af day Mon 18 Feb

[kuya]

af day Mon 18 Feb

teezah;1465033 wrote: MAE Abfabbers,

I thought I checked in already but must be having a "moment"!

I would like to ask if anyone can direct me to a friendly & funny thread in the General Discussion that I can dip into and out of for a bit of fun and support? Thanks!!

Have a lovely day :H

The most active thread is newbies nest. That is where most post during early sobriety. Otherwise jump in anywhere.......no one minds

[scottish lass]

af day Mon 18 Feb

Here and hanging.

Did not make it to coast, needed an ocean fix, but too much going on. Saw you went Cat - and on the best day weather wise - did you see whale spouts?? I am jealous.

Youngest daughter is requesting to see therapist too, which is good - we will all move forward and get better, just hurts to get there.

Did drink, sorry to say - but am doing so much better than last year, and so much better than the many, many years prior. Happy to stop drinking again yesterday - so it has to be working in some way - please don't give up on me, I will keep going and one day I will post that it has been a year!

[kuya]

af day Mon 18 Feb

scottish lass;1465237 wrote: Here and hanging.

Did not make it to coast, needed an ocean fix, but too much going on. Saw you went Cat - and on the best day weather wise - did you see whale spouts?? I am jealous.

Youngest daughter is requesting to see therapist too, which is good - we will all move forward and get better, just hurts to get there.

Did drink, sorry to say - but am doing so much better than last year, and so much better than the many, many years prior. Happy to stop drinking again yesterday - so it has to be working in some way - please don't give up on me, I will keep going and one day I will post that it has been a year!

Why don't you tell your daughters SL? You would have accountability then. I have always felt you have always left this door ajar by not discussing it with them. They are not babies any more, they ALREADY know !

It might mature your relationship with them and help them work through their own issues if they see you working through yours.

My daughter is only 13 and is fully aware of my battle with addiction. I feel I owe it to her to be honest since she will soon face peer pressure to drink AND take drugs.

This is a door you really need to close SL, you need to get off the merry go round.

[blondie]

af day Mon 18 Feb

scottish lass;1465237 wrote: - please don't give up on me, I will keep going and one day I will post that it has been a year!

There's no chance of that; we'll hound you to sobriety :H But more importantly, don't give up on yourself. :l It will happen. I know

Over-emoticonned!!

[Determinator]

af day Mon 18 Feb

Hidy ho ABeroooos!

On my iPad at a restaurant here doing the hotel thing this week. Feeling strong in my AFness happy to say

TT so sorry to hear of your loss.

Worked long hours through the weekend so haven't gotten caught up here yet. Very tired and looking forward to an early night.

Will check chat when I get back to my room

Be well everyone!

[treetops]

af day Mon 18 Feb

Hi there SL - we will not give up on you!
I also discussed my addiction with my daughter - she is a wee bit older (15 on Sunday!) but for years she has known about my drinking. I guess during the past 2 years or so she has been old enough to understand addiction more.
All kids and parents have different dynamics of course.
I still remember her saying a while back 'Mum I don't want you to die' and the utter sadness she was feeling.
We still argue and I am The Boss - but being open about this has been important in my sobriety and I think in how she is dealing with being a teenager. At the moment she is very anti-drink and drugs - she loves Tiramisu but wont eatit if it has even a smidgen of AL in it!

[porqoui]

af day Mon 18 Feb

:l SL no-one's giving up on you so don't go anywhere...and we'll all be there to celebrate your one year.

Just saw this before heading to bed....

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f2...too-73564.html

[scottish lass]

af day Mon 18 Feb

Thx all - I am happy to be able to stay around.
KY - the girls don't know the whole story, they have so much to work through just now, they do know that my plan is not to drink and they shamed me this weekend by telling me off. I do not want to tell them everything as I don't want their dad to know as I worry he will use it against me....
Day 2 closing out - and as usual feelin good about it....gonna keep this feeling in a bottle and spray it over me every day...

[kuya]

af day Mon 18 Feb

scottish lass;1465299 wrote: Thx all - I am happy to be able to stay around.
KY - the girls don't know the whole story, they have so much to work through just now, they do know that my plan is not to drink and they shamed me this weekend by telling me off. I do not want to tell them everything as I don't want their dad to know as I worry he will use it against me....
Day 2 closing out - and as usual feelin good about it....gonna keep this feeling in a bottle and spray it over me every day...

After what has happened I would imagine the girls would be far too discreet to tell the ex......kids are very diplomatic, sometimes too much so as you know.

I suggested them for accountability, not for counselling, for which you come here.