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**bear73** · November 20, 2013, 08:52 AM

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hey Mick - lovely piccies - and sunshine - will be a while until I see that again.we cross posted so am going to delete mine.

Good morning all I'm back from lovely relaxing holidays in sun late last night,lovely weather,gorgeous food,pool,beach and lazy times.It's done me the world of good to have a break - I feel calm and don't have a million worries racing through my mind.
I drank though,turns out I was feeling over confident. I had the urge to drink more and more, more than OH,I stopped it though.I'm not saying this as I feel in need of congratulations,I don't.

It made me realise that I really can't drink like a normie, I may try to,pretend to,outwardly I can sometimes moderate but I ALWAYS want more, and quite soon will make sure I have more. I smoked a shit tonne as well. OH was very supportive when I said I couldn't drink he said,'well don't it doesn't matter'.I feel so so lucky to have him, I was worried deep down that it could affect things as we got together in a bit of a boozy whirl.

Today I am enjoying sat in PJs with my cats and a tonne of post holiday washing that needs to be done, hoovering up of cat fur and a to do list to potter through at my leisure for the next few days. So it's day 2 for me here and I am looking forward to eating healthily,getting back to exercise, I've entered a 5k race on 15 December with some of my rollerderby team. I'm looking forward to getting back to that as well.
Happy wednesday everyone, gonna catch up on threads.

**paulywogg** · November 20, 2013, 09:05 AM

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Mae everybody,wow Mick,Amy is a stunner! what a beautiful family you are thank you for sharing with us,so many people at the graduation,i hate sitting through stuff like that you really only want to see your kid anyways,my kids were in choir in high school,talk about boring maybe if my girls did a solo or something id have been more into it,so all is running along o.k here,this darn sinus thing is still around im pretty sure the mucinex they gave me gives me insomnia,ive always had a rough go at sleep but now its a creepy feeling sleep,cant describe it,well off to fix my tired looking face for work,oh well at least its not a puffy,bleary eyed,dry skinned hungover face right?looking for the positives,hello to everybody

**paulywogg** · November 20, 2013, 09:10 AM

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X-post bear,glad you enjoyed your break

i think we fantasize about how lovely a couple of drinks would be and give in but our brains are wired differently now especially with af time,takes too much al to get to where we think we want to be,the heck with it lets just be done too hard to drink bleh!

**porqoui** · November 20, 2013, 09:40 AM

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MAE ALL...

Mick...Great pictures, thanks for posting. Sounds like you had a good day. Trying to force myself to get going but it's -20 with a windchill of -26 and it's dark out there. :egad:

Bear...My decision to drink was based on over confidence too. Too bad you had to try it for yourself but now you know. Good to see the right attitude and a positive resolve.

Pauly...hope your sinus infections clears up soon, insomnia is a killer for us. That sleep is so important. If you can get your face on and go to work I can too.

Lawyer conference call was positive and we're moving forward towards the end. Geeze it all started on June 5 2012 hopefully it'll be settled before June 5 2014. :stomper:

Well I guess it's time so have a great AF Wednesday all and all to come....

PPQP

**narilly** · November 20, 2013, 09:47 AM

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Bear- That is totally me. Ya, I can moderate once or twice but I ALWAYS want more. Eventually I will make sure I have more and that is it. It is way easier just not to have any!
That is cool you are in rollerderby. I have always wanted to do that, it looks like so much fun. I love roller blading. I plan to do it a whole bunch in summer cause I won't be spending weekends hung over. This weekend though I am going skiing with my family, it will be fun fun.

Mick- yes, your daughter, WOW what a beauty, and smart too. Congratulations!

Pourquoi- The food you were making yesterday, perogies, cabbage rolls, borcht. mmmm, my faves!

I have been reading a book about habits lately and I really think drinking is a habit, an addictive habit for sure. So, I have been doing different things than usual so I do not feel like drinking. Like, not going out with co workers after work, going to different restaurants and even ones which do not serve alcohol. Hanging out with different friends. Planning events in the am on the weekend- like skiing, swimming, breakfast etc.

Anyway....gotta go. -27C with windchill here today. Freakin' cold!!
Hugs everyone.

**Rusty** · November 20, 2013, 11:00 AM

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Good Morning Daily Threadsters,

Bear-I am glad you posted. I posted on the Monthly Abs Thread, and I was telling the group earlier about an interesting woman I met on the plane earlier in the week. I know you're into roller derby and I used to LOVE watching as a kid.

I forgot to tell you about the interesting woman who sat next to me on the plane on the way to Salt Lake City. She's a professional roller derby queen, who goes by the name, "Skatespeare." She's a social worker by day, and a lover of Shakespeare, hence, her skating name. I googled her, and just like she said, the YouTube video has her right in front, as she is a "jammer," a point scorer (is that a word?). If you go to the YT video, she is the long, skinny, blonde haired woman leading the pack for the Dubuque Bomb Squad.

Are you familiar with this team, Bear?

Also, you mentioned that you drink out of habit. You will find this book from Dr. Lance Dodes a huge help like I did. It's called "Breaking Addiction. A 7-Step Handbook for Ending Any Addiction." It really does give you excellent tools on how to avoid taking that first drink. I got it on Amazon for about $5. Long-term Abstainer Doggygirl is the one who turned me on to Lance Dodes' books. EXTREMELY HELPFUL.

