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Good Morning/MAE Ladies!

I have a whole Saturday to myself which feels like a miracle.
I have a list of chores and things I "should" do-- but I don't think I will. I think I'll just do what I want to do!!

LB, I really loved you post about transitions. Thank you for that. I hope you have a great mardi gras celebration! Sounds like a blast-- what sort of loot are you talking about? I wish you could post a picture!!

j-vo, :goodjob:!!! You handled that so well-- the scenario scares me. The mind (beast mind, that is) so focussed on its goal that it seems impossible to steer in another direction. That is what has happened to me each time-- the pressure and the discomfort or the anxiety or the longing ( I mostly turn to drink when I'm down) are so strong that I turn to auto pilot, ignore all my tools and drink. I'm so glad your husband was there to help you-- do you have a back up plan if he folds??? I think I would get that into action -- I really need to get my plan in place... well done yesterday! I am excited to celebrate your 30 days with you.

Pav, CONGRATS on 90 days!! I am so proud of you!:woot: I always love reading your posts, sensitive, funny, full of great insight-- you're an amazing woman and I look forward to continuing to celebrate the sober life with you!

Ava! I wish I could knit. My youngest daughter who is 9 was crocheting (she is also an amazing knitter!) some rainbow coloured "egg warmers" for her papa's birthday. Somehow the fact that I wouldn't be able to help her if she ran into a problem came up, and she looked up at me slightly and said, "you know mama, most of the other mothers CAN knit." I know that already!!! She takes out her knitting bag when we're waiting in the doctors office or on the underground. How cute is that?
Anyway, Ava, for my 90 day celebration I would love to have some new leg warmers! Actually that will be in May-- How about a crocheted bikini? Yellow!!!

Warm hellos to Humble, Moss, Narilly, NS, -- wishing you all a wonderful Sat.

[little beagle]

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Lifechange the loot includez beads(size matters), plushies, plastic cups(? I never really understood that one. To drink al out of I think was the original idea. Most people have a stack on them in their home and use them for dog bathing, etc.) Plastic squeezable breasts(???) hats, plastic glasses, just gaudy trinkets like cheap plastic back scratchers. It's just crazy what will be thrown.

[NoSugar]

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Traveling today but wanted to say Hi and Thanks for the well-wishes.

J-vo, so glad you passed a big test with flying colors and LB, it is great that you're speaking up for your worthy self . Have a fabulous day - it sounds like such fun!

Nar - have fun tonight but keep to the mission, ok?

xx-NS

[j-vo]

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LB, have a super time today! Sound like so much fun! I'm glad you and DH had a talk, even if it was at 3:30 a.m. Ava I'm sure was up and could have mediated the discussion. And thank you for your input on antabuse. I'm still weighing the pros and cons on that.

Ava, thank you for being my friend and such a good listener. I appreciate you and all of your waffling, and knitting, and discombobulating...Glad you're feeling better.

Life, I think I said this before, but you sound like such a chipper girl! I hope you enjoy your day to yourself and don't do anything you don't want to do. As far as a back-up plan, yes I do. DH has two phone numbers in his cell. He is to call them if I'm being a stubborn bitch and keep bugging him to get me booze. You see, I could get the booze myself, but I think that's a part of me holding back. But if he's not around, then I have two phone numbers I'll call. So yes, I do have back up and plans are necessary. Please have one in place, because I would have been a very unhappy camper today had I drank last night.

Hi Nar, did you sleep well? We're getting another snowstorm here tomorrow. Oh well...

So as I reflect on last night, I feel that I have learned a lot from the situation. I know that I can go through al being in my face, and I turned my head and asked for help. I got the help and didn't drink. I'm really happy today that I was able to do that. More than happy. I'm going to tell DH that the next time I get crazy like that, that he do the same that he did for me last night. I went for lab work this morning, and if I had drank, I would not have gone, would have felt like shit. I also picked up my mammo films as I'm going to go to a new radiology dept. to get my mammogram done. So I was pretty darn productive and that would not have been the case if I didn't turn my head.

