc. No more moaning about work or how it beat us up so badly :H

The midwest heatwave arrives here tomorrow afternoon ~ swell
There is so much I'd like to do outdoors but honestly I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with it all. This place is too big to take care of myself & I don't function well in the heat. I'm trying real hard to not get pissed off about all this but.....
I'm also irritated thinking about my 39th wedding anniversary on Saturday - this just isn't right

OK, back to doing something useful

[ladybirdheart]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good Early Evening. Rustop you do sound busy but with meaningful family things; as with Lav, you take fine care of your ducks. I am glad you are able to sort through some things inside and out, Dill, I find it satisfying also and visible progress can be really welcome when there are often so many intangibles from day to day. I like activities of daily living very much. Mr. Dill?s Fish Project sounds daunting to me but as with a lot of exotic pet care, people get the science down and it works beautifully. I really like your quote by the way, I guess we all have our seas to learn in. Speaking of trials, so sorry you are sick, Chill. While I somehow have had the good fortune to go through a longish life without ever having a bladder infection, I understand they can be super uncomfortable; as you are very healthy in general, I trust you will soon have your cure. Enjoy your NOW, Star, I am glad you are in mine, and enjoy your garden, drought, heat, and all, plants want to live and I like hanging out with them. Off now to fix a snack and fiddle around after being hunched over all afternoon hand hemming curtains for the many windows in the little room where our last old parrot sleeps and hangs out on top of his cage when not in a room with us. He has a fast growing untreatable cataract which is stressing him a bit and I think the visual peace will help him adjust. Love to all who stop by, enjoy the simple miracle of an AF evening, Ladybird.

[Rusty]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good Evening June Bugs,

It's been a wonderful AF day....I worked locally with a client and now I have the next 2 weeks at home. I am so thrilled.

Lav, I feel so badly for you.....all your emotions must be running wild about your upcoming anniversary....anger, sadness, confusion, frustration, broken dreams.....:upset:keeping you close in my thoughts.

Star-I forgot to mention how thrilled I am that you had a nice visit with your son. You sound so at peace.

Rustop-I never tire of hearing of your family activities. I wish I could see your daiughter competing in equestrian events. Be careful pulling the "horse box."

Chill-I hope the pain of your bladder infection is subsiding. Besides the cranberry juice, try this concoction, which I drink when I get urinary tract infections.....mix organic cranberry juice with sparkling water and the squeeze of a lemon wedge. It will purify your kidneys and quench your thirst....it's delicious. I love hearing about your date nights. Keep the info. coming. The MWO Daily Mail has been pretty dull lately.

Dill-I love that quote. Another printable jewel for my MWO files. Did you know you have your own subfolder in my MWO folder? I thought of you today. My client showed me his new tiger oscars, which he keeps in an aquarium in his office. Wow, they look mean and hungry...but they are beautiful.

LBH-I give you credit for sewing curtains in your parrot's room. I admire anyone who can sew and enjoys it. I couldn't sew my way out of a paper bag. I've proven it several times. You were talking about certain ethnic foods that could be triggers for your drinking. I have the same problem with a few dishes and snacks. This time off will be a real AF test for me. It's the first time in my AF journey that I've had any extended time off in the summer....my favorite time of the year. I will keep you all close to me.

A shoutout to Papmom-we miss you!!! I hope you're ok. A warm hello to Sooty, Shelley, Cyn, SD, Jolie, Mr. G, Flyaway, Janice, and anyone I may have missed. Have a lovely AF night.

[Chillgirl]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good Morning guys

Dill - A drought! We have just had an almighty rain strom here, I have never seen anything quite like it, it was pitch black as night at 10am and the roads were deadly quiet due to flooding, it was positively eerie. Happy de-cluttering, its a fav pastime of mine.

LBH - Like Rusty I dont have a practical sew bone in my body, a button is about my limit! I like your description of the simple miracle of an AF evening. My friends have been drinking wine regularly and I feel absolutely nothing when I see their wine glasses on the table. I do smile in the morning though when I see there is still some left in the bottle in the fridge, that would never have happened on my shift!

Star - "Using any type of substance prevents us figuring out how it live" is exactly right. I guess thats why trying to figure it out later in life is more difficult but boy at least we got to that stage, some never do and that is sad.

Lav - Im sorry about the sadness of your upcoming anniversary. Some things as just too painful to think about, I hope you make plans to be busy on Saturday. :l I've signed up for the Chopra meditation, cant resist Davidji's voice! I listen to his radio show every week on Hayhouse.

