Just Joy - June Week 4

[Stargazerlily]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Wow, it is so hot here, yesterday 100 degrees. The only safe place is inside. Today, as I am off, I will go to the pool for a short time and drink lots of water.

Chill, glad you are feeling better. Take care of yourself.

Rusty, how great to have some time off and just relax.

Lav, stinks that your anniversary is in a few days and no celebration or reason to celebrate. Yea, I would make plans, I think, to get my mind off of it. Do your kids realize it is your anniversary? Be sure to do something for yourself.

Jolie, I wonder if diet would help with the bone issue or if it is just something that comes with age. I notice that certain things like poor eyesight have happened to me. I wonder what is next in this journey of getting older? We really have to be tough and have a sense of humor.

SD, sounds like you are having a great time, letting your friendship grow and allowing yourself to trust. Beautiful. It is lovely to hear you may be falling in love and we get to hear about it. So your son is coming around, good for him. It is so fun for kids to have friends around. I remember how my kids played, played, played, morning noon and night. It was exhausting but fun.

I am continuing to dig my Iphone, learning how to listen to music, facetime, the weather at the tip of myfingers, and email and the web. I can't read it though with the small print. Still, a computer in my purse, what a miracle. I am kind of nervous about the bill though, they tell you the charges but there is usually more to the story.

I have been reading on macrobiotic cooking, it is so interesting. Have a great day and stay cool.

[rustop59]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Hi everyone

Like a few more of you I have only had time to pop in and read to try and keep up. Sending healing vibes to Chill and Jolie and thinking of you tomorrow Lav :h::h Life is strange and I guess the only way to survive for any of us is to live in the present moment.

Lots of that happening in this thread. I love reading all the posts about what you have all been up. LBH and Dill in their gardens, Papmom busy in the garden and with her doggies as usual. Rusty and Star soaking up the sun. SD all loooved up.

Daughter off to a show tomorrow so have a very early start, better get to bed early tonight. Have a great week-end everyone.

Rustop

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good morning all!

Well, there's alaways room for improvement :H

Had a very long & exhausting day yesterday & finally got to bed around 11:30 pm. Maxie wakes me up at 1:30 am throwing up I put her out the front door & went back to bed forgetting all about her (she doesn't go anywhere so I don't worry about her running off). I was awakened again at 4:45 by a rather violent thunder storm, remembered Maxie was still out - yikes! She was fine, waiting by the door on the front porch so I let her in & went back to bed again.
Needless to say my whole day has been thrown off so I don't know where to begin :H

SD, you sound very happy & that's great! Nothing like new love

Star, the 100 degree heat is arriving here today so you know I'll be safely hiding inside. Both of my nearest neighbors have pools but I'm just no longer interested in sitting out in the heat. That's been one of my changes in aging. I didn't even use my pool the last two years I was there before coming here - oh well.

Rustop, I hope your horsey show goes well & that your weather is better than ours

I'm skipping Curves (just too damn tired) & I need to catch up on some work emails.
I'm trying to gather my kids to hang out with me tomorrow.

Have a great AF Friday everyone!
Lav

[dill]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Lav, I'd love to be awakened by a thunderstorm. It is so hot and dry here it is getting scary. The grass is crunching under my feet! I'm sorry you are going through turmoil this week with the anni coming up. Is YB around or out of town? Maybe you could use the anni to spur discussion about the state of things.

Rusty, I think that's so cool that I popped into your mind when you were looking at oscars!! You will be popping into my mind tomorrow morning when I am traveling south on I-75 through Cinci and passing by the Newport Aquarium.

SD, I simply could not be happier for you!!!!:l I somehow have the feeling things wouldn't be going this way for you if you hadn't gotten control of your drinking. I was wondering though, does Mr. J drink? Have you told him about your drinking or have you just left it alone in the past? Just curious. If I'm being too nosy, just ignore me!!!

Jolie, I can so relate to work getting in the way of things!! I'm so happy to be on summer break. I'm sorry to hear about the bone density but it sounds like you caught it in the early stages and hopefully can reverse it.

LBH, tonight I will be seeing AF as the miracle you described and will be thinking of you. Thanks for that perspective. So spot on!

There's been a death in the family so we will be going to Tennessee for a funeral tomorrow. Today I am going to stay indoors to avoid the heat, and continue de-cluttering activities. Also will be starting a novel one of my good friends passed along to me. She highly recommends it. I'll let you guys know what I think of it. It's called Saving CeeCee Honeycutt. Anybody heard of it?

