af Saturday 12 October

[treetops]

MAE sober-mesisters
according to Mick's post on TYPES (on internet posts) I am a Rooster. Thank you sunshine:H

OK I have strong coffee for most of you, but I did have some tea as well. So, Mick - someone else in the world does drink tea - but for me usually only one big mug of strong tea - as in:

New Zealand Breakfast Tea Tea by Twinings — Steepster

Nothing subtle about what I drink for breakfast! Thats Enough intimacy and I will leave the jokes about that to Mick (or will they be Tea Party ones?)

How are we all doing?
Mick - lovely garden pics and thanks again for fussing over me this week. Its kind of embarassing to have a congrats thread but nice - and I hope it encourages others. We are all newbies in one way or another.

Pauly - no I havent heard from Kuya. I dont know how MWO is really moderated. I think it depends on if someone lodges serious complaints. I am probably more feisty in what I say in real life (I bet we all are) but do tone it down when I post on the internet. Us Kiwis can be pretty direct - 'call a spade a spade' - even if we have a rep for being shy and mouse-like.

Lav- it sounds like you enjoy it when your daughter and g/son have a surprise overnighter. I am also a fellow refugee from a snorer ? we have tried almost everything. Even spent $$$ on a fancy operation that was useless. Partner has also been told to loose weight and guess what ? he won?t. As I type this I can hear his lilting bellows (thats in 2 rooms away with closed doors!)
Glad the stinkbugs are gone and Sam but I do not want to buy any of yours.

Bear ? hope you had a yummy meal and a great time with friends on Friday night.

AFM ? please let us know how the scan went. You know that we are thinking of you.

SF ? busy Friday for you I bet? Have a great weekend.

MAE to everyone else ? Cinders, Det, PPQP ? and others ? time to seize the day that is lovely and sunny already.

[Mick]

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mae all....and how are we today then? Saturday morning at 0615 ...been up since about 5..couldnt sleep so thought I would read.Out tomorrow morning at early doors so wont be on here to start.

So off we go then...early brew for anyone that wants one.

Hiya tt ..thought I would put that ..aint quite sure of the time in down under land at the mo ..how are you?So a cup of twinings genuine NZ birdsong brekkie tea for you?with the campfire and hillbilly smoky flavour..Dont make me laff!..when I was in the army ,part of the time I was stationed near Andover..the main factory for Twinings.Most of the wives worked at Twinings,...and it wasnt just birdsong that went into those boxes!!!!sorry to burst the bubble!as for the thread ...no problem ..you deserve it,have a great day

Hiya Pauly ...and how are you today?ok I hope ..did things work out yesterday for you?As for Kuya..yep Im in touch with her now and again ..she is pretty busy ,sortin out her life but still not drinking and has no intention of it either.
you have a great day.

Hiya Det how are you today?working weekend ...whats that all about?you trying to get America on its feet on your own?have a good one matey.

Mornin Lav ..too early for a brew for you?think not!so yesterday was a day of cartoons with a 2 1/2 yr old there as evidence was it?oh well we all need time off!!glad the bugs have moved on for you.any weekend plans?

not too many people on here ,but big shout to all..have a great day everyone.








and finally..........




Two nuns are sitting on a park bench. A man in a trench coat runs up and flashes them. The first nun has a stroke. The second nun tried but she couldn't reach.

So this guy with a premature ejaculation problem comes out of nowhere...

What do you get when you mix human DNA with goat DNA?
Kicked out of the petting zoo.

What do you call a deer with no eyes? No idear.
What do you call a deer with no eyes and no legs? Still no idear.
What do you call a deer with no eyes, no legs, and no penis? Still no f.cking idear.

A man goes to the circus. After the show he speaks to the manager and asks for a job.
"Alright, what can you do?", the manager asks.
-"I can do great bird impressions", the man replies.
-"Pssh, a lot of people can do that".
-"Oh well", the man says and flies away.

Two nuns are driving down the road when Dracula jumps out.
"Quickly," says the first, "show him your cross".
The other winds down the window, leans out and yells "Get out of the road you goofy bastard!"

