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Totally agree Rox, i have my plans in place and have done so since i found out about this holiday. I will have to tell you how charming my mother is one day but i wont drink AT her but i have to be on my toes. She can throw anything at any time and thats literally also. She threw a wine glass at me once as i apparently had an attitude. Thank god she is a bad shot.

I still have "pants" sleep but i figure 5-6 hours is better than what you mentioned. Waking up sober is "the bomb".

[roxane]

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do you really want to go?

is it worth it?

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Yes i want to go as i need a holiday and she is ok if there is nothing else to bitch about except the heat, the food and and and.......

I wont let her win Rox, i am a good, strong, able woman who deserves to be sober and live the life i want. I am the only child she has left and i do love her and it is time she realises that she cannot crucify me with her words. My brother died of liver failure from al five or so years ago. I love her dearly but she is a bitch pure and simple but she is my mother.

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good to hear. never been to thailand, i would love to go sometime. but its not like nipping across the water from here lol.

i would chuck the al bomb at her well before you go, as you say, let her get it out of her system.

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Ava tell her NOW! One and done. Maybe she will support you? I hope so.
I have to dash off to work.

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:h:h:h:h:h:hQuick Check in for me! I'm at work right now, and need to be at concession stand duty by 5:00. I think after my duty, we'll be staying to watch another basketball game. It's the start of the playoffs, so our school district hosts others playoff contenders. This should be an interesting week! I'm even going tomorrow to see another game that our team is not playing. This is all so exciting to me, and I'm glad I have a distraction on my weekend. So, have a happy day, girls. I started marking my ipad calendar with

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Pavati;1626346 wrote:
I am heading out of town for a few days this weekend and then again next week (I'm on vacation). I am tentative for a couple of reasons - not afraid of drinking, but some family stuff (and here I show my desire to remain anonymous on an online forum by not revealing too much detail!)
Hey, Pav. I hope some of this time off is for fun and that the other parts aren't too stressful. You know you can always come on here and shout HELP ME NOW! and whoever can will be there, no questions asked. We'll just remind you that you're a fabulous person who deserves to be treated as such by everyone - including your family. You're treating yourself right by choosing not to drink so you're starting off this vacation from a position of strength.

In another post you were wondering if there really is "another side" to the in-between place. There always is because the one thing we know is that nothing stays the same. By not drinking, we're increasing the odds that we'll be able to handle (and maybe even thrive) when those inevitable changes come.

narilly;1626733 wrote: I can stop drinking no problem but then I get over the 30 days and seem to lose steam. Anyway, I have to work on that. I drank sparkling water tonight and don't plan to drink tomorrow.Glad you're right back with AF living, Nar. I've found that keeping a foot in the Newbies Nest is the best way to be reminded why after 1 week or 1 month or 1 year I don't want to go back to that horror of trying to quit again. The pain of some posters is so raw, I truly can remember and feel it. That isn't pleasant but I hope it helps me respond to posts with kindness and empathy and it definitely helps me keep this commitment.


little beagle;1626442 wrote:
I came to the bottom of the issue when I realized that I am having huge doubts about my ability to really help my loved ones with our little meetings. Do I want to spend this much time planning, reading, and talking about this subject?
This is what life has handed me so I will persevere. But I am not doing this alone. I mean it. I am counting on all of you. Your insightful posts help me more then you will know.
And yes, they are telling me that it is working. Tonight I want to talk about the feelings that Dream brought up and the "what nows".
Thank you ladies for letting me get that off my chest.
Have a great day.
Sorry if I waffled a bit.

little beagle;1626742 wrote: Growing pains from just starting out to becoming a person who actually has some experience to share with those who are just starting out.
Like Ava said, this is scary. I don't want to let anyone down.

You don't, LB. You lift people higher :l.

None of us really know what we're doing (and if there are professionals on here, they don't seem to identify themselves). We're all just doing the best we can for ourselves and sharing what has worked for others who might be interested. The only addiction and quit any of us truly can be an 'expert' in is our own but, at a biochemical level, we have so much in common that by sharing, as you do, we really can help pave the way for others.

Well, I was trying to write a newspaper for Ava to read but ran out of time... Hi to the rest of you who I was planning to write to. You ALL are in my thoughts.

Have a joyous, safe, AF weekend. :h NS

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Loamers

Damn i hate typing when i only posted about 4 posts ago and that was last night. C'mon guys give me news so i can reply.

LB i will take yours and Roxs advice on board. I have no idea what she will say, she may be nice or she may say "well when you gave up smoking that didnt work", always a positive my mother and she tells me she has never met anyone as negative as me!

Rox sorry i could not reply MWO was at the no posting stage again which annoyed the crap out of me.

NS as you say we can only do the best for ourselves and that is hard to remember sometimes.

Well you all already know what i am doing today but im having a cuppa and fag and going to wash maddison so she smells pretty. when i took her to the vets it was her bathtime the weekend after and i felt so bad she was smelly. Thought the vets would take her off me for not looking after her. Funny how when you get anxious you have all these negative thoughts. Of course they said she was a gorgeous beautiful placcid girl and was a bit too well looked after.

have a great night guys and Jvo dont give everyone the wrong change. The idea of a stand is to make money not lose it.

xxxx

Pav has confused me i am not sure what day i am on now. Damn Pav look what you've done to me, i'm not good when i am confused.

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Pav, i think yesterday i was on:

6,566,400 seconds
109,440 minutes
1824 hours
76 days
10 weeks (rounded down)

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Hi loamers,
Pav, I've been on a sugar binge myself. Last night I ate about 4 mini Snickers bars and a couple of handfuls of jelly beans. Oh, and I had a piece of cherry pie for dessert at dinner. I need to buckle down and change my diet. Good luck with all the family stuff; just remember nothing is better with alcohol in the mix.