[sdlovespackers]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Dill-
I couldn't agree more with you about this not happening for me if I were still drinking. I'm not sure I'd have much of anything or anyone (my son included) around me right now if I were still drinking like I was. I was really starting to scare myself...I wasn't sure if I could quit again, but more importantly I was sooo scared at how I felt about myself...I've never felt so....dark??? in my entire life!!! I just can't even begin to describe that horrible, horrible feeling!! What scares me the most about this relationship is...are all the what ifs....and I know Pap3 has told me not to buy trouble or problems or worries....or all the above I'm sure...so I'm trying not to think about it and just live in the now and enjoy myself. As far as Mr. J's drinking....he does drink, although I've never seen him drink. He has said he doesn't drink around me out of respect....although I've told him numerous times I don't care if he does, I wouldn't think of it as disrespectful. I'm guessing he will this weekend out at the lake cabin...and I'm totally fine with that...I honestly don't care. I know in my heart he is not "a drinker"...it's not a big deal to him...the things we do together don't focus around drinking and I love that!! I can honestly say if I were to ever have another drink, I would feel safe doing it with him...one, because I trust him and two because I know it wouldn't be to get drunk, it would most likely be a special occasion and it wouldn't be a "everyday, normal activity"....he'd never ask me to...he really respects the fact that I've chosen not to....if I ever did, it would be 100% my decision. I try to picture myself taking a drink...like at his sister's for the 4th or at my reunion...and every time I do I start to cry....I haven't told him about my drinking, he'd have no idea what I would be giving up if I ever did take a drink....people on here talk about wanting to feel "normal"...I wonder if that feeling ever goes away??? I'm not sure I'll ever tell him about that SD...I didn't even like her!!!
Sorry about the death in your family!! Safe travels to TN!!:l
SD

[Chillgirl]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Happy Friday Guys

SD - Im so thrilled for you! It is wonderful that you have found this lovely man who sounds like a gem. I totally understand all your ifs and buts, its hard to believe sometimes that things will ever work out again after heartache in relationships. Enjoy it and remember you deserve to be happy. Im glad you are not tempted to drink, new people in our lives tend to bring on these "well maybe I could" thoughts. We cant and life is so much better without it anyway.

My date is a lovely guy too but we have a distance issue as we live 3 hours apart. Our dates are always on Sundays when we both drive 1.5hr and meet somewhere nice. These days have been very special but its difficult having big gaps, like this weekend he is in a swimming competition and we therefore cant meet. He is very "English" (think Colin Firth) dark and handsome, a real gentleman, very educated and a sportsman into rowing, climbing and sailing. I feel a bit Bridget Jones beside him minus the fags and the chardonny and pleasantly surprised he is interested in me.

Dill - My condolences for your family bereavment. I havent heard of that book, let us know if its worth a read. I have just started UNBROKEN by Laura Hillenbrand.

Lav - Keep cool and I hope your family surrounds you tomorrow. :l

I ended up in a medical "walk in" centre today, didnt even know they existed! I have a temperature and the UTI has not cleared up. I have had to give in and take antibiotics. I intend to lay low this weekend and pamper myself a bit.

[ladybirdheart]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Enjoy every minute of this happy time, SD, with the new gentleman in your life. It is certainly tempting when you feel safe with someone and have the inner health that you have nurtured to wonder about being safe having a drink on a special occasion; if it?s any help, I have done just that and while indeed nothing awful happened, it changed how I felt about myself and what was going on around me. I didn?t feel ?normal?; for me not drinking is my normal. I wonder if when you cry thinking about it, if it is not your inner spirit/soul trying not to be forgotten. You have a wonderful soul. Speaking of souls, Rusty is on vacation and home! I am so pleased that you have both a beach and a pool nearby. It was so hot yesterday I sat with my feet in my fish pond getting my toes investigated and my head strafed by orange and blue dragon flies. Have a safe trip to Tennessee, Dill, I hope that the shared loss will help people be filled with loving kindness, sometimes it works out that way. I shall be thinking of you tomorrow, Lav, it is hard when someone in your life isn?t dead and isn?t alive. I grew up with a missing father, literally missing in a war, and it was awful. I keep hoping there is a way to ease the distress for you, I know you will always share a family together, but perhaps if things could be arranged where you didn?t have to rely or depend upon him, I wish you could be free:l. I need to be off for now, hello Star, Rustop, Jolie, Chill (you will be well pronto), et. al. Love, Ladybird.

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Hello to Dill, SD, Chill & LBH!

I went friend searching on Facebook today & I found some (you know who you are)
I'm psyched to be able to see even more of Kaslo's fabulous photography!

Thunder storm warnings are running across the bottom of the TV & I can see lightening getting closer - oh well!

Have a safe trip Dill, sorry for your family's loss.

SD, stay as happy as you are right now

Chill, glad you got the Abx to give that UTI the boot! Those things tend to recur if you don't kill all the bacteria. Keep drinking lots of water!

LBH, thanks for reminding me about YB's not dead/not alive status. I think he's confused/crazy - I really do. I imagine it must have been very hard wondering all that time about your father.

Stay cool everyone!

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Well - I'm up, where is everyone? :H

Hazy, hot & humid already. Had another crazy T-storm last night!!

Think I'll go refill my coffee cup & see what happens today.
Wishing everyone a terrific AF Saturday!
Lav

[ladybirdheart]

Just Joy - June Week 4

I must run off right now but wanted to say Happy Beautiful Lav Day, a day that will be forever forward a holiday for celebrating the spirit of Lav and all that she brings to the world. Love, Ladybird.

