Simply Sober September

[itsmytime]

Simply Sober September

A beautiful sober Sunday to all,

Hi everyone, haven't been posting much but still here sober and loving it. I have been doing really well and look forward to another sober calendar month checked off. It feels really different this time, I think it's that I am not feeling sorry for myself or that I am depriving myself. If anything I am gifting myself with my life back.

I had a rough 5 years with losing many close family members and friends in such a short time. I was in a deep, continuous state of grief and I feel myself getting to the stage of acceptance and not living in fear any longer. I saw myself going down a self destructive path that would only lead to no good. Thank goodness for all my angels pulling for me and now I am on the path of self renewal and peace.

Thank you to you as well my Super Sober Friends, your support has really helped me get through this first while of sobriety.

[Rusty]

Simply Sober September

Good Sunday Sober September Afternoon, Friends!

ChefRobaire:welcome:It's great to have you here. You are in North Carolina? I love North Carolina. I spent a good amount of time near Charlotte on business. Great town and an absolutely beautiful state.

Mick-a very belated congratulations on your 60 + AF Days!:happy::yay:

Mr. G-I'm not going to be incorrigible when we have new guys on our thread. Lav did have a chat with me. Hence, I'm on my best behavior. Just kiddin.'

IMT: Thanks for checkin' in. The AF life really is wonderful, isn't it?

Pap-I hope you're enjoying your Sunday and have a peaceful holiday after all you've been through this last week. I think you would be fabulous in the IT field. And, a job or life coach sounds like a great plan to me. You're remarkably resilient and resourceful, and you will find your way out of this stream of bad luck you have run into lately.

Chill-I'm so glad your kids' weekend turned out better than you thought, and I hope all your belongings make it to Suffolk unscathed.

TDN-how are your doggies? Doesn't Bud have cancer? Sending healing thoughts your way.

Star-You have mentioned that since you work full-time, you cook for the week on Sundays. What meals do you prepare? I'm in a cooking slump. I am trying to eat healthier and I think that preparing meals ahead of time like you do is the way to go.

Lav-I died laughing when you said YB got a sandwich. Ah, me thinks he should be happy he got a healthy food sandwich and not a Slap Sandwich across the face from you!

LBH-I saw your comment about me on the August thread. I am not a "babe" but you are sweet to say so. If you don't believe me, just ask Lav, she has seen a picture of me

Well, this is my 2nd sober Labor Day Holiday. It's simple, and it's peaceful.

Dill-where are you and how are you?

SD-what about you? Everything ok?

Hi to everyone else! Have a wonderfully safe, sober September Sunday!

[dill]

Simply Sober September

Drunkenness is temporary suicide. ~Bertrand Russell, The Conquest of Happiness

Hi Rusty, I am here and I have been reading just not posting. I have been feeling very quiet and small and have been having a difficult time feeling connected. Not just here, but many places in my life. I'm sure it is temporary and will pass. But I am here.

Hello and AF greetings to all.

[Lavande]

Simply Sober September

Dill, are you OK?
Don't stay away, it makes us worry. Maybe the blue moon got you......
Feel better soon

Rusty, we are all babes & you know it too :H

IMT, I believe this is your time. I am very happy for you

Chef & G - I promise to keep an eye on Rusty but sometimes she just slips in under the radar :H

Star, the allergies & food intolerances we develop as we age are a giant pain in the A$$!
I won't go for allergy testing at this point in my life so I have tried eliminating the most common allergy triggers (dairy, wheat, soy, etc). Yep, dairy is my #1 problem followed closely by soy. I can get away with a little soy but not much. I read every freakin food label before I buy. Soy is incorporated into almost everything. The best bet is to eat fresh whole foods, skip processed products altogether - even salad dressings & that sort of thing.
Just for giggles focus on eliminating all soy from your diet for a week & see what happens.
Salt is something I have to stay away from because of my B/P. You will eliminate a lot of sodium by staying away from processed products. Good luck!!!!

Had the family here for a cookout except my son who is on a 24 hr shift. Everyone had a great time.

