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[little beagle]

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SL good to see you.
Humblerider you too. Keeping busy with things that we enjoy is a much better way to spend time then drinking. I feel so much better about myself.
J-vo I love the truthfulness of your posting.
Hey Roxy, just don't give up. There are wonderful examples of people succeeding in the Newbies Nest, sheer persistence pays off.
Ava you are sounding strong.
Doggie Parade today. Whew, that was something else. It gets bigger each year. So many dogs and people. So much fun. And I feel wonderful. I am going to make it an af Mardi Gras. I know Ibcan. Just like you can make it an af vacation Ava.
I will post more tomorrow. Have a great one all.:

[Dottie Belle]

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Hi ladies,
New doggie is hiding under my desk...no clue how to lure him out..guess it will just take time for him to adjust to a new family...poor little fellow...came from a hoarder with little to know human contact. I hope to get him out and about eventually...now I have a mission..

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Hi Loamers

Well i have been sick with a vomiting wog, slept i think all day yesterday and feel like a worn out dishrag this morning.

Hello "crabby bitch" haha, hope things are not as bad as what you thought they would be. If she is messy, just think of all the cleaning you can do to take your mind off drinking. so many positives Jvo! My kids used to leave every light on in the damn house and i was forever yelling that "we dont live in Luna Park" which is a fairground with lots of lights on. To this day they know that saying and will probably pass it on to their own children. Maybe you should listen more to that "calm" app while your mum is here.

Daisy is it day 14 for you? Hugs and congrats on that achievement, life gets a bit easier now though the al voice is always around, just waiting for us. I too thought about going to the shop and starting knitting again, always thinking i am!

Hey Mary lovely to see you posting on here. God wouldnt it be nice if we could pick our own family. Your MIL sounds evil right to the core, my fathers 3rd wife is like that, well i havent seen them for 20 years but a leopard never changes it spots. I loved what you said about being grateful, keep those thoughts as for some reason life is never bloody easy but make sure you are number 1 priority with your quit. Dont let anyone walk over you and be strong. Money does not buy happiness that is my motto in life other than "i will not drink". I love MWO for the support and opinions, it seems to put everything in a place for me anyways. Keep being strong Mary!

LB i feel pretty wonderful too, what a difference not drinking makes. I watched "When a Man Loves a Woman" yesterday (thanks to NS, i finally got around to it) and i was bawling like a baby and could relate to every single thing she was experiencing in getting sober. Its like a whole new life for us and the thoughts that she just wanted a damn drink but would not give in, her and her families life meant way much more. I know i watched it years ago but i must have been pissed at the time. Double sigh! I will have a wonderful af holiday LB, but will be on my guard. I keep thinking of those nice af cocktails and waking up in the mornings feeling great and not like i have been run over by a semi trailer.

Dot congrats on your new addition and named Maddie as well, thats two of us with that lovely name. Its atrocious how people can treat animals, makes me sick to think about it but now he is in a loving home. Maybe he needs one on one time for a bit which is extremely difficult with three other dogs with noses out of joint also. As a doggy lover you will know what to do. My maddison is a ball of health, now all i have to do is get rid of her love handles.

Well apparently today is day 80 for me. I cant remember the days anymore so i look at what Pop and Pav have but if it is 80 days then..........

80 days can be converted to one of these units:
6,912,000 seconds
115,200 minutes
1920 hours
80 days
11 weeks (rounded down)

I am quite partial to the date calculator as you can guess.

Well i am going back to bed to rest and recuperate. Hugs to all and i am always thinking of you guys.

Rox do not run away, i miss my chatting buddy at nighttime. I am sending you hugs.
xx

[Dottie Belle]

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Hi ava, hope u feel better..today has been a lazy one here...after I took Maddie out I put him on the couch next to hubby and he has been there all afternoon...of course he has used that to not get up off the couch all day but I guess that is ok for now.

