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scottish lass;1635373 wrote: - did you see that WHO put out some new guidelines re sugar intake and that most people are having waaay too much?Yep - one Coke or large glass of OJ and you've had more sugar than recommended for the entire day !

lifechange;1635399 wrote: I stayed patient as my girls talked incessantly-- it was a competition between the two of them today!.

Hmmm.... maybe because they were so thrilled that mom was really paying attention and each one wanted all of you! I'll bet the stronger you get, the less needy they'll be because they'll know they can count on you anytime. :l

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Hi Loamers - NS here is your paper!

Well a big sleep in for me today, an extra hour, woo hoo. I want to be a teenager again every Saturday so i sleep till 1pm, other than that i never want to be a teenager again!.

Good to see loamers busy overnight, i love waking up to a read and a cup of tea, make that two this morning.

Dot i totally agree with feeling more confident, as the days roll on i feel that and so much more settled in myself. I dont have to prove myself to anyone now whereas when i was drinking i was always trying to prove that i was ok and coping and the list goes on. I like the new me and i am sure i can only get better.

Nar is it getting any warmer yet? We have daylight saving and it finishes this weekend so the mornings will be dark driving to work and it means it is heading into winter but i like hibernating for a few months.

Jvo i was thinking of getting a bike but knowing me i would ride it twice and then it would be used as a clothes horse but i am still thinking about it. You are sounding so good my lovely and i wish i was there with you for your 5 days of freedom. I so wish my boys would go somewhere for 5 days so i could frolick naked through the house and bugger the neighbours, they would only look once! Those mums sound like tossers and yes i would keep my mouth shut too. i am visualising the 1950's mums with their pretty frocks on and oh so perfect when really what goes on behind closed doors they probably are not. I would never tell my work colleagues that i have given up drinking as not sure that they realised that i was a blown out alcoholic. You my love are perfect just the way you are.

SL glad that you could check in, its always nice to see that us ladies are still sober or desperately trying. You are sounding good and hey some of your posts are like NS's. Well maybe not but wanted you to feel better (bit like saying my posts are like NS's). Maybe Nar is getting a touch of dementia but take that compliment. I am with you on the chocolate, yesterday i went to the shops to get some iced tea and thought no i wont get a chocolate and then at about 8.30 i was kicking myself. My son was at his friends and i messaged him and told him to pinch anything sweet they had in the cupboard, of course he didnt.

LC i am so glad you are back. I can totally understand the rollercoaster of drinking and not drinking but when i gave up and drank i then ran as far away from mwo as humanly possible until i hit bottom again. hitting bottom is not fun at all and you are having more af days than not. I remember LB saying awhile ago that "i dont have another quit in me" and i so totally relate to that one as at the end of the day it is hard to get our head back around to totally being af but of course its achievable and you did 100+ days. You will get there again, the determination is there, the being honest is there, the not lying is there, you are being accountable, it all there just waiting for you to take that final step of kicking al out completely and you will.

LB hello hello, how is family life going? You are sounding great so i am gathering the tribe is settled. I love op shopping for old clothes, well anything i dont have to pay shop prices for. I hope you can wear the dress on Monday for the big trippple digits! If its not purple i understand.

Dream hello, now the 60's were just great werent they, fashion sense of a gnat, hair that nobody wants to repeat in style but such fun. Nar and i have our 50th in April and i am kind of looking forward to that one but i just think "where the hell did the years go". I was thinking last night that honestly if it was not for my children i would have drank myself to death by now like my brother so i am totally grateful for turning 50 and sober. Oops off on a tangent again!

Pav you have a great weekend girl and i know i will see you Monday with your frock on and a smile on your face. You are perfect just the way you are and i for one am very proud of you not drinking. I mean if you said "i have a crack problem" would that person offer you a pipe and say "oh just have one". People are so narrow minded in their thinking and it so annoys me sometimes. Oh can i have vanilla slice please i am not a real fan of icecream. Notice i have not mentioned food at my party so you will all starve but now i think about it, bring a plate, mine will be empty of course as i hate cooking.

NS well you certainly have a plan, a 3 day party, go girl. the great thing is when i go to work tuesday it will be with a clear head and a letter from the queen to pin on my desk congratulating me on 100 but would not be as special as a letter from you guys. I love this thread, as Jvo said it is hard to find a place that you feel completely safe and happy and this is it for me, i feel as if i know you all and that has taken time to establish, i did not just say hi and fitted in like a glove, it took time for you guys to realise that i am a nutter but a happy one haha who says it as it is as others do but more eloquently. Oh and i swear, not sure anyone picked up on that! If not for loamers i am not sure where i would be but here i am safe and i am loved.

