AF day Tuesday Sep 3

[Mick]

Good morning everybody...and I mean everybody how are we all today?? havent got long as I am on the motorway in 20 minutes..to get stuck for heaven knows how long in traffic.Apologies that I can reply to everyone as usual individually but...........dada..tea and coffee here.
Firstly..think we should all calm down and take a long cold hard look at what is going on..I truly believe that one screw up isnt the end of the line...we should be supporting each other not castigating each other.I appreciate that sometimes dishing out rant and tant may be necessary.. but it doesnt help everybody.We are here to help each other not be judge and jury.Yes we all have our own reasons for giving up al whether it be health or otherwise...me..I nearly died literally and was paralysed left side for a while...that compared with the obnoxious bastard I was becoming to all near and dear to me thats what changed me.Fortunately so far I have had the strength to stay away from al..including a wedding yesterday, but I do respect those who fall and come back..I went through that one when I smoked.Monthly abstinence this thread is called....does that mean that to get on you must be af for a month,or striving towards abstinence. Monthly Abs Support Group: Join in as MWO'ers give up the sauce. My own opinion..I would help anyone who falls down picks themself up and holds there hands up..after a couple of attempts I would suggest they rethink their plan and strategy, and thats not being soft or silly because I am neither!So for me those that fell pick yourselves up and examine why it happened, those of us who didnt this time...lets give them support.
Will try and post later..have a great af day all
Mick

[shueaddict]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Good morning, fabbies,

Mick, I?ll grab that coffee quick, thanks. Wish you luck on whatever "M" you might be chancing this morning.

Whooa, a lot happened while I was sleeping.

I just want to say that I needed the though love yesterday. For me what happened was not a small slip or blip, in my otherwise longer and longer stretches of AF. It was a major F ? up that took me back to a dark place where I haven?t been in ages. It scared me.

I said that Kas?s words stung because they hit home. She screamed at me the truth right before my eyes. The one I did not want to address. I still have issues to deal with. As Caysea said, I?d better find out a way around it, because I will have to face this again sooner or later.

This is not facebook ?like, like, like ?.? thumbs up all the way. We have to be able to accept constructive criticism and take a more critical look inside ourselves; how else will we change for the better?

It was never my intention to leave this thread and I don?t think anyone else should either.

I am sorry to be brief today, my desk is full of papers and I need to close a deal today.

I just want to thank you all, we are one big family ? I feel like the black sheep today but I know I can count on you to get me back on track.

[LillyE]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Shue :l I hope things are feeling much less dark now.

In a way it's good that drinking took you to a dark place. If it hadn't it might have just helped keep the drinking dream alive. (That's what I meant about the worst slips being when nothing much happens anyway.) I related to what Turn said about ambivalence about abstinence. I think I definitely still have some. These experiences can really help reinforce what we already know deep down.

Feel better and hope the return to work is not too hectic or painful.

:h

[ChefRobaire]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Morning everyone,
Have a FAB AF Monday, and let's make the day count! I am soaking this all in, and as soon as I get comfortable, I will throw my two cents in...Chef

[greeneyes]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Monday Mornings Rock!

Fresh start on the first day of a brand new week. Make the most of it!

[Lavande]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

I know it's Monday because it's not Tuesday :H

Good morning to everyone!
Sending wishes for a fab AF day!

[kuya]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Well it is actually Tuesday! I am in New Zealand, 3 days AF and just to let you all know

TOMORROW IS BEAUTIFUL! :H:H:H:H

[greeneyes]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

kuya;1372945 wrote: TOMORROW IS BEAUTIFUL! :H:H:H:H

LMAO!
And congratulations on 3 AF days!! :goodjob:

Really, smilies in a quote shouldn't be counted in your post. Stingy.