Matilda is becoming a real party animal :H

[papmom3]

Simply Sober September

where's Matilda's party hat?? :H

Dill-please let us know what is going on with you. I totally get the quiet and small thing. Just went through that myself. When I was ready, I landed here, a soft, loving place to rest for a while. Soon i'll check back in on the daily thread but I needed a little more quiet for now. Feeling so raw and vulnerable. you too? We love you!

Rusty-I am SOOOO looking forward to my sail with my dad tomorrow. I'm really going to try to relax as much as possible and not try to solve all my problems in an afternoon. Weather is supposed to be cool and just right for wind. Water is my element-should have been born an aquarious!

Hi G and Chef, Lav my rock, Chill my soul sista, star my idol in dealing with all thing sucky in life-I do learn from you. WWSD? What would Star Do? I took that from a line in Suits.

Whoop, Ambien hitting me hard all of a sudden. can barely type or see so off to bed go I.

[Turnagain]

Simply Sober September

((((Hugs)))) PapMom......

[Chillgirl]

Simply Sober September

Good Morning girls & boys

Happy holidays to all of you across the pond, it's just a regular Monday here.

Dill - know we are here whatever is going on with you, I too understand the need for quiet when I'm down but like Papmom said, this is a special soft place you can come when support is needed. :l

Papmom - I hope you have a wonderful day on the boat and manage to leave your troubles behind. I love Wayne Dyers analogy about how the wake is the trail we leave behind and not what powers the boat forward. Our pasts are behind us there is a huge ocean of life out there for us to explore.

Lav - Matilda is a cutey as well as a table dancer!

All is well in Chillworld, this week will be reorganizing and unpacking and with my compulsive traits I won't rest until order has been established. Photos to follow when it starts to take shape.

[Stargazerlily]

Simply Sober September

Good morning to all...

Woke up around 5:30 a.m. and with the full moon or almost full moon, there were moon shadows and it was amazing. Love September.

Dill, concerned about you, PM me anytime. I know with the start of the new school year, you are too busy. Your quote about drunkeness being temporary suicide is so true, getting drunk just ruins our lives, makes us sick in every area and slowly kills us. Sending you positive energy on this Labor Day Monday: health, love, being AF.

Chill, how fun to get your new digs settled, just in time for fall. In Suffolk, do you get the four seasons or is it more mild? I am looking forward to getting pictures. Sounds like you and Mr. Suffolk are doing well.

Rusty, well, today we are making a big wok full of veggie fried rice. Brown rice and in our wok, onions, four peppers: red, orange, yellow and green, and cauliflour broken up really fine. Since it is a short week, that is all we are making. We are building a list of things we like that last, veggies spagetti, soups, sandwich makings, hummus and chopped veggies, eggplant lasagna, I will work on thinking up more things. Sometimes we have written down every recipe we can think of that we like and go off of that. Or right now, we are trying to think up new vegan recipes, one new one a week, as we get tired of the same old thing. Hope this gave you some ideas.

Lav, thanks for the info, I think the msg in the chinese food the other night put me over the edge. I am not into too much dairy, wheat no problem, and soy is ok too. Salt is a big issue for me, and you are so right, fresh food are the best. Meats seem to upset my stomach recently, especially processed meats: sausage, hotdogs, lunch meats, so staying away from them. Salad dressings are an issue too. Geez, what a pain in the neck. Oh, Matilda is soooo darling, what a lucky doggy to live at your house.

Pap, have a good sail, hope the weather stays nice. How lovely to spend time with you Dad.

Hi Mr. G, is winter ending for you? How nice to be able to look forward to spring.

Today as I am off, meditation, exercise, cooking and a little company for a small cookout. Vegan burgers, corn on the cob, and salad. To all, have a great day.

[Chillgirl]

Simply Sober September

Stargazerlily;1372912 wrote:
Rusty, well, today we are making a big wok full of veggie fried rice. Brown rice and in our wok, onions, four peppers: red, orange, yellow and green, and cauliflour broken up really fine. Since it is a short week, that is all we are making. We are building a list of things we like that last, veggies spagetti, soups, sandwich makings, hummus and chopped veggies, eggplant lasagna, I will work on thinking up more things.

