January Generosity Week 4

[Stargazerlily]

January Generosity Week 4

Wow, woke up to lots of snow, chilling cold. It's the season and I hate it. It is kind of scary, when it is this cold and driving is so hazardous. Darn.

TDN, congrats on 60 days, you are getting through each challenge as it comes, and things are getting better and better. Good for you.

Lav, what a nice day, being with your family and treated to lunch.

Rusty, things are going your way, good for you.

Dill, I think your son is starting to get it, sometimes it takes time, as we know. It's not always an instant change, but a realization that grows. Let's hope that's what happens with him. My daughter's issues did not effect me as at that time I was in a different place. However, she had to get into some trouble and even then did not stop right away. It was a process, and painful. She is doing great now, but for a time it was upsetting. Lucky you to have the day off.

Off to get ready for work. Have a great day.

[Lavande]

January Generosity Week 4

Up early & it is Freezing!!!!!
Not more than an inch on snow here but everything is frozen solid. Glad the girls decided to stay over

Hope you have a good day Star & travel safely!

Wishing everyone a safe AF Tuesday!
Lav

[ThreeDogNight]

January Generosity Week 4

I was up early, too, Lav, and it is freezing here and we also have under an inch of snow. We were supposed to get a lot more, but it stayed further south. Hoping to get to exercise class again this a.m.--not too sore, which is a good thing Then back to continue working on the never ending project, which I can't see the end of.

Star, sorry you got all that snow. Drive carefully out there!

Have a great AF day, everyone!

[sooty]

January Generosity Week 4

Hi folks just a quickie from me, it's been number 2 daughters birthday today and I have been run ragged taxiing and catering. No time to log on or anything. Still we had fun, so that's ok.

Just wanted to say the Lav rigatoni is worth a go, I used macaroni cos I found I didn't have rigatoni after all, but it's a fab recipe and the end result is so tasty and it makes so much. Fortunately both daughters were home yesterday and we all made a dent in it and Mr S and I had it again tonight. when I make it again I will reduce quantities cos I hate waste and if it's just me and himself we'd be eating it for day and days.

I hope everyone is having a good Tuesday eve, we've had more snow tonight which has made me very cross cos i'm supposed to be getting my eyebrows done tomorrow and don't know if i'll be able to get out now ....

Hope to see you all on humpday xxx

[Lavande]

January Generosity Week 4

Glad you liked the recipe Sooty
Today happens to be my son-in-law's birthday as well!

TDN, I can believe how cold it is here on the Mason Dixon line - it was 14 degrees the last I checked - geez!
Hope you were able to get to your exercise class today. I'm going in the AM

[cyntree]

January Generosity Week 4

Hey everybody - a quick 'hi' from me. I seem to have been on a long traverse of the dark side of the moon, but I think I'm coming out of it now...I have just summoned the energy to read back through last week and it has been incredibly comforting to hear how everyone is doing...
Lav - recipes, stress-relief and health notes, thanks. Rusty, congrats on all the clients, I am personally happy that you are not flying around everywhere these days. PMom, I think today was your first new job day, no? I hope all has gone well. LBH, so glad that 'as the ankle turns' was not as dramatic as it seemed at first. Sooty, so good to see you often, stay warm. G-bloke, I will quickly now follow your link, thanks for that. Chill, what a trial, take care. TDN, keep at it, and congrats. Kas, fantastic on 23 months. Star, hope you are staying warm and bright. Dill, what a scare with your son, so sorry, good luck. Cat, congrats on every day free. Sorry to anyone I skipped - I'll catch up with you --

Hope to be coming more into myself soon, and will attempt to post more...in the meantime, wishing all well...

[ThreeDogNight]

January Generosity Week 4

Good morning, all!

It is -3 here right now!! Even colder tonight, which I cannot imagine. I think I will stay in today and work on the never-ending project and forget about going out.

Cyn, sorry for whatever it is that is going on for you. Hope to get to know you better. Think you are in AZ for a few months?