I was talking to my daughter Mia yesterday and she is suffering from horrible anxiety atm which stops her from going to work. She said she just wants the panic attacks to stop and i said to her honey if you dont put in the effort then you wont get better, she kind of got defensive on that one as she is smoking pot and that so not helps and she wont listen religiously to her relaxation tapes etc. Well yesterday she said she had been two days without pot and again said how proud of me that i was not drinking as it must of been so farking hard to stop and stay stopped. I could not disagree with that comment. As i said to her you need to go one day at a time and i was there to help her if she needed it. As i was talking to her about you guys she said to me that she knew this time i would not drink as i was on mwo and i was taking all the support i had offered to not drink and you guys were like my family (she even asks how you are by name) and that she would also realise that when i stopped talking about you all that i was having serious thoughts of drinking which was when she would step in and even post on here.

I have everything i need in place to keep me sober and that makes me happy and even my children realise what you guys have done to me and my family, we are one again now, dysfunctional and happy and i never would have it any other way.

I can feel that this is a long post haha. Happy reading lovelies xxxx

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Me again - I know right! I am doing my whole weeks posts in one day!
I am not sure if anyone recalls, but for a christmas gift from some of my staff I got a 6 month subscription to a wine of the month club. Two bottles a month - how very kind! Well, I got the first delivery and gave it away very quickly - cat sitter wondered what came over me:H I have been "out" for the last two deliveries and now there are 6 bottles coming - they caught me by phone and I asked to cancel it, but they said they couldn't do that - any wonderful ideas how to get rid of 6 bottles of boutique wine??? Help please:upset:

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FABULOUS NEWSPAPER TODAY, AVA!! (Great warm-up for your 100 day speech!) You put the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and local paper that are waiting for me downstairs to shame! I'll take the Ava Gazette over them any old day (and really, the poor local paper is less meaty than your posts these days).
The thing is, I barely remember to breathe when I'm reading your posts so your long ones just about do me in. But I love 'em. And you! Enjoy your Saturday .

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scottish lass;1635425 wrote: Me again - I know right! I am doing my whole weeks posts in one day!
I am not sure if anyone recalls, but for a christmas gift from some of my staff I got a 6 month subscription to a wine of the month club. Two bottles a month - how very kind! Well, I got the first delivery and gave it away very quickly - cat sitter wondered what came over me:H I have been "out" for the last two deliveries and now there are 6 bottles coming - they caught me by phone and I asked to cancel it, but they said they couldn't do that - any wonderful ideas how to get rid of 6 bottles of boutique wine??? Help please:upset:

How about a church that serves wine at communion? Or do they use some type of special wine? Do you have a friend that you know absolutely for sure doesn't have a drinking problem that you could just give them to? Or an organization that could raffle them off as part of a fund-raiser? Dumping may seem wasteful but as a last resort, that would be a whole lot better than keeping them around and tempting yourself.

Nice to see you around today !

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SL if all else fails tip them out, oh i know it could hurt as i would think, what a waste of money but hey when we dont drink there is no other option. You could bury them in the back yard and dig them up for xmas presents, give them to the neighbours. You made me laugh with with the "cat sitter", i could just imagine her face thinking wtf has come over this woman!

NS glad to be of service, i may not have much to say about my 100 days but knowing me! Please remember to breath NS, i would hate to be blamed for your early demise on mwo and i love you too much to kill you.

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Hi All,

Yes, I am alive and kicking in NY! I heard the call for all absentees to get back in the saddle!

Day 63 here. Starting to feel that being AF is the default position, as I think NS said at one point! That's pretty awesome. Like many of you, I don't think I have another quit in me, it's just too damned hard, too painful, too humiliating. Having that compulsion to drink, NO MATTER WHAT, is just the worst!

I am still in AA. I go hot and cold with it, to be honest. The very best part is going to meetings and hearing what everyone is struggling with. It's quite humbling because I can see myself in every single person, no matter who they are or how low or high their bottoms were. And plenty of people relapse...and some come back. It's really a heartwarming experience and it keeps me going. This is such a pernicious problem, it's really amazing how many people struggle!

Someone today said, "Instead of wanting people to THINK I'm ok, I want to ACTUALLY BE OK!" How many, many times have I tried to act like everything was fine, that I was not drunk or tipsy, that I didn't have a problem. Going AF helps me stop acting!

