af day Tues 4 Dec

[kuya]

af day Tues 4 Dec

SBS then .....I got no choice so Shelby doesn't get one! :H

[shelbysmiles]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Ha ha! Cracking up over here! SBS it is!
I needed to laugh this evening; my five year old wrote his name on the couch and threw a block (and broke) a tv. I like to encourage handwriting and shot putting-but not at the expence of my housewares. Normally I would pour many glasses of wine, but I handled it like a responsible parent and informed him Christmas is cancelled :-)
Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! Looking forward to getting to know everyone!

[porqoui]

af day Tues 4 Dec

shelbysmiles;1421966 wrote: Ha ha! Cracking up over here! SBS it is!
I needed to laugh this evening; my five year old wrote his name on the couch and threw a block (and broke) a tv. I like to encourage handwriting and shot putting-but not at the expence of my housewares. Normally I would pour many glasses of wine, but I handled it like a responsible parent and informed him Christmas is cancelled :-)
Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! Looking forward to getting to know everyone!

:H :H

Just remember who gave him the sharpie SBS...PPQ

[scottish lass]

af day Tues 4 Dec

holy guacamole - just signed on and 35 posts to read, not to mention checking yesterdays posts, and then not to even consider tomorrows which are already there! I will never catch up!!
I have had a crappy day today, and felt close to tears, and along with that the desire to drown my sorrows - but all these posts are so uplifting my mood has completely changed! I LOVE IT!
As to pussy warmers, I have those in my car and with the state of my "romatic life" if you can't find me, maybe it will be in my car trying to warm up:H My daughters use them the most (it makes me feel as if I have had a little accident until i remember why there is a warm spreading feeling going on - i know TMI :H) - I wonder how I can tell them this!!
I am so amazed I am sitting here with a smile on my face and all of you have put it there, you really are the best!!
Thank you for my mood swing, I am so grateful. I wished I had signed on earlier....

[porqoui]

af day Tues 4 Dec

SL...sorry you had a crappy day...but so glad we could put a on your face.

Your post just did the same thing for me. Great feeling to head off to bed with. :l

PS. Is your car anything like Nurdl's....do you need an avatar? :H

[kuya]

af day Tues 4 Dec

shelbysmiles;1421966 wrote: Ha ha! Cracking up over here! SBS it is!
I needed to laugh this evening; my five year old wrote his name on the couch and threw a block (and broke) a tv. I like to encourage handwriting and shot putting-but not at the expence of my housewares. Normally I would pour many glasses of wine, but I handled it like a responsible parent and informed him Christmas is cancelled :-)
Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! Looking forward to getting to know everyone!

Ha SBS, I see your tv and raise you a sofa, shed, freezer and four window panes destroyed by a Rottweiler puppy!

Joke:
Man comes home from work to find his wife sliding down the bannister rail

'what ARE you doing ?' he asks

She replies 'you were late so I was keeping your dinner warm'

[CanToo]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Ahahaha. Auto correct changes SBS to ABS. :welcome:SBS. Oh if you need to get KY's attention, just oke: her. She loves it I swear. And if your feeling down and need some positive vibes, PPQ will send it to you.

SL - What color is your PW? Mine's green . I'm glad you chose us tonight!

Det is back in the houzz! :happy:

Tonight's adventure was an after work run followed by a fundraiser for a library in Nepal. It was at a Fair Trade store were I said I would not be buying ANYTHING. Well.... I touched this adorable hippopotamus and when I picked him up I was overcome by a wave of calmness. Could not put him down. Would not. So now I've got this frickin dust collector hippopotamus from Africa. Does anyone want a hippo for x-mas?



CT
xoxo

[CanToo]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Awe, you have a Rotti?

[kuya]

af day Tues 4 Dec

CanToo;1421996 wrote: Awe, you have a Rotti?

No, that was many years back...she was gorgeous :h

[Catbuddy]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Something Brilliant is Happening

Fair warning, abbers. This may be a mick-long post.

First, I loves me pussy warmer. Can't wait for winter to turn it on. Tonight, in fact, took the back rest away so it could be a better buns warmer, too. Have a warmer for the passenger side, too. No one likes to warm alone.

Det, I used to be a great chef. Today, I got my delivery box from the organic farm - beautiful produce. Tonight, I made a frozen pizza. And I was fine.....