Yesterday was a hard day menlally for me. Thinking of how I probably didn't need to get that Intoxalock on. Yet another guy who had one told me at the gym yesterday that there was no way the state had received notice of it if i got my license back and I should have waited. I really an trying not to focus so much on having the thing and being embarrassed to be seen with it, but yesterday it was really bothering me. And Mr TDN was pretty down, too. I went to help at the flower shop for a couple of hours after exercise, and when I got home, I took a Seredyn. Also got another bill from insurance--I knew the agent didn't know what she was talking about with the first bill--another reminder of where i was with AL. I then tried to focus on where I am now compared to last year. And had a pretty honest talk with Mr TDN, who is still dealing with all the effects of my drinking and lying. I know how hard it is and need to try to be more patient. Just wish he'd get some help from the doctor with an anti-depressant.

So today I will try to stay positive and grateful--with some 'Lavanitude."

Hope you all have a great AF day!
TDN.

[Stargazerlily]

January Generosity Week 4

Quick good morning to all...

Beastly cold, just want to sleep and sleep, but on to work.

Cyn, say more about what is going on, think I have been visiting with you on that dark side.

Lots of leftovers, Sooty, but good, then no cooking today.

Have a good day.

[Rusty]

January Generosity Week 4

Good Morning Everyone,

I have been having MAJOR internet and I.Explorer issues and I haven't been able to post much.

Papmom-how was your first day at the new job? Inquiring minds want to know.

Sooty-your daughter's birthday party sounded like such fun. You must feel so trapped when it snows since you don't get snow much in the UK, do you? I know my former client's business in the Manchester area would shut down for a few days when it snowed.

Star-why are you feeling down? Is it the weather?

Cyn-please let us know why you are on the dark side....we all care about you and think of you often...so of course, we want to help.:l

TDN-I so wanted to express in my email last night how I don't think you should give up on getting that Intoxalock device removed. Is there a "higher power" in the DA's office or the PD you can appeal to? I know nothing about the Intoxalock and you say you're embarrassed about it....is it noticeable on the exterior of your vehicle? I am in your corner and I will try and think of other solutions.:l I had no idea you didn't have insurance and to have all those bills coming in....how frightening.:upset: Please don't worry about what other people think....seriously...most people are just worried about themselves. I used to fret a lot about what other people would think and now I really don't care...unless they are good friends, good family, or good clients. I think it is either MWO members One2Many or Startingover who says "What people think of me is none of my busines!!" I really like that saying. I am just VERY glad you are with us on this thread....and how you support people who are struggling on other threads. I will try and send you another email when I'm at the airport this afternoon. Yes, you should be proud of how far you have come since last year.:goodjob: Is the exercise helping your mood at all? Also, I wanted to say I really relate about the consequences of drinking. I went over my old bank statements last week and the amount of $$ I spent on booze (CRINGE)....and with my job change, I really could have used that money. Also, I do get reminders of my lying, etc., from time to time but it's tacit and obvious to only to me. It still bothers me, though.

Dill-you have been in my mind and step since yesterday afternoon. I thought of your son and how he was treated at the VA when he was seeking help for his drinking. My cleaning lady's partner, Mike, had the same experience. When Mike made an appointment with a counselor at the VA, this counselor didn't bother to tell him she had called in sick until he arrived at the VA, which was 75 miles away! She never called to reschedule. When he initially sought help at the VA, they acted very shocked and then indifferent, asking why he would seek treatment because he owns his home, which his paid off, he has a very job, no DUIs or problems with the law...etc. I told my cleaning lady it's probably because he didn't look like he had bottomed out and they are told to take the worst cases first. You would think they would be delighted to see someone who voluntarily came to the VA seeking help BEFORE he bottomed out.

Big hellos to Chill (stay safe), LBH, the cougar, Rustop (hope you're ok...just busy?) Lav, Kaslo, Mick, Cat, Mr. G, and anyone who stops by. Have a fabulous AF Wednesday!

[Lavande]

January Generosity Week 4

Oh yes it is 9 degrees outside this morning but the sun is out
Really freaking freezing for these parts!