Anyway, you are doing well, LOAMERS! I'm impressed this thread has gone on so long and has such loyal followers! Pretty funny group, I giggle every day!!

Ann

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Hi Ann - you are doing great! Sneaking up with 63 days - you go girl!

NS - I think communion wine is something special - I have a couple friends I can give a couple to, but 6 botttles will seem weird - I thought about donating to school, but they are (delightfully) AF zones and can't even use my poison!

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SL, I like Ava's idea about burying them and then digging up a xmas to give out as gifts! Do you have a family member that can hold them for you until xmas then you can give out as gifts to co-workers? How about using some for cooking. Doesn't the alcohol burn off if you cook with it? Any parties coming up that you have to bring something? That's all I got for ya! Oh, you could send them to my mom...

LifeChange, what a great day you had with your girls! Just hearing them chatter must make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. And give you a headache at the same time! I'd much rather see that than depressed and sad girls.

Ava, the baseball and basketball moms and dads will only last two more years, so I'm going to enjoy it as much as possible. There's so much drama, it's unbelievable. I went this evening to check out the venue for the banquet and discuss tables, food, and other things. The woman I was with mentioned about going to her house on Thursday to make the table decorations and wrap the boys gift bags (this is 7th - 12th grade basketball so there's a lot of boys!). She mentioned again about having wine and having fun. There are 5 other women going to work on this. Of course I didn't need to say anything, but right away, I got nervous and said:

I gave alcohol up for lent. Then I said...
I've been getting these nasty blotches all over when I drink lately...
I don't know if it's menopause, but...
I just got lots of blood work done last week...
Omg, it must be menopause...I gained 30 lbs. in the last three years! (that's true and so was the blood work)

So after saying all of this, I though to myself, FFS, why did I say anything!!!!!! I just kept rambling on and on.

Ava, talking about not taking long to figure out your a "nutter," nutters seek other nutters out. Just sayin'...
And does Mia have your password for MWO? Give it to her! DH has a few phone numbers and fb names.

NS, I love the Ava Gazette!

Hi Ann, and congrats on your 63 days! Wow, so great! Thanks for checking in with that great news. You sound so great. I know what you mean about hearing others stories. I used to love going to speaker meetings. It's a powerful thing, being in a room with all those people with the same problem and listening to the stories, then relating so much of it to yourself. Really good stuff.

Ok, going to watch more of Breaking Bad. I'm hooked. Sleepin in tomorrow! And waking up with a clear head. Sweet.

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Wow, some great posts tonight from you gals! I can hardly stay awake so I will check in tomorrow.
G'Night
Xo

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Hi Ladies!
We have been blessed here with the most beautiful morning imaginable! The sun is flooding our flat, skies are blue as can be. We just ate the yummiest american style pancakes (with the egg whites folded in-thanks Jamie Oliver!) with berries and I've done the dishes and the girls are playing happily in their room!

So nice to read all the new posts-- I LOVE waking up to the Ava Gazette. Best read in town! Ava, it's so nice that you are able to help your daughter. She knows you have been through a lot and can understand what she's dealing with. You have become a very positive roll model for her and for all of your kids. What's up with the boys on the computer all day long? I am so thankful that my BF's son isn't here this morning as his room gets the best light this time of day and if he were here, the curtains would be closed, the door would be closed. I was thinking-- My life centers around food and I LOVE to cook. So how about I cook for your party on Monday? YAYYYY!!! What do you like to eat? DO you like to eat? I cook mostly vegetarian, but not boring vegetarian. I can roast a chicken or a leg of lamb and I can make yummy chicken livers, but that's about it for meat. I'm wearing a really crazy, down to the floor, long sleeved early 70's dress so look out!

Jvo, I've done that before-- going on and on because of being nervous instead of keeping my mouth shut. I'm still learning how to just be quiet. I hope you have a fun time making the gift bags. What goes inside? Sport socks? sweets? My nephew is 15 and on the JV team at his school and it was so much fun to watch him play while we were visiting. I love watching basketball and I was so proud of him! What you said about the girls is true-- I am so lucky to have happy, talkative girls. The oldest one is 12 so I'm looking for that to change sometime in the near future. Puberty scares me. I definitely want to be sober and with both feet firmly planted when that time comes!

Ann, Well done on 63 days! Good to see you!

