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    Hi Girls,
    Battling some emotional issues which stem at work. I had another run-in with co-worker this morning. Tension is really thick. I'm not happy with how i handled myself, as I yelled and did not act professionally. Lots of stressors here at work, and I need to let things go. I am trying to be perfect again, and it ain't gonna happen. I don't want it. Believe me. I want to be mediocre and love it. But then I push myself into this crazy state. It's not a good place to be, as I know where it's led me in the past. The rest of the day, I'm going to just pretend that I'm ok, focus on the present, and let go what I said and did. I'm not apologizing to anyone, and I'm moving forward. That felt good to say.

    Pav, we tell DS to remember that he's a part of two sports teams. He would get suspended from those teams as well as school, and I know it's important to him. But I also know kids will be kids. We've had this really great assembly on drunk driving the past few years here. It talks about the legal issues if you're caught with booze, near it, drinking it...losing the opportunity to get your license. I almost feel I don't have the right to talk about it being wrong to son, because of how I abused it for so long, and he knows it. But I'm his parent and I must parent by warning him of consequences regardless of what I did.

    Dot, glad you got past those urges and are getting to the gym. We are all in early recovery and we cannot get too comfortable. When we get an urge, we need to be aware and take it seriously.

    SL, I was thinking...at least you're not drinking and can help her, you're not overly tired, not rushing through the assignment thinking that the glass of wine is waiting for you? There is something positive in this situation, although I know the frustration you're feeling. I'm not discounting it at all. Just trying to find a positive in this.

    Ava, a coworker had twin girls. They went away to college and one of them drank and died of alcohol poisoning. So sad. What a story about K.

    LB, what's the Sedona Method? I wanna giggle, skip and chew gum at the same time!

    Daisy, glad you got through some difficult days. Keep taking it one day at a time.

    NS - sister sloth! I love it. I just ate a Sarris chocolate bar that had 14 g of fat and 280 calories. I was feeling really shaky and needed it.

    LC - congrats on 14 days! You're moving right along.

    Jane, so sorry about the loss of your dog. That's so sad, and they are a part of our family. Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

    Marylou, what a lovely post that I need to reread as soon as i post this.

    Moss?? Are you here?

    Humble, miss you.

    Nar, how are you dear? Are you still working out during lunch? Much better than I'm doing eating a 280 calorie chocolate bar with 14 g of fat. FFS!

    Ok, ladies, I'll check in later. I really hope I'm not losing my mind. I'm feeling really shaky, just not myself. I keep crying and losing it on people. I'm going to smoke on my break and I don't care if I smell. Love you ladies.
    Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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      Jane, what a wonderful way to look at your dog's passing! Yiippeeee! I, too, am sorry for your loss. Am not a dog person, but I'm surrounded by people who are, and I get it.

      J-vo, pickle ball is new to our community. Our community has many subdivisions, some huge homes, some medium, some small, some condos. We are in a condo area, and we have (to my knowledge) the only pickle ball court. I've only tried it once but visiting kids/grandkids have played. Like your parents, I'm sure, we get a fair amount of visitors. It sure teaches you how to be a good guest! LOL

      Ava - "calm" feels wonderful
      Pav - "choice off the table", like that

      I am similar to someone else here, Daisy, maybe? I diet, workout, and now add AF. Yest (my day 1) I ate pretty much what I wanted and for the last 2 days I slowed down. No workouts. Cleaned out linen closet, my workout clothes drawer, a holder for menus, tourist pamplets, etc. In other words, moved through my day more mindfully.

      On other quits (approx. once/qtr for 2 weeks), my major complaint is no sleep, even after 2 weeks. Zapped that one by taking 50 mg of Trazadone. I will not choose to continue that but whatever helps for now. This a.m. I used ET for 30 mins, ran/walked for 2 miles, got to Bible Study by 10:00a, and will get things done this afternoon but take numerous breaks also.

      Day 2: feel wonderful, negative chatter gone, optimistic that I can take off these last 5#, that I can get my house in order, AND BE AF!

      TMH
      The pain of discipline is less than the pain of regret.

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        jane27;1639517 wrote: Yiiippeeeeeeee! :cheering:

        That's lovely Jane :l

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          j-vo;1639528 wrote:

          I'm going to smoke on my break and I don't care if I smell.
          j-vo - this is too funny. I am sorry that you are going through so much emotional turmoil right now, but for some reason this just cracked me up. Had to come out of hibernation to tell you that. I smoked for decades so I totally get it.

          Jane, I know you have been going through some pain. I am sorry for your loss. Our animals are like family, so it hurts.

          And to all the rest of you lovely ladies, have a wonderful MAE. I'm reading, just don't have much to say these days.

          edit: and j-vo - you are so right...being "perfect" is overrated. Look where it got us?? xx
          Everything is going to be amazing

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            Something to watch if you want to laugh and feel good about the world:http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=l5-Ewrh...ature=youtu.be

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              Jvo, one day at a time, remember that. We are all learning how to deal with stress and emotions being af and it is hard so take a deep breath and smoke away, blow it in the bitches face if need be! I know you will be strong and i know you have your action plans in place and i know you will be okay. Do not put up with anyones crap and do not apologise if you have done no wrong. i think for years/decades i apologised for everything i did when i felt i had done nothing wrong but i was so insecure. Strong on the outside, like a small child on the inside. Now as each sober day passes that little girl inside is growing into a strong woman, who has a mind of her own and loves herself. Do not drink AT anyone! She of all people is so not worth going back to day 1. I can also send a brick, just tell me what colour would suit being in the middle of her forehead! You know where i am at anytime and i will be there.

