af day Tues 4 Dec

[treetops]

Morning all from here - don't mean to confuse you guys re the days!
How is it going - Nurdl, Kuya, TDN, SL, Mick, Lavande, Pourqoi, CanToo, Catbuddy (trying to remember names without looking - so apologies if I have left anyone off).

Last night I looked over some old posts on MWO - from the stories section - I think it was CanToo (could be wrong) who talked about being able to do stuff when sober - and how great that - things like picking kids up at night, etc. So I applaud that. I also read some sad stories about the anguish of relapse - and cravings. I am v. conscious about myself giving in to the beast - so these reminders from other MWO peeps greatly helps. I hope as I advance in my sober thing that I can help others. At the moment however I am pleased that I have helped some people through my work (and I guess my personal commitment) to sort out other things of a personal nature. I am expecting a few tears today when I give someone some happy (but sad) news.

One thing I have noticed in my new sobriety is that some of my 'irritating' (or maybe not??) aspects are getting enhanced. Eg, I have always had a fairly acute bullshit detector but its now gone up several notches. I also can't be bothered with time wasters (I don't mean spending time with others and having relaxing time ) but you know, those people who just suck up oxygen and leave you frustrated, tired etc. Am trying to be generous in how I deal with these aspects of my personality - as I can come across as bossy and grumpy. Oh well - sunny day awaits!!! have a great night/day everyone.

[Catbuddy]

af day Tues 4 Dec

BOO!

I snuck in at 12:00am Tuesday to be the next poster for once! Mick is online and I'm racing to get there....let's see if it worked.

Boy, need some new hobbies, or a good man.

Cat

[Mick]

af day Tues 4 Dec

morning all....how are we all today?3 weeks to go and Christmas is upon us...4 weeks and the job is done...there you are, how is that for a cheery start?:H Well not a lot to report..at the dentists twice next week..need to go and rob a bank to pay for this guy!!

Coffee, tea, green tea all available today.


Morn treetops hows your summer coming along?Want to swop a bit of sun for some rain?

Morning TDN How are you today....you know that cookies thing sounded like one of those maths puzzles......
I bake 24 cookies,10% of them are eaten by other members of my family,I taste 2%...how many make it to church?
You still working on the other project?...dont get nervous.. and you certainly dont need alcohol..thats the crap that started all this off!!!Keep strong!

Mornin Mrs Mcginty...and hows things today on Erins green shores?thanks for lying bout the jokes...could you not have done a wee bit better and said how suave debonair and sophisticated I was too?Glad your feeling more cheery....notice I never said brighter!!:H:H

Mornin Lav and how are you today? Time for a cuppa?So now I know what a bridal shower is too.Glad you survived the daughter scenario ,even tho it wasnt your fault.Like the pic..no snow nothing .just sunshine.Take it thats a high car you have got..like a 4wheel drive?

Morn ppq...how are you today?Bloody cold I would imagine in -16!!!!have you still got snow?...or is that a given now? arvo? try aft affy avvy..all mean afternoon too

Morning"forever 39" hows the birthday girl today?whats your next project or learning going to be?

Morning Det...sun is shining eh? always makes you feel better and no wind now either..and before anyone else jumps in I meant the weather!!!Glad youre on the mend my friend..wow more poetry..is there no end to this mans talents?

Morning Ky..wow you sounded pretty unpleased..(pq is that in dictionary?)this morn..Still full of the cold?...careful now, could turn into manflu...and then you will know about it!!

Nurdl..morning..take the convertible out for a spin? either you are mad or there is no snow and rain in your part of the world!!:H
Best of luck on your new game of orchestra swatting!!For the barbie mobile..go on to the internet..type in file reducer......pick one preferably one that will do it online for you without down loading..try Free Online Picture Resizer - Crop and Resize photos, images, or pictures online for FREE! it to the size required,save it and then change avatar.

SF..........Big hug to you...no this is about people being honest not bullshit.....if we wanted to we could all sit pissed as farts saying how geat we were doing, but the point is we have all been alcohol dependant at one stage and are trying to beat it each and every one of us struggles somewhere along the line...was going to say pick yourself up and dust off..but it looks like you have done that so well done you

SL....gotta give you it that beats mine.....how true too..no tie ..no in
Well as you say, you will need to see how the situation goes at work..you will probably find things will work out better than you think..fingers crossed for you.

