af day Mon 11 Feb

[Catbuddy]

af day Mon 11 Feb

TT, congratulations on your four months sober! You've been so consistent here - I'm sure that's part of it. You're out in the beautiful clear water swimming with the fishes!

(That's my metaphor for gettting out of the tumbling surf).

Cat

[blondie]

af day Mon 11 Feb

Morning

Hi Molly - nice to see you - how was you holiday?
Hi Patrice and welcome here; I've seen you around the boards (spent some time in KL, never made it to Penang. Would go back in a minute but for the dog/quarantine!) Isn't your time the same as WA?

Hi Kuya - if it's the moon, then it's wreacking havoc on me these couple of days. Trying to sort myself out, but I might have to offload, particularly as I'm seeing benefits in returning to my drinking (I don't physcially crave a drink, but I'm in a morass.) Sorry to latch that whinge onto your morning greeting!! How's the animals of AKK today?

Morning Teezah. Hi Lav - thanks for reminder re thoughts.
Hi Turn - I hope you floor saga goes well. I am working overtime on my gratitude for having a house.

SL - Congrats on your week:goodjob:

Cat - Nice to find some helpful elves at the bottom of your garden! I need to borrow your yard boys (strictly for yard work )

[YoungAtHeart]

af day Mon 11 Feb

You're not a downer, blondie. Finances are very real, and I can sure relate to feeling stuck financially. It sounds like it is very hard to find solutions, so I am hoping that you think of something you haven't thought of before when you least expect it. Hang onto yourself and don't give in to those drinking thoughts. Sending hugs your way.

Hi everyone else. Welcome Patrice!

Well I got through my working weekend without drinking but I did have some cigarettes. I threw the rest away when I left the rental house. I will NOT let that habit come back in to my life.

I didn't have any help with painting this weekend, as my sis got snowed in up in New York. I will have several weeks of painting/repairs that I can do to save money. I'm completely cash poor! It is very overwhelming though, so I hope I will have some friends/relatives to help with some of it.

I felt very sad at times in the house. I know it is the best thing to do to sell it, but I remember being happy here as a child, and I had memories of my father dancing me around and singing to me in the living room. So it is hard to let go.

Sorry if I sound self-absorbed (I am, at the moment).

TT, congrats on your 4 months! That is stellar! :goodjob:

Okay, will sign off for now.

Hugs,
:l
YahYah

[porqoui]

af day Mon 11 Feb

:stomper: 4th attempt at posting...internet keeps crashing.

So quickly want to say CONGRATS ON 4 MONTHS TT and isn't nice when you just happen to realize it!

And Blondie you're not a downer...ever. :h And I should know cause that's what everyone tells me when I end one of my posts with that. :H

Going to try submit this then will post tomorrow if connection doesn't keep dropping.

Oh - I had a FABULOUS day today.....PPQP

[Determinator]

af day Mon 11 Feb

yay TreeTops! chocolate cake for you tonight.

Patrice, welcome aboard, how are you?

sorry to be brief...crazy Monday and working late

be well

[patrice]

af day Mon 11 Feb

Hi all,

Thanks for the welcome !!!
Det = I'm fine back on the road again...I do remember having great culinary chats with you in the past.. not sure if you remember but I live in Asia and we often talked Curry

Take care everyone
Patrice

[kuya]

af day Mon 11 Feb

Pat we must exchange curry recipes......I LOVE curry.

Blondie, Yah, like you finances are a headache but I have no illusion that drinking will help. I will just be $20 poorer, hungover and back on day 1

It is stressful though. My business is part of my home so if the business fails, which seems distinctly possible ATM, I also lose my home. I have no savings and $1000 in the bank as I sank everything into the place just before the recession hit.

BUT...... The sun is shining, the birds are singing, we are all fed, clothed, housed and well.

For that alone I have a lot to be grateful

[patrice]

af day Mon 11 Feb

Great attitude Kuya and so true.. Let me make you financial worriers feel a little better

I have no house ( missed that boat and now too old to get a mortgage)
No money
No pension ( never lived anywhere long enough to get one)
Nearly 50 with a 7 year old ( so still nowhere near the financially draining teenage years)
But
I have a job ( I'll be working till I drop)
My health
A tiny bit of gold and silver in a vault
And NOW my intended Sobriety
More than enough to be happy!!

Have a great day!

