af day Tues 13 Nov

[scottish lass]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Me too P, me too!!!

porqoui;1410630 wrote:
I'm too chicken to post! :H

also can't work out if it is a joke or not

[RunningCourage]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Hello all, nearly bedtime here, but wanted to fly-in to say, heloooooooooooooooo

Hi treetops.

Mick, can we have a moratorium on Christmas jokes until Dec 1?! I'm an old curmudgeon about Christmas coming too early.

See youse in the marnin!

[porqoui]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Sorry to all the curmudgeon's on the thread....

[CanToo]

af day Tues 13 Nov

[porqoui]

af day Tues 13 Nov

treetops;1410662 wrote: Morning here from Kiwiland. Wishing all a great evening/morning. I am now 5 weeks sober (this time) and feeling good. Have heaps more energy and zing. Will be seeing an addiction specialist this week just for a check-in. I have a busy day ahead so must toodle off to the madness....

:goodjob: on the 5 weeks...and doesn't it feel good to say just for a check-in

[Determinator]

af day Tues 13 Nov

whew, time to knock off work finally. hey everyone!

Porquoi, hahahahahaha! love it.

was in 3 different retail stores today and yes all three playing the 'endless loop' xmas music. eeeeek!
I used to work at Toys R Us and during Xmas they had this nausiating endless loop of only 5 songs that drove me to near suicide. the worst part is that the vocals were done in this stupid cartoon/baby-talk voice. eeeeeeeeeeeeeek!

ok, all is quiet and peaceful here at la casa garlic breath. nary a drinking thought happy to report.

tomorrow I'm on the road again but hopefully only an overnighter. I'm ready to walk in the valley of the shadow of wine-land (north California).

be well peeps!

[kuya]

af day Tues 13 Nov

CanToo;1410820 wrote:

Youse a quiet little bunny ATM, wassup?

[scottish lass]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Happy to postpone the Christmas cheer for a few more weeks too - please!!!
Love that decoration P - works for me!!!
Det - maybe we will pass each other on the road tomorrow - I will look for haggi running away from someone:H Supposed to be nice day tomorrow, but storm forecast for Friday so better get home before then - too many goofy drivers who don't know how to drive in the snow!
Well another night done, I do think it is getting easier - just wish the sleep would come back
Have a good night/day......anything everyone....

[kuya]

af day Tues 13 Nov

scottish lass;1410859 wrote: Happy to postpone the Christmas cheer for a few more weeks too - please!!!
Love that decoration P - works for me!!!
Det - maybe we will pass each other on the road tomorrow - I will look for haggi running away from someone:H Supposed to be nice day tomorrow, but storm forecast for Friday so better get home before then - too many goofy drivers who don't know how to drive in the snow!
Well another night done, I do think it is getting easier - just wish the sleep would come back
Have a good night/day......anything everyone....

Have you tried supplements to sleep SL?

[Catbuddy]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Hi guys,

Well, I'm sober, and not even tempted to drink. This after the first date in 11 months, and I would guess, the last time I see the guy. Who I really liked. Who I think liked me. Until I talked too much. And told too much. (Not about AL, though). And went home without the "when can I see you again?"

:bang:bang:bang

Single mom, young son, complicated custody, full time job - oh yeah, I'm datable.

CRAP CRAP CRAP

The only good thing I can say right now - there is no AL in my system or in my house to make my mood worse.

:no:


I know this is a massive pity party, and folks are dealing with much worse. But I'm still hurting.

Cat

[CanToo]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Hello to my favorite people. Yes I'm here - reading and laughing, wishing the brain was working (it's past my bed time).

It's that time of year when the days get shorter and I'm reminded how much I HATE this time of year.

Just used to 'backing into my self' hoping all the Happy people run around with friends and family think i'm off doing something with someone else. I'll be fine. Been playing this tape since I was 10. Tell one person I'm going to dinner with so and so, etc etc and then stay home with the curtains drawn so just an see inside just I case I move.

Tonight I was training the new board, they're not all going to make it I fear. Tomorrow is gym day with trainer. Thursday I scored a spot on a bike for spin. Don't tell anyone but I'm slipping in 2 workouts and a just for laughs comedy show ( on relationships of all things) Friday. And then I get touched on Saturday. Oh and with all intentions of changing my x-mas tapes I said I would meet up with some like minded water sport people for a little x-mas Greek.

I must think of more things to add to the 'For the first time in years...'

Cat have you met the guy with the big penis over wonder?

