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[narilly]

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Jane, that's good!

[scottish lass]

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Morning all - had a tough night, first thought was "how much did I drink" - not sure what it was about, but all the side effects were there!
I am glad to say that I didn't - maybe it was sympathy for j-vo - I am so sorry my friend, I wish I could help...you did great to get as far as you did - start again, please - I am taking the long road and hoping that slowly but surely works - read the quote in my signature - I truly believe in this. You have come such a long way, and are in such a better place than you were - do NOT give that all up!!:l:l

[Dottie Belle]

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Hello all,
J-vo dont go...we need u here and u need us too...no one is perfect so keep reading and posting...we are here for you.
Vegan cooking is new to me too. I bought a few books to help me. Happy Herbivore has some great simple books. I just pick a recipe and give it a try. Made some bean muffins for dinner and they were really good. Even dh liked them..so new oven will be fun to try out convection cooking.

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j-vo;1640842 wrote: I'm sorry I've let you all down. Again. I won't be posting as I don't want anyone to follow my failures and lose faith in themselves.

FFS Jvo what will running away from your support network do? You drank, you farked up but hey you did 40 days and this time you did 50. Each and every farking day we dont drink is a good day. You know this as well and you are ashamed and having a right old pity party with yourself. So pull yourself up and get your arse right back where it belongs here.

Then i would be interested to hear that did al solve all your problems that you have had in the last week? Did al make you feel better to face each and every day like being sober did? Did al make you want to live in the bottle forever? Did al give you what you were searching for? Did al make you able to face another day a smile on your face and happy about yourself?

I think the above will be a pretty short answer but i want to hear it please.

You are a special dear friend to me you know that and you and i and the loamers know you can do this too. I am going to work very shortly and i want to see a post from you lovely or else i will have to cancel my flight to thailand and get my arse over to yours to hit you with bricks.

Pull yourself together, take those paracetamol, forgive yourself and today is another day in life being af. dont put you head in a bottle, you know your life is better. Be kind to yourself and look at why why why. My 2cents worth is that its stess, stress and more stress.

I love you my friend
xxxxx
ps i have 3 ways of stalking you lol xxxx

[scottish lass]

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narilly;1640748 wrote:

SL, haha, it's ALL about the bed! I remember when you bought it. We were so excited!

I also remember when all you loamers talked me into buying the bed! Well, just got my bed changed - I realised last night that I started my daughters in the wash at 6pm, so would not be making it until 8 or so, could not believe it - way too late to be doing beds, but then it struck me that I was capable of doing laundry on a Saturday night at that time, and not "enjoying" my wine - what a difference to a year or so ago

[MossRose]

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j-vo - you haven't let anyone here down. Yourself, maybe, but not us. We still have nothing but love and respect for you. So don't disappear. I've tried that in the past, and it doesn't work. It sounded like you were under an incredible amount of stress recently. I realize that's not an excuse to drink. But I know from experience that until we learn to tackle life's issues head-on and sober, our risk of relapse is great. We have spent so many years hiding behind AL that it is going to take us all some practice to learn a new way. I would venture to say that most of us have been "perfectionist-people pleasers" for most of our lives. That's why we see any "slip" as the ultimate failure. Well, we aren't perfect. And the only person you need to please is yourself. Then that self-love will radiate out to others. I hope this makes sense. By your side, and totally feel your pain. Come back to us. You are a shining light. xxx

[Marylou123]

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Hi Loamers,

Will not post long but wanted to check in - yesterday was day 60 for me, and despite everything that is going on I have not, and will not, drink. We will not be serving any al at the reception after the funeral Wed. (Yeah). My dad was so proud that I quit (as I am) and as I continue this wonder AF life, I honor not only myself, but him too!

J-Vo, I am very sorry but I have a selfish favor to ask. Please do not leave or stop posting. Your posts have been instrumental in my struggle (selfish but my truth) and right now I need you to be here. Even if you just post "I'm here" and nothing else, your presence brings me (and others) strength. Right now I can't loose someone else. I wish I could offer you more words of wisdom but our friends on this thread have done a fine job and I second everything they've said. Please stay here - when I am able, I will try to offer some wonderful pearls of wisdom, but right now all I can say is please don't go. Please stay with us. Together, we help each other.

Love you all.

[scottish lass]

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Well done ML - that is huge, thank you for hanging on thru this - what an example for us following you! And what a great motivation to be able to honor your father. Congrats on 60days! You will always be 30 days ahead of me, long may this journey continue!
And J-vo, you can't possibly ignore that plea - looking forward to see you peeking in!!

[NoSugar]

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daisy45;1640403 wrote: Hi, just a quick check-in. Back to scratch......being home is my biggest challenge.... Need to rethink how to deal with what has been my normal for so many years. Away tomorrow - a lot of thinking to do - any suggestions greatly appreciated....
This is going to sound like I'm being flippant, Daisy, but I'm not. If your home is the main or only place you drink too much, as was the case for me, don't allow any alcohol into your home. If you are feeling driven to get some, get on MWO instead.

New Dreams;1640671 wrote: Someone posted to me in the NN, after I'd had a rough day...tell "Mr AL just F.O....I'm on a mission", thought I'd found support for that in this thread.....I see alot of familiar names...can anyone join?