[NoSugar]

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satz123;1627191 wrote: Hi Folks -hope you don't mind my butting in here... So any tips and tricks I will be waiting to hear

satz123;1627611 wrote:
Sugar I believe contributes to my, self diagnosed, Candida problem and all that goes with it.Love seeing you here, Satz! Hope you jump in often! I know what you can do on your vacation --- I'll set you up with a reading list on your (ok, MY) favorite topic :H

Rusty;1627318 wrote: Good Morning, Lovely LOAM!Great to see you, too, Rusty! When I have time to cruise around MWO, I see your posts and really enjoy them. Hope you straighten us out when you see we need it!

roxane;1627203 wrote: i am wondering if i post unhelpful shit on here and im talking bollocks. is putting me off posting to be honest.

roxane;1627279 wrote:
ive been doing barely anything for days now and im bored. but i have no motivation. dog didnt go out yesterday as it was absolutely awful. hes a proper walk a day type dog. i feel guilty if he doesnt go out. but i cant be arsed.roxane;1627262 wrote: yes. i know we not happy all the time, god knows i know that. i feel flat. bored. dont know what to do with myself. well, i do, but i dont want to do it! feeling lonely too.

roxane;1627302 wrote:
will keeep this stuff on pm from now on.

roxane;1627610 wrote: day 10 ended rather messily.

Roxy, I'm so sorry you ended up drinking but if you look at these posts in order, I think you can see it was coming. You're beating yourself up and not doing the work that is needed to prevent the bad outcome. Being lonely and bored are things that are hard on everyone and if you're addicted to something, taking that is the familiar and easy way out. I hope you keep posting and posting a lot! I love learning new words and phrases from people on MWO from other areas - you've got some gems! Go back and read your own posts and learn from them - they'll give you clues about where you need to take action to stick with your plan. Plus, until Patrice comes back or Satz and Dreamy start posting here more, somebody has to entertain Ava because who knows what would happen if she got bored!

After you drank, you wrote this:
roxane;1627767 wrote:
I feel like a fraud sometimes, spouting 'helpful' comments when I can't do what I suggest to others.

The thing is, you believe what you're writing when you're encouraging people but it isn't always easy to do things, even when we know they're right. But every time you type out those words encouraging someone else not to drink, offering suggestions for what they can do instead, pointing out the inevitable consequences if they do drink, etc., you are telling those things to yourself, also, and you're engaging a different part of your brain typing than you do reading. If you really want to go for broke, read aloud to yourself what you typed! Then another brain area has gotten the message . Keep trying, Roxy - this can be done - BY YOU!

Pavati;1627500 wrote: This is a drinking crowd on a drinking vacation. Meals planned w specific drinks to accompany. But I am not tempted. Happy to be feeling healthy and sleeping well. Got my fave ice cream to indulge.

From this new perspective, planning a vacation around a poison sounds pretty crazy, doesn't it? I'm glad you weren't tempted and hope that you were able to still enjoy yourself. We'll be happy when you check in and tell us you're on day 79 or something like that (Happy Day 80 to Ava, by the way!).

scottish lass;1627835 wrote: Hi - I am still around...doing ok, read here almost daily but the thread moves way too quickly for me to keep up, especially when I am working...being one of those with few words, hard to know what to say sometimes....You're not the only one who feels that way, SL, and I'm sorry we're such Motor Mouths that it may drive some people away . I love the short Hey, I'm here and doing well posts- it is just so good to know people are doing ok. (I stalked Acadia, who also feels like this thread moves way too fast, and found out she is hanging in there AF with AA - yeah Ann!!!).

j-vo;1627836 wrote: I am a crabby bitch today

Now that just cracked me up! As long as you're an AF crabby bitch, that is just fine! :l

Marylou123;1627877 wrote: I am grateful for my life, I'm grateful al is no longer, and never will be, a part of my life. I'm grateful to all of you for the love and support we share here....So, this post is all over the place, sorry, feels good to get this out.

I like the rambling posts, too! I guess I like all of them that document our paths out of this hell an into the best lives we can lead.

Hi to Daisy and HR and Dottie and LB and Dreamy and anyone else who reads this thread (until Satz and Rusty stopped by, I thought we were over in a corner of MWO!).