Which brings me to the "something brilliant is happening." I have been a hard ass on myself most of my life - too critical, too demanding. Not all of my life, though. I remember being pretty indifferent to school and peer pressure until I hit middle school. Long story short (for another day), broken home environment led to eating disorder, later replaced by AL. THAT's when the crazy drive began, 33 years ago.

I've been AF for all of 64 days. It started slowly, this brilliant thing. A task not completed, a deliverable for my boss not done. But newly in the context of my capable AF self, I didn't care. I thought, WITHOUT GUILT, I've done enough. I'm putting my pencil down. And no bad feelings have come my way. So I did it more. And still, no self-reproach. Now, I'm doing everything I can, and working hard, and prioritizing well; yet like so many, there is just too much on plate. I'm fine with how I'm coping with that reality.

Life became crazy so many years ago, and I tried to be perfect in the face of it.
Failing at being perfect, I sought food and AL for release.
AL became my biggest reason for failing at being perfect.
I gave up AL.
Now I don't need to be perfect.

Glory Halleluia. Inner peace.

Who knew the gifts on the other side of AL.

Cat

[kuya]

af day Tues 4 Dec

OMG Cat......I too am finding the peace in not being perfect. A lifetime of perfection and exhaustion at failing ( who CAN ever be perfect really?).... Now I just say, well I have done my best today, now what's for dinner?

[scottish lass]

af day Tues 4 Dec

I could not believe that I would like an anonymous website as much as this - it is unreall!!!
Thank you so very much!
no PQ, my PW is nothing like nrdls - I have a diesel SUV - a working car, not a mancatcher:H and it is grey, not green CanToo
Cat, I talked to Det almost a year ago about a farm box and have to admit that I found a place, got sorted and did nothing else - on NY resolution list for next year! PS love hiking in the Marin headlands - have you taken your son to the Marine Mammal sanctuary?? My girls love it and have adpoted seals and sealions from there.
I am going to bed a much happier gal than I was two hours ago, bless you all:l:l:l

[CanToo]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Cat -BIG :l to you. Congrats on 64 AF days. Give KY a oke: when you hit 69 (?? It's her favorite number ??)

Nite SL

[Catbuddy]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Well, the fact that we help each other smile, that's wonderful. It's a band of brothers, to be sure.

Kuya, it's amazing this self-acceptance, isn't it? I'm thinking, I didn't just need to be perfect, over time, I needed to punish myself, too. It had gotten so bad in recent years it was positively scary. Now, both feelings are fading. What is this amazing development? Why doesn't anyone tell you about this reward!!!!!! Maybe they do. I didn't research this (sobriety) until I jumped in here.

I'm thinking of some buds who are struggling with the idea of AF.

Maybe you can't imagine a life without AL because you can't imagine coping with life without it. But a life without AL doesn't take near the amount of coping! You can't see that while you are in it, though.

I think this is perhaps true for certain types of drinkers (me included) - the self-medicators, the private daily drinkers. But wow, this is really ringing bells.

************

Lighter side.

Nurdl, I love your avatar, too. I also love your idea of a charm to celebrate my quit date. It is also my son's birth date, so it has double special meaning. And there is always a good reason to be sober on that day.

Cantoo, I love the snowshoeing pictures. You lead such a full life.

Mick, I miss the bunnies. Either bunnies or Eeyore!

KY, your jokes are off the charts.

PPQ, how you doing? Can you make me an avatar if I find a great pic? My ride is a green subaru outback - the preferred ride of No. CA. Really, it is a good snow and rain car with the all wheel drive.

On furniture, I just bought a new leather couch and recliner (last couch was purchased 19 years ago). My dog tried to "bury" a bone in the couch cushions yesterday, complete with paw scratching. Needless to say, she is behind the newly purchased dog gate.

Welcome, SBS!

Cat

[Determinator]

af day Tues 4 Dec

Catbuddy, what a fine philosopher you are.

extra hugs for Scottish Lass xxxxx

tonight Dx and I have decided (conspired even) to threaten the weed infested wasteland that we refer to as our back yard with.....a veggie garden! not everything grows well in the high altitude desert but at least tomatoes, cabbage, hot peppers and basil are on the list so far.
and what kind of gardener would I be without being able to threaten my neighbor with a 45lb zuchinni? LOL

my Honda pilot has the teabag warmer function and I must say it's a lifesaver!

in other fun news I'm going camping with friends on the 14,15 and 16th (yes insane winter camping). so the house is adorned with my various survival accouterments and I have a goretex sleeping bag rated to -40F on it's way.

well, off to accept my imperfection best i can


xxxxxxx