[patrice]

af day Mon 11 Feb

Oh Kuya I very rarely cook Curry... you can buy any kind of curry here, homemade from stalls, day or night for $2.50 NZ.. that includes the rice!! And Condiments. Add a coconut water or carrot apple and ginger juice and it comes to $3.00 Crazy huh!! No one cooks here in Penang its just too cheap to buy it already made

[kuya]

af day Mon 11 Feb

patrice;1461253 wrote: Oh Kuya I very rarely cook Curry... you can buy any kind of curry here, homemade from stalls, day or night for $2.50 NZ.. that includes the rice!! And Condiments. Add a coconut water or carrot apple and ginger juice and it comes to $3.00 Crazy huh!! No one cooks here in Penang its just too cheap to buy it already made

Dammit you are making me drool!

[YoungAtHeart]

af day Mon 11 Feb

Yes, it does help to keep money in perspective. The last several years have been a journey of finally growing up financially. My financial future isn't glorious, but when all is said and done, I am more fortunate than many and will survive just fine.

A note for you, Patrice. My daughter is 23 and self-sufficient. I couldn't buy her everything she wanted as a teen, so she got a job. She has worked through college (and had help from grandparents and loans). I truly think it was a blessing in disguise that I HAD to say no.

Kuya, I will send wishes out to the universe that you keep your business and your home. And you are so right, you'd just be $20 poorer.

I just like to whinge a bit.

:l

PS: I am a total weenie about curry. I only like it mild. You two would LYAO at me.

[kuya]

af day Mon 11 Feb

patrice;1461251 wrote: Great attitude Kuya and so true.. Let me make you financial worriers feel a little better

I have no house ( missed that boat and now too old to get a mortgage)
No money
No pension ( never lived anywhere long enough to get one)
Nearly 50 with a 7 year old ( so still nowhere near the financially draining teenage years)
But
I have a job ( I'll be working till I drop)
My health
A tiny bit of gold and silver in a vault
And NOW my intended Sobriety
More than enough to be happy!!

Have a great day!

It's all about perception

[patrice]

af day Mon 11 Feb

Yes Perception and avoidance of the mistake of comparison!

[kuya]

af day Mon 11 Feb

YoungAtHeart;1461262 wrote: Yes, it does help to keep money in perspective. The last several years have been a journey of finally growing up financially. My financial future isn't glorious, but when all is said and done, I am more fortunate than many and will survive just fine.

A note for you, Patrice. My daughter is 23 and self-sufficient. I couldn't buy her everything she wanted as a teen, so she got a job. She has worked through college (and had help from grandparents and loans). I truly think it was a blessing in disguise that I HAD to say no.

Kuya, I will send wishes out to the universe that you keep your business and your home. And you are so right, you'd just be $20 poorer.

I just like to whinge a bit.

:l


PS: I am a total weenie about curry. I only like it mild. You two would LYAO at me.

There is nothing wrong with a whinge......today the sun is shining here....you know how my mood plummets when it rains. My whinge will come.

Just good to know it is not absolute.

[scottish lass]

af day Mon 11 Feb

hi all, glad you had another good day PPQ, my day was good too!
I would also like your yard men Cat - I have huge blocks of wood that need chopping so I can make a firewood stack!! That would be a good help.
Patrice, Hi! but you are scaring me about the mortgage! I am 50 with a 14 and 12 year old, so worrying about college days. My life went wrong about 5 years ago when my (then) husbands business - he was self employed, and this was to be our retirement plan:H, - started to go down the tubes. The house was in my name as he was self employed - well I lost the house, lost the husband too as he could not see the problems we were in. He has now lost his business, so no retirement. He is homeless, managing to find places to sleep at the present and jobless. All of a sudden, I am trying to get upright and am sole parent for my girls. I am working hard - I am lucky to have a good job - getting my finances in order to get a mortgage in hopefully 3 years. I have been told that I can qualify 3-5 years after losing my last house, and have my hopes pinned on that - hopefully I have not been sold load of you know what????
I agree YAH, about the girls working thru college - it will not be bad for them, but the way that loans etc care, I know they will need some help.
As you all have said, perspective says it all, I am going to get solid again - I will rise to the top and being AF is such a huge help! Kuya, hopefully you will survive this - the economy we are all dealing with over the world has truly hurt so many people.
All this financial talk, looks like you still have your job Det - the call to your boss was not as anticipated? Hope all is good there?
I love curry too and went to nusring school in the middle of England where lots of good curry was to be had, not so easy to get good curry here thou, and I miss it so much! Used to get curry and chips after night shift, nothing better - but that was not what you would call good curry:H