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j-vo;1638793 wrote: Hi all,
I'm not going to be able to read much today. SO busy and a little anxious, but I just wanted to check in and say I'm fine and will talk to you tomorrow.

Just remember your signature line, Friend :
February 2, 2014
No matter how I feel or what happens in my day, I will not drink.
xx, NS

[scottish lass]

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Morning all - braces off girl #1 - retainer on Thursday and that will be just a different sort of problem!
Ava - we have three cats and a fish, I love dogs - not a cat person at all, but we are not home enough for cats. My daughter finds one a week she wants to adopt thou and it tears my heartstrings! And shorts & T shirt is the best I can manage:H
Pav - I do feel good, evenings are still difficult, but if I can remembr how good the good is, then I can survive.
My girls know - I have not told them outright - I have said I am cutting back, watching how much I drink - they know what the green dots on the calendar mean. I have not said that I have a drinking problem or that I am an alcoholic (probably have not said that to myself really). There is such a lot of talk at school about drugs, and alcohol is in that group - I want them to be able to have a healthy relatiosnhip with alcohol if they chose to or are able to. They are very happy I am not drinking, and they talk about not wanting to - so everything feels ok at this point and I will leave it there...

J-Vo - not sure what you need, but some huge :l"s coming your way....

[lifechange]

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haven't yet read back, but will soon--
quick TMI question..

does anyone have a good natural (or not) remedy for constipation?? It's been a bit of a prob since I quit drinking..

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lifechange;1638859 wrote: haven't yet read back, but will soon--
quick TMI question..

does anyone have a good natural (or not) remedy for constipation?? It's been a bit of a prob since I quit drinking..

Resistant starch (e.g. potato starch -not flour) in cold water twice a day. Start slowly - e.g. 1 tsp or so and see what happens. Up to 4 tbsp/day is fine but you wouldn't want to start there!

Here's an article about it:Resistant Starch 101 - Everything You Need to Know

[lifechange]

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Thanks NS.. what about psyllium husk? Have you heard of that?

j-vo, big hugs to you, Lovely Lady. I sure hope everything is ok..:l

LB, you are sounding like you feel better today. Good news about your daughter moving in with a friend. That might give you a little bit of breathing space. Nice that you had a short day of work! I have tomorrow off and am looking forward to it. I like that you are stating your intention for the day. I want to start that tomorrow again!

SL, I bet you look just fine in a bikini! I've asked Ava to crochet me a yellow one for my 100 day party, but I don't think she took me seriously! You sound like me with the pets! We so want a dog, but living in a flat on the 5th floor without a lift doesn't make it easy. So we have 2 cats, 2 mice and have already had hamsters and guinea pigs. Nothing really takes the place of a dog, though.

Ava, so happy to hear Maddy has a safe, reliable place to stay while you're away! Sigh of relief..:h Didn't really want to come home to her perched on top of the fireplace or wherever it was the boys said they'd keep her for you! Your boss sounds like a real piece of work. I would seriously consider making a voodoo doll of him/her and poking it with pins! or knitting needles-- you could catch the feet on fire! or step on it with the heels of your stilettos! Hey! How was the date? Or is it still coming up?

Nar! You're sounding good, too! Two older teenagers-- I will be asking advice from you in the not so distant future. It's great that you are letting your son experience what he needs to. I have just learned, with the help of a great friend, that I am probably letting my ego and my past get in the way of my parenting. Hasn't been too extreme yet with regards to how I've acted-- but with worries. I do project. And the thought of the girls drinking and smoking weed scares the shit out of me. But of course, they have to figure things out for themselves, too. Where is your daughter going to college? How far away is it from you? You can borrow my airplane if you need to!!

Hi Giraffe and Marylou!! Hi Pav! Beautiful Still Water-- I didn't know your name was a Hopi name.:h Have to help the kids get ready for BED! will check back. xo

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Quick check in this morning, i actually did not have a bad sleep but now i wish i was getting a good 8 hours that seems everyone who gives up drinking has after a time. mine is still crap but i think i am just a crap sleeper.

