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[j-vo]

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So, I was just on fb and I read this post from a so-called friend of a friend of a friend...

"I just walked out of the liquor store to get into my car. What I saw disgusted me. A woman who was standing in line in front of me was mixing a drink right inside her car! And she looked to be in her 70's. Has she no shame! I mean, I drink, but I'm not an alcoholic, thankfully. I feel for people like that but they need help. I just thought of my 16 year old son driving and got really disgusted."

So friend of a friend of a friend, whom I used to see at the bar every friday and saturday night looped up with your so-called husband who's been on comp leave for two years after working one year, what the hell are you doing at a liquor store on a Monday freaking afternoon!

[Dottie Belle]

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j-vo I have a treadmill and lots of DVD's in the basement but I just don't use them..so I will pay go to to the gym with a friend..makes NO sense but that is just me...dh wont go with me and hates to exercise so off to the gym hopefully 3 times a week...

[little beagle]

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Dottie sounds like the gym just might be a special you time. Hoe fun.
I too feel for that 70 year old woman.
I feel very socially anxious at times. It use to be worse. I did read Allen Carr and that helped me. Just telling myself that the anxiety I am feeling is ik and normal helps me put it into perspective. Have a good MAE or night all.
Good to see you here Jane.

[Pavati]

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Humble,

I don't know why I just thought of it, but I read about your dream while I was on vacation and couldn't respond. I just love the way the mind really plays things out in dreams, and I think that image of you walking past the beer on the stairs and just getting it out of the way is an amazing one. For some reason I picture fabulous legs going up a modern, wood staircase, party in the background, and an elegant, sober person walking right on by.

Jane, I agree. Good to see you here.

I feel sorry for that 70 year old, but the idea of her driving after that is terrifying as well. I hope she gets help.

Good night again,
Pav

[Pavati]

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Me again.

I was reading around the long term abstinence area and found this in a post by Mario - the four stages of recovery. Here is stage 3 (I thought we could all stand to read and think about it):

If you have been clean and sober for 90 days, you now need to put the tools that you learned in early abstinence to work toward maintaining your sobriety and avoiding relapse. maintaining your recovery is basically up to you. In order to maintain abstinence, it is important that you:

Avoid environmental triggers.
Recognize your own psychosocial and emotional triggers.
Develop healthy behaviors to handle life's stresses.

People get in trouble when they let their guard down after their early-absitence success. It is important that you not take your sobriety for granted and that your recognize the power of your addiction. Maintaining a recovery-oriented attitude is critical.
It is also important your participation in support groups and that you remain honest with yourself and others about your feelings and thoughts. Changes in attitudes, feelings and behaviors can quickly lead you to a relapse.
A relapse does not begin when you pick up a drink . It's a gradual process marked by negative changes in your attitude, feelings and behaviors. If you find yourself in the downward relapse spiral, do something different! Go to more support group meetings, spend time with others who support your recovery, maintain a heatlhy structure in your life, make sure you are in a drink-free environment and avoid external triggers. Take positive action to resolve any relationship, personal or work-related problems that are causing you stress.

G'night.

[narilly]

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I agree Pav. Poor 70 year old, what a struggle. Driving and drinking is scary anytime.

What happened to Moss? I missed something...is it in another thread.
The thing that Byrdie posted today about Robin Williams is another reminder of the vigilance we require.

I am starting to feel stronger about this weekend. Thanks ladies. I will take some good non AL drink for sure.

Goodnight!

[narilly]

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Cross post Pav! Again

Thanks for that post, I needed that. I feel like that is where I am.

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Hey Loamers, all sleeping snuggly i hope. Move over Jvo and stop snoring!

LB doesnt it feel good to be a grown up and responsible and to not give excuses about not going out as it will cut into our drinking time, or what used to be our drinking time. Thanks for making me think of the positives of this journey. Please dont remind me thought about the "repeating myself", my poor kids and i hated the next morning saying something and the kids would tell me i had asked that or said that 100 times the night before.