Thanks Lav and Rusty for the tips on bladder infections, Lav I couldnt get Cystex here but I think the sachets of sodium citrate may be similar. I was still in severe pain last night but have woken up today feeling SO much better. I got great cranberry concentrate in the health shop and am continuing to drink a ton of water. I took an anti inflamatory and am hoping that perhaps it was an inflamation and not a fully blown infection. There is nothing like illness to make us appreciate feeling good and today I am so grateful for so much.

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good morning friends!

I'm sitting at mycson's house, waiting for the kids to get up. No wonder it's so peaceful at the moment :H

Hi to Rusty, Chill, LBH, Dill & everyone!
Where is my near neighbor Jolie this week?

I will survive this non-anniversary Rusty, thanks. There really is no other choice, is there?
I kinda wish I wasn't so affected by it.....maybe someday I will forget it all. Hope you have a relaxing time off, do something fun

Chill, good to hear you are recovering. UTI's are not fun.
I hope the new 21 day mefitation challenge brings me out of my funk - it usually does

Wishing everyone a terrific AF Thursday.
With heatwave #2 arriving today this granny will be finding some indoor activities for the kids!!!!

Lav

[Rusty]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good Afternoon Dear Friends,

I so love coming here, surrounded by like-minded, thoughtful people. Never in a million years would I think that an online forum could provide so much companionship.:h

Dill-I am so glad your back is better so you can enjoy your decluttering. That is one of the things on my to-do list during my vacation. I am cleaning out closets....and as part of my AL purification journey-getting rid of clothes, items, anything that reminds me of my drinking life. I have had a wonderful morning. I went for a run along the lake path and then went to the beach for a relaxing swim. The sand felt so good between my toes and the water was crystal clear. Now I'm in the solitude of my village library, as I am doing some work-related assignments in the comfort of AC, as it's nearly 100 outside.

Chill-I hope you are continuing to feel better. Being ill just makes us feel more alive and grateful as we start to recover, doesn't it? I hope the UTI does not interfere with your dating time. Wearing loose-fitting pants/shorts does really help expedite the healing process as well. Maybe you already knew that, though.

LBH-I loved your words: enjoy the simple miracle of an AF evening. Wow, how powerful. Yes, I did enjoy my AF evening last night and am enjoying the serenity of an AF day, free of longing for AL, free of that "whoo whoo I'm on vacation, I think I'll go out to lunch and order a glass of wine with my salad" mentality.

Chill, just like you said you could see a half-finished bottle of wine and not want it, there were two women holding LARGE glasses of wine and a beer (blech!) while wading in the water this morning at 10:30. I found myself rather repulsed. It Is such a relief to know that I can have a fabulous summer vacation without booze.

Lav-I don't know how you couldn't let your upcoming anniversary affect you. Maybe if you and your daughter and Lily planned a fun out-of-the-ordinary outing, it would give you something to look forward to.:l Stay cool today and I hope you're not so worn out that your FF son has to give you CPR.:H

Papmom, Jolie, SD....come out, come out.

Ok, I must get back to work. I'll be back later.

[Jolie]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Hi guys,

Sorry for being MIA from MWO:H I'm always popping in to read but haven't had a chance to post this week. Work's getting in the way of free time. Did go to a picnic for the women of our church - beautiful setting, wonderful food and I really enjoy being around all these women! Doctor called and requested that I come in to her office to discuss the results of my bone density test. Apparently the numbers weren't good in my lower back and right hip - I am in "osteopenia" (Lav - I'm sure you know what I'm talking about). Basically the place just prior to having osteoporisis. She did say it can get better - taking calcium and some supplement called strontium (bone maker) - she said I need to walk at least 1/2 hour a day (briskly ) and lift light weights. That's had me kind of down this week but I'm doing what she's telling me to do so hopefully it will get better.

Chill - bladder infections are the worst - they really make you feel like crap - hope yours gets better soon.

Lav - I am detesting this heat - going to get worse over the next couple of days :upset: Just wondering and you can tell me to mind my own business but have you ever thought of completely severing the ties with YB? Wouldn't he have to buy out your half of the house and at least then maybe you could make a decision to maybe sell and find someplace smaller or at best, with less upkeep. Not sure where your chickens would go though and I know you need room for the dogs. Hope that didn't upset you but it makes me mad to think of what you are feeling because of his strangeness! Please go do something fun on Saturday - you are such a good person and deserve to be completely happy without having to worry about him.

Rusty - totally agree with you - I love my friends here - there are no others like you guys - that's for sure.

LBH, Dill (love the great quotes), Star - hope you are all keeping cool/dry and having a great evening.

Okay - off to walk the dogs (briskly I might add)!

Good night all!