**bear73** · November 20, 2013, 11:38 AM

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ooh - will have a look - not heard of them but there are so many teams - jammers score points by getting past players on the other team via legal hits,and their blockers hitting other team's blockers out of the way for them.

I'll check out the book too thanks - I remember DG really fondly - I hope she is doing well,she was training to be an addiction counsellor.
Getting organised today, I just got myself a cheaper duel fuel tariff for next year, have done a load of washing, cleaned fridge (eww!),bought discount card to buy new wooden flooring,planned exercise and weigh in days and bought tonnes of fruit and veg for soups and healthy snacking.

All the dull but necessary stuff that makes life smoother that I need to better plan in my day to day life. Enjoying these next 5 days off work, lovely!

**narilly** · November 20, 2013, 03:20 PM

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Rusty, I just ordered "Breaking Addiction". Its good to keep reading, any new tidbit of information can be extremely helpful for sure.
Doggygirl is the best, I have read tons of her posts.
Pourquoi- we are BOTH here in Alberta, I guess we will both be having the same weather reports!

**paulywogg** · November 20, 2013, 05:10 PM

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I dont know how you guys even leave the house with those temps,i whine about 65 degrees,id die!:boohoo::boohoo:

**narilly** · November 20, 2013, 06:08 PM

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I just wear my Canada Goose jacket and I am good to go!
Oh, and layers underneath that.
AND mittens, ear muffs, hood, boots.

No wonder I am so tired, LOL!

**Rusty** · November 20, 2013, 07:30 PM

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Bear, I am so glad you responded to my post about the Roller Derby Queen. I haven't googled who won the race last night but the Bomb Squad was up against the Salt Lake City team. "Skatespeare" said she turned professional a couple of years ago and she is 39 now. Are you a pro, too?

Narilly-Glad you ordered the book. Doggygirl also turned me on to Lance Dodes' other book, "The Heart of Addiction." It's fascinating.

You two should post on Sunshine GG's Thread, "The Canucks and Co." I am half Canuck and I sometimes post on GG's Thread because she's so funny and I get the biggest kick out of her posts.

I still travel to Canada once a year....to Stratford, near London. What a lovely town....talk about fun boutiques with cute clothes!!! I'm used to the cold weather. I am from Wisconsin so the weather doesn't bother me when I go to CA in February.:H

Pauly:H I go to Vegas every year for business. I used to go in July and baked my butt off. It's much nicer in May! We stay at the Monte Carlo....ooh, the Lazy River pool. I could float all day on an inner tube if I could stay in the lazy river pool.

Well, time to head home to the Monthly Abs Thread. My threadmates have me on a strict curfew.:H

Nice chatting with both of you!!

**Lavande** · November 20, 2013, 07:54 PM

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Greetings Abbers!

Mick, lovely pictures, thanks so much for posting them

You daughter looks like a movie star, honestly & her parents are pretty good looking too

Did I ever mention that my son decided to just skip his college graduation ceremony? He had already been accepted into the fire academy in DC & that was all he cared about at that point

The university just mailed him his diploma. Kids!!!

I have been on the go since sunrise. Got my old chickens & the mini rooster transferred to the Amish farm, went to Curves & set up for the craft sale that goes on for a week. I sold a good bit last year, hope to do the same this year. I have Christmas orders coming in everyday so I'll be busy now until the holiday season is over.

Welcome back bear, glad you enjoyed your vacation. Not sure why you decided to drink - I haven't heard of a good reason for any of us to try it again, just doesn't work for us.

Pauly, your sinus funk is really hanging on, sorry to hear that! Are you drinking lots of water & getting some good vitamins in with the antibiotic?

Greetings PQ, Rusty & everyone else.
Wishing us all a good AF night!

Lav

**TheSunFlower** · November 20, 2013, 08:27 PM

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Mick...gorgeous family! You have to be so proud of Amy.

TT...I know what you mean about the kids seeing alcohol in action at home. I regret it....but, I wonder if those movies really have any impact. When you haven't really seen it, it has to be hard for kids to relate to the real dangers. Gosh, I used to watch Intervention once in awhile to assure myself I wasn't as bad as them.

Pauly....I get cold reading others posts! I do not miss the north. Although I have truly learned about layers. In the north I needed just one layer of "freezing cold". Here it can be 40 in the morning....to 65 by noon.....then down to 50 when I head home. Heavily clothed in the am....layers offby noon....back on by 5pm.

Bear...sorry you drank. I know that I don't need anymore test runs at it. Got that T-Shirt.

Det...hope you are feeling better. I know that you are sick, but I would look at it as one really long domino effect of drinking. This last time it really took a long time for me to get to feeling well.....I am glad for it. Now I think....drink=49 days to recover

Lav-my son opted to not go to the Chakra workshop. Rather glad....it wasn't that good. My chakras get out of whack when someone expects you to pay them money.....and she clearly was not prepared. All over the road on everything. Then when on gal mentioned that we were running late....the teacher responded....."Oh, but you have to remember we started late". Her starting late....was her excuse for running late. I think she knew her stuff.....just not how to properly present it or answer questions. I think everyone left thinking if they did not get their heart chakra open.....they were doomed for a heart attack!

Busy time of year for me. We close a lot business.....but, it aggravates me that it is all on top of the holidays. It is like I am being pulled in 89 directions.......

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