Ladies on a Mission, week 2

[narilly]

Hey Gals,
I love this thread so much I would like to keep it going. Lets start a new thread every week!
Well, Its Friday today and usually this is the day I drink no matter what. Now with a new way of looking at things in my life and not wanting to live the next 50 hungover I am going to abstain.

Today is my 29th day AF and I will make 30. I plan to continue this trend.

Its a beautiful day here in Calgary and I walked to work this morning. Going to work 1/2 day and go to my party tonight. I can hardly wait to go to this beautiful old house called the Lougheed House. Today is the 100th anniversary and I will be able to enjoy it and actually look at the house with sober eyes. I will remember my conversations and remember leaving, go to bed and wake up feeling good.

[j-vo]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi Narilly,
Thanks for starting us on Week 2! Congrats on your 29th day and tomorrow will be a special 30 as you'll wake up with a clear head after your party. You will not regret it and you'll be able to recall every conversation and the beauty of the party.

It's day 40 for me. Wow...40 days and 40 nights. Incredible. I've been on this site everyday, reading and learning, relearning, remembering why I'm here. I've been journaling in "Just Starting" since I came back. I'm writing my thoughts, and I'm "stealing" posts from others that I value. I just read "My Reclaimed Life" that I found in another thread and reposted in my journal. Lots of good tools in that article!

Have a super sober day everyone!

[narilly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

J-Vo
thanks for that. I will check out "My Reclaimed Life". Its always good to get new info.
I am going to a SMART meeting tomorrow (self managment for addiction recovery). This organization is kind of an alternative to AA. Anyway, Im going to check it out. I will let you know if I get any good information
40 days and 40 nights, sounds like a movie!
I second that, hava a super sober day everyone! Star, Sugar, Humble, Acadia, J-Vo, FFly, and anyone else who joins our awesome thread.

[j-vo]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Narilly,
I've been doing lots of thinking besides reading! I don't know if I have enough "supports" in place to continue a life-time of sobriety. I attended AA three years ago for 6 months. I hated it as I was made to feel like I was never "doing enough" for my program. It really turned me off. I feel that support is what keeps one going amongst other things. Let me know how your meeting goes. Is it a different concept from AA?

[narilly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Yes, J-Vo, check it out online. it is way different from AA. I am hopeful it will be helpful and a place where I can find some support for this AF lifestyle which I so badly want and have right now.

I totally agree with you about having supports. I also have attended AA meetings, 3 different periods of time over the years, but I only would last for a few months. It just didn't work for me. I can't say I am powerless etc.
My counsellor said I was highly motivated and ready for change but at high risk for drinking again. I totally believe that and it's only with support from others, like you, MWO AND a group of people who I talk to face to face. There is something big about being accountable to people who you actually see in person and meet every week. I think that is partly why AA works for some people.

I will definitely let you know tomorrow how it goes. Maybe you can find a SMART meeting where you are. I am Taurus by the way

[j-vo]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

I just looked online and it said there's one where I live but no one is "leading" it??? Anyhow, I posted in General thread asking what makes one's program solid. Hoping to get some good replies, but I know that what makes one's program good for them not necessarily will work for you. Let me know how you meeting goes!

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Anyone have any ideas why with 6 days without alcohol and sugar, plus exercise, I'm fatter than I was before? Don't have scales but clothes letting me know :upset: It's not very encouraging!

[narilly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

FreeFly,
Are you drinking enough water? And what about your portions? I really have to watch my portions or I gain instantly. It might just take a few more days for your body to get used to no alcohol.

Don't lose hope. Keep after it. I know how brutal it is to lose weight at our age!

[Running4life]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Way to go Narilly and j-vo! FreeFly, we all retain water, it could be that. That is always my excuse.
I am on day 7 and have worked out three times this week and I am not sure I am any lighter either.
Don't worry, it will come. If you create a calorie deficit you can't help but loose weight. Alcohol is full of calories so you must have unless you are eating sugar to replace. I know I crave sugar and carbs when I quit drinking. I am on day 2 of a 21 day fitness and fat loss challenge in hopes of keeping a clean diet and exercise routine over the holidays. Any exercise you add will increase the deficit.
Keep up the good work ladies!
R4L

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Thanks ladies for the responses. Trouble is, yes I drink loads of water and portion sizes are small (very clean diet). Cutting out al and sugar has suppressed cravings and makes me want to eat less. Been wiggling on my hula hoop plus early morning yoga and I now look 6 months pregnant! Stomach completely distended! What the hell is that all about - really can't work it out. Perhaps I'll wake up shrink wrapped one of these days! Here's hoping, seriously I really am hoping otherwise WTF!
Lots of you on big days and very much the inspiration - thank you

[scottish lass]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Oops - just posted on last weeks thread - doh! Oh well - wondered why it was a little quiet, now I know.
I love this thread so much, that it opens the site for me and I don't stray elsewhere. Luckily I decided to check in and found this....
FF - I am eating chocolate and not exercising, but watching what I eat and not drinking, but I feel the same way - I am just chosing to ignore it until NY and start to work on it then when this AF thing is really in control. I spoke to my girls about us all doing something together (PS - muscle wieghs more than fat, maybe your tummy is all muscle - seriously, when I stop drinking it puts my bowels in flux - red wine does keep me in order, could it be that??)
J-vo 40 days, and Narilly very soon to get the 30 - what wonderful role models we have! Ladies on a mission indeed. I think I am on 16, will need to go count the dots on my calendar (and 27 out of 29 days in Nov - and just cos I went to count dots, have to add 53/60 for Oct and Nov - only way I can improve is to have a completely AF Dec!!! Merry Christmas to me:H)

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi SL
Ditto on thoughts about this thread. Think I like it here.
Tummy all muscle? Hmm I don't think so but in my head it is
Saw your post on last week's thread. If you can stretch to purchasing said bed, I know you won't regret it. It's been a real blessing in my life and seeing as I spend a good proportion of the day in it (ok night time), I definitely attest to being money well spent. I flippin love my bed!
'See' you all tomorrow xxx

[scottish lass]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Well a good friend has given me common sense and I am off to look at beds..

Meant to say earlier - I was putting my tea mug into the dishwasher this morning - when I opened it the door, my heart fell - there was a wine glass and immediately my heart jumped into my throat, and I thought oh no, I drank - and I forgot, so it must have been a lot!!!! Then I remembered I drank my juice in a pretty glass - and my head didn't hurt......but for a moment I was devastated!

[narilly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Oh SL! That is a scary moment with the wine glass! I can totally see that happening.
Very scary kids!
I can hardly wait for you to get that new bed, your going to be a new woman.

Running4 Life, FF, the weight think Sucks, just hang in there, it just takes longer than it used to. Hey you DO have a 6 pack under all of that...um skin.

Well, off to my 'event'. I am looking forward to it.

Oh, I just talked to my best friend, who I have drank with a thousand times. She was the first person I ever drank with. Anyway, we are planning our 50th and I said "how about Vegas, but I don't want to drink" and she said "we can shop!" What a gal! I was pretty happy she said that.

I made caramel popcorn after work, I know...Bad, Bad move but it is Really Good!

Hugs my beauties,

[patrice]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi Girls,
Well I did drink at the party last night.. I resisted for a while but by the time the food came out..guess I wasn't far enough on the journey, so Friday will be a red dot on my calendar. Allowed myself to feel a bit disappointed this morning but have let that disappointment go super quick before it turned into anything more.. so no F**K it feelings whereby normally I would throw the towel in for the rest of the weekend and say well I may as well start again on Monday. No No No I'm still on a mission, a graze on the knee, but I'm back up and running
Take care all
x
Patrice