AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

[shueaddict]

Good morning, fabbers,

I was waiting for Mick but I guess he got stuck somewhere.

I have your French roast brewing nicely and a big pot of tea. The chocolate bikkies are only for those in desperate need of a lift. I’ll take one, again the sleep fairy forgot all about me. At midnight we had a small earthquake and found it hard to fall asleep after that.

Have super duper hump day, fabbies!!!!

Lav, put your feet up, have a cuppa and enjoy an well earned rest.

PQ – grateful vs resentful .. that made a world of different for me too, in many more situations, not just AL related

Caysea – I forgot about the drink tracker … I am on it now and giving Mick a run for his money.

CanToo the strong – looking forward to the pics

Lilly – good luck with work

LillyE;1373764 wrote:

Drinking wine at home alone was a big thing for me. After 60+ days I have gotten used to being home alone and not drinking.

Amen to that ! I had the same “home alone” demons!!! It took a while to break that habit. Many weekends I had to remove myself from the house, go on exhausting hikes, errands, meet friends you name it. After that I took a page from Molly’s book and took great pleasure on Sat morning ( while my men are at golf) to just tend to my flowers, feel the sun on my skin and enjoy the smell of the garden. The simple pleasures in life are unbeatable.

Freefly – so happy to have you here. Hope on .

Det – I am back on day 4 now.

KY – big hug, everything will seem better after a good night’s sleep. (choc bikkies have been known to work wonders too … and not just for the hips ).

[kuya]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Hi Molly, Shue, Thanks for the support. What is wierd is that I am still in your tomorrow hehe. I got through a very stressful day .... Had split second thoughts of drinking ...... Then remembered what I had learned, that low blood sugar is my nemesis.

I was going to buy a takeaway but decided a better idea was to cook a really healthy meal. I have just had salmon, asparagus broccoli and new potatoes with a Thai sauce. It was yum. I now feel much more relaxed and very very very very proud of myself. I even had to go shop for it which would always have ended in the liquor store but tonight something strange occurred. I KNEW, absolutely KNEW that it was simply hunger.

I have a theory that many alcoholics are actually suffering from eating disorder. Since coming here to MWO I have seen many time that people will post that they are cocerned about gaining weight because they are eating more to avoid cravings. I find it fascinating that even after acknowledging a life threatening disease their body size still concerns them.

Don't think I am judging, I was anorexic and bulaemic to a small degree for many years and I am sure that the brain,being the clever thing that it is,works out that the one way it is guaranteed to get energy is through alcohol.

This is why sugar craving is so high in abstinence , and why I avoid it like the plague. I have read that sugar hits simulate alcohol hits and are very dangerous to our recovery.

I made this mistake the last time I quit and was quickly up to 2 chocolate bars at bedtime and my weight spiraling. THIS time I am eating REAL food and I don't give a damn about my weight as long as I stay sober.

So whilst I would agree that a packet of biscuits is better than drinking, my advice is a large solid meal is the absolute best protection.

My other life observation is that male heavy drinkers are frequently overweight but I know a lot of stick thin wine/vodka drinking female alcoholics.

Also I would love some feedback/comment about how us women vs you men deal with the food and weight issue.

So everyone have a great day, Lilly ..... Hope work went well, Mick ...... Where we're you this am? And thanks for the welcome. So glad to be here ..... You are stuck with me now!

[satz123]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

kuya;1373872 wrote: Hi Molly, Shue, Thanks for the support. What is wierd is that I am still in your tomorrow hehe. I got through a very stressful day .... Had split second thoughts of drinking ...... Then remembered what I had learned, that low blood sugar is my nemesis.

I was going to buy a takeaway but decided a better idea was to cook a really healthy meal. I have just had salmon, asparagus broccoli and new potatoes with a Thai sauce. It was yum. I now feel much more relaxed and very very very very proud of myself. I even had to go shop for it which would always have ended in the liquor store but tonight something strange occurred. I KNEW, absolutely KNEW that it was simply hunger.

I have a theory that many alcoholics are actually suffering from eating disorder. Since coming here to MWO I have seen many time that people will post that they are cocerned about gaining weight because they are eating more to avoid cravings. I find it fascinating that even after acknowledging a life threatening disease their body size still concerns them.

Don't think I am judging, I was anorexic and bulaemic to a small degree for many years and I am sure that the brain,being the clever thing that it is,works out that the one way it is guaranteed to get energy is through alcohol.

This is why sugar craving is so high in abstinence , and why I avoid it like the plague. I have read that sugar hits simulate alcohol hits and are very dangerous to our recovery.

