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[NoSugar]

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That post took me so long, others appeared while I was typing. I agree with you LB that we gain strength by helping others - here and in life in general.

Glad you posted J-vo. Just get back with your program and develop some new strategies for weekends. What ideas do you have?

Glad you're here, Daisy. It is a good thread.

:hug:

[daisy45]

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Hi NoSugar; it's been a long time. Just read back through 'you know you're an alcoholic when....' thread.
Suitably shamed as I relate to most of the posts......oh dear! Good reminder though of the life I am leaving behind.....

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i dont have to forgive you Jvo for anything but i am mad and i am mad at what al can do to us in his own sneaky way. i am mad that he can ruin everything that one has and not give a fark, i am mad that he has the capacity to come and go when he wants, i am mad that he can take over our being if we allow him, i am mad that governments dont tell the people how bad al is to ones mind body and soul if we have addictive personalities. Today i am just mad and sad. Today i feel i have failed but thats ok to feel like this. You are a dear lovely friend to me and everyone here, dont ever forget that. xx

[narilly]

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J-Vo, please don't beat yourself up. Like Ava said it is that FWad, alcohol! We will do this together sweet J-Vo, take my hand, let's all do this together.

SL, I loved your post.

Bruno Mars is my new boyfriend....ugh... I mean my daughter's boyfriend.

[narilly]

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Daisy, hope you have a good sleep tonight.

-24c here tomorrow. Brutal!

[Pavati]

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Oh, goodness. I’m sorry, J-Vo – I hadn’t read your post when I typed mine from this morning. I’m sorry you decided to drink – but I don’t think you should apologize to us – just to yourself. We’re here to support you, not scold. We’re in this together as long as you don’t let go of our hands!

In reading about relapse I am very much struck by the idea that there is a mental relapse that comes before the physical relapse. The signs of emotional relapse are:
• Anxiety
• Intolerance
• Anger
• Defensiveness
• Mood swings
• Isolation
• Not asking for help
• Not going to meetings
• Poor eating habits
• Poor sleep habits

I noticed you stopped posting on the roll call – could that have been a sign of mental relapse? Was that intentional? (Here is the link for the website.)

I think that I agree with NS – surrender is the key – not anger and fighting. That is, of course, easier said than done. I remember NS saying that when she didn’t feel like she could make it, she just behaved like successful sober people on this site behaved – essentially faking it until you make it. That has been important for me – when I find myself getting angry, sad, full of self-pity, or thinking, “I can handle a beer here and there,” I remember what successful sober people do. I switch my thinking, just like Humble said, from one of negative restraint to one of positive desire (or as Lav says, an attitude of gratitude.)

I picture my kids, my husband, my body, my mind, my apartment, my family, my job – every single one of those things is better because I don’t drink alcohol. Drinking alcohol would make every single one of those things worse. Even if I COULD drink just one normally right now I’m not always sure I would. As June3 wrote – if just one, why not none? Like the post says from TurnAgain that NS shared – alcohol is a poison, why would we continue to drink it? Is it easy all the time? Absolutely not. But, as Narilly so eloquently pointed out, we get this opportunity to make our lives better and we owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to work hard to make it happen.

All of the eloquent, heartfelt, loving, pained, supportive, and stern posts here today make me so happy to be a part of this community. I’m sorry I don’t have time to go back and respond to every one. SL – I’m happy to see you here, and I loved hearing about the discussion at the start of the thread. For sure, I have found that type of support here. Narilly – what you said about the 70 year old got to me. NS – I love your analysis and play-by-play. You collect the gems and share them with us. Ava – your posts are straight from the heart and cut straight to the heart. You truly have an honest way with words that is amazing. Dottie, Giraffe, LB, SweetPea, Miley, Ann, Star, Satz, Daisy, Pauly – stay here and stay strong!

