Ladies on a Mission, week 2

[NoSugar]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

It sounds like you have made really good progress, Patrice, and I agree that there is nothing to be gained from self-flagellation!!!

It actually is easier to work on your plan now that you are closer - you can do some fine-tuning of the important little details.

I hope that you and others don't read my post as a criticism (it is pretty clear that no one on MWO is in a position to be throwing stones!) - it is just that I think it is so important to clearly define your goals and quickly make necessary adjustments.

J-Vo did an amazing job yesterday, using the break in her 40 day AF period as an opportunity to re-evaluate and refine her plan. She is really facing this problem from all angles, figuring out what is amiss, and getting her plan shored up.

Anyway, I think anyone who is here is far ahead of the game because they have admitted they have a problem. And the great thing is, it can be solved !

[patrice]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

No my friend I didn't read your post as criticism at all, I read it as caring concern. Thank You. And I hope you didn't read mine as a defense to drink because I have no defense or indeed excuse. It was what it was and today is another day.

And YES I have faith that this problem can be solved with much learning and humility along the way..
You are dead right on the fine tuning, that's exactly what must happen next and I am ready for that. My fine tuning now will involve some aspects that I am neglecting like exercise and a bit of Lav's meditation and mindfulness. I'm on to that ( as soon as I get these wretched school reports written.. grrrr)

Today feels good, fresh and AF
And well done to you J-vo for sharing the way
x
Pat

[Starfish1]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Thanks for the welcomes back, everyone!
Sorry, I have only had time to skim here for this past week....wow, this thread moves fast! I will try to catch up with everyone better this week....I mean, I need to know a little about everyone before my slumber party!

[j-vo]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Morning Ladies,
Off work today, as the Monday after Thanksgiving is a big day for hunters. So I'm grateful I can sit quietly (just dropped son off at basketball practice) and reflect more on my program. Yes, I slipped this weekend, too. I went to a bar/restaurant that my husband and I have been going to for years. Actually, this restaurant has been around since the mid 60's! Used to go all the time with dear grandparents. Well, the AL voice must have been in my head somewhere, although I don't recall much. But I drank without even giving any respect to the 40 days I remained AF. My trigger...it has to be that this particular restaurant was a place we drank together. I'm afraid that I will not be able to go back there for a long time. The night wasn't a big party, social event or anything like that. It was a quick, let's go get wings after I get my tattoo. So I must be vigilant not only with the big celebrations, but also with the small, romantic places that I was close with AL. Al will ruin me, as he doesn't care for me! I will not pour poison down my throat anymore.

NS, thanks for those thought-provoking questions. I needed to ponder over my slip, and every time I do, it solidifies what I need to do in my program.

Available, send your boys over to this dirty house! What good boys!!!!! I wish it were hot here. I love warm weather. You're in your summer now? I'm jealous! Never give up, dear. And get those pics on here! I'd love to see them. I'm on Day 2 here as well. Let's do this!

Running, as you probably read, I caved this weekend as well. But I had more than a few glasses. Glad you're back on board with us. I'm going to walk on my treadmill today and you're gonna run!

Patrice, sorry about your breakup. That has to be really difficult. But you sound great today, in a good place. We're here for ya! And like you said, you would have gone on a bender, but you didn't. That's progress. Any progress we can make, any measureable steps forward is good. Don't ever discount that.

Freefly, Reinforce the mindset...Let's do this. Let's be accountable to one another. I think this journey is all about reinforcing the mindset. Everyday. Everyday, I will say, "I will not drink today." ODAAT.

SL, can't wait to hear about your beautiful night's sleep!

To all the other ladies, have a wonderful Monday. I'll check back later.

[NoSugar]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

J-vo started a week 3 thread - starting over on Monday sounds like a great idea to me. That will help us know when to look for a new one.

Have a great AF day everyone. Just remember: "We don't drink". It is the answer everyone in my biological family has always given and no one has ever challenged them on it. Say that when you meet new people and BOOM - that's your identity. Even with people who have known you as a drinker, you don't have to explain more than you want to. These are your body, mind, spirit, and life. Take good care of them! xx NS

[Dottie Belle]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

Hello ladies,
I am coming up on 100 days and have been thinking about why this time was different than the many other day 1's that I I have had.
This time I made a total commitment and what I mean by that is, I sat down with hubby and told him that this was it...we cant go to wine tasting or have wind with dinner..drinking is off the table, literally. I reminded him of some of my drunken rants and mis behavior so after all that I think he has a better understanding. Not perfect but better.
Next I read everything I could find..when I had a craving I would come here and post, cry or rant and the act of writing it down helped me a lot. I also would read all the posts. Didnt matter which thread it was just reading the posts of folks struggleing or old timers that had more wise advice...it was just being here.
I also have a couple of other recovery sited I frequent. I will share if u PM me, but I read there too..I think I searched out ALL the help I could find..
Emailed my drinking buddies and told them I quit...email was easier...but they were supportive...so that was another good thing....
So that is how I think this time I have finally gotten it and I know each and every one of you can get it too....failing to plan is planning to fail...or something like that..
WE can do this!!!!

[NoSugar]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

I can't wait to see you on the 100-day thread, Dottie! Not long now!

Hey, your post is such a good one. Can you put it on https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...3-a-87635.html too so no one misses it??

:h NS

[Dottie Belle]

Ladies on a Mission, week 2

NS I wil do , I didnt realize that it was a weekly thread....doing it now.