I made this mistake the last time I quit and was quickly up to 2 chocolate bars at bedtime and my weight spiraling. THIS time I am eating REAL food and I don't give a damn about my weight as long as I stay sober.

So whilst I would agree that a packet of biscuits is better than drinking, my advice is a large solid meal is the absolute best protection.

My other life observation is that male heavy drinkers are frequently overweight but I know a lot of stick thin wine/vodka drinking female alcoholics.

Also I would love some feedback/comment about how us women vs you men deal with the food and weight issue.

So everyone have a great day, Lilly ..... Hope work went well, Mick ...... Where we're you this am? And thanks for the welcome. So glad to be here ..... You are stuck with me now!

Hi KY
Don't think we've met,
I popped in here on & off. Mick and I were in a race to 30 days
That is a brill post and so true about the sugar / weight theory.
I started to have a drink to stop me picking at food while making dinner.
The wiine put on weight so switched to gin and slimline ...... The slippy slope !

[satz123]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

shueaddict;1373843 wrote: Good morning, fabbers,

I was waiting for Mick but I guess he got stuck somewhere.

I have your French roast brewing nicely and a big pot of tea. The chocolate bikkies are only for those in desperate need of a lift. I?ll take one, again the sleep fairy forgot all about me. At midnight we had a small earthquake and found it hard to fall asleep after that.

Have super duper hump day, fabbies!!!!

Lav, put your feet up, have a cuppa and enjoy an well earned rest.

PQ ? grateful vs resentful .. that made a world of different for me too, in many more situations, not just AL related

Caysea ? I forgot about the drink tracker ? I am on it now and giving Mick a run for his money.

CanToo the strong ? looking forward to the pics

Lilly ? good luck with work
Amen to that ! I had the same ?home alone? demons!!! It took a while to break that habit. Many weekends I had to remove myself from the house, go on exhausting hikes, errands, meet friends you name it. After that I took a page from Molly?s book and take great pleasure on Sat morning ( while my men are at gold) to just tend to my flowers, feel the sun on my skin and enjoy the smell of the garden. The simple pleasures in life are unbeatable.

Freefly ? so happy to have you here. Hope on .

Det ? I am back on day 4 now.

KY ? big hug, everything will seem better after a good night?s sleep. (choc bikkies have been known to work wonders too ? and not just for the hips ).

Yes The simple things are now a joy! Can't believe it really!
Molly is a fountain of honesty and knowledge and me :h her. She is one of the reasons I am sober today. Seeing her day to day lifestyle I realised I too can be 'normal'
Now I'm blubbering so off I go for my hike

[ChefRobaire]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Good Morning All,
There will be a day when I have the time to write pleasantries on this thread, until then, have a mahvelous AF day, I will enjoy mine....Peas...Chef

[FreeFly]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Morning Abers, I feel very happy to be here this morning

Lav, yep serious committed AFers around here, I see that, so as you say, no more stepping back. That would have scared me a month or so ago, and although a teeny tiny part of me is thinking, gawd can I do this, the rest of me is right up for it and stepping up to the plate

Determinator ? love to hobble along with you, until we?re flying of course

Caysea ? thanks for drink tracker reminder. I?m on it now for extra accountability.

Lilly & Molly ? my Achilles heel is/was the wine at home thing. I believe it?s just a bad habit which the more I don?t do the less I?ll want to. Now that I?m a serious Aber it?s kicked to the kerb anyway. I do have to avoid all emotional stress and have put certain friends and family at arms length, at least until I get some good sobriety under my belt.

Kaya ? Congrats on your choice to go to the store and make yourself some good food. I?m trying to avoid the sugar thing too this quit, although I did have blackberry crumble last night but was homemade! I?m also trying to avoid other addictive behaviour so I do find true balance, otherwise I spend my life swapping one thing for the other and al is still a danger then. My other addictions which could replace alcohol include sugar, carbs, general overeating/consuming, coffee, smoking (!) and spending money. All these have reared their heads on various quits so this time I?m seeking balance. I think the addition of meditation is how I?ll find this.