Cyn, sorry you have had the blues. I think the majority of us here have had a touch of it as well. I think the trick is to not let yourself dwell there too long. Grab a hand & we'll yank you out of bluesville, OK?

TDN, my Lavan-ittude is telling me that if there is a chance of getting rid of the device on your car - then just do it! If not then you are just going to have to learn to live with it as peacefully as possible while it's there. Focus on your freedom & your gratitude. As far as depressed spouses go......I'm thinking of writing a book. My daughter is dealing with a depressed spouse & it's hard to watch her deal with that

Greetings Star & Rusty!
Cold, cold & more cold, huh??

Dill, navigating the VA hospital & healthcare system has never been easy. They definitely have their own way of doing things. I think the key to getting help from them is to literally make a persistent pain in the ass of yourself, don't take no for an answer.

OK, I need to bundle up & get myself to Curves.
Have a great AF Humpday everyone!
Lav

[sooty]

January Generosity Week 4

Rusty! Trapped is exactly how I feel! And the damn stuff is still falling.

No new eyebrows for me today, I shall have to stay fuzzy till next Tuesday

I did make a vegan carrot cake with tofu cream topping this morning though and it's really rather nice (says she modestly). I just hope the snow and ice ease off or I will be the size of a house :H

Have a great humpday folks and keep safe if you've got nasty weather :l

[ThreeDogNight]

January Generosity Week 4

Rusty, the insurance is the "extra" insurance on your vehicle when you have a DUI. It's SR-22, I think. I have to pay close to $200 more than we just paid--which already showed an increase. That is for six months. And it has to be on both vehicles, although I never drive Mr TDN's car.

I do need to stop thinking about what others think. Have always had trouble with that, but moreso now.

Don't dare ask about getting the device removed. May try to do that at a later date, but it was on my original court papers, so they most likely screwed it up.

Sooty--that cake sounds good! I have been eating a big cupcake I bought a couple of days ago:H

[dill]

January Generosity Week 4

Just a quick check in for me.
TDN, hold your head up high. You've no reason to let other's opinions get you down.

Rusty and Lav, it truly has been a frustration to him to deal with the system at the VA, and it is quite a drive to get there, too. He gave up and pursued help in the private sector.

Cyn, I'm glad you are coming around to the light side of the moon. I've been wondering where you have been lately.

Star, Sooty, everyone, have a happy Hump Day!

[cyntree]

January Generosity Week 4

Thanks all for your sweet hellos. No worries about me, I just spoke about the journey to tell you why I've been 'away'...I just didn't have the energy or focus to relate to anything outside my closest sphere of influence (dogs, mostly, with a little HB thrown in). What is/was it, and why? Who knows, and really at this point I don't much care. I fortunately fell into thinking about it in the way that Pema Chodron suggests - I'm just beginning to listen to her "Getting Unstuck" - I noticed it, and then just went on to do whatever I could manage to do. If I could channel LBH I would write a charming and funny story about finding myself at a mall (which I never went to when I lived here), wandering aimlessly and then bursting into tears when I tried to order something at the Food Court. At the time it felt pretty embarrassing and extremely strange, but....whatever...

At any rate, I seem to be coping with the world somewhat better these days, and have the energy to reach out, so thank goodness for the growing light of the moon - I keep hoping that it is reflecting the growing light in me...

My heart is with all of you in the deep freeze -- good luck with this tough weather. Sooty, happy hump day, and good luck with cabin fever! My best to everyone --

[ladybirdheart]

January Generosity Week 4

Just a quick note to say hello. To all on the dark side, remember it is temporary even though it doesn't feel that way?if you get stuck we can send out a search party, I know the territory far too well, I can find anybody.

I just got back from my Tai Chi class, very pleasant, and tonight I am going to watch a documentary I have been so looking forward to, "Searching for Sugar Man", that came from Netflix. I think I am feeling a bit better as, after temperatures at zero Fahrenheit that not get above freezing for days, it was in the fifties today, people were running around like happy bunnies in the sun. I'll check in longer with you tomorrow as I shall be home much of the day. Love, Ladybird.