Cat, Cat just read your post...hope you dont mind me sayin.....get rid of the negatives.That post was full of them..You have got your son, you obviously still talk to his father so there is no acrimony there,and because someone has had a slip does not mean you will...be strong, be positive,you CAN do it :l

For some reason this time of year, people get down, unhappy, etc and things that during the year would be nothing suddenly become major issues.We all get down..Ii had one on me yesterday..the trick is to deal with it or let it pass not to try and sort it with a bottle..This is also the time of what I would call minimisation..Go on just a little one, it wont hurt, yep just the one,I can stop Ive done it for so long its easy,one wont hurt and all the rest of it..

Most of us are here if not all because we cannot do just the ones, so dont minimise it ..one doesnt exist!!!!

Right peeps got to rush....take care stay safe and sober

Husband says; "When I'm gone you'll never find another man like me".
Wife replied; "What makes you think I'd want another man like you!"

"I told my wife that a man is like a fine wine... I always get better with age. The next day, she locked me in the wine cellar."

Innkeeper: The room is $15. a night. It's $5. if you make your own bed.
Guest: I'll make my own bed.
Innkeeper: Good. I'll get you some nails and wood.

Two woman were talking about the new hunk in the neighborhood. "But he acts so stupid," said one to the other. "I think he must have his brains between his legs." "Yeah," her friend sighed, "but I'd sure love to blow his mind."


Wife: Give me some money. I want to buy a bra.
Husband: Why? You have nothing to put in it!
Wife: You wear shorts!

What four animals does a woman like to have in her house? A tiger in bed, a mink in her closet, a jaguar in her garage and a jackass to pay for it all.

Two drunks were walking home along the railway tracks.
The first drunk says, "There's a hell of a lot of steps here."
The second drunk says, "I'll tell you what's worse, this hand rail is bloody low down"

Want to hear two short jokes and a long joke?
Joke. Joke. Joooooooooooooooooooookkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkke.

A couple is lying in bed. The man says, "I am going to make you the happiest woman in the world" The woman says, "I'll miss you."


A man speaks frantically into the phone, "My wife is pregnant, and her contractions are only two minutes apart!" "Is this her first child?" the doctor queries. "No, you idiot!" the man shouts. "This is her husband!"

[Mick]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Wow Cat...yep you certainly sneaked in there..how are you feeling? hope you dont think I was being arsey on my post to you..just trying to get you to pick up the positives...Hobby or good man ???hmmmm there are plenty of hobbies

[Catbuddy]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Hi Mick,

Thanks for the good advice. I'm feeling some negative things now, but I'm feeling rather than avoiding with AL, and writing about it helps me get through it. I hope the positive times come through on the posts, too. It's really a daily session in honesty - so if it's too morose, that in itself is a kick in the arse to bring more happiness into the present.

My last joke without searching the internet:

Two piece of bread walked into a bar. One got toasted.

:H

Cat

[Mick]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Cat well done you ...for both the joke and the writing it all down...I do the same, only in a diary..yesterdays didnt make too good reading for me either but todays a different day....

Just playing about with avatars..trying to get that one sized for Nurdl..think Ive done it

[Mick]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Nurdl.........for your barbie car as an avatar......

1 Copy that pic as it is
2 Save as downoads or whatever you want
3 Click on the site in my post
4 In box 1 click on browse and download the pic you saved
5 Click continue box
6 Scroll through to box 2 "make my pic "...
7 click on 50%
8 Go to "Im done Resize my picture"
9 Click on "save to disk"
10 It will go to either downloads or user downloads on computer

then just change avatar as normal

[kuya]

af day Tues 4 Dec

SUN .....as PPQ said this is a thread with people trying to live alcohol free. We don't always succeed, but that is our intention.
As you have we may occassionally slip up, but regret it.

What I can't handle in large amounts is repeated talk of moderating, peeps who can and do have a few drinks and can then abstain. They are healthy drinkers ...... I can never be.......but when I hear it I wonder for a few moments if I could and it lowers my resolve.

To slip and regret it is one thing...... A warning. To drink and enjoy it and stop is a fantasy I have abandoned, if that makes sense.