Jvo you look after yourself, you know how you got on you 40 days that you used to get to and then drink, dont get yourself stressed and hit the repeat button. You are the main focus now and it is early days still for you lovely, god its early days for me also and we are in recovery we are not cured and never will be. Big hugs and deep breaths, i am thinking of you.

Nar my boys smoke pot and grow pot and ....... I was so cranky last night, as i said my son won some money and he said he was going to buy me a laptop, well my other son gave his rent money to my son to help buy it which means i get no money. I said to youngest put that money in my account as i need to pay rent and get in front before i go away and do not worry about the computer. Buying son comes in with a rant about money and blah blah blah. i said to him not to worry about the computer, i need money to go away and to make sure the rent, electricity, internet, water, gas etc is still on when i get home. Before i would have gone off about broken promises to me etc but now i am just disappointed but thats ok. As i told them my laptop is a fractured soul just like its owner and thats ok, we will make it through for another amount of time. i was so looking forward to something new from my son but alas not to be. in my drinking days i would have been furious and lashed out with hurtful words, now im disappointed but its another day today. i have woken up, i am sober and i am alive and happy, who needs a new computer really. shit started a waffle. Oh my youngest son was quite a drinker and i was pretty worried about him but since i have stopped drinking he has slowed down so much and i only realised it when we started talking about it on here. That makes me happy.

LC i cant crotchet yet sigh. i used to crotchet rugs with my nana but that was such a long time ago but its on the cards when i get the knitting sorted out. My boss is a dick, always will be and i wont think about his actions as i get anxious and i know i am damn good at my job and i enjoy it and he is not going to ruin that for me. Its not my problem he is a total tool but i will keep the voodoo doll in mind ha ha.

LB they so dont realise the cost of living and it is hard for me sometimes being single, taking from peter to pay paul with bills etc and putting everything before me also so i am guilty like you. i just hope things will change in the house. god they think i should be grateful they pay a third of the rent. grrr.

well have to go and get ready guys. i am glad you are all sounding good. Remember we are the important ones with our families and i do realise now that if i dont look after myself then i dont have a happy content family also. I think for 20 years i didnt have that and now i do, we all do and i for one am grateful.

Oh constipation, man now that shits me! well it doesnt ha ha. Like you LC that is a problem with me also. Before it was diahorrea and now constipation. cant win. I will look at what you posted NS today as i need something but hey all i need to do in thailand is drink the water and i will never be off the loo.

have a happy night/day. xxxxxx sorry if i sound whiney! PMS time blah.

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Quick check in this morning, i actually did not have a bad sleep but now i wish i was getting a good 8 hours that seems everyone who gives up drinking has after a time. mine is still crap but i think i am just a crap sleeper.

Jvo you look after yourself, you know how you got on you 40 days that you used to get to and then drink, dont get yourself stressed and hit the repeat button. You are the main focus now and it is early days still for you lovely, god its early days for me also and we are in recovery we are not cured and never will be. Big hugs and deep breaths, i am thinking of you.

Nar my boys smoke pot and grow pot and ....... I was so cranky last night, as i said my son won some money and he said he was going to buy me a laptop, well my other son gave his rent money to my son to help buy it which means i get no money. I said to youngest put that money in my account as i need to pay rent and get in front before i go away and do not worry about the computer. Buying son comes in with a rant about money and blah blah blah. i said to him not to worry about the computer, i need money to go away and to make sure the rent, electricity, internet, water, gas etc is still on when i get home. Before i would have gone off about broken promises to me etc but now i am just disappointed but thats ok. As i told them my laptop is a fractured soul just like its owner and thats ok, we will make it through for another amount of time. i was so looking forward to something new from my son but alas not to be. in my drinking days i would have been furious and lashed out with hurtful words, now im disappointed but its another day today. i have woken up, i am sober and i am alive and happy, who needs a new computer really. shit started a waffle. Oh my youngest son was quite a drinker and i was pretty worried about him but since i have stopped drinking he has slowed down so much and i only realised it when we started talking about it on here. That makes me happy.

LC i cant crotchet yet sigh. i used to crotchet rugs with my nana but that was such a long time ago but its on the cards when i get the knitting sorted out. My boss is a dick, always will be and i wont think about his actions as i get anxious and i know i am damn good at my job and i enjoy it and he is not going to ruin that for me. Its not my problem he is a total tool but i will keep the voodoo doll in mind ha ha.

LB they so dont realise the cost of living and it is hard for me sometimes being single, taking from peter to pay paul with bills etc and putting everything before me also so i am guilty like you. i just hope things will change in the house. god they think i should be grateful they pay a third of the rent. grrr.

well have to go and get ready guys. i am glad you are all sounding good. Remember we are the important ones with our families and i do realise now that if i dont look after myself then i dont have a happy content family also. I think for 20 years i didnt have that and now i do, we all do and i for one am grateful.

Oh constipation, man now that shits me! well it doesnt ha ha. Like you LC that is a problem with me also. Before it was diahorrea and now constipation. cant win. I will look at what you posted NS today as i need something but hey all i need to do in thailand is drink the water and i will never be off the loo.

have a happy night/day. xxxxxx sorry if i sound whiney! PMS time blah.

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Good night everyone-- I'm off to lala land!! see you tomorrow. xx

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J-Vo, hope your day is getting a bit better. I guess we all have to have crappy days...speaking of that, its funny how drinking helps you go #2. I guess it is the body trying to get rid of all the toxins in our system and so it is easier to go to the bathroom. Doesn't that tell you how bad AL is for us! I have not real remedy for constipation, just eat lots of fibre and drink lots of water. I have chia seeds, flax, and hem seeds in my smoothie in the morning. I think that adds fibre along with the berries.
Psyllium husk- isn't that what is in Metamucil? That would work but you don't want to get too used to using it.

Life, my daughter is thinking of going to Victoria, BC which is in the next province. Probably about a 2 hour plane ride away. We will see where she goes. It is too early to tell.

Ava, you have your hands full with 2 sons. One son is stressful enough! Actually, my son is a really good kid but a mom always worries. When you go on your trip you can leave all your worries behind, at least for awhile. It will be nice to be away from your nasty boss too!

Talk soon.

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Got through St Paddys day sober and relieved! I think it was so hard because I know there were so many friends and family out having fun, but I know how my day would have ended. I do find I can goout to bars easily and enjoy it but not this early on and especially not today. I don't normally go out anymore for fear of making a fool of myself so looking forward to starting to get out and about.......when I am ready

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evening check in - good to see you staying away from the parade Daisy!
LC - wine was a great loosener for sure - I have had difficulites before when quitting, but not this time. I am trying to be healthier all round, so not sure if it is the fruit and water that helps? I also don't have enough calcium, so having a latte most days and I think coffee helps.. no better ideas I am afraid...

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I am so not having a good day, thank god it is lunch time and i can come on here as i am way too stressed and i dont want to drink but as i said to my son before "if i wasnt drinking i would get blind this afternoon after work". he just laughed. PMS, over worked, under paid, 2nd day of not being able to be organised at work, tired and wish tomorrow i was flying to thailand. blah

oh well feel happier now that i am reading on here and i know where i am safest when i am stressed and that is on mwo.

will check in later at home in 5 hours time.

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ava I get it but you are strong and determined..YOU can do this!!!

[daisy45]

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Hang in there Ava! You are an inspiration - this too shall pass......wish I had taken my own advice not so long ago.........

[scottish lass]

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Ava - hormones are the worst, and when everything else is not the best, PMS makes everything worse.
Have you tried evening primrose oil? it seemed to balance me out a bit when perimenopausal hormones was affecting my well being...
Get through today and feel better this evening....