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Well, I survived my DIL's last day of classes :H
It's been a rather intense 5 week summer session for all of us :H

Rusty & Jolie, I'll survive this anniversary too, just like the last few. I guess I just have to do a little bitching ahead of time.....to gear myself up
I honestly don't know how you go about severing ties with someone that you've been attached to for 43 years. Death would at least be understandable...if you know what I mean.
I still have to deal with him because of the family. This is all just a giant pain in the ass.

Jolie, I hope you get good results with your supplements & exercise. None of that ever did a thing for me. I started the calcium at age 30 because my Mom had osteoporosis, I've never had a sit down job & I lifted more weight at work all those year than you could ever imagine. I think the genetic component is stronger than anyone realizes, it's not just a lifestyle issue. I just read (somewhere) this week that eating too much protein can pull calcium out of your bones - geez!

Rusty - sand between your toes???
Didn't think you were that close to the ocean :H
Glad you are enjoying your AF time

I need to wind down now so I can get some sleep. Have a great night all!

[sdlovespackers]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Hi!

I, too apologize for being MIA from here for awhile...I can't believe how fast the days seem to be slipping by. I try to get on here in the mornings to read but it never fails that as soon as I do, I'm pulled in a million directions and then my day is off and going. I've caught up with all everyone's posts so I know whats been happening with everyone here...although it seems that this place has been a bit quieter than normal! I suppose everyone is busy with summer schedules!!

Lav--I won't be around this weekend--we (J, his 2 boys, my son and I) are going to the cabin to celebrate an early 4th of July with my sister and her boys, from CO....but I just wanted to tell you I hope you do something special for yourself on Saturday--your frustration and hurt is understandable but there is no reason you shouldn't celebrate the good things that can out of being with YB and that is your wonderful family!! You've been a devoted wife, and an amazing mother and outstanding grandmother!!! They are ALL very lucky to have you in their lives!!! So are we!!!:l

Chill--I hope you are feeling better!! I used to get those stupid things when I was younger...I was always told to drink cranberry juice too!! They are no fun at all!! Anxious to hear more details on how the dating is going....

Jolie--good to see you!! I'm going to google what you said your doctor said you had....I've never heard of it....does it mean you could easily break a bone or something too?? Calcium is one of the things I was told I should be taking and I haven't been...still getting my B12 shots every month though!!

Rusty--Now that you are on vacation, do you have anything exciting planned?? Was summertime a "trigger time" for you....or was it the vacation part you were talking about?? Being at the cabin and the 4th of July is a huge trigger for me, to be honest!! I'm not really worried about this weekend, although both my sisters and my dad are going to be there and as we all know, all three will be drinking...probably quite a bit. I asked J if he was going to drink...I still have never seen him drink....he stopped by after work on his way home today (after he had been at a work thing where he had 2 beers...I didn't even know)....and he wasn't so much as in my door and he apologized??? Said he didn't mean to be disrespectful?? Anyway...back to this weekend...I asked if was going to drink...and he said he wasn't sure, he was thinking about it, and hadn't ruled it out and asked me what I thought about that...I told him that my dad would probably offer him many AL beverages throughout the weekend....I had no intention of drinking...I won't ever drink around my family...EVER AGAIN!! He can, I won't. But we go to his family's on the actual 4th of July...and his sisters will all be there and are all excited and he said...it will be the same thing for you at my family's you know!? UGH!!

Dill--I need to do the same thing over here...de-clutter!!! My outside needs it...like the trees, like you did...horrible!! ANd the inside......don't even get me started!!! Holy Hanna, it's bad!!! I blame my son....Star will back me up on this one!!!:H Which by the way, I'm not sure who said it but, I totally agree, Star does sound very at peace!! I enjoyed reading about your visit with your son too! That was nice!!

Rustop--Busy as usual!! I think we must lead similar lives...running, running, running....and I only have one to tote around!!! You seem to be one organized lady to be able to keep up with all those schedules!!

LBH--I'm not sure I knew you had a parrot?? What's her/his name?? Can s/he say anything?? I'd love to see a picture?? Do you have other birds or just the one? How cool!!

So where is Pap3 these day??

Ok.....so Mr. J and I have been spending lots of time together as you can imagine....I'm still at a loss as to whats wrong with him!! Well...I think he's a big softy when it comes to saying no to his kids....but whatever...his kids are the sweetest, most well behaved, best mannered kids in the world...I have a hard time telling them no too!! Anyway....my son is coming around and is starting to really like him!! We all go over to the park (half a block from my house) and play baseball until dark or until we're drenched in sweat!!! It's so much fun!!!
He told me he loved me!:h
I'm so happy!!

HUGS TO YOU ALL!!
SD:l