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    Tues AF 22 October

    MAE everyone.
    Already Tuesday here in the South Pole. Cold but sunny. We just don’t do seasons well down here – have our own special weather patterns (or lack of them). Feeling very sad for our friends across the Tasman where there are awful bush fires and destruction. Its very weird to have these starting so early in summer.

    Hope you all had a great weekend but so far not many posting about it! In fact not a lot of posts lately and so I want to throw out some thoughts. Mick posed similar questions some months back and we decided to soldier on – but here goes.

    We don’t get that many posting on this daily Abs thread but we do get quite a few viewers. I guess all the threads on MWO are like that. Its not a competition but it might be cool to have some more posters – at least from time to time. Maybe this is not an issue – after all – this is a particular thread and there lots of such targeted ones on MWO. And if its helping us – that's good, isn’t it? That's the point – it helps us to keep sober and we are serious, as we say about this. here’s some thoughts to get the ball rolling =

    1. any thoughts on why we have some thin pickings on our posts?
    2. are there just too many threads on MWO – other abstinent ones that people are posting and pouring their energies into instead of this one? Does that matter? Or does it spread us thin?
    3. Are we boring (not much we can do about that – as we are what we are)?
    4. Maybe our age group is too self-selective (ie we are kind of middle-aged (pardon Bear as you are a youngster)
    5. Does the time zone thing confuse people- still? The problem from my point of view (and the people in upside-down-land) – is that if we post on the end of the daily thread – it gets lost – no one usually responds (and that's sort of pointless after a while). It also makes sense from my point of view to start (if possible) with the new day.
    6. Are we too exclusive? We say we take Abs seriously – and we do – but does that scare people off? I think we try to be inclusive and supportive – but I guess we get to a point where we have to keep to what we have committed ourselves to - sobriety and not moderation.

    Share your thoughts please and be honest. We don’t have rules here except not to be rude etc. I know we have had these lulls in posting before - and also some people are busy providing support on other threads and through PMs – to those who are trying to quit.

    We are also busy people - thats surely one of the bonuses of being sober - and we have full lives off the internet.

    Have a great day/evening all and see you on this thread when you have read it.
    Yes for the sober revolution!!!!

    #2
    Tues AF 22 October

    TT, I'm also on the wrong (or the right:H) side of the line, although not quite so under as you lot.

    When I first started reading the boards, this thread and the Army thread made me feel like being a stranger at a big, boisterous family gathering, where people were teased about things that happened long ago: the family members knew the jokes while I stood in a corner, trying to make sense of what was going on, who fits in where, what nickname belongs to whom. There were other threads, like the one started by Unwasted, that reminded me of a couple of long-time friends sitting under a tree, having a quiet conversation. I could see cups of tea and cucumber sandwiches (and, tbh, a bottle of champagne in a silver cooler for later:H:H). I've come to know the family members and the ladies under the tree and the crazy guys in uniform to a certain extent, but I'm still an outsider - and I don't really mind. So I think there's an unintended "shutting out" of others - simply because you are "family members" or "first-language speakers" while the rest of us are "strangers" or standing there with phrasebook in hand. This is not meant as criticism - I'm a daily reader here, and god, you lot both crack me up and give me much to think about.

    The time zones are definitely a problem: when I check into the Nest in the a.m, most of the posters are still in our yesterday, and you lose that immediacy of response. Hell, it's still Monday here for me

    I don't really have an answer, and I don't think you are looking for answers. But why the worry about recruiting new posters? This isn't a popularity contest; as long as the upside-down thread remains supportive (and, pleaseplease, entertaining as well) to the family as well as strangers, you are achieving a lot.

    Talk again
    Dream
    14 October 2013 was the first day of the best days of my life!

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      #3
      Tues AF 22 October

      was going to stay out of this one ..but you know me ..a quiet Jock ..yeh right!!As tt says went over this issue before,and if you recall there was a massive hoo hah about who could or couldnt post on the thread ...now we are at the stage where hardly anyone does..3 ,4,5 posts..and yet the numbers viewing dont match that...

