Ladies on a Mission, week 2

[j-vo]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

:huggyCheer up Lass! But really, it's ok to feel blah. At least you're not blah and hungover!!!!! That would be a double blah.

[available]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Well it is so hot here and my sons are having a beer and asked me if i wanted one. WTF i dont drink beer, did look nice and refreshing for a moment until I had my icy cold lemon lime and bitters. Enjoying having the day off from work and we did a spring clean on the house. Well trained my boys.

Can I come to the slumber party? With pillow of course

[scottish lass]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Clambered up into my bed - first thing I noticed (apart from hanging on so I don't fall off!) - no squeaking!!! Hoping for a sweet slumber - happy Monday to all of you starting your day - see you all later (tomorrow for me!!)

[Running4life]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi Ladies
I am sorry for going missing for a couple of days. I have to say that I caved in over the weekend and had a few glasses of wine. I can't say I really enjoyed it and I hated the headache in the morning. Didn't run this weekend because I felt like crap. Day 1 again and made it through. I will just keep stabbing away at it.
Wishing you a wonderful AF Monday.
And buy the way, how do you get those little pictures on your messages?

[patrice]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hey girls!!!
Great on the bed SL
And the sewing... yes my Mum made all our clothes too
I too caved a bit at the weekend.. there was the Friday party and then jumped straight back on the horse on Saturday but Sunday wasn't the greatest day because the long term long distance bf and I split up, it was kinda really upsetting and sadly I just didn't have my reinforced strategies in place to deal with that af. Didn't go wild but still had some wine. Of course it didn't make things any easier.. but I knew that anyway ( idjit!!!)...

I'm back today AF.. cooking good food and enjoying the banter and I won't let any man derail me!!
Take care chooks!
Patrice
x
But today I'm back again

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

j-vo;1593246 wrote: I'm sorry, but I'm just over the moon happy about these little freaking cute pics we can add to show our love!!!!! Yes, this is me...:cheering:

:H:H

Glad you?re back Star and yes, where are Ann and SS? We miss you, please come back. We need the full team to complete the mission.
Hi RFL ? well done for coming straight back. Sorry you suffered with headache and felt like crap. Get those running shoes back on girlfriend 
Patrice ? hugs for you :l. Sorry you and bf have split up. That would make me reach for the vino too. Glad you?re back.
Available ? good practise turning down the beer (even if you don?t drink beer!).
Hi Narilly, Humble (made me giggle, the bit about you ripping DH?s head off), NoSugar, Dottie, Sunshine ? hope you all have a lovely day
SL ? we wait with anticipation for sleep report :bigwink:
Well it?s the works do this evening. Will be spending the day reinforcing mindset. Putting it out there to help make me accountable, yikes!

[patrice]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi Freefly.. good luck with the work do!! It's good it's a Monday night because you have to go to work tomorrow?
x
Patrice

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi Patrice, yep and early start so that is helping cement mindset.

[FreeFly]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Running4life;1593341 wrote: And buy the way, how do you get those little pictures on your messages?

RFL - all the icons are on the right-hand side when you type your post. Just click on them and they'll go into your post. If you click on 'more' at the bottom lots of other funky ones come up too

[available]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Good luck Free but you wont need luck just determination.

Just checking in to say a busy day cleaning the house and so hot hot hot here. When on a date and had a coke so that was another plus to the day. Now home with a coffee and ready to sleep after reading some posts.

Good one JVo feels good to beat the damn computer. I am still trying to figure out how to post some pics of my daughters wedding on here. I gave up sigh. I should never give up.

Hows it going Pat, still going strong today. Sorry to hear about your breakup and yep i suppose we are used to drowning our sorrows to deal with crap. Thats how i dealt with it and god only knows how i will deal with it when it happens.

Keep on it running, i am up to day 2 again and started with "yep i can have a couple of glasses and ended up a bottle plus" and i did not post on here to be accountable. So i am back and not running anywhere anymore.

SL i snore and talk in my sleep so i may be best on the floor lol or in another room.

Take care ladies

[patrice]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi Available! Yeah the breakup threw me really.. didn't see it coming... but it was a long distance thing that had been going on for a couple of years and it was begining to look like we were never going to live in the same place at the same time so kind of pointless really....I think it was more that I liked to think of him as a safety net... so when I got lonely I could think oh well I've got my bf..
Anyway it was too early in my sobriety to not reach for wine and I did but not much.. so I must be learning something. In the past had that happened, I would have been on a bender big time and then when that bender finished I would continue drinking (less but.. still)So this time no bender and back on the horse immediately. I'm real pleased about that and also give thanks to this thread because out of respect I wouldn't post while drinking and didn't want to be away too long!!!
Thanks for being here.. I definetly feel accountable
x

[available]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

I can totally relate to the "ive got a bf thing" I'm always the single one and sometimes i think i'd like a bf but god i cant look after me let alone a man and im not ready after a really bad breakup 4 years ago. One day when i am healthy it will happen.

Good girl for not getting totally blind and staying that way. At least we are starting to realise "the trend" in our drinking. My trend is going to be not to drink and if i keep telling myself it will surely sink in. At the moment i have no desire to drink so maybe it is a turning point for us. We can get this AL out of our lives. I'm over day 1's they suck!

[patrice]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Thanks Available!!
Yes I think understanding the trend is essential here and slowly I'm realising that.. and like you I also had a really bad breakup 4 years ago where my partner went to get a packet of fags and never came back.. leaving me and my son stranded in a hideous country 2 days after I had signed up for another year. OMG those days were so dark and is when my drinking spiralled...
I also have no desire to drink right now.. bit still must be really vigilant
Take care.. yes I see a turning point too!!
x

[NoSugar]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

It is so good to see that some of our missing members have returned !

You've come right back after drinking, which is great - the addictive patterns will get re-established so quickly if you don't disrupt them immediately, making quitting again as hard or harder than last time.

We need to bring in one of Byrdie's quotes here - "no matter what and no matter who". To get this done, the choice has to be not to drink no matter what holiday or party, no matter what someone else does or doesn't do, no matter what - that option just has to be off the table if your goal is to be completely free of this addiction.

If harm reduction is your goal, the occasional reliance on alcohol may not be the problem I think it is. Personally, repeatedly starting over became so psychologically damaging that I couldn't stand it anymore.

So, what is your true goal? What is required to attain it? What needs to change to accomplish it?

How can we help :l?

[patrice]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hi NS!! For me it was situational and a lack of strategy and strength. I need to develop better strategies for yearly things like xmas parties and curve balls like the breakup..
But in no way do I feel guilty or bad about myself.. at this time that would decimate my efforts. I have learnt that guilt and whipping myself is very harmful so I don't go there anymore...
Yes I do agree that starting over can become very damaging but I guess for me personally the fact that I had a very small amount of alcohol over the weekend despite such a torrid time has encouraged me to continue the abstinence route very swiftly.
My goal is abstinence and what is required is time and patience and persistence
Any further advice gratefully welcomed!
x
Pat