af Wednesday 9 October

[treetops]

MAE all. Thought I would start the thread but I don't have time to welcome everyone individually. I just have so many deadlines at the moment - and daughter does too. Anyway I saw this wee gem posted by Samstone - on another thread

"So my approach has been not to worry that I'm not drinking but to enjoy not drinking. It is a very simplistic thing but for me, it has been working."

I really like this and I think it sums up what many on our daily ABs thread have achieved or are trying to achieve.

Thanks Sam

Everyone Have a great sober Wednesday and I might check in later.
Cold and overcast in the South Pole!!! :

[Samstone]

af Wednesday 9 October

A good early morning here. Just got back from playing music with friends. A good time was had by all.

Evening there TT, I had to see what time of day it was in your neck of the woods. Today is my 150th day of sobriety. When I first started here and posting my times at the roll call, I would wait to make sure I made it through the day. Then I had a thought that I post it earlier in the morning to set it in motion that I wasn't going to drink and not wait to see what happened. I know I'm typing with folks that have much more time and I'm grateful to "know" each of you. Time is a good thing to have in distancing and keeping the ugly alcohol animal at bay.

Hoping each of you have or had a good day.
Sam

[treetops]

af Wednesday 9 October

150 days is fantastico!
Thats 15 lots of 10 days which shows how it adds up - or 30 lots of 5 days. (think I have my maths right)

Its not a race or competition to see who has the most AF time - and we are very proud of you:groupluv:

[bear73]

af Wednesday 9 October

morning all - am back late last night - course was great,room lovely overlooking racecourse and enjoyed sleeping and catching up on game of thrones.I am on day 19 I think now, feeling good and also feeling more on top of anxiety since I saw GP - even though nothing has changed.

She just broke it down into small steps - my main priorities are being sober,eating well and daily exercise.Planning my week is key as well including things like cleaning,tidying - we have no set routine for anything so I am setting one up.

Samstone 150 days is amazing - I like your thinking as well and may well borrow it!
Have a good day everyone,packed my healthy lunchbox(3 portions of fruit and homemade veg soup) and I'm off to rollerderby training tonight.

[Mick]

af Wednesday 9 October

mae all ..how are we today?ok I hope ..out again today ...Im sure Iwas never this busy in the past looking after cherubs!!Still its my choice whether to be busy or not ...somehow couldnt see me sitting watching judge judy or jeremy kyle all day..no offence to any fans out there ...aint for me.

Tea and coffee anyone?

Hiya SF..how are you? yep you are right..if you tell someone you have given up coffee ,sugar dairy products...its well done you ..tell them you have given up drinking and its like you have 2heads or committed some cardinal sin...strange ole world.

Evening tt ..how was your day?You seem pretty busy recently ..dont forget the you time!!

Sam well done on 150 days mate..thats excellent.As tt says its not the amount of time you have in but the determination you put in..in the end it becomes a way of life.Heres a wee test for anyone that wants to try it get a sheet of paper ..split it in 2 .on one side write all the plus points for drinking al..you can think as laterally as you want..on the other side you write as many against ..again being as lateral as you want.Guarantee on the plus side you wont get more than 10....Now translate that into buying clothes,a car furniture..and someone one was trying to sell you them with the list you have made...would you buy it?I doubt it ..not unless you were a fruit loop..so why try and kill yourself with booze?

Morning YAH..how are you today? long time no hear ..glad you are ok..Yes during the week on these days I work as a volunteer...on Sundays its my own thing ..they are definitely connected quite strongly though not the same

Mornin Lav..coffee for you maam?..me too Im parched..glad the stink bug thing is on the way out ..hows the chicks doing in their new premises?

HiyaDet ..hows you today buddy? ok I hope.

Hiya ppqp ..hows you doing?sorry aint replied earlier ..heres the word thing you asked for ..was going to pm..them but dont know how and asked but no one else knew..hope all is well

right people ..up and at em ..letsgo cyall tomorrow ..no volunteer work tomorrow...just housework n things!!











When my wife left, I was sad, upset and lonely. Since then I've got a dog,bought a new motorbike, been out with two women and blown a grand on drink .
She'll go fu.king mental when she gets home from work.

