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[scottish lass]

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Hi all - quick check in, busy meeting heavy day :upset:
Pav - so sorry, I am sure you have a lot of thoughts going on. If I dare say it, I would be slow to react - at least he told you, and you don't want to shut that down. Maybe talk about how it made him feel, or what can happen if it keeps on going. Is it the end of the world? What is the bad - that he broke rules? That he drank? What is the good - that he told you? That he appears to understand he did the wrong thing? Bummer about sounds right - maybe it can be a learning experience and move on?
Well got to dash - got too excited about grades turning round and they are back down again - feel deflated and let down - I should have not got excited so quickly - blah! Thought we were on the right track to getting sorted out - silly me....
See you later - hi to everyone, old and new...

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hi loamers, well my lunch time here and thought i would have a read. today is a much better day at work. my boss meandered in at 11ish, as you do but it is lovely when he does not appear.

Pav well of course i have a story about my 14 and 11 month old daughter drinking. She went to a friends place to get ready for their school dance (whatever it is called) and oh low and behold her and two friends drank a bottle of bourbon between them whilst one girls mother was there. Very impressed with that i must say but bless her she did drive the girls to the dance as they probably could not farking walk. i was at home and got the phone call that i had to come to the school and that kiera was drunk and they had called an ambulance. i thought this must have been the norm for drunk kids but oh no, her whole body was writhing and she was vomiting and in and out of consciousness. we went to the hospital and they put her on a drip and stabilised her, took bloods and she was .3 away from possibly dying due to al poisoning. i got home at 3am, she calls me at 6am and is as "fine as a daisy" and wants to be picked up. damn i always wanted a drip so i could drink and wake up fine! had to go to the school, see the prinicpal who said they thought they would have had the flag at half mast that day. i consequently rang the police who said they could not charge the mother, dobbed in the other two girls as mine got suspended and gave her both barrels on how i felt. of course being 14 she just could not get the gist of the seriousness of what had happened. to this day she does nto touch bourbon and is not a drinker thank god. Peer pressure is a horrible thing and i nearly lost my daughter that night. we did get to celebrate her 15th birthday 2 weeks after thank god. And here i was thinking it would have been Liam who luckily was suspended for 20 days at that time and sitting at home with me.

TMH welcome and you can stop drinking, if any of us girls can you can join in the party also. Its hard, frustrating but so worth it. I can quite happily go out now and not have an al drink and no one worrys that much, i think we worry more than anyone else. Like you we are all sick of the merry go round of al and the sober days are much nicer and less stressful.

NS god i am coming up to my 4 months so does that mean i have to un-sloth and stop eating sugar. I must say the sugar consumption is going down which is good, i am not racing to the shops for a chocolate fix (who would have thought chocolate instead of wine!). it will be interesting to see if i actually do any exercise when i am on holidays.

Jvo not long for both of us for when we are in a situation that could lead to drinking. i am right with you and i for one will not drink other than that no promises of exercise or food! Keep being strong lovely.

Dot no idea on ovens, think i am allergic to cooking. mine is filthy for some reason but there is definitely not much being cooked in there unless the children come over and then i have to cook.

Jane i am so sorry about your puppy and words dont mean much when you lose something you love unconditionally and that loved you back. hugs to you. xx

well this is all i have time for but i have not forgotten any of you lovelies. Catch up after work!

xxx

[scottish lass]

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feel like a dolt - giving Pav advice on her 15yo when I am failing with my 15yo - sorry!!

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SL you are not a dolt lol. love that word, have not heard it for ages. we all need ideas on kids. god here i was typing away and thought, gees i have a story for everything and then i thought "oh i have 4 kids". every single bloody one of them is different and we dont get a manual.

[little beagle]

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Welcome TMH. Glad you are here. I love the word dolt too.
I was reading in the toolbox today and saw mention of the Sedona Method for quieting racing thoughts and feelings. I am definately going to give it a try.
Worked on taxes tonight, so a quick check in. Nite all.

[narilly]

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Pav, the best thing is that he told you. Like it of not, chances are that our kids are going to drink. That is how it is in the society we live in. I think the best we can do is educate our kids and 'try' to lead by example. It's tough when they start drinking. Some will over do it but not all. My daughter, for example, is very moderate with her drinking but I am not so sure about my son.
Ava, thanks for sharing your story.
By the way, walking on the beach with lawyer buddy cracked me up.

J-Vo, time to take it easy on yourself. You sound great today.

Dottie, Bosch, Miele, have good stoves. I would Google it and read some reviews so you get a good one.

Jane, so sorry about your puppy. That really sucks.

TMH, welcome! Everyday sober is a Great Day

SL, don't feel like a dolt. We all give advice on how to stop drinking and WE are the ones with a problem!

NS, I can't imagine you being a sloth!


Well ladies, time to sleep.

Oh LB, I had a massage today! Of course I paid for it and it was just what I needed. Thanks for the idea.

