July AA Thread

[Determinator]

July AA Thread

Betty so proud of what you've accomplished for your brain and body. and some good news...fruit is most certainly paleo! it's natures own wonderful dessert.

Witts End, I'm wishing we had some of your cool weather. it's almost 100F again here today. I finally broke down and bought a darn AC unit and have it installed in the window. slowing cooling here. whew!

great meeting today reading the last half of Bills story in the big book. this lead to a very interesting discovery about higher powers. one lady made some rather crass generalizations about atheists and I held my tongue until after the meeting and spoke with her privately. she was stunned to hear I was an atheist based on the content of my shares over the months and has revised her opinions.
at this point in my life, my HP is life itself. AL= death. I choose life. it's really very simple for me.

[retteacher]

July AA Thread

Deter:

Me too! And that's not just physical death...I was dying emotionally & spiritually as well. I'm so glad you spoke to the woman who had notions about atheists/agnostics. Close-mindedness has no place in AA. I try to remember HOW: honesty, open-mindedness, & willingness.

BG:

What an amazing story of transformation! You absolutely have a story to tell. I hope someone asks you to speak. Others will be inspired. We don't know who we will reach when we speak about our recovery.

Take care one & all. We too are in the middle of a heat wave, though I think it's a pretty mild one in comparison to what you're having Deter.

Mary

[witts end]

July AA Thread

I prefer the cooler weather I don't cope with the summer the humidity drains me and you just can't get cool but in the winter you can always throw on another blanket or jacket to get warm

[Determinator]

July AA Thread

same here WittsEnd. I feel so lethargic when it's super hot.

thanks Mary, agreed for sure.

nice meeting today even though it covered the 6th tradition and it's not exactly great discussion material.

love to all

[retteacher]

July AA Thread

Deter: I'm not even sure what the 6th trad is, but sometimes those trad meetings can be groaners. However, trads are necessary for sure. Without them, AA would never have survived intact for so long. I particularly like the 3rd & the one about group autonomy. The trads are what make AA so unique as an organization.

I missed a meeting yesterday so as to spend an evening w/kids & g-kids. Hope to go to one today or tomorrow. M

[witts end]

July AA Thread

Hello everyone just a quick hello this morning too much on to day

[retteacher]

July AA Thread

Last night's discussion was on the Serenity Prayer. Very good. M

[witts end]

July AA Thread

hello where is everyone

[retteacher]

July AA Thread

WE: We're here.

Last night was a story out of the BB that I could identify with. The person in the story said she couldn't identify w/AA speakers when she first joined AA. The stories were more extreme than hers & made her doubt her alcoholism. I too had that experience. Am I really an alcoholic if I haven't lost home, job, license, marriage, etc.? I found out that I was an alcoholic, because I didn't drink like a normal person. Those losses hadn't happened yet. My relapse of last summer taught me a real lesson, because as soon as I took that first drink, the obsession set in & took hold of me.

For me, drinking is all or nothing. No in between. I do not have the luxury of taking the edge off or softening the edges of life w/any kind of a substance. I'm learning to deal w/life's ups & downs one day at a time.

Mary

[witts end]

July AA Thread

hello everyone I guess this is the page rusty was referring to sorry But I don't go to AA at the present but have been in the past to the ladies group ......just felt out of place.....and for some reason didn't connect
I thought this was a page for the month of july af free

[bettygirl]

July AA Thread

hi witts and mary..deter! I have been on a sort of computer break...don't like to spend too much time vegging out these days.
I have to say, I love the heat! we are in seattle for the next few days, and it's chilly compared to where I live in central Washington! I live in high desert and just love that climate.

way to handle that lady det. people always have a hard time believing i'm an atheist...it's like we can't be good people, unless we have religion to tell us how.

I too, find the 12 traditions BORING, but, it's history and an explanation of the "program", so I guess it's important .

so, like I said, im in seattle with my husband, he's having his 5th eye surgery this year...things don't look good (no pun)...he will most likely not regain much sight in that eye...bummer, but he has started to get used to it and to deal with the emotions that come with it. I am glad that I can be there fully to support him and hopefully help him to live a full life, even without full sight. we take it as it comes and haven't been too stressed out this time. maybe we're just used to it now! he is learning to deal with that just like I am learning to deal with sobriety, so its a nice compliment to each other. he is such a good guy, I hate to see him go through this, but we count our blessings and keep on keeping on!

anyway, I will be home tomorrow night. I haven't been to many meetings lately and I missed my friend's speaker meeting staurday, i'm ashamed to say...but I told her I would try to get there, but for her not to count on it. at least I was honest in the first place. she said she didn't have expectations, and if I was there, that would be cool, and if not, cool too. I love sober honesty!

well, I better go take care of the patient...poor guy has to have his face down for the next 5-7 days! eeek!

peace!

[bettygirl]

July AA Thread

5 Keys to Accepting What You Can't Change | Shake Off the Grind



some helpful advice

[Determinator]

July AA Thread

awww Betty, that's a bummer your hubby is going through such an ordeal. hope this surgery works out.

good speaker meeting today with a discussion of 'honesty'. sure is a simple word, but the key to all of my challenges. being honest with myself. hence the 'know thyself' line. if I don't have self knowledge and self honesty, I have no groundwork for any kind of meaningful recovery or development.

Mary, you and I both. all or nothing. so happy we have chosen life.

[retteacher]

July AA Thread

Deter: Sober is the only way I want to live...it's the only I can live.

This morning we read from "Living Sober." The passage was on relationships. I know that my very long marriage has changed since my sobriety. So much of my interaction w/my husb (while I was drinking) was based on lies, subterfuge, codependence, not rocking the boat, guilt, remorse, etc. Now, he has to deal w/my feelings, opinions, reactions, etc. Instead of a zombie, he has to deal w/a real live person. It's not always easy. That said: What we have now is more authentic & real. I don't keep everything in. We can deal w/an issue, settle it, & move on. Much better!

M

[witts end]

July AA Thread

sorry for hubby betty girl
that is one thing I would hate to loose nor the use of my hands

yes it does take courage to accept the things you can't change