              Hey lovelies, i will be on at lunchtime but felt the need to send the precious lovely Jvo her own personal message of strength.
              AF free 1st December 2013 - 1st December 2022 - 9 years of freedom

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                Hi Ladies,

                Dottie - Big, huge congrats on 200 days. What a fantastic, wonderful, positive achievement.

                We leave tomorrow for my SD wedding. First big event for me AF. I'm not worried as I'll have you all with me! I'll post as I can but will certainly read MWO posts daily.

                Thinking of all you lovelies - stay safe and strong. Time for shut eye for me.
                Mary Lou

                A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. Winston Churchill

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                  Thanks Marylou. It is truly great for me...took a long time and many false starts to get here. And I am NOT giving this up for anyone or anything!!!
                  Dottie

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                    Jane d o wonderful to see you here. I am glad you are feeling better today. :l I love the happy dog pic.
                    J-vo :l a sugary candy bar has SO much less guilt and remorse attached to it. I am glad you chose that.
                    Thanks for that link NS. I will use that.
                    TMH it sounds like you have a solid plan. Good for you. I kept deliberately busy at the beginning of my quit until now there just aren't enough hours in the day.
                    Nite all.:
                    good to see you Mossrose and Roxy.
                    Marylou I hope you enjoy the wedding.
                    No matter how far you go or how fast you run, you can't get away from yourself. ....said at an AA meeting. It stuck with me.

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                      Speaking of busy, that's me! I am really tired and have a big day at work tomorrow so I will talk more later.

                      Went out for supper after work and didn't drink. It was a fancy place with lots of wine. I had sparkling water. Tomorrow after work our project team is going for drinks- I am having soda with lime
                      Then leaving after 1/2 hr.
                      It's so Good to be sober and in control!

                      Love you gals. I read your posts a bit today but just didn't have time to write.

                      Goodnight xo
                      Narilly

                      "Nothing in this World Can take the place of Persistence"
                      "You can have the life you want OR you can Drink"

                      AF April 12, 2014

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                        Good night all. I read through, too, but am on my way to bed.

                        J-Vo - so sorry about your colleague. Remember the mantra - you can only control your own actions, not someone else's. This has been the most freeing understanding I have made (maybe in my life). I have spent a great deal of time and cosmic energy worrying about what people think, what they said, what I said that made them mad. It doesn't matter. People are going to think what they think, do what they do, and get mad no matter what. You can live a positive, honest, life and let the chips fall where they may. You can't make everyone happy!

                        Dot - CONGRATULATIONS! That is such a huge number. You must be so proud of yourselves.

                        Marylou - take us put of your purse when you need. NoSugar reported texting from a bathroom stall in the early days. Whatever you do - post her first! You sound strong, though. Have fun.

                        Jane - Sorry you don't feel like that doggie, but you'll get there. Glad you're here in the loam thread - as I have said, I love reading what you write. We LOVE the long posts here (don't we ladies...)

                        Ava - how was the date?

                        Everyone else - Happy days and sorry if I missed something important. Right now with my crazy work life I need to force myself to get to sleep at a decent hour.

                        xo
                        Pav

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                          Hello Loamers!!
                          I have been able to read the posts, so you're all in my thoughts, but don't have much time to write until tomorrow..
                          :l to all of you...

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                            ..................DOT.................DOT......... ........DOT.................... Congratulations on your 200 days, that is truly amazing and you should be so proud. love and hugs to you.

                            I got a new computer today, a laptop and I have no idea how to use it but hey it does capitals which will relieve a lot of you that my typing will look much better. oh the capitals have gone already. sigh.

                            back on later when my son gets it set up.
                            xxxxx
                            AF free 1st December 2013 - 1st December 2022 - 9 years of freedom

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                              MAE Ladies,

                              Just a quick note to say I'm gratefull for all of you. You really make all the difference and are getting me through some really tough "life" stuff. That's what it is. Life. And all of life is not easy. So thank you for your support. It has really helped me immensely. One thing though, I have to say, Pav, I've not been good at controlling my own actions. I need to work on that and take deep breaths. I need to enforce an hour or two rule before I say anything to anyone. I need to use calm app. So I will breath deeply today. And I won't drink at these people, or things going on. Thank you girls again.

                              DOT, congrats on your 200!

                              Will reply to you ladies later on. I love you!
                              Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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                                Yeah Dot. I am so proud of you. Taking back your life.
                                J-vo we are here. That's the beauty of this place, support when you need it. I too need to control my actions. Bleh! I over act all the time. I like the 2 hour rule.
                                No matter how far you go or how fast you run, you can't get away from yourself. ....said at an AA meeting. It stuck with me.

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