NS now i can maybe see some of me in melissa but ........ great heart she had! Its funny isnt it but i cant remember when al became an addiction and not just sociable but i do wish i had of realised. Thats the problem with addiction i suppose and i am just glad i do not drink now. Ive finished funking out also and realise after what Pav (Mario) posted further on that we need to protect our sobriety and keep working on it daily. Moss is a treasure and so glad she has stayed where she belongs and recognised why she drank. Its a hard lesson to learn and all of us dont want to fail but we are only human after all.

Nar we cant moderate as we are alcoholics/addicted to al or whatever u call it. I'm not sad about it this week but every week is different. Please be careful with this gathering you are going to, any sign of an urge and go outside or message someone but i am sure you will have your plan in place and be fine. No day 1's happening for you again. -29 FFS that is ridiculous.

Dot 60 and sober how good will that be. I remember how ill you were back then and you have come along way. I dont think that would be the case if you were still drinking somehow. You should be so proud of how far you have come and now the gym. Go girl!

Jvo i had the WII exercise thing but the batteries leaked so stopped working, an ab circle pro, an exercise ball, boxing gloves, an exercise dooby that hangs off my door that i bought a month ago and am still looking at, actually i am looking at all of them still. Oh well one day. I did take the dogs for a walk again yesterday though! What a bitch that woman is and yes what was she doing in the bottle shop, oh thats right she's not an alcoholic! We cant change other peoples opinions but a brick may help us feel better.

Pav i have no idea what happened to Unwasted, i may have to do a search on that thread or on the name, can you bump it. I am more excited about the century and i have a feeling next week the days are going to drag by and i still think it has to be someone else with 100 days. Surely not me or you. Where is Poppy? Have i missed her posting and she has not been on Roll Call either, i hope she is okay. You never waffle Pav just like i dont.

Jane congratulations on your 50 days, feels damn good doesnt it but be on your toes girl at all times. Al is our worst enemy and can strike at any time as we have been reading. So proud of your achievement and onwards and upwards!

Dream, now i so appreciate the comments you made about me (and Pav, name remembering) but OLD lol, i am going to take that as "old and wise". Its good to be able to chat to newbies when you are all asleep as i know when i first started i was so frustrated that there was no one around to chat to to take my mind of al. Now i just chat and chat and chat sigh! Better than drinking and drinking and drinking.

Work has been great atm, a co-worker who i totally relied on has cut back to one day working and i am just loving seeing the "others" who say they work and are lucky to just put an effort in to breath, have to actually work. I told my boss about all these tests that needed doing when he got to work today and he said "i am busy i have other things to do" and I said, no these need to be done so tell me when you are free. Mind you if he actually started at 8am when we are supposed to start he may have gotten his "things" done. Oh i am so enjoying myself as he is the one that hates me. Maybe he will start drinking AT me.

Its great to be smiling again! Take care girls xxx

[HumbleRider]

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It's 12:22 am and I am just now getting ready for bed. Sober. Will check in tomorrow. xo all

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Wow your up late Humble, sleep well lovely. its nearly 8pm here and i am exhausted.

[giraffe1234]

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Pavati, thanx for that reminder of stage 3 and the dangers of not recognising the downward spiral; and doing something about it.

[little beagle]

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Ava I am so grateful for you today. A good laugh to start my day and comradeship id just what I needed today. Reaching that 100 day mark ment so much to me. I am excited for you.
I am excited for all of us adding up wonderful af days.
Jane 50 is big. You start getting that feeling that yes you can do this thing. Hang in there my friend.:l

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Loamers where is my gazettes/newspaper articles to wake up to?

LB i will be pretty stoked when i make that 100 days even with all the ups and downs and emotions and living in the "here and now', its been interesting to say the least and i love it and you guys.

Wow Jane thats a big 50 to wake up to! didnt even need my glasses to see that one. I do love the numbers that end in a zero especially the higher ones as i never ever thought i could get to three figures. Think i will plan on 4 figures after i hit the 100.

have a great day all. xxxx

[Dottie Belle]

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Jane I thought u were 50 years old not 50 AF days...I need a vacation and some sleep....zzzzz
Congrats on 50 AF days....and turning 50 will be fantastic too...;-))

[j-vo]

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:yougo::applaud::bday3::rockband::kudos:Jane...

Congratulations, Jane, on 50 Days!!