Star - I want an invite to your place! This all sounds yummy and my kinda food. I will never eat Chinese food again, it so doesnt agree with me. In fact because I follow a strict regime of no preservatives or additives I prefer to eat at home to know what Im getting.

Yes everything with Mr Suffolk is going amazingly. Im a bit scared to talk about it as to be honest I cant believe everything that's happened in such a short space of time. Even after all my hard work on positivity there is still that voice in my head saying it will all go wrong! Why when I can give advice to others about ignoring such negativity do I allow myself to be a victim of it myself?! Crazy!

[Lavande]

Simply Sober September

Good morning kids!

I was up way too early again this morning ~ Ms Matilda still likes to wake up the chickens!
A light rain is falling, it's going to be damp all day.

Greetings Turn & happy sailng papmom

chill, deleting the negative thinking patterns is finally what helped me pull my head out of my A$$. Negative thinking is a learned behavior & we can unlearn that. Colin Tipping also made it clear in his book 'Radical Forgiveness'. The important people in our past, parents, other relatives, teachers, etc all played a part in our developing that bad habit (negative thinking).
So, be happy & enjoy yourself today

Star, I hope your new & improved eating habits help you get the flashes under control - geez, I know the frustration
You can find a wealth of recipies at: Fatfree Vegan Recipes

I am feeling a bit weary after the goings on over on the Daily thread yesterday.
I was more than a little peeved to see that three (3) people had fallen off the wagon!
I just don't want to see people risking life & limb repeating the same old mistake. Turning to AL is NEVER THE ANSWER.

Have a great AF Monday!
Lav

[ladybirdheart]

Simply Sober September

Hello! I noticed with Lav that I last posted on the wrong thread. I am normally fine with my iPad but I was in a University internet cafe that was so wild, I had no room on my little table, there were even police on horseback detaining a couple of folks?it is fortunate my post did not end up on Craig's List or on a forum at the Mississippi Department of Corrections:H. Now I am using the new laptop and the mysterious trackpad at any second could send me out to the Mars rover. Dill, I understanding being quiet, sometimes I can either just go through something or talk about it, I get disoriented if I try to do both. Stay close and post when you can, even about silly stuff, it gets easier. Sorry not to address everybody now, I am thinking of each of you every day and wishing you well. Off to move lots of things around and set up my new streamlined "office". Love, Ladybird.

[CanToo]

Simply Sober September

Hi Lav, just poking my head in and testing the water over here.

Happy AF September and Labour Day ( to those in NA )

[Lavande]

Simply Sober September

I knew you would find us LBH :H
Let's hope our posts don't end up on Carigs List - geez!

Hi CanToo, welcome
Post anytime you like!

Flash flood warnings keep popping up on the TV & my phone but it's not even raining at the moment so I'm not sure what to do ~ go put life jackets on my chickens? :H :H

[Lavande]

Simply Sober September

Forgot to mention............

Rick Hanson is offering a free 7 week video series starting October 8 called 'The Compassionate Brain'. I signed up - here's the link:
The Compassionate Brain

If you can't listen to the interviews live you can always catch up with the on demand replays (they will email you the link).
I have alwyas had a big interest & belief in the ability to rewire our neural pathways. This explains why I have not totally given up on YB or anyone else in his shoes. We can do the rewiring with the right tools

[dill]

Simply Sober September

I think it was LBH who said that one of the things we can be grateful for is that we have a problem that we can fix. All we have to do is not drink. That is truly a gift to have such a simple solution. So many problems in life are not so easily fixed. That's the situation I find myself in at the moment and it is what has been causing me to feel so small, quiet, disconnected, etc.

I have been worried for several months about the welfare of my grandchildren. Their mother has been going down the slippery slope of prescription drug/alcohol abuse. There have been many nights of worry, but my hands were tied. Finally, a neighbor of hers called the police on her as she walked down the sidewalk in her neighborhood, carrying her baby and obviously intoxicated. Probation. More nights of worry. Three weeks ago she failed her urine test at a probation meeting and was taken to jail. I was relieved. So was her mother. We all were.

That's what has me tied in knots.

She and my son have been separated for many months now, but not divorced. He now has the kids full time. I feel so badly for my grandchildren.