I never make mistakes…I thought I did once; but I was wrong.

The bartender says, "We don't serve time travelers here."
A time traveler walks into a bar.

It's hard to explain puns to kleptomaniacs because they always take things literally.

Why did the Mexican push his wife off the cliff? Tequila

The people of Saudi Arabia don't like the Flintstones but the people of Abu Dhabi do.

"I think animal testing is a terrible idea. They're just going to get nervous and give silly answers."

How do you turn a duck in to a soul singer? Put it in the microwave until it's Bill Whithers.

What do you call a jazz singing pachyderm?
Elephants Gerald

A woman is walking along a beach when she sees a man splashing around feverishly in the ocean. "Help, shark! Help!" he cries.
The woman laughs, because she knows the shark will never help that man.

Did you hear about the midget fortune teller who kills his customers? He's a small medium at large

What do you call the little Irish man that lives on your porch?
Patty O'Furniture

What's brown and sits on a piano stool?
Beethoven's last movement.

What's red and bad for your teeth? A brick

What's brown and runny?
Usain Bolt.

Polar Bear walks into a bar and asks for a gin.......................and tonic. Bartender says "What with the big pause?" Polar Bear (lifts up hands): "I don't know, I've had them since birth".

What's blue and smells like red paint?
Blue paint.

[TheSunFlower]

af Saturday 12 October

TT-congrats on one year! Your positives seem pretty positive to me.

Sobriety for me is more of an evolution. Today doesn't look much different from yesterday or tomorrow.

Tonight I attended a work party.....never not once thought about not going because everyone else would be drinking. I enjoyed everyone's company....and never really gave one thought to what was in their glass. Until now.....I never once thought about "what will people think when I order a soda?" That for me is a pretty big evolution from avoiding a work party not too long ago. Things I worried about then....really were of no concern to me today.

Life doesn't look that much different on the outside. On the inside.....I can see positive changes in about 30 day increments. I did not count or mark the date this time.

This time like Mick said...there was no more BS. I no longer feel the need to learn about addiction or be engulfed in recovery. Really quite simple....Me not drinking is a much easier way to live. But, I liken it to childbirth....you forget how painful it was.....or nobody would ever have a second kid Except my brain decided to forget what the "good" was.....and it remembers the depth of a really great hangover I really don't want one of those again.

[bear73]

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Good morning all - up too early - combo of snoring and needing a wee - had 2 pints of lime and soda and a coffee last night.Lovely chat with friends but overpriced,not so tasty pub food.They are big social drinkers and usually I'd be hammered as well,it's interesting how one of them was saying she admired me and was feeling anxious after big nights out, her OH immediately leapt in with ' you need to let yourself go,and when you have a monster hangover just remember you enjoyed last night and chill' can really see she is feeling threatened by idea of changing. I just said I feel so bad next day even on small amount now I can't chill and enjoy a lazy day, but each to their own.Then talk turned to our christmas meal together and whether I'd be drinking, I said who knows and made a joke about turning into a nun to lighten mood.I have had successful af nights with them before.

I smoked four cigarettes as I was feeling deprived BUT I didn't drink,and no way was I going to. Day 21 is too early to be in that pub situation - I am at a gig next Friday on day 28 - I will make sure that I have my fake cigs with me there.

Today is spa day, I plan to do a bit of cleaning and tidying for friend's arrival and maybe do exercise DVD - not feeling like it tbh!Happy saturday everyone.

[Lavande]

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Good afternoon Abbers!

Went to meet my old friend for lunch, couldn't find the place, realized I had her old phone# stored in my iPhone - crap..... Just turned around & went home, oh well. I will try to reschedule some time.

TT, I drink lots of tea (after my morning coffee), I'll try to find someof that

Mick, the stink bugs aren't completely gone YET. I see a few sitting on my curtain & picture frames right now I thought I had shooed them all down to Sam's place :H

I'm with you SF. I couldn't care less what people think about my 'not drinking'. That's their problem & none of my business

bear, sounds like you put yourself in another 'dangerous' situation as far as maintaining your quits. When are you going to be nice to yourself & stop doing that?

