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[HumbleRider]

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Night all, need to spend time this weekend catching up on my reading.

[lifechange]

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Good Morning Loamers! Afternoon, Ava loamer! Is today the day you have (had) the date on the beach? Looking forward to hearing how it goes.. Lucky you with a new laptop! I got a new one 2 years ago and I love it. My first very own computer-- still need some lessons, though!

SL, I have also had a very trying 2 days! Really down in the dumps, struggling to pull myself out kind of days. This morning feels a bit more hopeful. I hope you will also feel better in the morning.

NS, I like what you said about trying to imagine how things will play out a week from now or month from now. I am very short term oriented and have an almost impossible time making long term goals. Even worse at following through on the steps I need to make to find myself in a different place. It seems like I've left my life up to chance and I am where I am just by making short term decisions and going with it. I am beginning to doubt whether or not I have the ability to make changes in my life. Theoretically, yes-- but realistically?? I've been thinking of going to a "Life coach"-- Something I have always thought was a bit ridiculous-- I don't like to admit to being someone with such "shallow" problems-- I mean from the outside I have a great life. If I write it down on a piece of paper it looks ok to me.. but why don't I feel that way? Why do I want something other than what I have? Then I compare myself to people who have real problems and think, Geeze, pull it the f*** together.
I guess I just wish I could feel good all the time..

j-vo, I also struggle with not flying off the handle. I think, like you said, there is A LOT to be gained by learning to keep it together, by not speaking too soon. Sometimes it's necessary, but in my experience, there is much more sense in waiting a bit. It's what I'm trying to do at home with my BF and it works.. when I remember! I also agree, though, that not dwelling/obsessing on what has already been done is important to our mental health. I hope you'll find some solutions at work.

Humble, good to see you here again! I was glad when NS told us a while ago that you were ok.:l

Hi to Pav and LB and Dottie (awesome work on 200 days!) and Jane and Marylou and Nar! and everyone else stopping my here today.. Hope it's a good one. Are you all having Spring weather? We are here and that I am grateful for!!

[lifechange]

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Where is everyone today? I guess because I have had the day off and most of you are just waking up...

[scottish lass]

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Thx all for the thoughts - will get there, just tough and noone to talk to (other parent) - feeling sorry for myself so have to snap out of that don't I!
LC - sorry you are blue too...:l

[lifechange]

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hi SL!!:l

[little beagle]

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LC sorry you are feeling down.
You too SL.
I have recently spent a lot of time feeling angry and confused so I understand how difficult those negative emotions color our worlds. I just kept working at it and mine has lifted. I know that if I would have drank, I never would havd begun to resolve this situation. Staying sober in itself brings a relief. At levast we don't add the SGR feelings into the mix.
I have been so busy in the garden that I don't have time to dwell on my situation.
I love this gime of year. It feels so fresh and full of promise. My mood always lifts when spring really sets in.

[narilly]

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Life, good to hear your stand on AL. You sound strong even though you are kinda bummed out. You too SL.

Pav, congrats on winning basketball! It's a big deal, especially in the USA

I am getting a pedicure right now (my day off) so I will check back later.

Xo

[narilly]

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I just finished getting a pedicure with my daughter. It was great! So funny though, we went in with our snow boots on and had to leave carrying the boots and wearing those goofy slippers they have. It's -10 out and our feet froze!

Oh I gota go.

I will post later!

[scottish lass]

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I got my, and my girls tootsie's done last weekend - it was a treat for good behaviour - well, if I just waited a day or two I could have saved my money! I only do mine when the sandals come out - I am such a penny pincher that hiding them after spending money feels bad - but I get a lot more sandal weather than you Nar. I usually go for dark burgundy, but girls stole it and gave teh manicurist dark blue - I keep wondering whose toes they are!
Just checking up as it is time for girls to come home (need to get strong) and i have e-mails from teachers again - even my good one is acting up this week - J-vo, is it because of spring? It is really getting me down! They only have a couple months of this year left and I will hate to have them finish in a bad place!

[Marylou123]

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Curve ball. My dad died today. Was decorating for SD wedding in TX when I got the call. On my way to mom in FL now. Hubs will stay in TX to walk her down the aisle tomorrow then fly in first thing Sun. F*** would love a glass of wine but posting to you (on my phone!) instead. I know you're here for me and I love you all. Gotta catch my connection. Will check in later tonight. Hugs.

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Morning ladies, up to third cuppa that liam made, sitting in bed with new laptop, life is great. I am looking at my suitcase thinking i must get that out and start packing as only 9 more work days to go. everyone when i talk to them on the phone comment on how happy i sound, there is a reason for that. i will not miss work at all and hoping to meet a 99 year old millionaire over there so i can quickly marry him and not have to work and wear him out so he dies and leaves his money to me. always good to have a plan so we say.

TMY how are you going? hope your af days are racking up for you. I highly recommend not drinking and damn it gets better everyday and i love how i have to use the date/time calculator now to see what day i am up to. A sober day is a good day.