Anger management

You know, when you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know, take it out on someone you don't know:
I was sitting at my desk when I remembered a phone call I'd forgotten to make.
I found the number and dialed it.
A man answered, saying 'Hello.'
I politely said, 'This is Chris. Could I please speak with Robyn Carter?'
Suddenly a manic voice yelled out in my ear 'Get the right f***ing number!' And the phone was slammed down on me.
I couldn't believe that anyone could be so rude.
When I tracked down Robyn's correct number to call her, I found that I had accidentally transposed the last two digits.
After hanging up with her, I decided to call the 'wrong' number again.
When the same guy answered the phone, I yelled 'You're an asshole!' And hung up.
I wrote his number down with the word 'asshole' next to it, And put it in my desk drawer.
Every couple of weeks, when I was paying bills or had a really bad day, I'd call him up and yell, 'You're an asshole!'
It always cheered me up.
When Caller ID was introduced, I thought my therapeutic 'asshole' calling would have to stop.
So, I called his number and said, 'Hi, this is John Smith from the telephone company. I'm calling to see if you're familiar with our Caller ID Program?'
He yelled 'NO!' And slammed down the phone.
I quickly called him back and said, 'That's because you're an asshole!' And hung up.
One day I was at the store, getting ready to pull into a parking spot.
Some guy in a black BMW cut me off and pulled into the spot I had patiently waited for.
I hit the horn and yelled that I'd been waiting for that spot, but the idiot ignored me.
I noticed a 'For Sale' sign in his back window, so I wrote down his number.
A couple of days later, right after calling the first asshole (I had his number on speed dial) I thought that I'd better call the BMW asshole, too.
I said, 'Is this the man with the black BMW for sale?'
He said, 'Yes, it is.'
I then asked, 'Can you tell me where I can see it?'
He said, 'Yes, I live at 34 Oaktree Blvd. , in Fairfax It's a yellow ranch style house And the car's parked right out in front.'
I asked, 'What's your name?'
He said, 'My name is Don Hansen.'
I asked, 'When's a good time to catch you, Don?'
He said, 'I'm home every evening after five.'
I said, 'Listen, Don, can I tell you something?'
He said, 'Yes?'
I said, 'Don, you're an asshole!'
Then I hung up, and added his number to my speed dial, too.
Now, when I had a problem, I had two assholes to call.
Then I came up with an idea...
I called asshole #1.
He said, 'Hello'
I said, 'You're an asshole!' (But I didn't hang up.)
He asked, 'Are you still there?'
I said, 'Yeah!'
He screamed, 'Stop calling me'
I said, 'Make me.'
He asked, 'Who are you?'
I said, 'My name is Don Hansen.'
He said, 'Yeah? Where do you live?'
I said, 'Asshole, I live at 34 Oaktree Blvd., in Fairfax, a yellow ranch style home and I have a black Beamer parked in front.'
He said, 'I'm coming over right now, Don. And you had better start saying your prayers.'
I said, 'Yeah, like I'm really scared, asshole,' and hung up.
Then I called Asshole #2.
He said, 'Hello?'
I said, 'Hello, asshole,'
He yelled, 'If I ever find out who you are...'
I said, 'You'll what?'
He exclaimed, 'I'll kick your ass'
I answered, 'Well, asshole, here's your chance. I'm coming over right now.'
Then I hung up and immediately called the police, saying that I was on my way over to 34 Oaktree Blvd, in Fairfax, to kill my gay lover.
Then I called Channel 7 News about the gang war going down in Oaktree Blvd in Fairfax . I quickly got into my car and headed over to Fairfax .
I got there just in time to watch two assholes beating the crap out of each other in front of six cop cars, an overhead news helicopter and surrounded by a news crew.
NOW I feel much better.
Anger management really does work.

[porqoui]

af Wednesday 9 October

MAE ALL....

Popping on to say thanks Mick for the word pic. I have been reading off and on when I have time to take a breath.

Yesterday was my trip to Banff with 45 seniors and am reporting it was a huge success. That marks my last responsibility of my old job. Am putting my foot down about doing both jobs unless they want to pay me both salaries. Even then I don't think it's worth it.

Sam...congrats on the 150 AF Days. I'm happy to report that I've been dealing with the extra stress AF and reading about your milestones helps me remember mine.

From what I've briefly read everyone seems to be doing ok. Hoping to get back to regular posting and supporting in the near future. Have to get my priorities sorted again and get me back to #1.

Have a great AF Wednesday all and all to come....PPQP

[paulywogg]

af Wednesday 9 October

Mae everybody,sam good job no make that GREAT job on 150 days! getting cold and windy here in vegas,supposed to rain today or tomorrow,i used to love the rain now its just a bummer,sounds like everyones doing good,im glad,off to start my day have a good one

[Lavande]

af Wednesday 9 October

Good morning Abbers & Happy Humpday

Greetings TT! Busy is a good thing - keeps me out of my head, prevents overthinking which always gets me into trouble :H

Sam, well done on 150 AF days :wd:
You should be proud of your accomplishment. Always take care of your quit!

bear, glad to hear you are doing so well.

Mick, I have no problem reading that messed up lettering. My dyslexic mind thinks it's normal :H
Chicks are happy in their new quarters, growing like crazy too! The chicken pics are pretty much right one!!!