I have a DIL & grandsons coming for dinner so I should go make something!!!!
Greetings to everyone else, hope your day is going better than mine :H

[YoungAtHeart]

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MAE all, glad to see that the rain is over before we all had to build an ark in these parts.

TT, you are very brave to bring up the tea party. I doubt that there are many in the US who are neutral. :H I guess you're safe being in upside down land. I'm a big tea drinker, too. I love my morning coffee, but after that, I often drink flavored green tea when I am working--hot and iced. So how are you feeling on the other side of 1 year? You've become what an old MWO'er used to call a "solar orbiter".

Mick, thanks for the great pictures and jokes. I'm glad you are in touch with Kuya and that she is still AF. Off on a mystery jaunt tomorrow, eh? Well, we'll miss your morning cheer, and I hope you can pop on later in the day.

SunFlower, I like how you are living your sobriety. You're doing great, and you do keep sounding better and better.

I'm glad you realized that it was too early for you to be in that situation, bear. Glad that you escaped without drinking.

What a pain about lunch, Lav. LOL I hope the last of the stinkbugs depart soon. I've been fortunate so far--not too many--but I'm afraid to say that out loud!

I had a big fight with my "victim" sister yesterday. She wanted me to talk to my niece's guardian ad litum, but I let her know that I wouldn't have 100% glowing things to say but I would be fair. After we got off the phone, I got a bunch of nasty texts from her, including her trying to hurt me by saying that she had never criticized me for being a bad mother when I was drinking heavily. Anyway, I have decided that I have been a big coward with her. She is SO ANGRY and manipulative that I've been too intimidated to say what I thought. I doubt we can talk this out, but I am going to write an e-mail and tell her about my feelings about a number of issues over the last several years. I just want to say what I need to say no matter how she reacts. I feel so much better about myself having decided this. So that will be my fun Saturday night. LOL

Hope your work goes smoothly this weekend, Det.

Waves, Pauly. I'm glad you're doing okay.

Cinders, how about a good book, or a nice walk? Is it nicer in North Carolina? It's pretty dreary here in Maryland.

Anyway, thanks for listening to my tome.

:l
YahYah

[paulywogg]

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Mae everybody,woof i about did myself in yesterday,i knew i had to watch the baby in the afternoon so i drank a big iced coffee and a bottle of soda to get some energy for him,well it backfired big time! i was so anxious even the t.v was irritating me,sleep was atrocious,had to go upstairsnand lay down at 6 p.m horrible feeling,i learned my lesson on that,luckily today is much better,i hope everyones day is going good

[Mick]

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hiya pauly..you ok?

[YoungAtHeart]

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Glad you're doing better today, Pauly. That sounds pretty unpleasant.

[paulywogg]

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Oh yes very unpleansant feeling,yes mick im fine,just avoiding large iced coffees loaded with sugar haha,truthfully the thought to drink to calm down crossed my mind breifly,but we all know how much that"helps" yeah right,i know where that would lead,instead of feeling great today id have to drink again to feel "better"gross,im through

[Lavande]

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pauly, do you ever check your B/P when you feel like that?
All that caffeine can do a number in you - it does to me
I find I get some pretty good stress relief with some slow, deep mindful breathing

YahYah, I think you are starting to know me pretty well. I hate the thought of being controlled by a drunken or otherwise obnoxious sibling or spouse :H
I decided a while ago that I CAN dish it out, just as well as they can when I feel pushed into a corner. These adult siblings ( and spouses) need to step back & get the hell out of our way :H
I hope your email to your sister is therapeutic for you

Greetings Det, Sam & everyone else.

[YoungAtHeart]

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I am still awake! Grrrrrr. I think all this stuff is bringing up old crap for me, so I guess I'll be doing some processing of my own. Lav, I think I'll need some coaching to get some Lavanatude. I have made a list of all my bullet points. LOL

It's been almost 5 years since my mom died, so I think it is probably time for the shit to hit the fan and relationships to change. Working on getting my zen back, but old stuff dies hard. Thanks for the support.

:l