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**treetops** · October 7, 2013, 01:51 AM

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MAE everyone.

Well its great to have Cinders back in the loop and I look forward to her posts.

SF ? yes, those talks we have with our kids about our addiction and AL are important. I think you will this is esp so as your boys get closer to teenage years. I didn?t hide my addiction and pain with stopping AL from my daughter ? and she has been one of my greatest allies (my partner and GP rate up there too). Daughter and I have also talked a lot about mental health issues and tolerance of those who have problems like addiction.

But today I was in a meeting with my colleagues and I blurted out that I don?t drink AL (this was in relation to planning a social event and people were discussing wine). It just came out ? so I don?t know what they think. I suspect they already knew I had quit ? but now its like I have tossed my colours to the wind. I didn?t elaborate and no one asked me. But I hope they don?t think I was trying to sound ?superior? because that was not the intent at all. I simply saw it in the same light as discussing dietary preferences ? like who is vegetarian, halal, who drinks coffee etc and so forth.

Except we all know many people don?t perceive being AF as just another dietary choice. Like I was at a store recently and there was a free bag on offer (with cosmetics). I said ?what would I do with it?? and she said ?oh you could take it to the beach when you sip your wine?. Self replies in deadpan voice ??I don?t drink?. Saleswoman says ?well you could have a cup of nice cup of tea? and I almost screamed ?I don?t drink sodding tea at the beach? (I only drink tea for breakfast). I managed to get a laugh out of her ? and I didn?t spend the extra to get the revolting useless bag.

Sorry ? too long!!

Hope you enjoyed the weekend everyone else ? Bear, great that you are keeping to the ?pledge?
Mick ? nice wee drive yesterday? And you are offski as I write this. We nearly had thread confusion today.You have a good day.

Lav ?have you de-stinkified the place yet? What did you do for YB?s birthday?
Det ? lucky you having a lie-in ?I can?t seem to be able to do this even when I give myself permission. You need this though with all the manic driving you do
Sam- sounds like an interesting weekend for you too.
Pauly ? back at work again?
YahYah ? expect to see you post soon and we will know where your jaunts have led you.

I have some tasks to do before the beauty sleep (alas no bag!) kicks in and magic fairies do their job.:wings:

If only - have a great Monday. Its not too bad in upside down land tonight.

**bear73** · October 7, 2013, 03:52 AM

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morning all - off to jump in shower in a mo - been to doc re anxiety and then to vet dropping in insurance claim forms,picking up more prescription food and returning cat's unused drugs.

Doc listened to me and said I had good insight, and suggested I call new NHS CBT service, I am doing that don't really want to take pills as I think problem is in my thinking/interpretation of events and thinking. We talked about not doing too much - explained I felt alcohol made it worse and that previously I was a heavy drinker( in case she said 2-3 glasses of wine is ok) as were talking about me removing things (like booze/cigs/junk food)that I would have previously used to relax.I didn't want to give myself the excuse of hearing 2 -3 glasses of wine is ok! Feel better - I will also book into to see nurse semi regularly at weight loss clinic with food and exercise diary.

Off to stay in hotel this pm far away for conference tomorrow taking netbook to watch game of thrones and have bought magazines.Not tempted to drink - looking forward to nice early yummy dinner and pottering about in my room.Hopefully there will be wifi but if not see you tomorrow night after epic journey

**Lavande** · October 7, 2013, 07:46 AM

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Good Monday morning Abbers!

All dark & cloudy here in these parts - rain on the way.

Greetings Mick!
There's lots of work to be done around here, I'm accepting volunteers :H :H
The stink bug situation has been much better the past few days. Last Thursday's catch of 130 of them freaked me out, gag!!! The chicks are loving their new quarters with lots of room to run around & flap wings

For YB's birthday I picked up Chinese food & and an apple pie (weird combo) but that's the stuff he likes. I bought him a couple of new shirts from Eddie Bauer's - he's sadly outgrown so much. He is not taking serious care of himself, I can't make him cooperate - never could.

bear, glad to hear you are moving forward. Whatever it takes, right?
Stayed focused while away from home!

Cindi, glad to see you are OK. Good luck with your new job!!!

Greetings to everyone else. Sending wishes for a great AF Monday for all!
Lav

**Determinator** · October 7, 2013, 06:47 PM

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Happy un-hung Monday ABeroooooos!

made it to my hotel room in one piece and getting through work emails.

Lav, glad you resisted the 'revolting useless bag' LOL that was too funny.

Say, there must be a market for local, organic stinkbugs? hmmmmm....

Bear, great job not getting sucked into the moderating thing. for normies, they can do it, but we are
very special animals and need specialized care.

off to look at the hotel's workout room... wish me luck

be well

**Cinders** · October 7, 2013, 07:32 PM

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MAE Abbers,

First day on the new job done and dusted. :-)

I am very pleased with my decision to work there. Good people abound.

I woke early and went to exercise room this morning. I took it easy but plan on using it daily.

It sounds like all are well. Let's keep it that way as we head into Tuesday. :-)

Love,
Cindi

**Determinator** · October 7, 2013, 08:35 PM

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right on Cindi! great stuff all around.

instead of using the exercise room at the hotel, I just did jump-split squats in my room (huff, pant) then went for a nice long walk. I found a health food shop and bought some things to have a picnic in my room.
on the way back I saw a huge bunch of lovely yellow lillys, so I stopped to 'chat' with them a bit. flowers are very understanding and great listeners

**TheSunFlower** · October 7, 2013, 09:50 PM

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Mick-my hobby is my yoga

Actually, I am outgrowing some old friends and I am making new ones all the time. An old friend called up today and we had a lovely chat.

TT...my boys are biggest allies as well. Me NOT drinking is becoming more normal to them. I know they get nervous in certain situations....but, seem to get this total relaxed look as I order an ice tea. Its becoming my norm as well. But, never get to self assured

Bear enjoy your trip....I could never find a decent workout room in a hotel. Like I use a workout room anyways.....

Lav...we got the rain yesterday....absolutely gorgeous day today.....sending it your way.

Det....good for you on the workout and exploring healthy places.

Cinders...I know you got a new job....but, I must have missed something. So you are away from home?

Not much to report here. I have been fiddling with the computer all night. Long story short....I ended up making an appointment at the Apple store. I hate going there for help.....they get all smug when you can't seem to load the simpliest things.

**Samstone** · October 7, 2013, 10:31 PM

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Evening all
been a little sparse here. Used my high speed allotment. Living where I do, it seems I'm held ransom by the internet gods. Hope all had a good day.
Sam

**treetops** · October 7, 2013, 11:08 PM

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Hi SF
I have exactly the same attitude re the Apple Store - so this is a global thing.
All part of the Apple branding :H:H
sometimes I wonder if its because I am a middle aged woman - young men tend to talk down to us - when it comes to technology

My workouts this week consist of housework - its all I can fit in besides paid work

**Cinders** · October 7, 2013, 11:44 PM

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TT

Young men tend to talk down to me until they figure out that I know more than they do and I can make their lives better.

Do not let them talk down to you, show them what you can do.

Cindi

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