I hope everyone has a great Saturday!

[j-vo]

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:banana::armsaround:inkele:PAV, Congratulations on your 90 Days!!!!! You Rock Sister Loamer!

[Pavati]

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Hah. LB and J-Vo - Did you notice that the dancing rasta banana has a joint in his mouth?

I think I'll stick with the elephant. Hee.

[NoSugar]

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Congratulations on 90 days, Pav. You've done it with such style and helped so many others on your way - people both ahead of and behind you. Thanks :l!

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hi loamers

Sunday morning here and full of snot! Need to know basis, i know!

Pav, loved the pic, i am not a pink person but a gal had to do.......Yes i am going to talk to my dr, i feel fine about not drinking totally but i want to protect my quit with whatever it takes. i also hate taking drugs, funny when i poured one down my throat for 20+ years but i know i will be in a totally different environment and it is sooooooo damn hot, mind you last time i went i thought it was even too hot to drink. we will see! 90 days girl, feels good doesnt it, i cant wait to not remember the days and even now on roll call i have to look at the day before to see where i am up to but i think it keeps the newbies keen to see that it is totally possible, so posting i will keep doing. So very proud to walk the walk with you. I will have my scarf ready to wear for the big 100. Hope the bloody queen remembers to send us a letter for our 100th.

Nar good to see you on here, how did the date go with the girls? Fill us in please. Damn it is so cold over there. I have nearly finished my scarf, enjoyed doing it also but i think a cardigan is a bit too much for me atm and i get bored easily but you never know what this brain will think of to do.

LB if your party is today i hope you have the best time and maybe you can post some pics.

Dot before i forget, is hubs still alive and how is Maddy settling in? Hope its getting warmer for you to head out for walks.

NS i am disappointed in that short post so i expect a longer one late, dont let the team down. You are sounding happy and no "funking" for you.

Jvo a big hug from me to you. I am very very proud of you today for showing your strength against al and that at the end of the day it does not hurt to reach out for help. We are all here for each other every day of this journey and never forget that. Good on hubs for standing up to you, i remember if i wanted another bottle of wine i would crucify the boys until they went. I cringe at that, poor things, but they went of course, they did not want to be abused by a drunk mother. Funny isnt it how we always put off doing EVERYTHING when we were drinking. I think the only reason i went shopping was to get more al! As i am going to say again i am very proud of you my dear friend. xxx

LC i hope you are enjoying your you day, i certainly dont get enough of them. I love cleaning when there is no one home but that never happens with two boys who are computer freaks, but i love them anyways.

Well i have nearly finished the scarf. woo hoo, probably looks like shite but i dont care, another thing i have finally accomplished. I find i am so not pushing myself on this journey of being sober. One day at a time for me, literally. If i want to do it i will and if i dont i dont. I am just grateful every single bloody day to wake up sober and if that is all i achieve for the day then i have to be happy with that.

Drs today with my daughter and a coffee and defrosting the freezer to put the meat in that i bought. why oh why do the boys open and close and open and close the freezer? do they honestly think there is a delivery man at the front door waiting to pop something in there!

Be good lovelies as i know you will xxxxx

[Dottie Belle]

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ava hubs is good and I even cooked dinner tonight....woohoo.
No walks outside yet...it was 50 here today but they are talking 5-8 inches of snow by Monday morning....what a mess...glad we don't have to go anywhere. Guess I will make some tea and watch it snow...

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God you have had a long long cold winter, i hope we dont get one here.
So is Maddy settling in now?
I watched Saving Mr Banks last night a good watch and i love mary poppins, a sad life for a little girl with an alky father which i didnt know about when i started watching it. god in between knitting and movie watching life is busy!
Glad hubs is behaving himself and i dont have to start baking cakes with files in them!