Ava, I'm with you. When the feelings of what next? come creeping in, all I have to do is remind myself that drinking won't do any good, and the thought of the resultant hangover is enough to shift my focus. Enjoy your rainy indoor days! And I agree with j-vo about your writings. Wonderful, and I look forward to every eloquent post. DH also gets our dogs the best food as he's concerned about their having a healthy diet. They did get pizza as an appetizer last night tho. I also hid my intake from my doctor, but now I'm proud to tell her I don't drink. I have confidence in you that you won't drink on vacation. FFS, just think of all of us here waiting to slap you silly. Because you know you'd have to come back to us, tell us, start all over. Man, I don't want any of us to have to do that again. Just tell mum you don't drink anymore, very matter of fact like and confidently, peacefully. No one can get around that wall. Impressed with your numbers there on time AF, haha.

LB, sounds like even though you are wondering, your meetings are working. The time is well spent reading and thinking about these issues.

NS, thanks for the in-between passage. So true. What is important to remember is that it will not last forever. You're so right, we are all just doing the best we know how here and hope it makes a difference.

Nar, I was the same way in the past, that is get through 30 days and start thinking about drinking again. This time is the longest I have gone in my adult life without alcohol except for my one pregnancy.

Rox, I didn't feel so great at 9 days. I remember night sweats and headaches. Hope you are faring well mentally and physically. Love the use of pants! I too am far removed from PMS, had a hysterectomy because of fibroids 10 years ago. I love no periods. And the thing about focusing attention on the lamppost and not running into it, so much so that you run into it, is a fabulous analogy. If I allowed myself to do that, I'd be hammered right now.

Dream, great to see you check in and to know all is well with you.

J-vo, I keep track of my days on my ipad too, and have fun at the basketball game. So great to see you strong and AF.

I'm having a relaxing afternoon at home alone with the animals, except for when one of the dogs starts whining at people walking by. Just now telling him to stop it, that they have every right to take walks in peace just like he does. That shuts him up for a while. Now I'm going to watch a show called Rake on Hulu. Greg Kinnear stars in it, just watched the first episode and it's pretty good.

Take care Daisy and all, no thoughts of alcohol for me, not even close. xo

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I'm home and didn't rip off too many people, at least I don't think I did. Getting ready for bed. Just wanted to say hi, check in, and I'll do longer post in a.m. Have a good night girls.

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We got 4 more inches of snow tonight...I am so tired of this....we didn't get to to anywhere for Valentines. But I made a nice dinner and I guess we will dance another night..bummer...
Going to bed now...enough fun for one day!

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Hi Folks -hope you don't mind my butting in here
Ava I'm interested in your issues with holidays & your difficult mother.
I go on hols in June again with my difficult SIL, BIL and hubby - pain in the arse ..... but tradition. We go to a beautiful place in Greece but rather boring ...... that usually is just a drink fest and to be honest the alcohol kills the pain. My SIL is painful & never stops effin' talking gibberish.
I have since last June waded through all major events AF .................... birthdays, Christmas, weekends away but this holiday really is trying every year...
I can return to AF and have done twice last year but not sure I would take the chance again this year.
So any tips and tricks I will be waiting to hear :thumbs:

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satz, that holiday sounds like fun!

humblerider, the sweats are no more apart from an occasional hot flush in the evening. i feel just... drained.

thanks for liking the lampost story. i am wondering if i post unhelpful shit on here and im talking bollocks. is putting me off posting to be honest.

my social anxiety popping up i suppose. now im starting to get to recognise posters, i care more that im just a numpty. i know what i mean in my head, but cant straighten it out in my mind to put it across in readable form.

yesterday i was feeling particularly introspective and unsociable, so i didnt really post but mostly read.

ava, no problem, about this site getting stuck.i gathered as much. it was doing it to me also. i click submit and if it freezes i log out. that seems to stop me losing that post.

im sure the fragrant maddy will have a clean bill of health. being 'stinky' when you first took her in (if she was) can be put down to being ill. vets know that. they wouldnt take her from you anyway. its the anxiety catastrophising. i know you know that but it doesnt stop it feeling a real fear at the time :l

lol, ive taken forever with this post as i have to keep going back to make the sentences string together properly. half succeeded.........

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Hey Rox how are you today? Is it not double figures for you today? Woo hoo.

you talk about as much shit as me, none apparently haha. You have given me some great advice Rox and if it helps one person in what you say then keep at it. Dont listen to negativity of negative people on some threads, they may or may not disappear and you know who your true cyber buddies are. If you go off here you know it will end badly and you dont want that and god forbid i certainly dont. Your posts are honest and sincere that is a good thing. Hey we have the eloquent posters whom i love dearly and then there is us. Straight from the heart and sincere, never lose that Rox.

We all have our days Rox, no one is happy all the time, i cant do page long posts all the time! Just as long as you are taking care of you and your quit that is what is important.

I picked up Mia (my daughter) this morning and we went to the vets. I argued with Liam (my son) this morning before i went so that stressed me but damn i get anxious going to the vets. As soon as she got a clean bill of health i was fine, nearly even had to pop a xanax. There are just certain situations i fall to pieces with, well not completely fall but just worry. The vet said she needs to lose some weight (about a kg) and we have to start walking as that will help her arthritis. She has love handles lol. Mia and i peed ourselves laughing when he said that. He also said she remarkably bounced back as pancreatitis is hard to treat. Thank god he did not tell me that when i first took her.

Life is good again though one of Tye's (son) friends just broke a plate. Oh well they can be replaced and not as if i have a set of anything.

Hugs Rox.

Satz i am thinking of my reply to your post on the hols, i have it in my head now just have to put it down in writing and watching a movie also. Trying to multitask