Ladies on a Mission, week 2

[j-vo]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi girls,
I'm sorry to say, I'm back to day 1. After I got the tattoo, went out for wings with hubby at a bar we've gone to for many years. I drank and ate and I'm very unhappy with myself right now. I'm going to change the date in my signature and look forward. I need to make adjustments to my life, and I'm going to think about this today. My gratuity list:

1. I'm aware al should not be in my life.
2. I love this thread and you ladies.
3. I like my tattoo!

[HumbleRider]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi all,
Sorry to hear you have a new day 1, J-vo, we've all been there, some of us numerous times. Your grateful #1and 2 show that you're ready for the challenge, tho! Hang in there.

This morning, I am grateful for:
1. Day 28
2. Folks like you to lean on and to be able to support in kind
3. A dh who fully supports me on this journey

SL, hope you enjoy your new bed! I just got myself a sewing machine, Black Monday sale, so that I can hem my husband's pants, for instance. Can't wait for it to arrive. Yay, a new toy.

[NoSugar]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

J-vo, Great for you that you're not letting one mistake be an excuse to give up :l.

What thoughts were you having when you decided to order and then when you were actually drinking? Your revised plan needs to include a different response to that type of thinking. We have to deliberately change our brains.

Is there someone who you could vow to text if you're ever tempted to order? My first big challenge was on a business trip after ~3 months and I'll tell you, I "had to go to the bathroom" often during the first fancy meal and sent several text messages to a MWO friend. Just connecting and not feeling alone got me through it.

I'm so glad you didn't disappear. :h NS

[j-vo]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

NoSugar, I do think I need more supports in place. A woman I work with has been sober for 7 years and she's my "go to" girl. We've talked lots. I need a few more mentors though...

[narilly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Morning beautiful ladies!
I am still in bed enjoying my flannel sheets. Nothing like flannel in cold weather!

J-Vo, I thought about it myself last night and know how easy it is to slide. Were you able to control it or did you over drink? So glad you are here sista.
Yes, I need more supports too. Let's make it our mission to get more this week. I'm going to the SMART meeting this week for sure.
AA was definitely not my thing.
Beer and wings sounds good, but ice tea and wings sounds even better! Go for that next time!
Don't be too hard on yourself ok?
Xo

[Dottie Belle]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Afternoon ladies,
j-vo been there done that too...pick yourself up and start over..beating yourself up is not helpful or at least it was not for me....You can can this.
I am grateful for:
1) MWO and all the wonderful folks I have met
2) Good friends/family
3) A warm cozy house with all my doggies and kitties..

[available]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Jvo know how you feel about your slip but I let mine go on for a month, my advice, DONT let that one happen to you. So looks like you, Willow and myself are in the early days but thats ok as we are here and not hiding our head in AL.

It is 4.42am in Aus and my sleep has sucked big time especially since i finally got to sleep at 1am but to be expected. I have a day off work so i can nap away.

Three things I am grateful for:

1. Not having the glass of wine that my daughter offered me and being strong enough to say no.
2. My children, my dogs.
3. Being alive and not destroyed by AL like so many others.

[scottish lass]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

j-vo - so sorry, it is so easy to do. Last night I almost slipped - when I lay in bed later I was thinking how can I get thru the big things then almost muck it up so easily! I have been thinking about the times recently when I have had a drink, and it is when I am not watching - it happens quickly and easily before I stop to think. The bigger times I plan and am ready - when I am not ready, it is so terribly, devastatigly easy!
I posted this yesterday j-vo - here it is again - I really believe this..
?You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ?failure? is not the falling down, but the staying down.? ?Mary Pickford
Well - bed is here, will be back in a bit with my three things....

[scottish lass]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi - so three thoughts....
I am thankful for teenage girls who feel they can talk to me (even when what they tell me makes me want to run and hide)
I am thankful for being able to get myself out of the mess I was in three years ago - slowly but surely clawing my way out
I am very thankful for this site helping to get me sorted out, and the incredible people that I have met here....

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

J-vo - a big one of these :l from me. Hats off to you for coming straight back. No beat up ok, day 2's not far away

[narilly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

SL- Yay, the bed, the bed! Its amazing how excited all of us ladies are getting over this bed! Maybe its an old age thing, but we probably have all slept in our share of crappy beds and really are grateful when we have a good one.
I know exactly what you mean about the big events being easy not to drink because you are prepared for the big ones and can think ahead, the small events are the ones that get you. That is how I am. I can totally see myself slipping like J-Vo. "hey honey, lets go for wings and beer!" "sure, I'm happy about my tattoo and life is good, beer and wings sounds great!" OMG I feel like I was there.
Hang in there J-Vo, today is a new day. We love you, December here we come!
I like your advice Available- don't let it go on for a month. its Amazing how I can relate to all this stuff you ladies are talking about.
Free Fly, Dottie, All of us, we have so much to be grateful for.

Today, Dec 1 I was in a car accident when I was 17. My best friend was killed. I was so drunk and don't remember it. I was not driving but still carry the emotional scars with me. 4 young girls, drinking and skipping school. We made a bad choice that day and I will always miss my beautiful friend.
I am grateful to be here now and be AF. I used to remember this day and drink my face off. How stupid is that? Now I will just have a nice evening with my family and goofy dog, watch tv and go to bed early.
I will commemorate my friend by lighting a candle and having a Perrier. Biggest decision is whether to have grapefruit flavored or lemon!
Thankful to have you all as my friends.
Big hugs,

[scottish lass]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Oh my narilly - that has brought a tear to my eye. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending thoughts, prayers and hugs to you - and for your friend as well. :l:l What a day for you...really aren't words are there, Love from me.....

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

:l:l:l for you Narilly - that is so sad.

[narilly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Thank you sweetie:h:h

[NoSugar]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi, Narilly

I think you are honoring your friend with your sobriety. That is a hard thing to have gone through but a powerful memory to help you stick with this quit. I'm so sorry that happened.

SL, this is so true: "I get thru the big things then almost muck it up so easily.". A few months ago, I almost drank a gluten free beer! It was offered to me by someone who knows I can't consume gluten but forgot that I also no longer consume alcohol. Anyway, since I NEVER drank beer (for me AL = red wine), an alarm bell didn't even go off and I was about to take a sip to see what it was like! (As if I would even know the difference between GF and nonGF beer ). Anyway, your point is well-taken --- major planning is needed for the big events but we have to stay alert all of the time.

Has that bed arrived yet??? I think we all want to give it a try! :H