[Chillgirl]

Just Joy - June Week 4

ladybirdheart;1343620 wrote: wanted to say Happy Beautiful Lav Day, a day that will be forever forward a holiday for celebrating the spirit of Lav and all that she brings to the world. Love, Ladybird.

Lav - ditto what LBH says!

Im here and feeling much better. Went of a reccy mission to a town I might consider living in if I can find work. Its called Royal Leamington Spa and I LOVED it! It ticked all the boxes and is surrounded by beautiful countryside. I like the idea of going somewhere I have never been, I dont want any old memories just room for new ones. I intent to stay here for another few months to finish the bulk of my course if I dont run out of savings. I have lots of other places to consider but I feel good having found somewhere I could really see myself in.

Where are you all? :scratchinhead: Hope you are all having a fun Saturday.

[Rusty]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good Evening Friends,

Do we have a name for July? July Journey? Have we used that before? First one up tomorrow morning gets to name us.

Lav, I hope you and the kids and grandkids did something special today. I, too, echo what LBH said. We all celebrate your spirit here, and hopefully you can make new, positive memories today so this time next year does not get you down.

Has anyone heard from Papmom.....on Facebook or anywhere? I'm worried about her. She's never gone this long without posting.

Dill-so sorry for your loss. Safe journey back from TN.

SD-I don't know that it's necessary you tell Mr. J about your drinking history. If somehow one of your relatives lets something slip out....then I think I would just say, "I went through a period where I was drinking too much and didn't like the way I felt, so I just quit. It wasn't fun anymore." Anyway, just my humble opinion, I hope you're having a fabulous weekend and I can't wait to hear about it.

Chill-I love Leamington Spa! I went there on my very first trip to England. I had to take a class and an exam, and it was during the Christmas season. It was magical and whimsical, and I passed the exam, too. Everyone there just made me feel so welcome. When I told people that I had come all the way from the States, just to take this exam, they said, "you came all by yourself? Wow!!":H

Jolie-so sorry to hear about the bone density test. Hopefully meds will help. I know how hard it iis to get bad news about your health. Sending you healing vibes.

Star-I hope you're enjoying your Iphone. I still don't know all that mine does, but it really it addicting. I'm glad you had a long weekend since you were home yesterday. Do you have any plans for the 4th?

I had a busy day running around doing errands, working out, and cooking. My mom had a tooth pulled yesterday and she's been in pain, and can only have soft foods, so I cooked up one of her favorite dishes and will take it to her tomorrow. We are spending the day together. It's 90 here still so I will take a dip in the pool. I'll be "enjoying the miracle of an AF evening." Today was the first official day of my vacation and last night I slept 9 hours straight and woke up at 7:00 a.m. Chill, you will be amazed to learn that I no longer enjoy awaking at 4:00 a.m. I stay up longer and I am enjoying reading publications other than Automotive News.:H

Rustop-I hope your daughter did well in the show today.

LBH-I clicked on your name and re-read an old post about when your parrot died a few years ago, and how devastated you were. I see you still have a parrot, and I'm so glad. I know you're a wonderful Feathered Mom. My best childhood friend has cockatiels and a cockatoo, and I never thought someone could get so attached to birds but just like people get attached to their dogs and cats, for her, it's birds. Her husband shares that love.

Well, I better get out for my run and swim. Hope everyone is enjoying the miracle of an AF night.

[Lavande]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Good evening friends!

Thank you so much for the kind thoughts LBH & everyone else as well!
I think I was more miserable this year anticipating this anniversary than I have been the past two years.....not even sure why?

Here's how the day went -
Received a mid-morning YB text message saying he would like to spend the day with me & cut grass :H And that he would take me to lunch. We went to lunch & he forgot his wallet - didn't he do the same thing last year? :H
With a calm tone & a smile on his face he stated that he's been taking low dose Cymbalta for the past month & is now increasing the dosage to more therapeutic levels!!!!! WELL, IT'S ABOUT DAMN TIME
His Doc suggested it for two reasons: 1. to treat his chronic back pain & 2. to improve his mood.
YB was put on Zoloft 9 years ago & took it less than a year claiming the side effects were too much. I've never been able to get him to agree to try anything else.
I can only hope that he continues to improve but I'm not getting excited about anything yet if you know what I mean.

Chill, it's great that you are finding possibilities for your future - sounds like a great place to land

Rusty, hope your Mom feels better soon. My dentist has been after me to have my only remaining wisdom tooth pulled for absolutely no reason. I keep telling him to leave me alone :H Hope you are having a nice evening.

Wish I had a video of my youngest grandson running around with a turkey buger in his hand tonight. He LOVES food!!!

See you all in July!

[cyntree]

Just Joy - June Week 4

Hello all - jumping on quickly to say hi. Moved last Sunday, everything is still in boxes. We have been dealing with 'restoring' the rental, which now the landlady has moved her husband into for the next 6 weeks and still thinks that we should be paying rent, upkeep and utilities. Trying to deal with that. I am tired, weigh 105 pounds, and am being treated for Lyme's. Still AF, though, and we have a house that will be good for us, if I ever get us moved in. Miss everybody tons, and I promise to come back on a regular basis soon. Take care all ---