Know November - week 3

[Rusty]

Know November - week 3

"Great minds discuss ideas,
average minds discuss wants,
small minds discuss people." -- Laurence J. Peter

Anything for you, Dill.:h

I love your quote today, Dill. Thank you for posting it. I will put it in your electronic file. The statement about getting even with people who have helped us puts a positive and hopeful spin on our future....we don't have to harbor resentment about past wrongs...we can be better people by repaying, and paying forward, the people who have helped us along the way. I am finally letting go of past resentments. I am working hard at it, and I have seen a great improvement in my attitude. This is a battle I have really had to fight HARD for, and must be conscious of it every day. Wow, that story about Imus lying for 4 years!!! GEEZ!! On the other hand, Imus is an extremely arrogant guy and it doesn't surprise me that he would do something like that. I googled him last night and thought that maybe something about that statement he made yesterday would pop up but it didn't.

"Addiction is a behavior intended to reverse a profound, intolerable sense of helplessness. This helplessness is always rooted in something deeply important to the individual. The feeling at the key moment along the path to addictive behavior is helplessness or powerlessness. It feels like you are in a trap that you can do nothing about."- Lance Dodes.

Lance Dodes' books are addicting!!:H I am learning a great deal about why I drink, and like ALL of the people in the book Lance Dodes interviews, their issues with addiction (alcohol, sex, drugs, food and gambling) link back to inadequacy people felt in their childhoods.

Lav-so glad you can detach when you send your hens to the Amish farmer.

Posted by Lav:It's no wonder so many women our age fell into that rabbit hole. We heard mixed messages all our lives from our parents, teachers & peers. Society expects us to be strong, capable & perfect at all times. How can anyone live up to those unrealistic expectations? We're just human, not machines. We have thoughts, feelings, emotions, hormones, children, spouses, employers & more pulling at us non-stop."

I agree with you wholeheartedly. Thank you for giving us an update on LBH. I know she was anxious to go to Portugal. Maybe I will break my own rule about not posting on FB and "friend" her. Thanks also for the update on Papmom. I am so glad she has made time for agility.

Star-so sorry to hear about your friend. I am glad she is finally getting the help she needs and I hope it is not too late. She is lucky to have you as a friend.

Big hellos to Cyn, Dream, Witts, SunniGG, Narilly, and anyone else I may have missed...have a wonderful AF Friday!!!

[Stargazerlily]

Know November - week 3

Good morning to all...

Rainy and cool here, reminds me of Thanksgiving weather! I feel like making a turkey today and want to put up my Christmas tree tomorrow, I want and need the lights and color. Getting my hair done, going to the library, it is just so nice to be OFF.

Lav, glad to hear LBH is traveling, Pap is working with her babies. I miss them and would like it if they would post some time. So, what is on the agenda for you today?

Dill, love the quote, agree that drinking for numbing and isolating is not a good thing. It just gets to the point where it is not healthy, AT ALL. Imus sounds so sad and scared, making a big show he is sober, then getting wasted. That would be a hard thing to live with.

I am getting excited about Thanksgiving next week, we are going to St. Louis to see my family and my Dad will turn 80, he is flying up. We are having a party for him and I got him a cute ND shirt, hat, and socks he can wear to his ND club. Talked to my friend in the hospital and she sounded better. She is getting oxygen. Do you believe it? Not the normal treatment for depression and anxiety. Misdiagnosed for four months. Can you tell I am still upset? Lav, you are right, some people in the medical profession are downright dangerous. Anyway, she feels safe and is getting care so I feel better about that.

Enjoy your coffee everyone and have a great day.

[Rusty]

Know November - week 3

Star- so glad you are OFF! Your day sounds heavenly! Did your dad go to ND?
I am glad your friend is doing better. Now you can enjoy your day. You have out me in the holiday spirit, too. :-). I think I will put up a few Xmas decorations today, too. Thanks, Star, for being here for all of us.

Narilly, what are you up to today?

[Rusty]

Know November - week 3

Star- so glad you are OFF! Your day sounds heavenly! Did your dad go to ND?
I am glad your friend is doing better. Now you can enjoy your day. You have out me in the holiday spirit, too. :-). I think I will put up a few Xmas decorations today, too. Thanks, Star, for being here for all of us.

Narilly, what are you up to today?

[dill]

Know November - week 3

Thank you for finding the quote, Trusty Rusty! I really appreciated that! You are the best!
Check in tomorrow with everyone.

[Rusty]

Know November - week 3

Good Morning, Knowing Buddies,

It's 5:22 AM CST.....time to get up!!!!!:H I slept like a log and was awake at 4:00 so I thought I'd get us started on this new AF day.

Fly-do you have any of your test results from your MRI back? I have been thinking of you but haven't see you in a couple of days so I hope everything is ok.:l

Trusty Rusty!

Silly Dilly! Glad I could help out. How is your son doing in rehab? Will you have a bit of a respite this weekend? Hopefully you and Mr. D can have a date night soon. I also wanted to respond to your comment about Elizabeth Vargas and how she hid her drinking problem. I read "The High Functioning Alcoholic" a few years ago, and really thought it was a good read because it spoke to me and my situation. It talked about how it's really hard for high-functioning people like us to seek help, because we are afraid of being exposed, and when we try to get it, or reach out to someone...people minimize our problem. Also, I know in my case, it was easy for me to put off addressing my drinking problem because between 2008-2009, when my drinking was at its worst, I won awards for my work, and made the most money I ever had in my life, so I used those successes to try and sweep my drinking problem under the rug. I lied about my drinking to my family, friends, and clients, and then, like Imus, I would go home and drink vodka or scotch....alone.

Star-I think it's wonderful that you are planning an 80th birthday party for your dad at Thanksgiving. I am glad he's around to see another holiday! And to think about his long-time sobriety. Did your dad know the extent of your AL problem, Star? I don't think you've ever mentioned whether he encouraged you to go to 12-Step programs or other support groups. If I'm being too nosy or too personal, please let me know.

Sunni-I am really proud of you for staying AF and standing up to Mr. Sun and working out the finances with his son staying with your for the next few months. You absolutely should not be saddled with his expenses since he's a grown man and he can contribute. Your situation is one I read of in Lance Dodes' book, so you would be a success story there.:goodjob:

Lav-I don't know how you put up with the long weeks of dismal weather but it has hit Wisconsin and I will tell you, I would give ANYTHING to see the sun. What are your plans for the weekend?

Dream-I see you have been posting on the Army Thread. I think I'll have a lurk over there.

My day will consist of working out, a bit of business tasks, and then Notre Dame football and dinner with my mom and my sister.

To anyone I may have missed, have a wonderful AF Saturday!

[dill]

Know November - week 3

cross-post, Rusty! I was starting the new thread while you were posting here.

You are so right about high-functioning alcoholics. Isn't it ridiculous that we think we are ok as long as nobody else knows we have a problem?! That's crazy, isn't it?

Thanks so much for sharing so much of yourself with us.:l