      2 lot of the people that used to post on the daily post have moved on to the 100 day post..which seems to have taken over that slot.I know that wasnt its idea on inception ,but that is how it has evolved.

      3 Are we boring ..maybe maybe not ..is life not like that sometimes ? even for me when Im not trying to break my arms and fingers!!ok ..so whats wrong with writing "hi not a lot doing here today..catch you all later?..or had a busy day ,bit tired to write,but see you all later...

      4 Dont think the age group is too selective ..age isnt nor ever was a criteria..if people feel comfortable then jump in.
      5 no the time zone doesnt bother me ,tho I cant speak for anyone else..as a group throughout the world ,for me its the communication between us that is the important issue not time zones .

      6 No I dont think the thread is or was exclusive ..it is about or was ..getting the message through yes by all means have fun ,a good laugh etc,but dont forget the underlying factor why you are here...how many times on the threads have we seen hi all how are we ?had a couple of drinks last night but ok now..(exaggeration I know ,but see the point?)
      Being pedantic,you could argue each thread by title and definition serves a different purpose on the forum.

      Lastly..appreciate that people are busy and have not got days on end to scribe reams of stuff on here ,and there is a world outside of here but there are quite a few people on the threads ..(through choice I add) that try to brighten the threads up..and I certainly dont mean me here ..other people put pics up ,address individual posts etc and generally take time..it is kind of deflating to go to all that and no one can be bothered replying.It aint about collecting medals,or well done badges, but sometimes just to hear "you know ,that suddenly clicked with me" or thanks for that post it helped..makes it all worthwhile..its about making a difference, whether cheering someone up ,helping them thru a day ,helping them to say no to a drink. its that difference..

      Nuff said ..now my fingers are really sore!!!:H
      af since the fourth of July 2012...howzat then America..now proudly marching into year 12

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        #4
        Tues AF 22 October

        Thanks Mick and I know its getting late at night for you.Your poor wee digits must be exhausted too.
        Hope we hear from others when they get a chance.

        Sweet dreams!

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          #5
          Tues AF 22 October

          Well I'm not boring :H :H

          Just to prove my point I'm going to show you a pair of shoes I saw on Facebook today - WANT THEM :H :H

          AF since 03/26/09
          NF since 05/19/09
          Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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            #6
            Tues AF 22 October

            Haha those are great lav!! i love this thread and the people on it,its definitely not boring,age doesnt bother me(except mine haha),time difference is a little confusing,the only thing i think is its an abstinance thread,people may be intimidated to post here depending on where theyre at,i dont know
            I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink:sohappy:

            I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me":thumbsup:
            Drinkin won't help a damn thing! Will only make me sick for DAYS and that ugly, spacey dumb feeling-no thanks!

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              #7
              Tues AF 22 October

              Lav. That puts a whole new meaning to crow's feet! :H:H:H

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                #8
                Tues AF 22 October

                I remember some regular posters on this thread reached out & grabbed me out of the Newbies Nest about 4 years ago Pauly
                I was a bit intimidated at first but got comfortable soon enough!!!
                AF since 03/26/09
                NF since 05/19/09
                Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                  #9
                  Tues AF 22 October

                  TT - that's why I love Facebook. Everyday something new & exciting pops up on there :H
                  AF since 03/26/09
                  NF since 05/19/09
                  Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                    #10
                    Tues AF 22 October

                    Hi - its me...remember me????
                    Well, TT asked why I hadn't visted here since I came back, and I fessed up to reading here a few times, but didn't feel up to posting.
                    Was doing my check in and read this thread - so had to respond. I think you are a great group of folks, who I really admire. I struggle to be abs, and fell on my trip home - as I knew I would, so yup - self fullfilling prophecy
                    You do take your abs seriously, and I so respect that - and had made a plan to get a good 30 days under my belt and then join back in - I don't want to seem like a lightweight, or seem to take this too lightly...and I still can't get NEVER in my vocabulary. I really want to be able to have a drink everyso often, even though I know that that probably isn't feasible.
                    I have come a long way - I drink at least 1/5 or 1/6 of what I was two years ago, and I am so thankful for that....I still drink too much...
                    So for me, it is more a respect thing......make any sense?
                    I am on Day 8 in a row, and day 18 for the month....and am pleased with myself....
                    PS - Mick, missed your one year, but did think of you:l
                    Missed a few other things too....
                    One more thought - as this is a daily thread, you have to find it each day - for me I open onto suscribed threads and ones that I chat on are the only ones on the page, so I catch up easily - this has helped me in the past to stay away from some of the minefields that crop up every so often - I think that is why I have tended to stay in some places before - safety:H:H
                    “The only courage you will ever need is the courage to live the life you want"