SL, Hi!!! I am always wondering in which part of CA you're living? Maybe you told me once and I forgot..? I lived in Fullerton for awhile (where my parents grew up) and my extended family is in San Clemente and Petaluma.--And how old are your girls? Mine are 9 and 12.

Pav, Have a great weekend!
Narilly, NS, LB, Dottie, who else? :l:h

I am looking forward to sticking to my plan today. I will make sure that I am close to this computer at 3 today. That seems to be the beginning of my crazy time. Thank you all so much for being here!

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Loamers just a check in for me. Notice i did not say "quick".

Hi Ann, glad you could check in and day 63 too that is fantastic. I think if AA works for you then go for it, anything that keeps us sober is something to be grateful for. Only 37 more sleeps till we celebrate your 100.

SL if someone had of given me 6 bottles of wine when i was drinking i would have loved them for oh 3 days at least till they were gone but normal drinkers would probably find it strange. Sports groups or something may appreciate them for raffles.

Humble where are you?

Jvo you funny girl but i think you have covered it all of why you CANT drink haha. I had a laugh about that one, i would have looked at you like you were a frigging maniac or a nutter! Oh you are so thats ok. The boys were into soccer when younger and we used to go on lots of camping trips, i was the only mother getting blind, i hate thinking back over that one but i was the life of the women and damn some of them were snotty also. they used to complain about their husbands drinking, i didnt as i was drinking as much as the ex. I showed mia my post from this morning and she just laughed and said "you really dont shut up do you mum". No comment! I am so glad that this weekend is better for you al wise and those cravings are not there, very proud of you girl, very very proud.

LC good to see you sounding so positive and checking in, i think it makes so much difference with drinking or not being on here. Your breakfast sounds divine, much better than the toast and vegemite that i have but i love vegemite.

A long frock, damn i will have to see what i have in my wardrobe, i cant be outdone on my day and yes please cook a feast. Mia is vegetarian and i love vegetarian meals, they are so varied than the 3 vege and meat that most Aussies eat. I do cook but not often and it is always just a throw in food, cook it and hope for the best although today i did cook a quiche, due to the fact that one son dropped the eggs so i had to do something with the 7 broken ones. Did think of giving them to the dogs but then brainwave hit and i cooked a nice quiche. Just dont forget the vanilla slice please.

puberty, blah to that one. the girls just turned evil and knew everything and looked at me like i was a moron but now they are the best. You can go for coffee, shopping and just chill together. Boys mmm they are sarcastic, whinge, complain, dont want to hang with you but are adorable and are very protective when needed. Just quietly i do prefer my girls though we have such a close bond. Hopefully i will still be awake at your 3pm but if not i will have lots to read when i wake up on my last day of double digits. getting excited.

Well lovelies i am going on youtube to figure out how to fix my stuff up with my knitting. i showed mia today and she loves the scarf so i just need to fix it and finish it which would have been done last week if i had not got annoyed with the damn mistake i made.

Have a lovely Saturday, love you all
xxxx

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J-vo I personally don't think people need a lot of explanation why I don't drink. I just don't. A smile and saying no, I'm happy with this water, juice, or whayever is usually sufficient. I downplay and change the subject. As Byrdie reminds us, they are more concerned about what is in their glass then what is in ours.
Ava I hope that Mia can get that anxiety unddr control. That is a terrible feeling. :l
SL just keep posting.
Good to see you Ann.

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Good morning or midnight (Ava) or 3 pm (LC).
Time for breakfast but be back in a bit!

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Hi! and happy 4 pm here-- NOT!!!
just a quick bitch. Feel free to SKIP over this. But I think it will help to get it out. Got home from a lovely day out with the girls to the BF's son and his friends who happen to be about the most thoughtless people I know. They are only 13 and are being raised like kings. I have been living with BF and son for 8 years and gave up about 3 years ago to have any influence on the son-- as BF and ex have very different values than I as far as raising kids goes. I hate living here with them. It depresses me each and every day. I won't drink over it anymore. I won't hurt myself because of them. I have tried so hard to accept them and our differences and I can ACCEPT it-- I just don't want to live with it. I can't imagine at least 7 more years with the kid-- probably longer as I can imagine he'll never move out!! End of rant. DAMN! that felt good.

Went for lunch and followed the plan of having water instead of beer. Then came straight home to write here first and to wait out a couple of hours before doing the shopping. I am doing one day at a time. Staying in the moment!

Good morning to you, NS...:h
Ava, I'm planning out the menu and the hugest "slice of vanilla" (whatever that means!) you've ever seen.