AF day Tuesday 17 July

[Mick]

AF day Tuesday 17 July

Thanks Kaslo..I ll be around for a long time yet..there aint no back door for me.Now looking for21 days af

Mick

[LillyE]

AF day Tuesday 17 July

Hi fab abbers (love that),

Some dissension in the Nest - over a moderation vs abstinence debate - waylaid me a bit today and left me feeling a bit disheartened. However, it's inevitable that on forums such as these - with many personalities and degrees of problems and personal agendas - that such things are bound to occur and I can't take it too much to heart.

It did confirm for me that this is a safer place for me to be right now, however. As I said there, I have to fight that voice in my head (that drinking would be ok) every day still; I just don't need to have that discussion here too. The battle is still too hard.

shueaddict;1350985 wrote: Turn is sooo right. I needed to read a huge amount about addiction, how progressive this disease is and take a good look at myself and recognize all that. And that if I don’t stop THERE WILL BE consequences. (Rather large bitter pill missing 16 layers of sugar coating … big gulp). I was soooooo ashamed and disappointed with myself for allowing this to go so far that I became addicted to AL and that our “ relationship” will never be the same. .

Oh Shue, I sooo relate to this - right down to Sauv Blanc being my poison of choice. I think I am still grieving the loss but with the help of this forum and, as you said, reading a huge amount of addiction, I am coming to let that relationship go and realize that it wasn't ever actually any good for me in the first place. (Funny, reminds me of my last ex boyfriend that…)

Kas, great thoughts and glad your eldest hasn't learned the hard way - how wise of her.

Mick, YAY for you. You sound soooo good. Please keep it up mate :0

[LillyE]

AF day Tuesday 17 July

And just a small thought today...

I have an urgent job for a relatively new client that is due first thing tomorrow am that requires some creative thought and strategy. I also have an event to go to tonight, for the launch of a non-profit with which I've been heavily involved. There will be free wine. It's really nice to know that I won't catch a buzz on a couple of free glasses, then feel compelled to buy a bottle on the way home, drink it all, and therefore be useless tonight and wake up hungover. (I can't work drunk at all - no idea how people do.) I should get this work done easily enough before I head out tonight but it's great to know that I'll come home tonight clear-headed enough to be able to look it over again and tweak it some more if I need to.

It's a little thing but it feels like such a huge freedom.

[papmom3]

AF day Tuesday 17 July

Hey Lily-just make sure you have a good exit strategy in place if things get to crazy at the event tonite. We all have good intentions but sometimes early on in our journey, events such as these prove too hard to resist. When free wine is flowing, that is the focus of the event for some reason. If you don't really have to go, I would highly recommend making your excuses and not attending. You will get your AF muscles soon enough and will one day find you can attend any event you want and not give the AL flow a second thought. Just sayin'.