Shue ? Thanks for the welcome. I guess an earthquake would disturb the sleep! I?ve definitely hijacked the sleep fairy though ? will send your way this evening

Lots of lovely folk :wavin: to all

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Good morning Abbers & Happy Humpday

Thanks for the coffee shue - always good

Molly, it's so nice to see you here in AF land! We started out together on MWO

kuya, I was disappointed that I never lost a pound after I quit drinking but in all honesty I did eat everything in sight for a while. Then weeks later when I quit smoking I gained 13 pounds Once I felt commited in both of my quits I did go to work on the weight loss issue & lost those 13 pounds. I am still working on the mid-life weight gain & hope to lose the last 10 pounds, eventually!
I totally believe we eat/drink to relieve symptoms of HALT! We eat/drink when we are Hungry, Angry, Lonely & Tired! Substituting healthier behaviors with fewer calories makes a big difference

Greetings satz & Chef!
FreeFly, no need to fear sobriety, honestly! I did have that fear for a long time....fear of the unknown I suppose. Turns out there is peace in sobriety. I was missing mind peace for a very, very long time & now that I have it I won't give it up again

OK, wishing everyone a fantastic AF Thursday!
Lav

[porqoui]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Good Morning Mollyka, KY, Satz, ChefR, FreeFly and Shue..thanks for kicking us off this morning.

Caysea I tried and tried to find the drinktracker and still can't get it. Went to the home page, scrolled down but couldn't find the "tools" forum. After 20 minutes of looking I thought this is going to drive me to drink. So decided to go to bed and ask for help in the morning. HELP please.

KY :goodjob: I was worried about you last night. Isn't it great to be able to just say things like that. I hope even posting your feelings made you feel better, let alone the support that follows.

Late night, late start so will sign off with have a super AF Wednesday all. PPQ

[FreeFly]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

PQ - home page, right at the bottom under 'Miscellaneous' and below

[FreeFly]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

sorry, meant below Research!

[porqoui]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Grrr are you guys subscribers?

Home page ....way at the top, my way out, home - is that right?

Scroll to the bottom...The latest news..the kudzu cure.

Don't see 'Miscellaneous'

I gotta be in the wrong place.

[YoungAtHeart]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

PPQ, it is at the bottom of the forums page, where all of the different forums are listed. Good luck! You find that by clicking "community" from the home page.

Thanks for getting things started, Shue. I won't be a threat to the chocolate bikkies. I already had my chocolate fix this morning. How are things going for you? Feeling a little sturdier after your slip? I sure hope so. You sound good.

Kuya, sorry you had a rough day yesterday, but what a positive outcome you had regarding drinking! Good job! Also, good on you for making yourself a wonderful dinner. I have found that eating well does make abstaining from AL a lot easier.

I had a crappy day yesterday, too. I am just so pissed off at some insurance companies, who haven't paid me for work I did back back in early August. I am going on vacation Saturday, and I am down about $500.00. I truly don't want to go on vacation without having all of my bills paid. So I was a grouchy pants yesterday afternoon after the mail came. FYI, I am a psychotherapist in private practice, so some of my revenues come from the insurance companies where I am an "in network" provider. But, I didn't drink. It crossed my mind as the perfect excuse to have a slip, but the thought of coming on here and having to confess was a good deterrent. :blush: And I DEFINITELY don't want to be back at Day 1!

Hi, Mollyka. I'm looking forward to getting to know you better.

Freefly, good to see you; that's the reason they say "One day at a time" in AA. It is so overwhelming to thing of not drinking forever, especially in the initial days. It is so much easier to just think about not drinking for the coming day. Eventually, our minds adjust. I'm glad that most of you is on board; that will be enough, if you are careful.

Hello, Satz. Glad to see you around.

Hi and bye, Chef! Keep the faith, and I'll look forward to when you have a little more time to post.

Good morning, Lilly. It took a minute, but I did figure out that your avatar was your green shoes. They are hot! I have complete envy of you and Shue, since I can't really wear high heels anymore. My feet are a mess. I'd love to be able to wear some of the hot shoes that you both post!

I have to get ready for work now, so just sending hugs to Lavande and anyone else I missed.

Onward and upward! Have a great day, all!

Hugs, :l
YahYah

[porqoui]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

YoungAtHeart;1373948 wrote: PPQ, it is at the bottom of the forums page, where all of the different forums are listed. Good luck! You find that by clicking "community" from the home page.

Anyone got a board? I need a good whack on the back of my head!

:thanks: :thanks: :thanks: :thanks: PPQ

[porqoui]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Got there and tried to log in as porqoui/pw and says wrong username/pw :confused

Is vbulletin something different?

Hah!
In my drinking days I would spend days trying to figure it out.
In my sobriety days I'm reaching out and asking for help.

PPQ

[Kaslo]

AF Daily - Wednesday Sep 5th

Good morning all, I promise to give a short explanation of the residual toxicology of AL addiction, when I get my work done on something this morning, will check in later.

Meanwhile goodmorning to all, and hope you have some BLISS in your cornflakes!

Kas