I'm coming off a weekend that was fabulous and I was able to enjoy everything about it and stay engaged in what was going on BECAUSE I don't drink. It makes all the difference.

xx, NS

[daisy45]

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NoSugar, I am so impressed with your logic and advice! Glad your weekend went so well. Ava, thanks; today is 3 weeks for me.....and I have to say today was the toughest since day 1! Almost caved; things got to me and I had little sleep last night. Thank goodness for the support of my girls - the thought of letting them down, and them telling me they are proud of me was definitely what held me back from losing it tonight. Suddenly, after a few hours of feeling like drinking, the feeling went. Am I so relieved?!
So got out that knitting and started back to a scarf which has been hidden away for about 6 years!
Was not expecting that today and glad it is over......for now!
Thank you all for helping me through so far.......

[NoSugar]

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Great to see you, Daisy! I was thinking maybe everyone quit MWO while I was gone ! All the threads are pretty quiet. I hope it is because everyone is out enjoying their AF lives .

[HumbleRider]

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I get a new C.S. Lewis quote every day on my phone. Today's was an interesting one:
"A silly idea is current that good people do not know what temptation means. This is an obvious lie. Only those who try to resist temptation know how strong it is... A man who gives in to temptation after 5 minutes simply does not know what it would have been like an hour later. That is why bad people, in one sense, know very little about badness. They have lived a sheltered life by always giving in."

[Pavati]

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Hi, Loamers-

Well, I'm back and yes, still safely on the sober path at day 78. There was one time when I was quite tempted - well, not tempted (because that sounds like I was close to drinking which I was not), but more like I really missed a drink. After a hike, a swim and a shower, coming up to make dinner, cocktail hour - MARTINIS! Yes, I did feel deprived. I ate a lot of nuts, drank some fizzy water, and concentrated on cooking a delicious meal, and the deprivation was over. I ate my favorite ice cream after dinner, and slyly stepped OUT of the half-drunk conversation that caused tension and anxiety for me. Today, of course, I was happy as a clam that I didn't drink. All in all it was an OK vacation. I'll process it with you all later (some drama unrelated to AL) if I have the need. I am still hesitant to put full details into my posts because I want to still be anonymous.

I will say this, however. Since I have had kids I used to say that I wished I could go to rehab so I could have someone take care of me, have therapy daily, eat well, sleep well and focus on myself (in retrospect, not a funny joke to those who do go to rehab). Anyway - today I was driving home and listening to Amy Winehouse and the song "Rehab." It started me thinking about my old saying, and what I would think of going to rehab now, and I realized that one thing I think I had longed for all along (although not known to me until now) - the inability to drink (and therefore the choice to drink off the table). WHAT A RELIEF. I am so happy that whatever needed to click finally clicked and I have taken that battle off the table.

Dottie - Glad we have a new addition (and another Madison to worry about).

Rox - sorry about your choice to drink. I think Ava and NS have given you plenty to think about. I hope you come back and jump right in.

And speaking of coming back and jumping right in - NARILLY!? We miss you.

NS- Glad you reported on Ann and checked in on her. I LOVE reading your posts. It has been quiet around here - probably more action around big drinking holidays, right? I'll keep posting for you!

SL, Satz, Rusty - thanks for the drop bys. This is a lot of reading on this thread but I do find it helpful to write AND read a lot about staying sober. I refuse to believe that I will relapse, and therefore I know I need to work hard.

Daisy - Three weeks is awesome - I'm glad you resisted and your girls are a great place to get inspiration. Someone reminded someone on another thread that it is important to remember how bad you felt when drinking (just tuck it away - don't obsess) so that you can think of that when you are tempted to drink. When the attitude of gratitude doesn't work, just trot out that memory.

J-vo - I'm sorry about your visit. My mother's a slob, too, but since I am one myself we get along OK (after all, she trained me). She lives close, though, so she never spends the night here. Hope you all get along.

Marylou - sounds like a terrible situation. Stick close you so don't make it worse by trying to deal with everything along with the anxiety, guilt and remorse that drinking would bring. My MiL was one of my favorite people on Earth, but she died about 10 years ago. My FiL is another story...

Ava - I hope you feel better. Weird that your body gave you the warning with the dream. Way to go on your 80 days. As I was leaving on my vacay you were talking about your mom. I want to say that I agree that you should tell her you're not drinking so she can get whatever she needs out before you see her. Also, try the meditation app - you could do a quick 10 minutes in the ladies if she hits your trigger.