AF daily to me means intending to live AF day to day....an intention not a requirement.

This is why this is my 'home' thread and not any others with lovely people indeed, just not as clearly AF.

I wrote this on yesterday's thread but thought I would repost it today.

MOLLY......your time to NZ time is easy, literally the other side of the world so 9am for you is 9pm for us ( goes out for a couple of weeks when daily saving starts and ends but near enough 12 hours ahead).

The thing I find harder than the time difference is the mood difference, people are more chatty in the evening and there is often no one here to chat to in my evenings which is why I come on for longer times ..... I am a single mum stuck at home and TBH I get lonely and want to chat but there is no one around so I answer posts. As we all know the evenings are the worst time for recovering alcoholics so if it seems like I am always here you now know why.
I have safe drinkers in my 'real' life, I do not have sober recovering alcoholics and I need that, even when they are human and occassionally slip up.

[kuya]

af day Tues 4 Dec

I don't have a problem with the people who can moderate, I just can't . There are mods that I really like but I can't hear too much talk of it.
I read a lot about the meds used to reduce, moderate or abstain and it is fascinating and a route I would try if I fell into the rabbit hole again and couldn't get out.......but that is not the same as going weeks AF and then having a night out. I can't really befriend that person here..... I know I am not yet strong enough and would be tempted.

I also read the UNDEROOS but they are so tight as a group AND I am british and so is my humour ...... Kiwis are more Like brits than aussies somehow.

[ThreeDogNight]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Good morning, Tree, Mick, Can, Cat, KY, Molly, PQ, Lav and all!

Have been up for an hour and a half, but had trouble posting earlier for some reason. Anyway, wanted to say to SF that I have been there before and it is hard to come back when you feel you could be attacked or criticized, but we do come back and try our best to do what's right. I give you credit for coming back so soon and for getting a hold of the situation. That is so important! And look at all the support you got

I read all the posts this a.m. and they are full of wisdom, as usual. Great way for me to start my day. I am feeling better than I did yesterday afternoon, thanks to you. Only on day 12 this time around, but focusing on staying AF. AL brought my problems, and would make everything worse, of course.

I received a book I ordered through ebay yesterday, called WHAT DID I DO LAST NIGHT? as one I hadn't heard of and recommended on another thread. I've read so many books about drinking, and this seems like another inspiring one. DRY was one that really hit me and LIT and THE LIARS CLUB are two favorites, as well. MR TDN saw the the book and looked a bit disgusted as he said "But you're over that now, right?" He'll never get it, so I don't try to explain.

Hope to get in a walk this a.m. while it is still on the mild side. Then hoping to get Mr TDN to go and do some shopping and lunch out of town. Have to work around the dogs' schedule, too.

Okay--have a great AF day, all. Going to check out the other threads now.

TDN

[Mick]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Hi all dont think I will be starting the post tomoirrow.....might be out early doors

[porqoui]

af day Tues 4 Dec

:hallo: Good Morning Everyone

Been playing around with Nurdl's convertible so will post properly on company time. :H

Mick...don't think you have to worry about the Thread Start for tomorrow....look there it is!

(Just kidding TT)...PPQ

[YoungAtHeart]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Aww crap! I just hit the wrong button and lost my whole post! I'm frustrated. :upset: I have stuff I want to get done today before I completely write myself off as a totally lazy fart, so I will get on with that and be back later.

Lots of interesting stuff here today, and I am thinking of you all.

Hugs,
:l
YahYah

[shelbysmiles]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Good morning!
I'm looking for a thread to regularly post in and Kuya directed me here! I'm currently 9 days sober. I'm having good and bad days-mostly good at this point!
Looks like there are a lot of time zones here!
I'll be back to post more later. I just heard my little one ask for a Sharpie...this will not end well.

[porqoui]

af day Tues 4 Dec

YoungAtHeart;1421679 wrote: Aww crap! I just hit the wrong button and lost my whole post!
I feel for you YahYah....will watch for you later when I do a proper post.

shelbysmiles;1421680 wrote: Good morning!
I'm looking for a thread to regularly post in and Kuya directed me here!

:welcome: Shelbysmiles...did she warn you that your name might get changed on this thread? KY do you think SS would work?

Congrats on your 9 days we look forward to getting to know you...PPQ