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                      #11
                      Tues AF 22 October

                      Hey all......

                      I have to admit that I am one of those that read and don't post. I think you all are great and I also admire you. I have to agree with SL. I struggle with the 'Never'. I have about 50 days now. I have no intention of drinking but I can't say Never. So, it is also a respect thing with me too. You are all so committed that I don't feel I can post with you until I can say Never. Right now, I am a day at a time. Planning on getting many more days.

                      Take care all. :h:h
                      "Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.".....Carol Burnett
                      ..........
                      AF - 7-27-15

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                        #12
                        Tues AF 22 October

                        PS - love the shoes Lav. :H:H
                        "Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.".....Carol Burnett
                        ..........
                        AF - 7-27-15

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                          #13
                          Tues AF 22 October

                          mornin all...how are yiz?okI hope its raining hereso got to phone to find out what is happening after..whether where I am off to is on or not.Aint stayin on long ..said my piece earlier but.....

                          SL...it is absolutely brill to hear from you..missed ya.. i understand what you mean about the thread, but me for one have never looked at it like that..its a staging post to getting and remaining sober.glad youve cut down on the bevvy , but me for one would rather you jumped in every now and again and said hi...

                          Nora C same goes...you are on day 50..you have previously done well on the site...so for me where do you go?You aint a just started, you aint a newbie, and you aint a long termer..so where do you go when you need a lift?As for drinking ...we are all only one drink away so we can never say never.

                          For me maybe there has something grown up around this "we are serious about not drinking"..thats a given,otherwise I for one wouldnt be here...but I also want to be helping others..as the definition of the monthly abs says "giving up the sauce"I may be wrong but for me that was the thinking behind the thread..the serious comes into it when we talk about commitment ..whether its someone who has given up or someone in the process of giving up ..both need serious attention..thats to my thinking what this thread is on about ...the 100 day thread came about as a place of respite,(If I am right Byrdie) where people with time in helping others could go for a break and generally chitchat, or discuss specific issues.

                          Wow Lav ..nice shoes!!!!!! with you in mind......







                          right offski now..have a great day all..





                          af since the fourth of July 2012...howzat then America..now proudly marching into year 12

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                            #14
                            Tues AF 22 October

                            Good Tuesday morning Abbers!

                            Thanks Mick, how did you know I like my coffee 'infused' in the mornings? :H
                            Love the cat washing instructions!!!!!
                            How are those fingers doing today?

                            Nora, nice to see you here
                            I really don't get hung up on the word 'never'. I am grateful that I will never have to deal with another hangover! Grateful that guilt & remorse have been evicted from my consciousness, don't have to deal with those bastards ever again I do not feel deprived, I just feel gratitude all day, every day! Hang around here with us for a while - you'll see

                            OK, I need to get a few thousand things done before my daughter & granddaughter arrive for an overnighter!
                            Have a great AF Tuesday one & all!

                            Lav
                            AF since 03/26/09
                            NF since 05/19/09
                            Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                              #15
                              Tues AF 22 October

                              Mae everybody,ugh im sick i hate it,its just a cold but i havent been sick in a while forgot what it felt like,im whining and carrying on like men do when theyre sick haha,just messin,those pics were funny mick,ill try the siiting at the desk thing later,hope everyone has a good day,ill see ya later
                              I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink:sohappy:

                              I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me":thumbsup:
                              Drinkin won't help a damn thing! Will only make me sick for DAYS and that ugly, spacey dumb feeling-no thanks!

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