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[Kitty]

Hi everyone,

I've been posting in starting out but I really have to try af. This is my second day and I think I can make it to tomorrow. I'm sick of my life being ruined by alcohol and I've realised that getting trashed every 2 or 3 days is causing me some terrible problems. The couple of af days a week don't make up for the total chaos I cause on my drinking days.

I'm 36 and have been drinking to blackout every few days for around 10 years so this is gonna be really hard.

:thanks:
Kitty

[irishlady]

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Hello Kitty,

I don't know if you have any of the supplements to help you beat the cravings for a drink, if not, I would recommend the Kudzu and the L-Glutamine, they worked wonders for me and I am now 7 months AF...

Congratulations on getting to your second day, remember just take little steps, one day, even one hour at a time and it will soon all add up..

Keep reading and posting as well, we are all here to help and support you..

Good luck, Louise xx

[paula]

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Hi Kitty,
I understand how you feel, i've done exactly the same as you.
I thought I would never beat these cravings, but regularly logging
on to this site, and taking the supplements, i have managed not to
drink for over 7 weeks. This is such an achievement for me, i truly
believed alcohol would kill me.I never drank vast amounts on a daily
basis, but sometimes i had blackouts which terrified me.
Now i read the postings daily, and i'm amazed how they help me.
I need to remain vigilant, you can do this too.
So keep posting, you will get lots of support.

[pixie]

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Hi Kitty and welcome!

In addition to the great advice above, be sure to eat healthy meals, and take a vitamin/mineral supplement. Your body is probably depleted of some nutrients from the drinking.

Spend some time on this site when you're having cravings - it really helps me.

pixie

[Kitty]

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Thanks guys,

It's 10.00pm and I've just had a row with my partner. Basically he's had enough and although I have promised to change my ways he says the trust has gone.

Not sure if he caused the row or I did as an excuse to drink but I have just been out to the supemarket and bought cigarettes but thankfully managed not to buy any alcohol. Usually I would have in this situaution & I would have got trashed so maybe I can manage without it.

I think maybe the relationship is over too, but I have come to realise that I need to stop drinking to help my future. I'll see what tomorrow brings...

Thanks

Kitty

[irishlady]

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Kitty, I don't know if you realise it or not but you have just taken a MASSIVE step there.. To go out to a shop that sells drink and to just buy cigarettes is good, but, to go there after a big argument with your boyfriend and still not buy any booze took some doing... At one time, if that had been me, I would have bought a couple of bottles of wine and then blamed the boyfriend, thinking it was all his fault...

Alcohol can make us very selfish people, but when we are trying to quit we have to be really selfish and put ourselves first all the time, especially at the begining of this journey.. As you said, you need to stop drinking to help your future, so for now you need to focus on you, and how you are going to do this... It has to start with you, then as time goes on those close to you will feel the benefits as well..

Take care, Louise xx

[Kitty]

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Thank you Irishlady,

I'm quite proud of myself, just hope I can carry on. The bf went to bed early but popped into the lounge an hour ago to get himself some milk. I saw him clock the table to see if I was drinking. I had a huge glass of blackcurrant in front of me which he probably thought was red wine!

Talk of the devil he has just popped his head round the door again.

I think in a way he wants me to fail as he doesn't believe I can beat this. It hurts me that he doesn't trust me, I want his support but you know what if he doesn't then so be it!!

Thanks

Kitty

[Popeye]

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Hello Kitty,
As Louise said, it would have been so easy for you to give in, but you chose not to. That showed great strength on your part. Well done! Perhaps your boyfriend will see this and realise that he can help you here...or perhaps not. Whatever, you have done very well. You should be proud of you this morning.

[Kitty]

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Thank you Popeye,

Yes I do feel pround this morning and I have talked to him about last night. He realises that he partly caused the argument (he has a very bad shouder which has caused him to loose sleep this week and he has been very grumpy)

I have a nother challenge today though. We are invited to his cousin's 18th birthday tonight and I'm no sure if I should go. I have just moved to his home town and so all these people will be strangers. I don't want to seem rude by not going but the temptation to drink will be there as I will be nervous, and if I don't drink will they all wonder why?

His mother was an alcoholic and she will be there for support but I don't know if I'm strong enough. My partner says it is ok for me to stay at home but I know that this may cause rows in the future.

It is just so hard!! So many social situations seem to revolve around alcohol. If I went and stayed sober it would be a huge achievment but it could go horribly wrong.

I want to go to show him I can be strong but I feel I don't want to run before I can walk.

I'd like to say that this site has been enormously helpful to me right now. I'm reading tons of posts and this is such a great community.


:thanks:

Kitty

[Determinator]

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Kitty you are obviously very wise and show that you've been really taking this seriously. This will be very difficult for sure as anything great that we can do in life usually is difficult, although the supplements will help a lot as others have reminded us.
This time in your life it will be a lot easier without immersing yourself into an uncomfortable environment with alcohol around. I was about 20 days into af and went to a party with wine as a central theme....oh it was so hard. somehow I pulled through but I was sweating and nervous the whole time. after about day 40 things got a ton easier for me. we support you no matter what Kitty!! congrads on doing this for YOU.

[Kitty]

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Thanks Determinator,

I think I will go to the party although to be honest I'd rather not. I just know it will cause a row if I don't go.

I'll check in later with good news hopefully.

Thanks

Kitty

[SKendall]

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Hi Kitty, hope it goes well. You are right about so many occasions revolving around alcohol. Stay strong and keep us posted.

[Arial]

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Hey Kitty,

You're doing brilliantly - showing a lot of courage and determination. You're going to face new trials regularly and each time you'll have the choice. I'm impressed with how much control you've shown already :thumbs: - you've really faced these early challenges head on so if you do go to the party - keep that same strength, courage, determination and show yourself you can do it. Good luck with the whole situation, and come back and find us whenever you want - we're here 24/7

[tylyr]

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i've logged in to this group for the first time. I've managed up to 10 weeks without alcohol, but then it all starts again. I fear for my health too. I drank on my own yesterday, and then another couple of glasses last night. no -one has any idea that I crave wine, and think about it most of the time. I'm really going to try, and I need some support that I know I'll get here. Can someone tell me how much Kudzu from this site costs in UK and how much the postage is etc. Thanks a lot. I really need to get through today, so that I can feel better and stronger tomorrow. Does anyone else worry about the damage they're doing to their bodies with all this alcohol?

[Arial]

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Oh god yes, Tylyr - Physical and mental abuse - why do we do it?? We wouldn't want others to treat us this way and yet we do it to ourselves! The health issue is obviously a big one which is why the program suggests so many supplements - to replace many of the deficiencies caused by drinking to excess. The exercise part of the program is also important - not only does it get you in to better shape, give you something to do other than drink but it also stimulates that 'feel good' part of the brain so you get a natural buzz - great for starting to feel better about yourself.

There are many threads around that talk about some of the health issues so look around and hopefully you'll find some that answer some of your questions. The fitness forum may be a place to start - or there's an interesting thread in General about the Addictive Personality which also includes information about Amino Acids.

So good luck with your continued journey on the road to recovery and taking back control of your life! 10 weeks is brilliant - I'm on 8 so I'm watching out for complacency and pitfalls - it's good to have the reminders that this will be an ongoing battle and I need to keep myself armed!

All the best,