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[NoSugar]

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Pav, I'm sorry the whole universe didn't know to be nice to you yesterday . But how great that your response is no longer to get past stress by having a drink! As we know, it doesn't work for us anyway.

Hey, J-vo - where did your extra posts go? I thought it was cute that they got 3 sets of Congrats from you!
You, by the way, are sounding so good these days :l. Tomorrow is #40! No reason to ever look back!

You're sounding very introspective, LC. Isn't amazing what we can really think about when we're not consumed by getting and drinking alcohol and then feeling too awful to think about anything for several hours?? I guess avoiding having to think was part of the point but it is so much better to just face and deal with life. I'm so glad you came back .

Ava, that missing plane is quite a mystery. I don't want to be a conspiracy weirdo but it is hard to believe that we know the whole story... Then again, if they don't know where it was heading, that is a lot of ground and water to cover in the search.

Speaking of missing, I am concerned about our pal, HumbleRider. Has anyone heard from her? I am concerned about other missing Loamers, too, but Humble mentioned about a week ago that she intended to check in more. I sure hope she does.

Edit: I'm a silly mother hen! HR is happily AF .

:h NS

[narilly]

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NS, thanks for that link, it was very interesting.

J-Vo, I wish I had a teacher like you! How lucky your students are. I remember in Grade 6, they used to play "Here Comes the Sun" by the Beatles every morning. I Loved that and still think of it.

Ava, the plane? How nuts is that? Ya, just like NS said, the conspiracy theorists are going crazy. Aliens perhaps? It is getting lighter out in the morning here and in Australia its getting darker. That is so interesting. Now our days are starting to get longer. It is daylight after work now and before it was dark around 4pm (which totally sucks). Yup, warmer and brighter, just great for me

Pav, glad you at least got some ice cream to celebrate your 100 days. Today will be better with your family. Men just don't get stuff like that, they are not very nurturing are they? At least mine isn't.

Life, haha! That made me laugh! Getting kicked off the site for talking about Solitare. You are so cute.

Talk later gals,
Sober me

[MossRose]

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Just a quick check in.

LC - I had to respond to your post. Profound. I do believe that we can cause our own suffering. I know I am guilty of this. Not just by drinking (which of course, is the ultimate form of self-induced suffering), but also from holding on to past hurts, by being self-righteous and not fully forgiving myself or others. Thank you for a timely post. And congrats on 7 days!!

Mary - 50 days is impressive. Way to go.

Ava - The plane! hmmm...it sure is a mystery. Don't want to feed any conspiracy theories either, but it sure is tempting.

j-vo - did I get this right? Tomorrow is 40 days? Congratulations.

NS - what can I say except thank you for being my rock.

I actually have good news to share today. After my divorce, a long-term friendship (20+ years) ended. My GF just got fed up with me for good reason. And you all know what that reason is. Anyway, I have never stopped missing her. I think in some ways, losing her was a million times worse than losing my marriage. But today - she reached out to me. I am going to do everything I can to repair this friendship. Getting a second chance is like a miracle.

Take care all.

[NoSugar]

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MossRose;1637213 wrote: . I think in some ways, losing her was a million times worse than losing my marriage. But today - she reached out to me. I am going to do everything I can to repair this friendship. Getting a second chance is like a miracle.

That is so wonderful, MossRose. If she is a person who can forgive, she is a lucky person and a good person to have as a friend. I think it is key to just about everything. she is fortunate that you are coming back into her life, too :l.

We're all getting a second chance here - that is what quitting drinking offers .

[scottish lass]

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Hi - quick, quiet check in - back from daughters school after big meetings with all her teahcers and counselor - this meeting has been arranged for a month and only half of the teachers managed to show....they all said my daughter is capable, but she is still failing - not sure if I have come away much better than we went in, but hopefully we are on the radar now...
I feel like a limp rag now...
My other one, she is student of the month and made honour roll again....
Pooped - will read back in a bit - hope all are good....gosh, bit teary, will have to go and compose, will check in in a bit...

[NoSugar]

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Sorry that is going on SL. Stay close, especially if you need support :l.

[Marylou123]

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Hi Loamers,

J-Vo, No Sugar, Ava, MossRoss - thank you so much for the congrats. It feels so delicious to be AF for so long. You all have helped me so much and I love you for the honesty, support, encouragement, empathy, friendship, and time you've put into MWO.

Life - the Buddist passage was vey timely for me - I have been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately. Ava also talked about forgiving and not forgetting in an earlier post. I need to explore it more,

Have a lovely EAM depending on your locale.

[scottish lass]

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NS - staying close - needed some comfort - can't have wine as I don't drink, can't have chocolate as I am on a diet, so ate a plate full of asparagus!!
Hopefully going to sleep tonight - I need it so much!

[NoSugar]

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Your pee is gonna stink :H! (Glad we can talk about everything here...)