PQ, glad to see you friend!
Don't let them work you to death! Stand your ground & take care of yourself.

Another busy day awaits so I should get going!
Wishing everyone a terrific AF Wednesday!

Lav

[Samstone]

af Wednesday 9 October

treetops;1566103 wrote: 150 days is fantastico!
Thats 15 lots of 10 days which shows how it adds up - or 30 lots of 5 days. (think I have my maths right)

Its not a race or competition to see who has the most AF time - and we are very proud of you:groupluv:

TT, thanks!
yeah, I know it is not a race etc. I was sober for a couple of years about 5 years ago. I've had a long duration, but did not know about MWO. This site has been a tremendous help in keeping it going this time. It is great to have other people in support.

Mick, thanks, I'll try the paper trick!

thanks Lav, Bear, Pauly, PQ (good to see your post)
Sam

[Accountable for Me]

af Wednesday 9 October

Morning all!

Nothing exciting to report - which is always a good thing in the AFM household!

bear - so happy for you! 19 days. That is soooooooooo awesome! Anxiety definitely worsens with drinking - as you know.

Lav, keep posting those chicks pics! Love them.

Little AFM is happy in her new routine. She goes to the after school program Mon, Wed, Thurs, Fri. Has cooking class for kids on Tuesday. I have to admit that life is so less stressful keeping the child busy!!!! YES IT IS! She is a child that needs to be kept busy. And ever since we moved to our new home, with virtually no kids in the neighbourhood, this has been awesome signing her up for programs. She sleeps well, no bitching, lol! I am one happy mom!

This week seems exceptionally long to me. I am going in for a MRI on Friday. UGH. All of this breast cancer maintenance is so exhausting. My blood work came back with signs of leukemia......... So, not looking forward to that. The Oncologist is suggesting some pretty radical treatments......... which is fine. I know of survivors of this. Other than the last two binges, my life has been pretty tickety boo since the onset. Ramped up the Vitamin C as prescribed, cut all meat and dairy out (BORING!!). I could eat the cat right now. LOL!

But anyway............ life is good for today. That is all that matters - right??!!

[treetops]

af Wednesday 9 October

Good to hear from you AFm and I hope all is positive with the MRI

[Cinders]

af Wednesday 9 October

MAE,

Day three dusted and done at new job. Really enjoying it so far. :-)

AFM, Sending up prayers for you. Hopefully lab work is wrong. Keep us posted.

My daughter was a handful when she was bored and not physically active. I kept her in sports and riding bikes and skating. That seemed to help her a lot.

Hi all. Nothing much else to report.

[chrysa]

af Wednesday 9 October

Dear AFM, I remember you from before. I remember you were very strong. That;s all.

I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this physical difficulty & breast treatment. Sounds like you have good back up for little AFM. Don't know much about your life but I will pray for you.

Sam & I have met on MWO subs.

I hear the Dete's are hangin out here in af morning some.

I am looking for some twelve step talk!!. I really want to do the 12 steps & I am looking for a sponsor. You have never known me this serious in pursuit of my healing, never,..so I am checkin out various venues

Mick.....what can I say...I want to grasp who you are . but the effort seems monumental...I love to read..but your posts are a tome to print out and read in bed...perhaps you could give me some keys into your tomes..thank you..so I could get a feel of who you are
......thank you..thank you ..~C...real= Jeanne

[YoungAtHeart]

af Wednesday 9 October

Late check in for me, so I'll say happy ending to another AF day! Sam, congrats on 150 days! That is getting on to almost 1/3 of a year. Happy to see you with 19 days, too, bear! :goodjob:

I'm so sorry to hear about the possibility of leukemia, AFM. Cancer sucks, and I am sending good vibes and hoping ardently that the blood work is wrong, wrong, wrong! You certainly sound ready to fight if you need to, however, and you know we will all be beside you.

It's good to see you here, Chrysa. Mick is one of our core guys and usually provides coffee and a wealth of jokes. He is retired, does volunteer work, works an awful lot around the house, has rabbits and is an avid gardener. He also has over a year sober. When he doesn't make coffee, Treetops (TT) does!

Lav, Pauly, PPQP (great to see you, darlin'), hope you all had a great day. Cinders, I am so happy to hear that your new job is feeling good!

I am feeling better about the situation with my sisters. It is still very tense, but I have managed to get a bit zen about it. Tomorrow is an easy day, client-wise, so I am looking forward to catching up with some cleaning and self-care, and tomorrow night, some West Coast Swing lessons.

Hugs,
:l
YahYah

[chrysa]

af Wednesday 9 October

Thx YAH!
What time to do you make coffee???? This is important to me!! This is great!!!

THX