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Ava I can get you an authentic voodoo doll down here if you want????
J-vo I am worried. Hope you are ok.
Daisy I too enjoy the fact I can actually go out in public without worrying about making an ass of myself.
I had a wonderful lavender oil back massage by hubby tonight. inkele:
Have a good one.

[narilly]

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J-Vo, I'm thinking of you. Xo

LB, Back Massage? Wow! That is the best ever! I need one of those.
My hubs is out curling and I am in bed. Gotta get up at 5:30 for work.

Daisy, great you are doing well.

I'm tired so goodnight sweet Loamers

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Thanks lovelies. I actually took a phone call from a patient and he made me laugh and really at the end of the day if my work does not get done thats fine. I can handle a lecture from my idiot boss, would not be the first lecture and wont be the last.

I do love my patients that make me laugh though.

God SL if i had a gun.................................. and one bullet.......................................lol

[Pavati]

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Well, Fuck.

Someone DID bring beer to the party (mind you, 14 and 15 year olds!), they DID play beer pong, and son DID drink! He admitted as such with NO questioning on my part - just came out and told me. I was not ready for this this early. I feel like I can't punish him because he told me the truth and didn't get drunk. I can't really call the mom who hosted the party as it would get back that my son was a "snitch." (if I caught him I would have NO problems calling and punishing, but now I am in a bind. Ideas, ladies?? Blech. I feel so sad - it is not a disaster, but just a sign of the society that says alcohol=fun. I'm sorry that these kids feel like they need it to have fun. BUMMER!

Ava and J-Vo I hope you are both ok - you got some sleep and are more relaxed. I have made it a point to get to yoga twice a week, and I find it so peaceful and anxiety-reducing (would love to go more if I could!). Today I cried a little - it is such a release! I hope you are finding some healthy, non-murderous ways of getting through the bad times. A lavender rub from DH sounds about right! Ava - that was quite a Gazette!

Nar, I get what you're saying - I know that Americans are two-faced about alcohol - saying "just say no" while binge drinking themselves. There is a school of thought that it is better to "normalize" it for kids (a glass of red at a family dinner, say). I get worried about the culture that says alcohol is essential for a good meal, family time, etc. This parenting shit is so confusing!

SL - Sounds like you've got your head on straight. I think that evenings would be more of a problem for me if DH wasn't around - he is my last fail safe if I were to go bananas and decide to drink, and therefore the option is further off the table than it might be for you. Isn't this NoCal weather great this week!?

Daisy - good on you for staying in. I know it is hard, but you understood what was necessary for you to make it through the holiday sober (really, St. Patrick's Day is just an excuse to drink and eat a lot).

LB - happy for your massage - that physical contact from DH can connect you even if you're not getting along or seeing eye-to-eye in other ways. Maybe I'll ask for one tonight...

LC - LOTS of water! Good luck with the starch, too. I chose Pavati the day I signed on here because water brings me peace - I love swimming, bathing, being on a coast, lake, river - anything to do with water. I Googled water and came up with that name - beautiful, still water. I'll take that!

Giraffe - I guess I'll tell my kids eventually. Maybe tonight would have been the night with my son, but I guess I wasn't ready. I'm with you on the "for now." That's really what I am saying. A couple of people have said "forever?" and I say "we'll see."

Dot? You around? Hope all is well.

Good night lovelies!

xo
Pav

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Good Morning, Ladies-- late afternoon for you, Ava.:h Glad you got through that day unharmed! Your patients are so lucky to have you there, dear. It must make their day to have such a friendly, funny person on the line--good to have a gem at the end of the day..

So with Pav's yoga talk, I've decided to Just Do It! I was thinking of all sorts of excuses for not going. Number 1 being the 30 minute fast bike ride to get there. But I will feel like a million bucks after, right? Will let you know..
Lots I want to respond to... back shortly. xx

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So I didn't just do it!!
Somehow we are always running late in the mornings and by the time I got the girls to school there was no way to make it to the class. SO, I will do 30 minutes on my own here today!

LB, I need a massage!!! I told myself that if I stick to my gym routine for 2 weeks I will treat myself to a Thai massage!-- just 1 more week to go. In fact, I think I will book it for a week from Friday.. Heaven. I love lavender oil. Did you have to return the massage? I guess we should just want to but I find it to be such hard work!!