LB - Doggie Mardi Gras sounds like a great time! Do they throw Doggie treats from the floats? Do dogs ride on the floats? I know you will spend this Mardi Gras sober, and I know you will be feeling so great to do so! Keep it up.

Humble - How's tricks? I love the CS Lewis quote - what is the inspiration for the daily quote? That's very cool.

As Ava says, PAT PAT PAT!

OK - that's all for now. I feel so MWO deprived I'll probably be back later.

xo

[j-vo]

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Daisy, I'm so glad you thought about your girls and their disappointment if you'd have drunk. That's wonderful that you have that support, like Ava. I know that is probably the strongest reason we will get through those rough patches. As a matter of fact, even though I don't talk about it with my son, maybe I should do some visualizing about how he used to see me, and how he sees me now. He's 16 and it's not as though he tells me things like he's proud of me for not drinking, but he knows, and I feel his happiness. I don't wanna let him down. And thanks for your support Daisy. You're right, too, that everyone has their challenges in life. No one is immune. We just don't know what they are, so we shouldn't be judgmental. We've not walked in their shoes. I second that logic and advice from NS. NS! You're freaking incredible. Not so eloquently said, but I really mean it!

MaryLou, I get the whole MIL thing. It took me years to come to terms with her ways, and we finally see eye to eye, as my SIL was poisoning her mind with lies for years. Sending strength your way, and good luck with your mom visit! Come and let off steam when you need to! And glad to see you're leveling out. I'm not so sure I am, but I was never much of a balanced person. I'd love to keep myself calmer through situations that hype me up.

LB, I bet you had fun today!!!! Send any pics!

Dottie, heartbreaking, but Maddie will get used to the loving environment she's in now. It'll take time for that trust to build, but it'll happen. How about a pic of her!

Ava, my vibrant vomiter! Hope you're feeling better sweetie. Happy day 80! We're so proud of your seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, and months.

NS, I don't know if I could even think about going on a drinking vacation with a drinking crowd. I know I wouldn't handle that well. All I would feel is temptation as that would be the focal point of the vacation. Well, for me it would be.

Anybody think Joyce Meyer got work done on her face? Mom doesn't think so, and I think she looks like the joker from Batman the way the ends of her lips curl up. I think I made mom mad by making that comment. I really like her as a speaker, but just sayin...

Today was a challenging day at work. I think my crabbiness from last night creeped into today. Maybe it's just the thought of the mom visit, I need to take off to go to funeral this Wed. and I have a hard time with flexibility. Another thing I need to work on. These things are endless. I just wanna do something fun. Maybe it's the weather getting to me. We're getting more snow tonight. It's been such a nasty winter, but, but it's been mostly sober for me! So really, it's been a good winter! Oh, I guess I need to work on that bi-polar, too. OMG! Have a great evening ladies.

[j-vo]

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xpost Humble...I have to reread that or someone's going to have to help me interpret that.

Pav, wow, you really have grown and done so well in your sobriety and coming to terms with what you need to do and who you are. I was saying that I didn't think I could be in that situation and do what you did. I guess I'm not there yet, but I want to be. Good for you!!!!

Hi SL, Roxy, Pat, Acadia, and all pretty girls.

[HumbleRider]

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j-vo--i had 'ie' for 'lie' just changed it so that it now makes more sense.

[little beagle]

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Just a quick check in for me tonight. I am tired.

[j-vo]

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Interesting, Humble. So we resist temptation and become stronger. Not giving in makes us stronger.

[narilly]

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Humble, I really liked that message. It makes sense that not to give in makes us stronger.

Gals, I am back home in my comfy bed with doggie beside me. I drank on my vacation and I really can see how and why I don't want to drink. The first night I drank I had 1. The second night 3 and then the third night 3 plus I bought a bottle after that to 'share' with my hubby. Of course, I was a bit hungover the next day. I am using this as learning. I really was aware of my loss of control. The hangover was a good reminder of what my life was like all the time before I went AF.
So now I am going to keep on this journey with a renewed sense of being AF.

Nothing good comes easy.

I have been reading your posts. I am really tired do will post more tomorrow.
Xo