[porqoui]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Good Morning Mick, Shu, Lil, ChefR, GreenEyes, lave, kuya and all to come...
Mick had no idea you could be so brief :H
Shue throw that "black sheep" idea away. You have no reason to feel that way.
Lilly how true. If nothing had happened on my slip I'd hate to think where I would be now.
ChefR, GreenEyes you both sound so positive. I think my positive "P" is starting to surface again too.
Lav Thanks. I thought it was Monday as well.
Kuya:welcome:for only 3 days af you sound extremely positive. If it's Tuesday for you is it Sep 3rd of 4th?
At the speaker meeting last night the lady had 22 yrs AF. Three weeks ago someone hurt her feelings. She didn't say anything to that person but went home and stewed about it. From hurt feelings to nobody cares to anger to I don't give a damn . She was headed to the bar and to hell with it. She didn't actually go or drink but it was a big struggle for her and an eye opener that she needed to tweak her recovery plan, even after 22 yrs. Shit can happen at anytime of our journey. That's why we have each other.

I agree greeneyes they are stingy with the smilies.

Have a great AF Monday (for me) everyone. PPQ

[LillyE]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

kuya;1372945 wrote: Well it is actually Tuesday! I am in New Zealand, 3 days AF and just to let you all know

TOMORROW IS BEAUTIFUL! :H:H:H:H

Kia ora Kuya, happy to see a fellow Kiwi here!

CONGRATULATIONS ON 3 DAYS!!

[LillyE]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Also, :welcome:

Please dive on in and tell us a bit about yourself. This is a great place to be if you want to commit to being totally AF and need some accountability and support. I'd direct you to Newbies too, but it looks like you've already found your way over there.

Have you seen the Toolbox yet? Some great reading here: https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

[YoungAtHeart]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Morning, fabbies!

It's a nice new fresh start to the week! Yay!

Mick, thanks for starting us off as usual, even if you had to be brief. Your post was still chock full of support and caring. Stay safe on the motorway.

Shue, I'm glad you were able to take Kas's post as a much-needed kick in the butt! But none of that black sheep stuff. There but for the grace of God go any of us!

I used to feel that it was too discouraging to go back to Day 1 after a slip up, but I have come to feel that the pain and shame of having to go "back to Day 1" is a good deterrent for me.

Good morning, Lilly, Chef R., Greenie and Lavande! Have a wonderful day!

Welcome, Kuya! Congrats on your days of abstinence! You will find a supportive crowd here, so let us get to know you better!

Porquoi, I like the story you shared. I am glad for the woman that she did not drink, but what a great example of what we can do to ourselves even after all those years of sobriety.

I am finding that my sober mindset is returning. It is feeling easier. I am grateful that I have had previous experience with being sober. Knowing what to expect has made it much easier this time, except I can't believe how long it took me to get back here. (blush) But at least I am back here, and that is a good thing!

Have a happy day, all! Make it a good one.

Hugs, :l
YahYah

[caysea]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Hi All
Good to see AF discussed in a strong way.
We all have to remember that we are lay people trying to help each other deal with a major problem in our lives.
The aspect of tough love and the nice approach has always been a problem at MWO. We don't have a set program like smart recovery or AA we have only our own plan. Throw in the aspect of moderation and the road to AF gets blurry around here.
Some of us may sound hard line [we are] but we have also BS ourselves and everyone around us before we got sober. If we don't question you on your plan who will. We are asking each other to be honest. This is the corner stone to getting sober. HONESTY! AL gets in the way of that clouding the view. Maybe we didn't deliver the message the right way according to your needs but the intent was to be helpful. There will always be those here that can be softer in there approach, thats a good thing, there will also be others calling you on your actions. I needed a good ass kicking a long time ago. It was over 10 years BS myself trying to control my drinking before I realized I was giving it a half ass attempt.
Congrats to all that have just hit personal goals in there recovery. Day by day it gets better.

Stay Healthy and Stay Strong
AF 5-16-08

[ChefRobaire]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

Congrats on 30 days YAH, and a fine mornin' it 'tis!! Has anyone read Jason Vale's book, "Kick the Drink Easily"?...really a good book...I recommend it, as it has put me in a positive mindset to go forward being AF.

[LillyE]

AF day Tuesday Sep 3

New avatar = my favourite shoes. In honor of the lovely Shue, who I just had the pleasure of chatting with.

Ok, it's midnight here and I'm officially a pumpkin. Til the morrow all.