[Dottie Belle]

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Yep Maddie is doing pretty darn well...he is better first thing in the morning...he runs around and plays with the other dogs. About 7pm, like right now, he is quiet and sitting next to me on the couch....I am hoping that once the weather is better I can get him to run in the yard with the other dogs..but he is wagging his tail and coming to us for attention and that is really good for him...he is a sweet little fellow...hate it that he had a rough start....

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Oh that is so good to see, how old is he? I would have 100 dogs if i could. My maddision is like a 2 year old again now that she is well and i am sure they love that i am sober and give them so much attention now. My sons have a 1 year old american staffy x pitbull that was scratching at my door at 7am this morning, he is like a 2 year old toddler, wanted to go and play. Son took him to play and now he is sleeping like a baby. I do prefer smaller dogs though. My shitzu is under the doona as we speak and she takes up more room than i do.

[Dottie Belle]

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They think he is 3-4 years old. We have 4 dogs now and they range from 1 year to the around 4 or 5...the other doggies were from shelters too and they don't know how old they are..the 1 year old is the only one we know for sure because the lady at the shelter knew the folks that had the mommy dog.

[MossRose]

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Hi all. Glad to see everyone is doing well.

LB - mardi gras really sounds like fun. I may have to make it one year. In fact New Orleans sounds like heaven right now. Just got home - roads are pure ice, now it's snowing and it's dipping below zero again tonight. Yuck! This is the winter of our discontent!! C'mon spring.

J-vo - glad you made it through the night. Don't know anything about antabuse except that it works. Anyway, you sound upbeat today so keep the faith.

Pav - congrats on 90 days. Impressive.

Ava - have you heard of ravelry.com? If not, it's a free community of knitters and crocheters who share patterns, photos and chat. Check it out. I think you'll love it. There's patterns for all levels of knitters. I drool over some of the yarns. LOL.

LC - always nice to hear from you.

And to those I missed, I apologize. Still catching up here.

So I saw my ex last night for the first time in a year. Wow - it was sad. He looks awful and is totally down on his luck. It's obvious that he is still drinking heavily. My heart actually hurt for him - not enough to try to rescue him - but enough to have compassion. I think I may finally be healing. I felt absolutely no animosity. Didn't think I would ever get to that point.

Have a great MAE everyone. Going to sign off for the night, and look though my new heirloom seed catalog. It's a beauty and makes me dream of sunny days.

[narilly]

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Moss, compassion is a great thing. Bitterness and animosity will just eat you up. Your Ex must really appreciate that. I think it says a Ton about you! Xo

J-Vo, wow, so good you asked for help. That is pretty amazing how your hubby helped you. I am on here now (for help)so I don't drink tonight. It helps me to read all of your posts.
It's -30c here, SO cold. Skin freezes in 3 mins. (Ava send a cardigan!) so
I think I will drive and that will be another reason not to drink.
I am proud of youJ-Vo.

Ava, my girls night is tonight and no drinking AL for me. Thank you for all your support. By the way, said Fark to my husband yesterday, he said 'what are you talking about?' Haha! I am starting to talk like you!
I Love Dogs too, love my pittie. Dottie, glad your dog is doing well.

I understand Pav why you can't have a pet. Oh well you have your hubs right? Hehe! He is like a pet!
Thank you for showing me to have gratitude. I have gratitude Pav and will be grateful not to drink tonight.

Ava, I Wish it was Hot here. Seriously. It has not been this cold for 20 years! Do you think your dogs know that you are sober? That is an interesting thought. Hey, but you are an interesting woman
Humble, glad you enjoyed mardi gras. You seem very strong, I am proud of you.

SL, thank you for helping me to stay sober.

I am taking AL off the table tonight and enjoying being sober. I will eat a bunch of food and enjoy the conversation. I will remember everything I say and won't get sloppy and inappropriate. I am way too classy for that!
Xoxo sweet ladies