Pav, I hate to think of the kids drinking at such an early age. When the time is right, I will definitely talk to the girls about my drinking. I want them to at least know intellectually where it can lead if one isn't careful. That it is a drug and not something to abuse. Of course no matter what you "know" about it, once you try it.... my sister doesn't have a problem at all. She doesn't drink to support her BF who can't. -- I guess you never know. Here kids are allowed to buy and drink wine and beer legally at the age of 16!!!!! ughhh.. and hard liquor at 18!!!! and cigarettes at 21..
Very strange. I guess it's important just to be open and honest with the kids. It's great that your son trusted you enough to tell you. Says a lot about your relationship, I think.:h
I do think it's sad that it has to start so young-- I know we were drinking at 13.. I was with the wrong group of kids. But still, by 15-16 I remember everyone drinking and being pressured to drink because it was "cool".

Daisy!! So proud of you and happy for you for making the decision to skip out of the parade business.:goodjob: I know it was difficult--especially because your daughter was so looking forward to it. But you knew it could be a problem and you chose to take care of yourself. Really strong!

Big hugs to all-- NS, Nar, Giraffe, Marylou, Dot, SL-- how's the nutrition plan going? I'm hanging in there, but it's hard for me to remember that I'm eating healthy now! Have to keep reminding myself..
J-vo, how are you feeling today? Let us know...

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Hey loamers

I am alive and well and having an iced tea, thanks so much for today, i was going to cope by myself but you know what i didnt have to as i had you guys to make me feel better. i think it wasnt an urge as such to have a drink it was more a god i could deal with this shit with a drink when i know full well that would not make anything better.

Well after the week i have had i am having a sicky on thursday and going on my date. i was supposed to go for a drink after work today but he messaged me and said he is not working on thursday and to have a sicky and we would go to the beach. i nearly died in the arse with that one. i hate the beach for starters and spending a whole day with a man. ffs what is he thinking. i have been single way too long lol. I told him i was not drinking (i have been out with him in my drinking days) and i told him i would explain on thursday but he wanted to know now so i said i stopped as it was becoming a problem and he said he would drink and i said that is fine. But i am sure he will ask 100 questions when i meet him, he was previously a lawyer so i am sure i will be put on the stand with that one and he can pick a lie a mile away. oh dear. But i am looking forward to doing something different and with a grown up. I suppose i am growing up myself.

Daisy i am not sure if i congratulated you and i have been waffling on about myself today but you have done well deciding not to go and it was so worth it and i for one am a very proud loamer for what you decided to do. It is always our choice in this journey remember that.

Jvo i hope your day improved although mine didnt but thats life really.

LB a massage off hubs, oh send him over please. I know where massages lead though lucky you! oh well i know where they lead with me. Send over hubs and voodoo doll pls and i will send you a scarf to cuddle.

Jvo you know i am good for a long post when asked. I shudder at the shit that will probably come out of my mouth on this all day date and he wants me to pack a picnic. Oh the chef in me will be right onto that NOT. this is way too stressful. Yoga i may think of that when i get back, my daughters boyfriends mum goes and has asked me in my drinking days but no way would i be up at 5am and if i did yoga would be the last thing on my mind.

Dot i am fine lovely, i seem to get stronger daily and it is so good to know that i am a message away to keep me on the straight and narrow. I have way too much to lose.

Well my dears enough for me, i now have to worry about what to buy to eat and god he is picking me up and i ahve not had a man in my house for years so need to clean up a storm and stop farking stressing as i am really not meeting the queen.

xxxxx

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Hey loamers

I am alive and well and having an iced tea, thanks so much for today, i was going to cope by myself but you know what i didnt have to as i had you guys to make me feel better. i think it wasnt an urge as such to have a drink it was more a god i could deal with this shit with a drink when i know full well that would not make anything better.

Well after the week i have had i am having a sicky on thursday and going on my date. i was supposed to go for a drink after work today but he messaged me and said he is not working on thursday and to have a sicky and we would go to the beach. i nearly died in the arse with that one. i hate the beach for starters and spending a whole day with a man. ffs what is he thinking. i have been single way too long lol. I told him i was not drinking (i have been out with him in my drinking days) and i told him i would explain on thursday but he wanted to know now so i said i stopped as it was becoming a problem and he said he would drink and i said that is fine. But i am sure he will ask 100 questions when i meet him, he was previously a lawyer so i am sure i will be put on the stand with that one and he can pick a lie a mile away. oh dear. But i am looking forward to doing something different and with a grown up. I suppose i am growing up myself.

Daisy i am not sure if i congratulated you and i have been waffling on about myself today but you have done well deciding not to go and it was so worth it and i for one am a very proud loamer for what you decided to do. It is always our choice in this journey remember that.

Jvo i hope your day improved although mine didnt but thats life really.

LB a massage off hubs, oh send him over please. I know where massages lead though lucky you! oh well i know where they lead with me. Send over hubs and voodoo doll pls and i will send you a scarf to cuddle.

Jvo you know i am good for a long post when asked. I shudder at the shit that will probably come out of my mouth on this all day date and he wants me to pack a picnic. Oh the chef in me will be right onto that NOT. this is way too stressful. Yoga i may think of that when i get back, my daughters boyfriends mum goes and has asked me in my drinking days but no way would i be up at 5am and if i did yoga would be the last thing on my mind.

Dot i am fine lovely, i seem to get stronger daily and it is so good to know that i am a message away to keep me on the straight and narrow. I have way too much to lose.

Well my dears enough for me, i now have to worry about what to buy to eat and god he is picking me up and i ahve not had a man in my house for years so need to clean up a storm and stop farking stressing as i am really not meeting the queen.

xxxxx

[roxane]

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do you like this guy ava?

[j-vo]

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Quick hello this morning. We begin state testing today. The rules are a bit ridiculous to say the least. I'll have to share with you when you are really bored and wanna laugh.

Ava, hope your feeling better today.

Pav, shit. I dont know what to say right now. When DS goes out, we tell him, "YOu're on the baseball team now, and you're going to Florida next week."

Will try to catch up later. Have a hair appt after work, so will be able to get on then. Thanks for all of your thoughts. Love you girls!

[j-vo]

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Quick hello this morning. We begin state testing today. The rules are a bit ridiculous to say the least. I'll have to share with you when you are really bored and wanna laugh.

Ava, hope your feeling better today.

Pav, shit. I dont know what to say right now. When DS goes out, we tell him, "YOu're on the baseball team now, and you're going to Florida next week."

Will try to catch up later. Have a hair appt after work, so will be able to get on then. Thanks for all of your thoughts. Love you girls!:l

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Hey roxy girl, i have missed you.

yes i liked him last year but i think he got annoyed with the drunken emails that i seemed to send in oh drunken moments. i have kept away for ages from him as god i didnt want to be around me so will see how it goes. No more drunken emails so that is a step forward in the right direction.

Oh Jvo i bet you are busy lovely. Dont forget to listen to your "calm or breathing" app and keep on here. I am feeling happier now i am home. the discussion about the laptop is still going and i am not saying anything, i wont make him feel guilty and i told liam it doesnt matter to me.

I found all my dictaphone typing stuff to type in May, now that will keep these fingers busy and out of trouble.

[roxane]

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hey ava, me too.

something rather smutty about 'dictaphone' in a childish way.

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Roxy good to see you.
J-vo good luck with that testing. I would love to hear about it.
Ava I would love a scarf. I would have to guard it because my daughter loves them too.
on the Voodoo dolls. The real story behind them is this. The people who did doctoring back in those days weren't able to read, so the "dolls" were really case files. So if someone came in with a headache, a pin went in to designate head problems, and so forth. The origins of this practice was not for evil curses. White people who found them just didn't know what they were so put their own spin on it.
Remember my trip to New Orleans at Christmas? Daughter and I took a french quarter voodoo tour.
Pav that is tough. 15 is so young to start drinking. The opinion is that the mental age you begin drinking is the mental age you get stuck at. I think I would have him watch the Addicted, High on Alcohol video with me personally. Just a little education maybe? Show the results of drinking? My hubby started drinking around that age and he really struggles. In so many ways. I use lots of visual aids in our little family home meetings. These seem to get their short attention spans so much better then reading.
Yoga at 5 AM? :H:H

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LB, that is so interesting with the voodoo dolls-- I had no idea! Brilliant! I wonder if they were doing any sort of accupuncture with needles or pressure points at that time?
I am a little bit sad about what you said about people being stuck at the mental age in which they began drinking. But in all honesty, it could very well be true for me with regards to emotional maturity. It's also true that at that age I went down hill in school -- I got decent grades because the par was so low, but I'm sure I didn't learn anything. I was about 10 when my Mom disappeared into a drunken haze and I can remember very well, after trying for a couple of years to convince her not to drink and it not having any effect, adopting a real big fuck you attitude. Man, was I trouble(ed).

I do not want to follow in her footsteps and I won't.
I will try my hardest to stay as present in the moment, in the NOW, as I can. And when I begin to wander into the past or the future, or when I find myself obsessing about things in my daily life, I will gently pull myself back to right this second. I have time for deep thought when I am feeling stronger, more confident.. right?