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Welcome, TMH! You've come to a great place to get your head on straight - I live and exist in a alcohol infused family and group of friends and except the occasional pull, I can honestly say I do not miss alcohol at all. If you had asked me 107 days ago (!) if this would be possible I would have said no. Taking the choice off the table will give you the freedom to explore your real feelings about the poison.

Thanks for the parenting advice - no one's a dolt. It helps to hear what you've been through and to get your take on things. We had already decided to be gentle - it is good that he told the truth and next time it is up to me to pay more attention. SL - sorry about your daughter - that's the think - it is a constant attention! You DO sound strong on the AF front - glad you're adding up those green dots.

Ava - what a horrific story - I am so glad it has a happy ending. You must have been so scared!

LB - let us know about the Sedona method.

Dot - sorry about your oven and I'm sure glad you're not posting Day 1 on here - we'd take you back of course, but Ava might have a thing or two to say... (and maybe some others...) I have no experience buying appliances - good luck.

Nar - I'm with you. VERY hard to believe our NS as a sloth. But I do echo the idea of taking care of yourself, J-Vo. Think about what you NEED to make you happy and content vs. what you "ought" to do. The list is pretty small for now, as you are focusing on staying sober and taking care of yourself and your family. The rest is fluff for the time being. Be willing to say no - even before kicking the booze I had been working on this, and being sober has just made it more clear. You (we) perfectionists don't have to say yes to everything.

I had trouble posting tonight because my kids were needy and I worked another 12+ hour day - this is for the BIRDS, I tell you. I have to say no to a lot of weekend fun activities because I just need some down time! I think I've been writing this post for 2.5 hours, so sorry if it is discombobulated.

Night ladies - apologies for anyone I missed. zzzzzz

xo
Pav

[Pavati]

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And Ava I had a chuckle at the lawyer at the beach, too. Hope you had a great time (and no sand between the toes!)

[daisy45]

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Thank you all for 'pulling' me through this past couple of days - not normally so bad but I chose an 'iffy' time to start my quit - but, i feel like I learned something about myself.....should help as I go ahead.

[NoSugar]

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Good job on achieving 5 days, Daisy. Stay close and keep doing what you've been doing. I read in the NN that you aren't going to be so rigid about exercise this time. Go Sister-Sloth :H! Seriously, the only thing you have to do for as long as necessary is not drink. Everything else should support that and if it doesn't, just skip it for now. It is pretty amazing how many things I thought I had to do but believe it or not, the world kept turning when I didn't...

LC, congratulations on 14 days of FREEDOM! It has been so great to have you back - and thanks for all you offer :l.

Jane, I read in the Nest that you had to let your dog go. I had to do that a couple years ago and although it was really tough, I knew by certain changes that it was time to set her free. The event was so loving and peaceful, it made me think again how much more humanely we sometimes treat our animals when we do one another. I hope you found peace when you set him free from pain.

[NoSugar]

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MaryLou wrote this on a personal thread - I think is a great way to think about this:

Marylou123;1639418 wrote:
I wish you success and peace as you face this - but know you are not alone. We are all here to help each other and the support is amazing. I never thought I could stop drinking; I never wanted to...until I did. It's not easy to kick this lover out after so many years but, boy oh boy, am I glad I did.
My sobriety is young. It's my baby that I will nourish, educate, grow and love as I move forward. I will protect it with my life. My fellow MWOers will continue to provide support and friendship as we all face this beast. (Oh, it's so much better fighting this with an army of support at your back rather than all alone.)
Please join us.

You are doing so well, ML. I'm so happy for you. :h NS

[little beagle]

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I too think of my quit as my child. Mine has grown but still needs loving support, to be fed and nurtured every day.
I am so glad to have so many at my back fighting this thing too.
There is so much information on this site, it seems that every time I am in a situation I find something I can use to get through it. Being sober really is so wonderful.
Recently I had one of those emotional items fall out of my closet and I had to deal with it.
well with the help of my friends and some talking to my family I am pulling through.
Last night I skipped, giggled, and chewed gum all at the same time. I highly recommend it.
Have a good day all.

[lifechange]

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Hi everyone..

LB, so happy to hear you in such great spirits! I don''t believe I could do all 3 things at once! I would surely swallow my gum. Or trip!!

NS, thanks for that-- Day 14 and the most difficult so far. It's the first time in 2 weeks I have had to really use my "tools" not to drink. I don't know what exactly helped in the end, probably the combination of rationally thinking about the consequences and bringing myself back to the moment. I feel quite down today, but I will probably feel better tomorrow. Sometimes I hate that this is ODAT. I like Mary Lou's analogy-- that helps to think of sobriety as a child, to take care of.

Daisy, you are doing a great job!
Hi to all you lovelies-- I will try to get out for a run sometime today. I know it would help my mood but I feel so LAZY! I think I'll get my exercise clothes on .

[NoSugar]

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Glad you're going to stick around, Jane :l.

[lifechange]

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Jane, I am very sorry to hear about your dog.:l I look forward to seeing you a lot around here..