CanTooing way past my bedtime that KY might be up and about soon

[LillyE]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Oh DUH, I just posted on the end of yesterday's thread somehow - dangers of multitasking. Also means I haven't read this thread properly. So I will repost my post in a sec. In the meantime,

THIS ... is for all you 90+ dayers!
?Researchers at Yale University have documented what they call the sleeper effect?a gradual re-engaging of proper decision making and analytical functions in the brain?s prefrontal cortex?after an addict has abstained for at least 90 days.?
It?s important for me to keep in mind that internally my body is healing, even if I can?t always feel it.

KY, What what what is all this talk about men with giant penises? I'm so confused - and I must go find whatever the hell thread you're talking about immediately...

Speaking of men, Cat, you have my sincere condolences... It's so hard isn't it? I hate dating. It just fucking sucks sometimes. But, look, maybe you're being too hard on yourself. Maybe all is not lost? It's impossible to know from here but I'd say take a deep breath and sit on your hands and wait and hopefully he will get in touch. Does he know you're interested? Is it worth sending a text yourself saying you'd like to see him again? But don't apologise for oversharing if you do as it's quite likely you were just fine and are beating yourself up needlessly. For all you know he's beating himself up right now for whatever he thinks he did wrong! :l

[RunningCourage]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Hey Cat :l :l :l

Stop hitting your head off the damn wall. It bruises. Doesn't help. You don't know what he was thinking. Maybe he was shy. Maybe not. And even if he's not interested, that is his loss.

It is.

Believe it.

It's true.

You are SO datable. Anyways, if a guy isn't prepared to accept you for the brilliant and wonderful person you are... well, i'm afraid that's their problem.

Big :l :l atcha, Cat.

[RunningCourage]

af day Tues 13 Nov

LillyE;1410902 wrote:

Speaking of men, Cat, you have my sincere condolences... It's so hard isn't it? I hate dating. It just fucking sucks sometimes. But, look, maybe you're being too hard on yourself. Maybe all is not lost? It's impossible to know from here but I'd say take a deep breath and sit on your hands and wait and hopefully he will get in touch. Does he know you're interested? Is it worth sending a text yourself saying you'd like to see him again? But don't apologise for oversharing if you do as it's quite likely you were just fine and are beating yourself up needlessly. For all you know he's beating himself up right now for whatever he thinks he did wrong! :l

Bold - yeah for not asking "when can i see you again?"

[LillyE]

af day Tues 13 Nov

Cat, what RC said, my heart goes out to you as I've soooo been there! And it's fine to pity party about it, just don't get too lost in it as for all you know it's FINE. Try and distract yourself with a good book, bath, phone a friend, anything to take your mind of it and him for a bit.

Repost of my lost post...

YAY YAH YAH!!!!!!!!! :goodjob: :wave:

Congrats on three months! That is so awesome! We will have a bunch of six month parties around here in no time. I was just reading last night that it's around the 5 month mark some key brain chemistry stuff starts resetting.

And PQ, I commented on your thread but I'll say it again here - SO VERY AWESOME!!!!!!!

Kuya, that is interesting what you say about a move in NZ to curb excessive drinking? Really? That's good. I certainly don't feel that here in Australia! Do you mean there've been big campaigns? Or a sense of a shifting social sentiment? Or what?

I am here. Not drinking. Just still trying to shore up my motivation properly again. Kaslo very kindly sent me some ideas to help work through urges, which helped very much last night when the witching hour hit, so thanks again Kas if you're reading along. I may have to repeat tonight I think. I feel those urges sliding in but will resist.

Ironically one of my usual editors has just assigned me four stories about wine - great. So a minute ago I was on hold to a major wine seller while browsing MWO. I don't think I need to refuse to write the pieces - I don't think they will be a major trigger and I don't need to drink any wine to write them - it's just a bit weird.

Has anyone tooled around at all in the 'sobersphere'? I stumbled on this link:
Blogs Written by People in Recovery

And thus discovered there's a whole world of interesting blogs out there about recovery. Despite being a writer by trade I've never blogged or been into the idea - I guess I don't usually feel like writing for free at the end of the day. But this did get me thinking it could be a cathartic way to record one's progress and it's interesting to read about other people's experiences.

Yeah, let's not talk to much about Christmas yet. I'm in denial. :H

Economolly - heh, I like it Molly. I'm going to be grinch this year. Going away with one friend to the beach and not planning to do/buy much else. Christmas kind of makes me want to stick my head down a well.

Hope everyone's well & happy. :l