So glad to see you here NewDreams. I saw a quote from you on another thread where you expressed a feeling I had somewhere ~ 30 days:

New Dreams;1640556 wrote: Grateful that I am finally coming to the understanding I am not going to drink ever again, and be grateful for it... leaving the deprivation mode behind!

When I felt this way, I still didn't know how I was going to make it but I was convinced that somehow I would. I hope you feel that way, too :l.

[little beagle]

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J-vo I am sorry. Please don't let that monster al win. That would do more damage to morale then getting right back up and continuing. We need you.
You are a special person to me.
Marylou good for you. Being strong at this time and truly honering your father.
Jane thank you for that MLK pearl of wisdom.
LC I have lived in places where it was difficult to get fresh veggies, but I think you have that beat. I live for my veggies and fruits.
I am going to e-mail J-vo.
Nite all.

[Pavati]

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Hi, Loamers:

Something is wrong in the Universe - J-Vo is not here! I agree with Ava - you farked up (one day? four total since October? Something miniscule like that). And I agree with NS - everyone's toolbox will look different, and you're just missing an ingredient or two. And I agree with SL and her brilliant signature line. And I agree with Jane and MLK - that quote does work for alcohol - alcohol only begets alcohol, pain, anxiety. And I agree with everyone else - they all said it so well. You are loved here, and here is where you will find the support to get and stay sober. Remember the relapse thread - you had clearly relapsed mentally a week ago. We need to work on what happens when you feel like that and straighten it up before it leads to the physical relapse. Come back here and we'll work on this together!

[Pavati]

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And...

Nar - I was out doing errands and stopped by to get a pedi on your recommendation (and SL's description of her soft summer feet) and they were too busy for walk ins. Now I have something to plan for next weekend...

Marylou - I hope all is going well with your family. I am so happy to hear you are doing it sober. CONGRATULATIONS on 60 days - great stuff!!!

Jane/SL - I am lucky that my DH does the laundry and does the dishes after dinner. I used to check out, but now it is a time when I hang out with him more and we actually have more conversations - actually good for our relationship. My drunken chore MO was to pitch in on the dishes after a holiday dinner when the good plates and glasses were out. I shudder to think how many wine glasses I broke - even one of my friend's grandmother's plates.

LB - Gardening sounds lovely, especially the fresh and organic produce. I am so darn busy in life I don't seem to make time for it now. And we are on the north side of a hill so we don't get as much sun. Maybe some raised beds now that I have more time in the evenings...

New Dreams - The shift from deprivation to gratitude has taken me a while, but I follow NS's lead and fake it until I make it. I do all of the things that long-time sober people do to stay away from alcohol, and lo and behold some of it took hold. Keep it up!

Dot - what was your inspiration to go vegan? Health? Love of animals? I have a similar fear as I did quitting alcohol - nothing will be as much fun! It sounds like you're making some delicious food.

Moss - Love these words... "And the only person you need to please is yourself. Then that self-love will radiate out to others. I hope this makes sense. By your side, and totally feel your pain. Come back to us. You are a shining light. xxx"

LC - (I saw someone call you Elsie on another thread!) You are right about not calling yourself a failure if you drink. (see SL's signature!). You are sounding strong - hope everything is coming out all right (heh).

Ava - Your bricks scare me! I hope you stalk J-Vo, find her and bring her back. I am so happy for you and your son that he made a year sober and that you were soberly there for him. What a rock star mother your kids have - it sounds like a pretty cool place to hang out (your house, your world).

NS - Nothing to say but thanks for being you. I love your curation of this site - you pull so many pieces together and help make sense of all of this information and ideas.

OK, loamers. Good night from me. I hope you all have great Mondays as starts to great weeks.

Let's circle the wagons and get our J-Vo AND Daisy back into action...

xo
Pav

[lifechange]

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Good morning, Loamers,

Just off to take 2 sick girls to their papa's on my way to work.

Wanted to send you all my love-- you mean so much to me, each and every person here.

Marylou, congratulations on 60 days. So nice that your dad was able to be proud of you and that you recognised it before he died. It will be a lovely AF ceremony. Really proud of you and amazed at your strength.:l

I already miss and worry about you, j-vo. Let us know you are ok..:h

see you all this afternoon

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Hi Loamers

quick check in as i am tired. had a headache all day and a busy day at work.

Mary congrats on 60 days and even with your dads death you have done it and i am sure he would be so proud of you. You have had a lot on your plate and yet you did not give in to al so wear your smile with pride even if tinged with such sadness.

Pav in 3 days Liam wil be sober for a year and i tell you what on the 27th it was the happiest day of my life to see him come off that plane alive, the crap afterwards was well worth seeing him everyday. He says he may do heroin next as he had been addicted to coke, speed and crack and not heroin. he was joking thank god. I said to him you have not been addicted to al and he said he wont go there as since the addiction is high in the family that he may not get off it. sensible boy.

Glad everyone is doing ok. I think we all have to realise that life throws us crap and we just have to deal with it the best we know how and al is not the answer and we all truly know that in our heart of hearts.

Jvo tomorrow or today is another day girl, we all want you back and you dont have to put a post of why and how come etc, just to know you are okay is all we need.

night for now. xxxx

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Marylou congratulations on 60 days.:wave: