af Thursday 10 October

[treetops]

MAE everyone

Bad news in the South Pole. US Antarctic research is being shut down (due to the govt shut down) and this may also affect the Kiwi research there as well.

Good to see you PPQP and that you have been dealing with the extra stress AF. So we have you, Cinders and Yah in new jobs ? well not totally new but with new roles and responsibilities ? if I have it right?

Glad that you too Bear are on top of things. The month is whizzing by AF for you.

Mick ?hope you tackled that housework with vim and vigour - (and some cleaning pixies:H) we are behind in that dept here and those of us working at home this week are very busy. I am also supposed to be on light duties with manual work as I have a strained wrist.

Sam and Pauly ? hope your day and evening is going well too. You have a great Thursday,

I am feeling a bit miserable today as yesterday the tension and tears from my daughter?s school work became pretty tough. It's the school holidays and she must get a biggie done (this year is very serious for high school qualifications). She is working really hard but its still a long way off and it's a creative piece so it can?t be hurried. I find it hard to be encouraging/loving and not sound too bossy at times. I also hate seeing her having a bad time and her prolonged tears really upset me. It just turns my gut. I just want the best for her. I told her that I have to change in my attitude but she said no I don?t.

Really sorry to prattle and prattle but it can be gut wrenching being a parent as many of us know here. If she is sad I get sad too. I am also having a big dose of missing the wee girl I could bundle up in my arms and cuddle to pieces. So does her Dad as he told me.

Well on that cheerful note ? I will leave it to see what Det is up to as he always posts last although now I see that Cinders has joined the late gang. Cinders, are you very far away from your hubby and the rest of the family? Hope that is working out.

Best for Thursday and the sober revolution:dragon1:

[TheSunFlower]

af Thursday 10 October

TT--I am sorry about the homework....mine are still in middle school....and I am already pulling my hair out!

Sam...now its 151 days! Congrats!

Mick...my benefit side of the sheet is blank. I am at the point where I really don't remember what a buzz felt like, but I remember being hungover. Yuck and Yuck!

Bear-20 now its a full 20 days! I have been trying to get a routine together for months....something always messes it up.

AFM...prayers and good karma being sent your way.

Lav...overthinking! I used to think I had to have a drink to "think" things through and make decisions. What a great way to make life's decisions! Hubby and I are in the middle of some decision stuff.....and he started the overthinking analyzing to every little detail. I told him I wasn't going that route....one day at a time...and when it is right we will know it. He was exhausting me just listening to him....and thinking I used to do that drunk!

Hello-PPQ, Cinders, Chrysa, YAH and anyone I may have missed!

[bear73]

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hey all, quick post before shower and zooming off for training course.
Day 20 - I've not made it into the twenties for a long time,feeling good.

Still got problems with overly challenging person I manage,every single thing I say she comes back with something else and is always pushing,let alone behind on work. I've been feeling really anxious about it as I know she is talking to rest of team and morale is lower and also I feel she is giving a one sided version of events.

What's that thing about controlling what you can and leaving what you can't - I can't control her attitude/behaviour BUT I can control my response. I'm also jumping to conclusions, talking to boss about it as it is very wearing - I'm not liking work because of this atm but it's a great place to work,nice people,interesting work.I'm not going to let one person spoil it and will get a handle on my stress response.Last night I did a workout DVD which burnt off some energy and anxiety. I need to keep remembering that I have a choice how I react.

AFM - take care of yourself and sending you strength and good thoughts.

[Mick]

af Thursday 10 October

mae everybody ...how are we all today? all good on this post humpday. Weather aint so bad outside today ..so hopefully get a bit done in the garden,tho arm and back are giving me a wee bit of gyp...not surprised really.

So on we go......coffee on the boil.

Evening tt..how are you?Well big day today fro you isnt it?12 months af ...well done..for an upside down person you have done pretty good!!!when you first came on thisthreadI thought ..how the heck is this going to work ..but by and large it has..so thank you for your help and support..as for daughter ..stick with it ..it is worth it as you know ..do they know its 12 months?
Morning bear ..day 21 now ..3 weeks..well done you :goodjob:as for the person at work giving you grief..dont know really how to do that without knowing what type of person you actually are ..I always found fronting people like that up the best way..no audience, no drama, me and you sort the issue out now..even if the outcome is that you dont like each other..you can agree to get on workwise without the snideness.

Hiya ppqp ...glad all is well ..coffee to go have a great day

hiya Pauly ...how are you doing my girl? apart from wind n rain all getting better for you in Vegas?

Mornin Lav..hows you? strange that..I found the writing easy too ..glad chicks are settling in ok..this computer is playing up a bit ..grrr ..time for another coffee .you too?

Hiya Sam ..hows you ..doin the do..poetry at its best !!did you try the paper trick?any plans for today?

Hiya afm...how are you doing.....wow you sound like you have your hands full with mini afm!that program sounds like a godsend!Wish you all the best with your scan,and things get sorted for you.

Cinders ...brill glad you are enjoying your new work ..you sound full of zzzzzzing!!!goodfor you

Hiya Chrysa...glad to meet you...hmm what do you want to know? happy to answer any questions..tho yah seems to have got a handle on it..heres a coffee..so sit down and tell us a wee bit about you...I do know..stick with it here..we are all mad ..but af is one issue we all take serious ..some days we say nowt others as you say the thread is like a tome..so join in...and a big welcome to you.

Hiya yah ..wow got my number aint you?how are you today? chill day .com is it?good for you..so we arent going to get a soap sequel out the sisters story then?now say that one fast then!!!was going to say enjoy your swinging ..but that doesnt sound too clever!!!

right peeps time for the off ..rabbits are out ..madam is off to work ..so into the garden I go ..have a great day everyone

The innocence of youth

What Exactly Is Marriage?
Funny Quotes

What Exactly Is Marriage?
“Marriage is when you get to keep your girl and don’t have to give her back to her parents” -Eric, six years old
“When somebody’s been dating for a while, the boy might propose to the girl. He says to her, ‘I’ll take you for a whole life, or at least until we have kids and get divorced, but you got to do one particular thing for me.’ Then she says yes, but she’s wondering what the thing is and whether it’s naughty or not. She can’t wait to find out.” -Anita, nine years old
How Does a Person Decide Whom to marry?
“You flip a nickel, and heads means you stay with him and tails means you try the next one.” -Kelly, nine years old
“My mother says to look for a man who is kind….That’s what I’ll do….I’ll find somebody who’s kinda tall and handsome.” -Carolyn, eight years old
Concerning the Proper Age to Get Married
“Once I’m done with kindergarten, I’m going to find me a wife” -Bert, five years old
How Did Your Mom and Dad Meet?
“They were at a dance party at a friend’s house. Then they went for a drive, but their car broke down…It was a good thing, because it gave them a chance to find out about their values.” -Lottie, nine years old
“My father was doing some strange chores for my mother. They won’t tell me what kind.” -Jeremy, eight years old
What Do Most People Do on a Date?
“On the first date, they just tell each other lies, and that usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.” -Martin, ten years old
“Many daters just eat pork chops and french fries and talk about love.” -Craig, nine years old
When Is It Okay to Kiss Someone?
“You should never kiss a girl unless you have enough bucks to buy her a ring and her own VCR, ’cause she’ll want to have videos of the wedding.” -Allan, ten years old
“Never kiss in front of other people. It’s a big embarrassing thing if anybody sees you….If nobody sees you, I might be willing to try it with a handsome boy, but just for a few hours.” -Kally, nine years old
The Great Debate: Is It Better to Be Single or Married?
“You should ask the people who read Cosmopolitan” -Kirsten, ten years old
“It’s better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need somebody to clean up after them” -Anita, nine years old
“It gives me a headache to think about that stuff. I’m just a kid. I don’t need that kind of trouble.” -Will, seven years old

A Chinese man is walking down the street after just arriving in the U.S. for the first time. He possesses a limited understanding of English. While caught up in the splendor of the city he accidentally bumps into another person.
The Chinese man quickly responds "I'm Sorry!"
The American man says, "I am sorry too."
The Chinese man says "I am sorry three."
The American says "What are you sorry for?"
The Chinese man replies "I am sorry five."

Divide the circumference of a pumpkin by its diameter, and what do you get?

Pumpkin pi.

Why cant miss piggy count to 70?
Because when she gets to 69 she gets a frog in her throat.

A man walks into a restaurant for the first time...

And asks the waiter about their staple dish, "The Bull's Balls". "Oh yes" Says the waiter. "Every day we send out our finest men to fight a bull to the death, and we cut out the dead bull's testicles, cook it, season it, and put it in our best sauce. It's really quite tasty." Why not, the man thinks, and orders it. Sure enough, it's the best thing he ever had. The next day, the man walks into the restaurant, eager to have the dish again. When it comes, the balls are much smaller than they were yesterday. "What the hell!?" He exclaims his waiter. "The balls were so big yesterday! Why the smaller portions!?" "Ah" Says the waiter. "Well sometimes the bull wins."

Why does it take so long for pirates to learn the alphabet

They could spend years at Sea!

Why did the girl blush when she opened the fridge?

She saw the salad dressing.

Leif Erikson returned to his village after many years sailing the ocean and discovering new lands. When he arrived home, he noticed his name was no longer in the town records. Puzzled, he visited the census-taker to inquire about the error.
"I've been a dedicated member of this community for many years. Why am I not on the town list?" he asked.
"I'm sorry about the mistake, Mr. Erikson," replied the clerk, "I must've taken Leif off my census!"

What's the difference between an accordion and an onion?

No one cries when you cut up an accordion

hat would you have if all autos in the US were painted pink?

A Pink Car Nation!

I went into the Intensive Care Unit of my local hospital, and saw a two year old child vigorously playing with a stuffed donkey toy

"ICU baby, shaking that ass"

[paulywogg]

af Thursday 10 October

mae everybody,quick pop in just to say hi,congrats miss tt on one year! i posted on the other thread mick made you,good job on 20 days bear,just stick with it keep it up,theres a recall on some chicken here in theu.s.and i was thinking if i ate some of that its pretty much the same as drinking again,sick for days,puking,dizzy,could die from it,doesnt sound too pleasant now does it?jokes were cute mick,thank you well everybody have a great thursday

[YoungAtHeart]

af Thursday 10 October

MAE all!

TT, I remember those teenage days with my girl, and they sure can feel heartbreaking and tense at times. That sense of helplessness is terrible, no kiss on the boo boo helps this time around. But I know that your loving attention will be what she needs in the long run. It sounds like you're handling it just right, but it sure is nerve-wracking. Good luck to your girl on her work, and :l for you!

SunFlower, you sound great. When it comes to drinking, there really isn't much on the positive side of the ledger, is there? The same with overthinking. I'm really pleased for you.

bear, that person you are supervising sounds like she has some problems/resentments with authority. If I can find a bright side, it will ultimately be that you will develop more skills dealing with difficult people by learning to deal with her. I am glad that you have the support of your own supervisor, and you have the right attitude about the situation. Meanwhile, you are doing brill on your drinking! Kudos to you, my dear!

Mick, great to see you as always. I may have you pegged, although clearly, I haven't a clue as to your secret life. Sigh..... Thanks for the coffee and jokes.

If you are curious about the situation with my sisters, my youngest niece is now living down the street with my sister G.(her aunt) because her relationship with her mother, my sister, L, has deteriorated so badly. The biggest problem with this is that to L., my sister G is the "evil one" who has somehow turned her children against her. She doesn't take any ownership of the fact that her own self-absorption and anger may be the cause. So her daughter is temporarily living with the sister she despises and is doing quite well, so she is really freaking out. It has the potential of a big, ugly court drama. The girl's father wants her to live with my sister, who looks after her very well. So, yikes! I feel bad for my sister, but she is completely clueless about how her girls feel about her, which is unfortunate. So it is an ugly family drama. I feel more serene because I have accepted that there is nothing I can do, and I'm just coping with my sadness about the fact that my family is so f*cked up. I'm glad my niece has escaped the constant haranguing of her mother. Aren't you glad you wondered aloud?? LOL I'm glad that none of this has made me want to drink; maybe I am getting it through my thick head that drinking really solves nothing and only hurts me. For that, I am grateful.

Anyway, on to the rest of my day. Have a good AF day everyone! Make it a good one, and if you can't do that, remember it's still better without AL!

:l
YahYah

PS: Hi Pauly, we were cross posting!! Stay away from that chicken!

[Lavande]

af Thursday 10 October

Good mid-morning everyone

I was in my car, ready to head over to my son's house to watch the grandsons when I received a text cancelling me. It didn't make me unhappy, honestly :H

TT, CONGRATS on your fabulous 1 year AF anniversary!
I admit that I totally don't understand the school systems outside of the US - not sure why your young daughter is under so much pressure to perform academically now. I hope everything settles down very soon for the both of you!

SF, the one day at a time thinking & practice has gotten me through some tough things the past few years. I hope it's just as effective for you.

bear - 20 days ~ very nice!

Mick, I have finished off a full pot of coffee this morning, I'd better stop before I hit the ceiling!!!
Chilly rain here today, should have thought to bring in some firewood.

pauly, I'm concerned about food safety always but even more so since the government shutdown. I am sticking closer to my plant based foods

YahYah, glad you are able to keep the family drama at arm's length! Trust me, you are not the only one with an F...'d up family!!! Between my family & YB's family we could very well win first prize :H :H
Keeping my head in Zen-ville helps a lot!!! I have no desire to drink over the actions of those losers. They are what they choose to be & I can't change that!

AFM, thoughts & hugs to you friend. I'm so sorry you have yet another battle to face. You have proven yourself to be a strong young woman already. We are hear to listen :l

Greetings to Cindi, Sam. Det, PQ & anyone else looking in.
Have a great AF Thursday!

Lav

[YoungAtHeart]

af Thursday 10 October

Damn, TT, I'm so self-absorbed that I didn't even say


CONGRATS ON 1 YEAR!!!!!

:wave::wave::wave:



Anyway, you rock,sister! :l :l :l

[YoungAtHeart]

af Thursday 10 October

Thanks, Lav! I have the feeling we could linger over a very loonnnggg lunch and have a good laugh.

[bear73]

af Thursday 10 October

TT - one year that is amazing - well done - how does life feel now?
SF - thanks for comments - did training course today that had just what i needed all about drama triangle and how to move out of it and clean communication and re-framing situations. Brilliant timing - feel much more ready for it and aware that I have tendency to rescue so am playing my own part in keeping the work BS going - knowledge is power right?

[Samstone]

af Thursday 10 October

how do all
a rainy day here. glad I cleaned gutters this weekend! First wood stove fire of the season. Needed to take the chill off a bit.

TT, a big congrats to you!!

Mick, think I might do the do on another cup of coffee, practice a little fiddle, nobody's home. My musical hobby drives everyone crazy.

Bear, you're doing great, I have 2 controlling females in my family... wife and daughter. It gets real exciting and entertaining here when they try to control each other instead of me.

AFM, my thoughts are with you. Hope all is going the best it can.

Yah Yah, dang, I need a score card to keep up. Yet that's the way families are. I've had my share of it all the to court last year involving my siblings. And the lawyers get rich.

Hey Lav, thinking of building an ark here. Looks like this is sticking around. I feel for my nephew... getting married this weekend and has plans of an outside reception.

SF, thanks for the congrats, hope you are doing well.

Pauly, Det, Cinders, and others I've missed, thinking of you all. Enjoy your day!