Mary how did the wedding go? My daughter was married last November and it turned out to be beautiful. i was moderating at that stage (mmmm), figured i just could not be sociable without a wine and ended up getting blind drunk after the wedding. Moderating was definitely working for me, NOT. but happily saying i stopped completely 20 days later but i did not embarrass my daughter. Give us the goss when you are free.

Moss how are you going now? I hope you are getting your af days up as you have been struggling as you said but you do know that everyday af is a good day. If only we could get rid of the stressors in life it would make this journey so much easier but i am sure we would find something else to give us a reason to drink. Keep on here with us.

Dot, i like you will not give up my af days for anything and especially to al. I may get bored sometimes but i am sure normal drinkers get bored too, hell everyone gets bored which does not give us a reason to drink.

LB how is life lovely? still getting those massages i hope and......... lol. oh im on a roll this morning. You are sounding a lot more settled so i am gathering the family are not giving you too much grief. My lovely Liam who bought me the laptop said to me this morning "mum i am going to have a memory like a woman and when i ask you for money in years to come and you say no, i will say ""remember the time i bought you that laptop"". I think he has been living with me for way too long but i laughed at 7am in the morning and gave him a cuddle (just as he was squeezing a pimple on his butt so he told me) and to feel like that in the morning instead of hungover as crap was wonderful. as i realise now it is the little things in life that make me appreciate being sober every single day.

Giraffe your sleep in's sound like mine, non existent. My sleeping pattern is like when i was drinking, total crap but i am not a great sleeper anyways and its nice to wake up to a sober sunny day.

Jane i am like you just go off and then my boss tells me i am bitter and twisted. oh yeah right, maybe no one listens, actually listens to what i have to say. now i dont care so much what i say as i mean what i say.

Nar i read your pedicure went well, god its a wonder your feet didnt drop off. i am so looking forward to lots of massages, facials, pedicures when i go away and i will post every single damn one of them. i have found now i am not drinking i have lots of little blemishes like blackheads or something so off they will go. The constipation will go as i always get the runs over there and boy are they doozies. Stomach cramp, oh toilet, god where is the toilet, oh noooooooooooooooooooooo...... Yesterday i tried to tell my boss we needed a meeting before i went away so i could tell him all about where everything was and he really was not interested so i give up. Work is not my problem when i am not there but i am dreading returning to a mountain of work and to be told it was all under control and it wasnt. Not my problem!!!!!!

SL lovely what is the matter? i hope you are okay, sending hugs but so good you are af. if we are af then all will fall into place or lots of dead people for which you will need a good backhoe to bury them. Get a big one as i can throw a few in also. I also have different coloured bricks, remember that. I used to find that when one of my children starting acting up or was having problems that they would all play tag so i had to be there for the whole 4 of them, then things would settle down thank god. Just be patient and listen to them. the good thing is you are listening sober whereas i was drunk, not all the time thank god but a few days out of 7. wish i could take that back.

Pav congrats on your sons win, i wish my kids were younger so i could go and watch without a hangover. god some pics of those days are shockers, im sure i used to get dressed in the dark and i wont mention the perm. The weather must be warmer if you are going out which is a good thing, not long for me and i will be hibernating up a storm. I do though expect a nice long post at some stage.

LC i didnt end up going on the date, we are short staffed at work and of course DH boss has not asked for funding for someone else or mind you a replacement temp for when i go away so i have to be there. i know the department wont fold if i am not there but it is so close to when i go away also. I think we are meeting this week at some stage. I hope you are feeling better with the down in the dumps, we know where they lead so keep posting. You are doing so well and so proud of you LC.

Have my plans in place for my hols and that is not to drink, there is no thoughts of "its a holiday i can have a drink", none, i am so happy about that one. Every drink i ask for i will also say "no al thanks", going for lots of massages, pedis, facials. i will be reading, knitting, swimming and i think it is time to concentrate on my body as my mind feels so good. Going to check out the gym and its lovely walking early in the morning over there before the heat of the day sets in. I am getting excited and even looking forward to seeing mum. Ask me that a few days into the holidays though. she is emailing me 2 to 3 times a day so she is excited also.

ok time to get motivated for the day. love to all of my lovelies. hope i have not missed anyone.

Roxy glad to see you back on the boards, keep strong girl. I do still think of you Pat.

xxx

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Oh Mary i am so sorry to hear that. Be strong girl and big hugs to you and thoughts for the family. What a sad time at such a beautiful time. I dont know what to say but am thinking of you and glad there are no af thoughts. xxxx

[MossRose]

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Mary - I am so sorry. Yes, we are here for you.

[scottish lass]

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Mary - so sorry - what terrible timing for you.
We are with you, and will sit on your shoulder reminding you not to give in to drink...
Take care, prayers and hugs to you

[daisy45]

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Hi, just a quick check-in. Back to scratch......being home is my biggest challenge.... Need to rethink how to deal with what has been my normal for so many years. Away tomorrow - a lot of thinking to do - any suggestions greatly appreciated....