[little beagle]

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SL I guess I just needed a laugh.
I hate addiction. It makes people so selfish. I need a beak so bad. I just don't want to be everybody's support. I want them to give sometimes instead of take, take, take.
No I will not drink at this problem, but I am tired of it. I hate the lies and the selfishness.
I dram of just getting in my car and driving away. Never seeing these people again. I don't even think it would hurt. I have cried a million, billion tears.
Seriously in 3 years of hubby trying to quit, we have gone through this probably 100 times, easy. I just cannot any more. I will have to find another way to live.

[NoSugar]

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:l LB :l. I wish there were some way to help you. It is hard enough to get this done for ourselves. You're doing that plus trying to pull others along with you. I wish they appreciated you as much as we do.

[little beagle]

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Thanks. I have friends. That is worth more then anything.
Going to sleep now.
I love you ladies.

[narilly]

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Love you Lil B. Have sweet dreams.

SL, it's amazing how two kids can be so different. Mine are the same way. It is draining for sure. Have a good sleep.

Where is that plane?

I'm reading The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls, it was referred by someone on MWO. It is pretty good so far.

Falling asleep...

[Pavati]

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MAE, All:

LB - so, so sorry for what you are going through. I am happy you have so many friends. I can't give advice as I don't know your husband, but I DO know that you have to look out for yourself. Strength! Peace!

Strength and peace to you, too, SL. I get frustrated when I am in parent meetings with other teachers and they say "if so and so just cared enough" or "he's lazy." Blah blah. That doesn't help. I always cry in my own conferences with teachers. My two sons are very different students, too, and I always feel the judgement around the second one. One school psychologist even gave me a parenting book once (and he didn't even have kids FFS).

J-Vo - What a great teacher you are. I love the idea of the song and the lotion (do you make your own)? Those students are lucky to have you.

MaryLou! 50 is awesome!

LC (I'm still not used to the squirrel - look for that dove of peace), I am a fan of Pema - she is popular in the states. I like your message for today. CONGRATULATIONS on one week. Stay strong, squirrel!

Glad you heard from Humble, NoSugar - I actually PM'd her just before I came down to this thread. Thanks for letting us know she is good.

Nar - I read Glass Castles and couldn't put it down. An amazing story - I can't believe that some of it is true! Like Mary Carr's book (Liar's Club).

Ava - sorry you're tucking into winter - I was just saying how relieved I am to finally notice the longer days and more light up here. That plane is a weird thing. This story from the New Yorker includes a description of how hard it is to look for something at sea. Pretty amazing.

Moss - so glad about your good friend - being sober will help you patch things up, I am sure. That sounds amazing.

Giraffe - bear hug to you - thanks for stopping by and for the good wishes.

Ok, time to toddle off to bed.

Thanks for everything!
xo
Pav

[lifechange]

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Hello Lovely Loamers,

J-vo! Well done on 40 days! You are doing so well, sounding so positive.
and Marylou, congrats on 50 yesterday! Half way to 100 is pretty exciting, isn't it? I still want to see a picture of your gigantic pot holders.

LB, my heart is with you. I don't know personally how difficult it is to support a partner with an addiction, but I do know how it is to have a mother who couldn't stay quit and I really feel for you. I am wondering if it is at all possible for you to get away to have a couple/few days on your own? Maybe that wouldn't help.. but if you're feeling the need to re-group, gather strength.. Much love to you.

SL, I'm sorry to hear about the parent conference. I don't know the history of your daughter in school. Is she the eldest? It is so frustrating with the school system in general, I think-- there are so many ways to learn and it should be possible to find a good solution for someone who has problems following the "normal" path. My kids are also completely different in the way they learn.:l
So you started on your diet? I'm proud of you! I am starting today (just remembered!) with no sugar/super simple carbs. And I will exercise today.

Ava! Hi dear-- I can't believe it either re: the airplane. Very strange. And sad for all of the families not to know where their loved ones are. I hope you will have a wonderful day at work tomorrow..at least a bit better than the last.:h I am so messed up with the time zones. How many hours ahead of Europe are you? Damn! I don't even know which city you're in.

NS, thank you! I am so grateful that you supported me so much and led me to this group of wonderful women!

and Moss, such great news about your friend. What a great opportunity to rebuild an important relationship in your life. I am very happy for you!

Pav, I don't really like the squirrel either. I mean. I like it, it's cute, but not for my avatar! I'm just too lazy to find another! I will soon, though.

Nar, You're cute, too! I am going to order the Glass Castle. I need a good book to read. Thanks for the suggestion..
Giraffe, :sun:

Ok I have to get off to work. My goal for today is to stay as present in the moment as I can-- Not to let my mind wander too far into the past or the future. And when that happens, to gently pull myself back into the moment. I can do this! I will choose not to drink today no matter what and no matter who! (thx for that, Byrdie)
Wishing you all a lovely day.