OK Loamers – good night and good morning. Have great weeks ahead! Thanks again for being here.

xo

[sweetpea29]

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Good morning ladies,

J-Vo- sorry that you drank. I can't add anything to all the wonderful words of advice given already (my but there are some wise birds here!) would just like to offer my support to you also :l
The notion of switching our thinking from one of deprivation to one of gratitude is a biggie, but as Pav says it is a matter of faking it til we make it. Maybe not so easy but with practice it will come.

Daisy- good to see you sticking around Am I correct in thinking today is your DAY 7??Wonderful stuff lovely lady- keep it up :wd:

Love all the positive support and advice here- ye all are an amazing group:goodjob:

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Hello Loamers

Daisy let me just say a big WOO HOO on 7 days, a wonderful achievement doing a whole week and you should feel as proud as punch. Onwards and upwards for you my girl. Everyday af is a bonus to us.

So many posts of such thought and meaning, its been a funny day for me today. I have felt real anger which i have not felt for 64 days, i am not sure i like anger but i do know that i did not have one thought of drinking. At the moment i hate alcohol with a vengeance and todays talk has made me more determined to not drink when i go on holidays or ever. I can totally see what al does to everyone on here and has done. It makes me furious that something in a bottle can cause so much pain in our lives.

The good thing is that you all have written long posts ha ha and this makes me feel GOOD. These long posts have made me think about al as to what it really has done to my life. I dont know if i have just blocked al out of my life as i just feel dead to al, i feel i dont want it or need it and that scares me sometimes. I can still vaguely remember why i gave up and i know it was a decision i did not take lightly and i know i can never go back there.

I do love trying to help anyone trying to give up al now i have some time up my sleeve as we have all been there and done those first few horrific days of giving up. But how do you explain that to people that they are making the best decision of their life but honestly its farking hell. not the withdrawals, well not much, but knowing in yourself that you can never drink again. I know its like the diabetic story but some diabetics dont look after themselves either.

Im having an overthinking day and thats not a bad thing to keep me on the path of sobriety and i am glad i can put it down in writing and you will read this. Sometimes we dont need a comment, sometimes we just need to get out these feelings.

I am so glad we are together in this fight, my loamers mean the world to me every single one of you and tomorrow i will go back to my morning posts and it will be another day. Everyday is different here, some days better than others but to all have an opinion and be acknowledged as having a voice about our addiction without fear of rejection or reprisal is very precious.

i am proud to be a loamer and always will cherish our friendship and bond. xx

[giraffe1234]

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Daisy, well done on Day 7!!!
:goodjob: :wd:

[roxane]

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*creeps in quietly..............

[available]

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Interesting read today Rox, go back about 4 pages and have a read, it may help you. You cant creep we always hear you!

Your thoughts would be much appreciated.

[roxane]

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i have ava, thats what made me creep in.

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lol, we have all been there done that many many a time and if we can get one person on mwo to think about drinking and stop it makes it so worthwhile the discussions, opinions, and being on here everyday. I did not get to 65 days without this place. When i thought i could moderate i drank myself into oblivion and i was not honest on here either. Now i am completely honest with here and myself and i just cant drink. Thats also hard to get your head around, never drinking again. you cant say that to an alcoholic! FFS thats a hard word to say NEVER. That took me a lot of goes to realise that being an alky it has to be never and really al does us no favours at all. We cant drink to be sociable, we cant have one glass or two, we just cant and thats a fact. Like my son cannot have one smoke of crack ever again, he knows that and he does not even drink anymore. me well it took me 9 months after he came home to stop al and if he can give up so can i. Now its a choice and i like it, actually i love it.

[roxane]

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that is the place i want to get to ava. i know i have to work at it to get there, no short cuts.

well done to your son as well.

[available]

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I wish there were shortcuts but there are none. I wake up and i come on mwo, i go on here during the day and i am always lurking at night. I used to be on fb, just drinking wine and posting ridiculous things and talking to people i dont even know. Now i drink my tea, and post ridiculous things on here and talk to people i dont know lol. God i am laughing at myself. But i do know these people and they know me and anytime i need an ear i have one. the decision can only be yours Rox, no one elses.